understanding your moment
The only worse feeling is when, coupled with your feelings, the fellow mongers continue to burn you on this board (now I have another member putting posts up mocking me. Whoever For69 is?. FU).
It seems to be the norm that. Let's face reality. Most providers have "issues". Mostly an addiction, of some sort, that needs to be fed. That keeps them, when it matters most, from standing tall and being a good person. Fortunately, I have come to terms with that fact. I prefer to live in the illusion. Any time money leaves my wallet? There is no expectation of a return on investment (current play, only).
You are not the first, or last, that will walk down this path. Hell! I am sure I will do it again! I view the hobby much like the "real world". It is a three month crash and burn. Women are women. They use their juices to get what they want. The good news? My cost per nut has been greatly reduced since I decided to hobby instead of getting into a traditional relationship.
At least this way. The snatch only controls a bit of my time and a bit of my wallet. Everybody wins! All it takes is a bit of an emotional adjustment and you will atart having fun again. Just remember. You get to play with all makes, models, colors and ages when you are a monger. Just keep a focus. Hopes this helps a bit.
For now? Your fav "POS" is signing off!
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[QUOTE=Mrrdfun; 1489016]Gentlemen, think with your big head. Not your little head nor your heart. Like most others on here I have been burned by trying to treat girls honestly and with respect. I have to share my most recent about of disappointment. I want to say first off that this is my fault for believing a provider actually had some integrity. I tend to lose that perspective from time to time.
This provider needed a ride to a court date. She has asked for these types favors a time or two in the past and I've either been too busy or she had made arrangements before I could get back with her. In this instance I was able. We discussed the terms of the arrangement (One thing that has become abundantly clear over the years is that they don't do anything for nothing so I won't either). It was agreed, her words not mine, that "the next one will be on me" or something very close to that. There was nothing ambiguous about it. Here's my mistake. I believed her and expected her to hold up her end of things. Truly a WTF was I expecting moment.
Here we are some time later. I've seen her once more on my dime. I finally drew a line in the sand and pressed her on the issue yesterday. Here was the response directly from her text message:
"I thought when I said that you would not hold me to it knowing this is the only way I get money. I enjoy what I do but I do pay my bills this way"
Seemingly the hour plus out of my life that I took off work to take her and the $10-$15 in gas were inconsequential. On top of all that. The one that really did me in, she brought up the fact that she does me cheaper than others because she likes me and knows I don't have the money others might (the latter part is true and I make no bones about it when I negotiate-my post history clearly indicates this). When we first started seeing each other and my donation was less than her norm I told her that I wasn't comfortable with that because these situations always end up with the deal being thrown back in my face. Turns out I was right. Again, aside from the fact that she didn't keep this singular promise this has been a stellar provider and I will miss her company as I legitimately did like her. She asked if I was mad and I just responded that I would see her again when I could afford to pay full price. It may have been her goal to break our existing deal all along, who knows. I told her from day 1 that if she ever didn't want to or could no longer continue the deal to just let me know and I would understand and I would have. I don't appreciate being lied to, however.
Anyhow, enough of my soap-box grandstanding. For all you noobs out there just remember they will never be your true friends and they will never be truly trustworthy. Don't fill up my PM box asking who this provider is. I will never divulge that. This is my fault for being foolish and I wouldn't drag her into this. Thanks for "listening" as I vent.[/QUOTE]