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I work I got to a life, I don't get on here every day of my life, now I just got cussed out, because I wasnt on yesterday to give a guy Cherry number, she ask me not to give it out, must be a sad life you live. You know who you are. I'm usally nice guy give out info. To people I know or trust. So becareful who you give out info to. Hve a nice day mongers.
Hope this is the correct thread for this dilemma:
Been with gf for a few years now, about a year ago she moved into my house. Three months ago, found out that she was a utr escort for the previous 6 months. She said she was only with a couple of guys but none of her stories added up. Don't know why, but gave her another chance. Now she comes home with new things and no receipts, disappears for blocks of time during the day, takes trips she can't afford, spends more then she makes and now went away overnight but has nothing to prove she was where she says she was. I think she is still seeing some "johns". Am I over reacting?
If she is, I guess it's what I get for playing?
Hound.
[QUOTE=HoundI81;2625855]Hope this is the correct thread for this dilemma:
Been with gf for a few years now, about a year ago she moved into my house. Three months ago, found out that she was a utr escort for the previous 6 months. She said she was only with a couple of guys but none of her stories added up. Don't know why, but gave her another chance. Now she comes home with new things and no receipts, disappears for blocks of time during the day, takes trips she can't afford, spends more then she makes and now went away overnight but has nothing to prove she was where she says she was. I think she is still seeing some "johns". Am I over reacting?
If she is, I guess it's what I get for playing?
Hound.[/QUOTE]You are not over reacting. You either accept it and do your own playing, or kick her whoring ass out.
That is the question.
[QUOTE=FredMoore;2625978]You are not over reacting. You either accept it and do your own playing, or kick her whoring ass out.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=HoundI81;2625855]
If she is, I guess it's what I get for playing?
Hound.[/QUOTE]Yes, it is. Don't be one of those double standard guys. One who thinks it is OK to play on the side then gets all upset if the SO does the same thing.
Give yer head a shake! Yer getting, for free, what must be some very good P*ssy that other mongers are paying for! Good for you!
But if the relationship is to last, you will need open and honest communications between the two of you. Sit down and have a non-accusatory conversation with her and share your feelings.
Oh, and since she has money, she should be paying HALF of the expenses: rent, electric, water, cable, food, etc. Maybe even buying you a few toys along the way too!
Good luck!
Thanks for the messages and posts. Everyone has been in agreement that she's an escort. She was not able to produce one thing from her overnight trip that showed where she was. After the last time, I told her if she stepped out again it would be over. Now I just need to man up, or except the fact that I'm dating an escort.
Now, back to mongering.
[QUOTE=CephlapodLove;2626624]Yes, it is. Don't be one of those double standard guys. One who thinks it is OK to play on the side then gets all upset if the SO does the same thing.
Give yer head a shake! Yer getting, for free, what must be some very good P*ssy that other mongers are paying for! Good for you!
But if the relationship is to last, you will need open and honest communications between the two of you. Sit down and have a non-accusatory conversation with her and share your feelings.
Oh, and since she has money, she should be paying HALF of the expenses: rent, electric, water, cable, food, etc. Maybe even buying you a few toys along the way too!
Good luck![/QUOTE]Be careful about this girl in your house. Who knows what guys she is Mongering with. You don't want people coming around your space.
CL gives good advice, but I believe strongly in the double standard and would not tolerate my homie stepping out. It just is what it is.
[QUOTE=HoundI81;2626635]Thanks for the messages and posts. Everyone has been in agreement that she's an escort. She was not able to produce one thing from her overnight trip that showed where she was. After the last time, I told her if she stepped out again it would be over. Now I just need to man up, or except the fact that I'm dating an escort.
Now, back to mongering.[/QUOTE]You don't have to tell, but if you are not banging her, she is not using you. You are letting her use you. But if you are banging her, I for one would like to know how you manage that. !
Z.
Yes we are banging- have been not often enough though- she always has an excuse. In hindsight, that is probably a good thing. Didn't even consider that she would have someone in my house. That is messed up. Her kids stay here every other week. Once a liar always a liar. I just need to tell her to pack her shit.
Hound.
[QUOTE=Zepplin;2626801]You don't have to tell, but if you are not banging her, she is not using you. You are letting her use you. But if you are banging her, I for one would like to know how you manage that. !
Z.[/QUOTE]
Her lies are so good I almost believe them.
I know everyone is in agreement that there's enough circumstantial evidence to "convict" her of being an escort, but I needed to find more proof. I went back to her vacation and then her overnight date and added up all the cash that she must of spent. Looked at her bank account and there were not enough cash withdrawals to cover over the thousand plus dollars she must of spent. She has to be working on the side for cash.
When I caught her a few months ago doing this I knew a few people in town knew about it and had to be laughing at me behind my back. I live in a small town and rumors and gossip like this spread through like wildfire. When I'm out now I notice a second glance and then whispers Makes me think that this news is already running through the town. All it takes is one person to say something that says something. I would really hate to be known as the guy who's live in GF is also the towns escort.
Hopefully some of these warning signs will help someone else.
Hound.
[QUOTE=HoundI81;2627838]Her lies are so good I almost believe them.
I know everyone is in agreement that there's enough circumstantial evidence to "convict" her of being an escort, but I needed to find more proof. I went back to her vacation and then her overnight date and added up all the cash that she must of spent. Looked at her bank account and there were not enough cash withdrawals to cover over the thousand plus dollars she must of spent. She has to be working on the side for cash.
When I caught her a few months ago doing this I knew a few people in town knew about it and had to be laughing at me behind my back. I live in a small town and rumors and gossip like this spread through like wildfire. When I'm out now I notice a second glance and then whispers Makes me think that this news is already running through the town. All it takes is one person to say something that says something. I would really hate to be known as the guy who's live in GF is also the towns escort.
Hopefully some of these warning signs will help someone else.
Hound.[/QUOTE]This is what SOs do to catch us. Why don't you search the escort / CL / BP ads and see if you can find her. Get a friend to approach her and set up a sting. Unless she is seeing a friend from work who is giving her $ . Do you want to spend $ on a PI to follow her? Since the trust is gone anyway cut her loose.
She found her JOHN's via SA. That is where she was listed. No point in hiring a PI- I know what she is.
I know someone in town will be / has been talking.
[QUOTE=FredMoore;2628035]This is what SOs do to catch us. Why don't you search the escort / CL / BP ads and see if you can find her. Get a friend to approach her and set up a sting. Unless she is seeing a friend from work who is giving her $ . Do you want to spend $ on a PI to follow her? Since the trust is gone anyway cut her loose.[/QUOTE]
Have been thinking all this through. I have no plans and never had plans to marry her. She obviously is someone you wouldn't marry knowing her history. My family hasn't ever respected her either- not that I have told them this info. She cooks, cleans my house, and pays half the bills and half my mortgage. For now, I will leave it as is. When people in town start talking I can pretend I didn't know and dump her or once I find something else dump her. With this new info I have I can just threaten to release her secret and make her do what I want. Maybe I will start having her pay my entire mortgage too.
Now all I need to do is block her from my mind during her off / no kid week. This week coming up will be her "working girl" week. Maybe I can do it? This relationship is only temporary now anyways.
Hound.
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I told you to give this shit a rest.
If you start this up again I'll ban you again, and again, and again.
Take it somewhere else.
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Stupid question I know-but do many of my fellow mongers carry Smith & Wesson security along when on the prowl? I started years ago when I was working in a shitty part of town (Whitcomb Court) would rather have it & not need it.