Likely pictures only at best
[QUOTE=SRH59;5752958]Kindmadame.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/1a973670-0936-4c18-92c3-fa9fbcecaab1[/URL]
Odds favor scam but she shared some pictures that matched the one (and only one) picture on her profile. Tried to sell me them first, then just sent them. She's open to meet but I haven't pressed it. She also hasn't pressed selling them, or directly asked for money since, so who knows.[/QUOTE]Did she contact you or did you make 1st contact? I've been contacted by 2 or 3 women out of Delaware who were trying to sell pictures. I don't think it's a Delaware thing just a distance thing. They may figure they can string you along with some promises and use distance as an excuse, IMHO!
Your instincts were right
[QUOTE=Pleck2;5766494][URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/31041552-9c23-478a-ad99-22ec001a0b96[/URL] Very cool girl. Easy to correspond with. Smart, good sense of humor. North PHL. I allowed the correspondence to trail off because she seems to spend more time in Harrisburg than PHL, doesn't look like she can host and there's some inconsistency with the photos. I'm not doubting she's real; I'm just saying that I hope the one photo is dated. 300.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/3692a0e7-0690-4568-91d5-7143c93833da.[/URL] Caution. Inconsistency with photos. Seems to be in a hurry to exchange cell numbers (her area code was Portland, which she acknowledged) but, as mentioned previously, I'm skeptical about quickly wanting to jump to cell contact, so I asked some local knowledge of where she said she lived and, surprisingly, she passed with flying colors. But one of her photos wasn't good and I let it fade. And I'm glad I did because she now lists her location as Utah.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/c9eee8d5-b6b5-4f83-88a2-ed896fdc99c6.[/URL] Beautiful girl. Friendly. But 2 of her photos seem to be of someone else. When she mentioned my photos, she particularly loved my dog. Who isn't in any of my photos. Which I mentioned (nicely) before getting the dial tone.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/f0f3d008-7e74-4619-9032-7920ed0b46cc.[/URL] She's a live one who initiated correspondence after I simply "favorited" her profile. Seems to be more interested in sharing (OK probably selling) videos. Will supplement later.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/67db1f2a-951c-48fe-b9a9-8a4349cac648.[/URL] She's a slam-dunk. If you want it. Lively conversation. Interested in meeting yesterday. I faded after she sent me her private photos. I wasn't good. For me at least. But she lives in Bucks and commutes to Center City. Which seems like where she wants to meet.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/b55b018a-56fc-4332-aa77-8832f1026e2a.[/URL] So far so good. Good back and forth. 400 and can host near Temple you.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/b5ad87c1-85f6-4a4a-9d43-d8d94a615246.[/URL] Cool girl. I actually met her a long time ago at a hotel. She couldn't host then. But this is a new profile -- and I didn't recognize her face -- so I reached out. She doesn't waste time in responding and setting the ground rules, but they're fair. I recommend, especially if you want a quick turn-around. She may even be open to hosting if some trust is established. She's in Delco.
And now I can't find the eros link for a Brazilian I met on Friday. Aline. Ridiculous body if you like the curvy Brazilian thing. Smart. I went through with it because of the pictures and 4 star reviews on E Monkey. Glad I got it out of my system but won't be back. She was initially too into it and then not enough. Also, the language barrier still exists even though one reviewer said it wasn't bad. If I find the link, I'll send it. She'll be back in June.[/QUOTE]I think everyone but one has a deactivated profile.
Re: Your instincts were right
[QUOTE=ReadyToTumble;5769832]I think everyone but one has a deactivated profile.[/QUOTE]Some of the URLs have a period at the end. You have to delete it manually.
SA to de-emphasize "Sugar Dating"
Per this video:
[URL]https://youtu.be/sx3Dg_igqVg[/URL]
Looks like founder Brandon Wade is getting married and intends to totally de-emphasize the "sugar dating" part of the website! Now it is "suppose to be" just a 'dating website!
Wonder if the heat is getting turned up on the site as a venue for prostitution and now that he's getting married, wants to further insulate himself from FOSTA-SESTA type liabilities? Any one think things will change on the site? More stringent BOT reads of emails and any mention of sugar or anything that the BOT thinks is compensation will get you booted? Will girls fall off if there is no sugar?
But clearly Wade is an idiot! He violated one of the primary "rules" - NEVER fall in lover with a Hooker! No pre-nup? LOL!
That still didn't work for me.
