Capitalism ruining the game?
I've been on SA and in the bowl off and on for the past few years, and I've overwhelmingly enjoyed myself. However, in the past year or so (and maybe it's just me), I've felt that sugaring has become too mainstream. It's too commonplace. And sugaring is no longer something that needs to be kept quiet. It's not hush hush. It's no longer the mutual secret between two likeminded people. That ruins much of it for me: the fantasy.
In addition to that, many of the women appear to offer themselves as a commodity like a cable company bundling services. 'Oh, not interested in platonic coffee dates for X dollars? How about my pics or vids, possibly joining my OnlyFans? And if you're willing to do any of them, then we could possibly discuss IRL meets with potential for intimacy. ' Upselling is never fun. And it's clear that it has nothing to do with you or the personal connection or rapport that the two of you have established.
This isn't fun for me and it feels like contract negotiation, not sugaring. If I wanted to do this, I'd just get married and discuss a prenup that allowed me to play however I choose, while never putting my personal assets at risk.
I don't want to vilify the ladies because I realize that they're trying to make this sustainable and safe for themselves, considering that more and more men realize they can sample instead of committing to one person, but I definitely don't want to be treated like a mark. And this is starting to feel so lifeless, transactional, and not at all personal. And that's why I started to begin with, a secret getaway. Not a 'business' meeting I put on my Google calendar.