How our hobby affects our day
This week I had two very different experiences in our hobby. One is posted under "Backpage" section. The other is posted under "Massage Parlor" section. They were very different experiences, prompted by very different emotions, and had very different results in the rest of my day.
The "backpage" encounter was prompted by the basest of urges to simply quickly get off. Fast and dirty. Set it up quickly, got the job done quickly and nastily, and get the hell out. As always, I treated the woman with respect (well, except for the act I asked for). I guess my point is, it was all about my mood and what I wanted, not about the woman. She was fine and had a good attitude. But there was almost no conversational interaction. During the rest of my day I didn't feel particularly relaxed nor satiated. In fact, I barely gave the encounter another thought.
Fast forward a couple of days to my "massage parlor" encounter. On this day, I simply relaxed and allowed the hands of the masseuse to do their magic. My hands did little roaming and I simply enjoyed a great massage and the subsequent HE. Her touches were sweet and erotic and our conversation was pleasant. Throughout the day, I felt relaxed and smiled often at the thought of her touches.
I paid more for the massage experience. In terms of "what I got", I paid more for less. But in terms of the impact of the experience affecting the rest of my day, paying more for "less" was worth every penny. Not even sure what to make of all this, but from now on, I am going to try to think through what I really want as I decide where to invest my money in this hobby of ours.
LookingForLefty. Thanks for your Wisdom
LookingForLefty,
Thanks. You are unique on this board, and most of the time you provide us with the words of wisdom like these which could only come from a long experience. Just the old saying, you can't live with the bitches, but you can't live without them. I fuck and then get rid of them - money is the power.
Thanks LookingForLefty you are one of a kind.
[QUOTE=LookingForLefty; 1822654]Calling someone on BP because you like their pics. IMO most pics are fakes or out of date. If they are blurry they are blurry for a reason. If you see 5 visible tats she probably has 40. Never meet one at their no-tel. You take them to your no-tel. Its nice to have someone TOFFT but don't get yourself hurt doing it. Sometimes the predator becomes the prey. Don't let this happen. Put all the power in your control. The fee, the location, your wallet, and phone. Don't ever let them have the power to control these things. Being kind, polite, and gentle will give you control at times. You might just be the nicest guy she's ever met. She might just find that being around you is better than other people in her life. But never assume that. One thing you should assume is every word out of her mouth is a lie.
Today I went out on a hunt, no intention of picking up anyone, just wanted to see what was out there. I drove by all the corners that I've had successful pick ups. Started thinking about all those loser women and all their drama. Drugs is of course #1. Then I suppose having a baby with no daddy, no job, and no money is #2. Mentally ill is right up there. All those that I let get too close. Sheltering them and keeping them like pets. Well that kind of hunting is not for me. We are looking for a rose among the weeds, but they are all weeds if they are strolling our loop. You are getting too close when you are loaning money, driving them to appointments like their parole officer, buying them groceries, or the worst. Babysitting their kids. One thing I have learned.
I've tried the more challenging hunts like divorce court, Facebook, waiting rooms, real estate agents, or anywhere there are vulnerable women that have been hit with sudden life changing situations. Real estate agents, I swear 95% of them are broke and divorced. Its a default occupation for pretty women after a divorce. Check Ccap for divorce filings, stalk them on social media, then come up with a creative way to meet them. This all take a lot of time. The big downside is it can be a waste of time if you don't know what you are doing. Also these women are not as disposable as the ones we pay for.
One thing I have learned. Whether its a trophy wife from Delafield getting divorced or a SW on National Ave, they all want the same thing. They would like a man to be nice to them, love them, provide for them, and protect them. Give them a safe place to live and a daddy for their kids. The addicts, drugs is still #1 in their life. But even addicts have feelings and want to be loved.[/QUOTE]