[QUOTE=MerryIvory;5770708]Some of the URLs have a period at the end. You have to delete it manually.[/QUOTE]Since you are maybe a little more url savy than me, can you report the correct link please.
Currently messaging this one
[QUOTE=KenAllen;5773153][URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/b3b2fe82-5c79-4197-a737-e600f6b5cab5[/URL]
Met her last night for a 15 minute car date in Phoenixville.
Price was right. Everything available.
But probably won't repeat. She's thicker than my preferred body type.
And had more hair below than I was expecting.[/QUOTE]She messaged me yesterday evening. She seemed as though she wanted to do a same day meet but I already had other plans. Will report back if actually end up seeing her.
I can't see the first one
[QUOTE=TAway612;5795547][URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/865652d3-0bb4-424e-a1f3-50d8555d5ac3[/URL]
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/7b983b6a-056e-4350-85f8-0bcba3a4874c[/URL]
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/23be7ffc-d56f-4ff2-acfe-617e5ea75bcd[/URL]
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/messages/inbox/43141482-e80c-4538-af3c-c235399df2a7[/URL][/QUOTE]I can't pull up the profile for the first one. If you still see her as active, then chances are she blocked me or I blocked her at some point. I've been on SA on and off for over 5 years so it's definitely possible. If you want to post up a screen shot of the first ones profile, I may have more insight.
Taking it to the streets (bars, Starbucks, grocery stores, etc.)
I gave seeking a try for a couple of months and was on Adult Friend finders for a month or two and it's got me wondering if I'm better off with just finding some target rich enviro moments to pursue what I seek in real life instead of on the internet. This isn't just an idle thought because in my experience, I've always been more successful in person in all the aspects of arrangements and dating. I've been actively working on two women in my personal life that I would never date seriously but with whom I'd enjoy a mutually beneficial arrangement. I like it because at this point in my life I can be brutally honest and tell them that we can have fun but I'm here for one thing and it's not a commitment! I'm old and I'm lazy. I don't want to drive further than 20 minute. I don't want someone setting up on me while I'm setting up on them! Thoughts? While I was going through a divorce I cultivated a wide range of bartender friends at multiple local bars and that's sort of my normal hunting grounds if I'm looking a little younger, but I've also noticed that you can meet some good looking older women at higher end locals but after a month or two you'll find out why they are available!
Thanks for listen to my rant!
Now that my membership has expired for seeking I seem to be getting all kinds of messages, half of them are from profiles that are gone in a week. Adult friend finders. I don't know what's up with the site people do get back to you but it's a woman's market so it may take weeks to have a full conversation. The quality isn't that great unless you want to put yourself in some weird situations. Are there any other sites to try?
Recently Relocated To Easton
Hello Fellow Mongers.
I relocated from NH to Easton back in September. One of the Allentown members told me about this section as there is no place to put this up there. I was very active up in NH since 2011 and I'm just as active here. I'm exclusively on SA and WYP. I've had great luck here as their are way more women to choose from down here compared to NH. I've met some great women here and they are very friendly. I don't know if you guys get up by the ABC area but here is what I've found so far.
I have also met some scammers on SA:
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/7db7e4dd-1a00-4b64-a9a3-c478b75f43ac[/URL]
Beware of this one I took her on 5 dates buying lunch / dinners and when she realized that I was not giving her money she ghosted me.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/ab090db3-54e6-4fd4-84a5-fcd4200664e8[/URL]
This one reached out to me and we setup two different dates and she blew me off both times, never ripped me off.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/73694819-723b-4aa5-9544-84c3ed0e82ee[/URL]
This one in Bethlehem was fun but young and hot $$. 5 worth it for me. No BS with this one you just have to have a place to go.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/8367ae8a-b20d-43ec-a6a4-5228cd04051e[/URL]
Wind Gap, this is the first women I met off of SA when I moved to PA. Took her for Shushi and 2 hours later we were at my place, worth seeing $$. 5.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/2eeab153-961e-4a2e-8a20-acd4d821e1c8[/URL]
Easton, one of my all time favs, 21 and I have no right getting this one at my age. Love those Latinas $$.
All these girls are GFE / FS the ones I have been with.
If any Monger have any women up in my area please feel free to PM me.
I hope this helps some of you guys out.
Good and stay safe!
