Seeking Arrangement and Other Dating Site Reviews

A word to the wise concerning the WYP site.

I've been on that site, off and on for 5 years with no prior issues, but a few weeks ago I edited a typo on my profile. After saving it, my account was immediately suspended with no reason given.

I wrote to them and got a reply days later that they noticed 'suspicious activity'. I replied that 'editing my profile is NOT suspicious. What's the problem?

To get back in, I'm supposed to supply front & back pics of my DL, with nothing blocked.

My last message to them was, 'You'll get my DL when you freeze over in hell'. DONE & NEXT!

BMD.

[QUOTE=SlackerInMsn;6238934]I never got to hear her expectations because she wanted to discuss ppm on SA chat so I left it at that to avoid getting banned.[/QUOTE]Smart move. If the girl is not going to go to text she is getting too many offers. Not worth it. Never discuss money on the site. I have had girls say just tell me here. Tell me here. NO.

The tri-state sugar scene is more or less dead unless you're in NYC and want to pay big prices. The golden years from 2012-2017 are more or less overwith.

The young girls today are on cam sites and social media apps making tons of $$ and have no reason to meet up in person. This really, really sucks.

Any recommendations for sa in the new haven through Stamford area. I've been talking to a couple but haven't pulled the trigger.

[QUOTE=LolBoat;6239854]The tri-state sugar scene is more or less dead unless you're in NYC and want to pay big prices. The golden years from 2012-2017 are more or less overwith.

The young girls today are on cam sites and social media apps making tons of $$ and have no reason to meet up in person. This really, really sucks.[/QUOTE]So just a different experience for me. I've met a few girls that I would put in top 10 and I've fucked probably 250+( 245 not on seeking, but I'm just saying in terms of comparison that I am not a novice) in the last 11 years. However, perhaps it's because of what I am after and my situation might be different. That's why I am posting because I'm curious. I'm single, under 40, average at best looking, probably 35 pounds overweight, and have no problems going out in public doing real date stuff. I do not appear to be wealthy and really am not due to starting my business. I have traveled a lot in Europe, USa, and South America and have pretty good life experience. I drive a 10 year old dirty car and dress sorta ok. I also legit am looking for intelligent conversation and hanging out. Otherwise it's just not worth my time since I can either jerk off, go to lifestyle events for free or essentialy free, or travel outside the US for more favorable condtions due to my work. For me the goal of seeking in the US is get the benefits of a girlfriend without the commitment or having to constantly stay in contact. I need to have it be ok that I disapear for 2 months and fuck other woman.

So I've found a few in CT this year that meet my critera. One I ppm for 400 for 3 to 4 hours / whatever. One I don't pay other than just paying for normal boyfriend stuff. And hotel rooms due to my living situation. And if things continue to go well I'll pay for her to travel with me. But no shopping trips, no allowance, no extras. Well, other than bdsm gear and lingerie. She wants to go to cultural things and I have the interest and knowledge to make it happen. Doing a weekend day trip is no problem for me.

They are 23 and 24, college degree, petite but with a butt, super hot (for me, but both conventually attractive) and insanely smart. One has done sex work for years casually on and off and the other does not at all. Money was not discussed with either up front and obviously the 2nd it's never come up. I approched it as a first date for both and didn't even try to get sexual with either the first time.

So yeah, I'm curious to compare situations and approaches because my happyness with seeking in CT is amazing.

And yes, I've had some time wasters and others where my approach does not work. So it's not like I make it happen everytime.

[QUOTE=BlueFox141;6223988]I haven't been an SA member for maybe 10 months, but was on for over two years prior to that and can think of two girls who didn't have full body photos, but weren't even close to being fat, let alone very fat. The first there was no mutual interest so we never met. The second, had a number of face shots only. I had dinner with her three times, but she was just too scared to pull the trigger. I really would have loved to hook up with her. Texted her a few times after that but she stopped responding. I very well possibly had more, but that standard wasn't anything I was concerned about, so I'm not sure. Now as far as #1 Rule, I would say it would have to be about money, specifically "Never prepay for anything, ever- Cashapp, Venmo, PayPal. That would be my opinion based on my meager experience, as opposed to yours.

Be careful out there.

Blue.[/QUOTE]I think your Rule 1 and my Rule 1 can be combined.

[QUOTE=CasinoGuy66;6236046]So I signed up for secret benefits. I see they have a few model based on credits, where you pay to unlock the ability to talk with the women.

I've already joined seeking a while ago.

So my question is does anyone actually use secret benefits? I am very skeptical because within 3 days of signing up, I have 3 messages in my inbox from decent looking ladies looking to connect. All from within 30 miles of the location I used in my profile. I am looking to see if this is the general experience of others, or if it is part of the websites strategy to get people to pay the $59.99 for the least expensive credit package.[/QUOTE]It's a total scam site now. Any real girls on there will be on SA anyway.