Some SB Dating 'how to's'
[QUOTE=MoDog;5826055]I'm trying to venture into Sugardating with SA. But I don't know where to start. Do you mostly meet up with them at restaurants and see where it goes? Or can the arrangement be prearranged. I would hate to take her out for dinner only to walk away with a case of blue balls.[/QUOTE]This is adult dating and there are no rules per se. When I am in the bowl I want to evaluate the girl and the situation before committing funds or taking risks. A word of general warning: Just be careful to NOT talk about sex for money, or use "code words" that imply sex-for-money on the SA PM messaging as BOTS scan messages and you can get booted off the site (no refund!). When you get to that point in a convo, take it offsite to text, Kik, SC, etc.
Some UTR Pro girls will be fine skipping a Meet & Greet (M&G) and head directly to the fuck chamber (FC). A lot of the hot college girls., or single Moms, will want to meet to make sure you aren't a serial killer or creepy and thus want a M&G. I want to meet to see if the girl is psycho, is a rinser or if her style matches my needs. I have never taken a girl out for dinner or something that is a HUGE money outlay as a M&G, just coffee or drinks. The pay for dinner stuff is a carry over from the WYP site and usually the style of a rinser.
In any kind of mongering I had to learn that going home with "blue balls" was always a possibility. I had to learn to think with the Big Head first as to stay safe. A few times when I didn't do that I found trouble: got ripped-off, had bad dates, found wacko girls or other dangerous situations. So I insist on a M&G as a way to vet the girl and determine her situation and our compatibility. Just like any kind of mongering follow rule #1: NO MONEY UP FRONT. Money when the panties hit the floor.
I will say this after talking to MANY SBs at M&G and asking about their experiences on SA. A LOT of guys treat girls like prostitutes (well, they are, but most don't want t feel like they are). So I found that treating them like GFs to some extent has better results. So for the most part I have never offered a girl to meet me for the first time at the FC. Again, I think UTR pros are the few that would so that.
As far as learning goes, there use to be one thread on USA that dealt with SBs and that was the Richmond, VA SB thread. It still acts like a national clearing house as the dudes there tolerate questions and posts from all over. The advice there was so good that another thread was created capturing the best of the best. (Sugarbaby Thread Highlights, Index, and FAQ) One can read that thread and find answers on every topic. (definitions, profiles, contacting, prices, hotels, tactics, tips & tricks, etc.) So with a little reading on can get some tips, pointers and suggestions. The 'how to" thread can be found here:
[URL]http://www.usasexguide.nl/forum/showthread.php?15100-Sugarbaby-Thread-Highlights-Index-and-FAQ[/URL]
Lots of guys stumble into dating without much background or forethought. "Experiential learning" is one way to approach things, but that can be dangerous. For my money, learning a few things upfront, before venturing out, makes sense. Guys don't plan to fail, but in many situations they fail to plan. So I approach it as how can I control the situation without being a jerk and still selling myself as someone she wants to get naked with. The second, what is my Plan B if something goes wrong at any stage of the M&G or date?
Good luck, be safe!
A lot of good advice on this board
[QUOTE=PPJones;5827520]Some very good tips, as usual. Thank you.
If I can put my. 02 cents in.
Want to stress, do NOT mention sex acts OR money! These sites have been cracking down to the point that they don't even want you to mention sex acts, let alone, the forbidden S&M. They WILL permanently ban your IP address and you may find it difficult to even make another account.
I think probably the best use of time / monetary resources would be as mentioned in these prior posts:
Move quickly to an off site "chat" or convo, once a mutual interest has been established. The M&G should be, as stated, in a "quick, but inexpensive setting". If you invite psycho to dinner, you're not only a little more committed financially, but time wise, as well. (Do you really want to suffer through ANY more time then you have to with a psycho?
As also mentioned,. The girls on those sites do NOT think of themselves and even look down upon even as much as the high end escorts who make thousands of dollars more than them and MAY in fact even have higher standards or morals. They do NOT want to be treated like a hooker, a call girl, an escort, a street walker, or any "regular" sex worker. So, do THAT, and you'll likely lose their interest quickly and things will become sour, rather than sweet. Treat it / them not like you would in a traditional relationship and things will more than likely progress further and quicker.
Good luck, happy hunting, and be safe!![/QUOTE]A lot of good advice has been offered on this board already. I would just add. You have to be critical about yourself. Know who you are and where you are comfortable. What you are willing to spend just to get to know someone. I like dinner at certain places where either I don't have many attachments or know the staff well enough that I can send a text and get out if I need to. It's all about you and your comfort. Think about what you need 1st to feel comfortable and like Shampoo55 said you're going to have the blue balls sometimes.