[QUOTE=JackTaggart;6240403]So just a different experience for me. I've met a few girls that I would put in top 10 and I've fucked probably 250+( 245 not on seeking, but I'm just saying in terms of comparison that I am not a novice) in the last 11 years. However, perhaps it's because of what I am after and my situation might be different. That's why I am posting because I'm curious. I'm single, under 40, average at best looking, probably 35 pounds overweight, and have no problems going out in public doing real date stuff. I do not appear to be wealthy and really am not due to starting my business. I have traveled a lot in Europe, USa, and South America and have pretty good life experience. I drive a 10 year old dirty car and dress sorta ok. I also legit am looking for intelligent conversation and hanging out. Otherwise it's just not worth my time since I can either jerk off, go to lifestyle events for free or essentialy free, or travel outside the US for more favorable condtions due to my work. For me the goal of seeking in the US is get the benefits of a girlfriend without the commitment or having to constantly stay in contact. I need to have it be ok that I disapear for 2 months and fuck other woman.

So I've found a few in CT this year that meet my critera. One I ppm for 400 for 3 to 4 hours / whatever. One I don't pay other than just paying for normal boyfriend stuff. And hotel rooms due to my living situation. And if things continue to go well I'll pay for her to travel with me. But no shopping trips, no allowance, no extras. Well, other than bdsm gear and lingerie. She wants to go to cultural things and I have the interest and knowledge to make it happen. Doing a weekend day trip is no problem for me.

They are 23 and 24, college degree, petite but with a butt, super hot (for me, but both conventually attractive) and insanely smart. One has done sex work for years casually on and off and the other does not at all. Money was not discussed with either up front and obviously the 2nd it's never come up. I approched it as a first date for both and didn't even try to get sexual with either the first time.

So yeah, I'm curious to compare situations and approaches because my happyness with seeking in CT is amazing.

And yes, I've had some time wasters and others where my approach does not work. So it's not like I make it happen everytime.[/QUOTE]Interesting. I've been on and off SA for 6 years and have had a few unicorn types (they were all under 24 years old, the older ones are always pay to play) but there's always been a monetary exchange except a few times. Only one girl specially didn't accept money out of the 50 or so I've hooked up with on there. Most required it either directly or indirectly. Point is, I consider the site a prostitution site and have given up looking for anything vanilla, b / c that's what bumble or other vanilla dating sites are for. I don't order seafood at a steak house restaurant.

[QUOTE=CasinoGuy66;6236046]So I signed up for secret benefits. I see they have a few model based on credits, where you pay to unlock the ability to talk with the women.

I've already joined seeking a while ago.

So my question is does anyone actually use secret benefits? I am very skeptical because within 3 days of signing up, I have 3 messages in my inbox from decent looking ladies looking to connect. All from within 30 miles of the location I used in my profile. I am looking to see if this is the general experience of others, or if it is part of the websites strategy to get people to pay the $59.99 for the least expensive credit package.[/QUOTE]Tried it after seeing a few girls that I recognized from WYP on there. Sent several messages zero replies. Total ripoff.

[QUOTE=BoredinCT12;6241446]Tried it after seeing a few girls that I recognized from WYP on there. Sent several messages zero replies. Total ripoff.[/QUOTE]Yes SB a ripoff. There are all manner of fake profiles there which will send you msg so you answer and burn credits. Think it owner putting all those profiles and bots out there.

[QUOTE=BigMacDaddy;6239565]A word to the wise concerning the WYP site.

I've been on that site, off and on for 5 years with no prior issues, but a few weeks ago I edited a typo on my profile. After saving it, my account was immediately suspended with no reason given.

I wrote to them and got a reply days later that they noticed 'suspicious activity'. I replied that 'editing my profile is NOT suspicious. What's the problem?

To get back in, I'm supposed to supply front & back pics of my DL, with nothing blocked.

My last message to them was, 'You'll get my DL when you freeze over in hell'. DONE & NEXT!

BMD.[/QUOTE]WTF really? What a trash move by that site. I have actually had some decent success on that site. Took some time weeding out the flakes, but that comes with the territory.

[QUOTE=LouisHernandez;6240425]I think your Rule 1 and my Rule 1 can be combined.[/QUOTE]I don't know how. I just explained how I have found your Rule 1 to be wrong sometimes.

[QUOTE=Kwagmire;6214722]I've been talking with her but comms have been sporadic / inconsistent. Hard to nail down any sort of logistics for an initial meet and greet, so the jury's still out for me.

Kwag.[/QUOTE]I'm having the same issue. I'll report back if I get anywhere.

Anyone have any experience with this one? She's been around, this is her 2nd or 3rd profile. Coms have been great. Would like to trade stories if you've have any experience with her.

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/bac5b961-6cef-4757-8533-4412f019ccf8[/URL]

[QUOTE=Kwagmire;6214722]I've been talking with her but comms have been sporadic / inconsistent. Hard to nail down any sort of logistics for an initial meet and greet, so the jury's still out for me.

Kwag.[/QUOTE]Same here, any updates on your end? Seems nice enough and fun. But not sure she will follow through in person. If she does I definitely think she would be DTF.