Sexual Addiction Reports

[QUOTE=Snake27;2258023]Fair enough, and we're cool. I see this tiny corner of the USASG as possibly helpful and therapeutic to some, though possibly annoying and judgemental to most, so I try to be cautious and not seem to proselytize.

Looking back, I see the process of quitting took about 10 years, with a gradual mitigation of risk and a reduction of involvement, interspersed with relapses. I never really saw this forum as a cause for relapse. Porn was a much bigger influence, though I have grown weary of it now.

The tipping point was 2 years ago due to a convergence of factors, namely dissatisfaction, becoming "mature" (older and calmer, though still functional), and the onset of poverty caused by several issues and priorities unrelated to the hobby. If I won the lottery I might have a relapse and find a nice sugar baby, but the odds are that I am done. The more I am away from it, though, the more pride and resolve I feel, as it is a triumph of the mind.[/QUOTE]I'm kind of jealous of your triumph. I can't do it right now. When you find that special gem and spend a few hours with her, Drkplace is right about chasing that first high. I'm at peace and happy at that moment. I guess that's what life is about. Grabbing small moments of happiness. I treat providers good and with respect so I don't feel guilty about it. I'm sorry when I come across a provider who obviously doesn't want to be there and has substance abuse problems. That's the dark side. But I've found with the higher end providers it's more fun but obviously more expensive.

[QUOTE=DarkSideOfMe;2258321]After many years in this game and only a short time on USA pages, (2 years) (188 post), I must ask, am I a addict? I have been married to a great woman (40 years) who I love, but can't complete a rewarding sex act with any longer (no cumming, oral, hand)! Spend more time on USA, then most. Have to much invested (money, kids, grand kids,) them most, to just leave, so I look to pick up the pieces, from the outside world. (BP, craigs list, USA post). When ever I hookup, its like a high that can't be explained, for days, weeks, dreaming of the girls I just fucked, and wanting more (2,3 a day) when I'm playing this sick dangerous game. I work hard and have the $$s to spend, so I can DREAM as much as I want. I'm not hurting anyone? Right? I don't know how much longer I can play, before it all falls down on me, and I lose ever thing?? Stay safe DRKSD.[/QUOTE]By the way, how are you still a regular member and not senior after 188 posts and 2 years?

Count me among those who wants to "quit," who's tried to quit, who's done sex addiction recovery work (back in the 90's and early 00's), who still wants the high of a score, who's had marriage wreckage, etc. I've been active on here for many years, with more than 2,500 posts since 2002, which was a year before my 2nd marriage ended.

I'm engaged to and have been with #3 for a few years, but save for the past 3 weeks have still been seeing anywhere from 1 to 5 girls a month. I've never done so much, so secretly, and not been discovered. My compulsion for porn is as bad. It's periodic for me, but never far from my mind. Every drive in my car is wandering eyes, my monger mind is always going.

My story is so long I hardly know where to begin. I'm wanting to change my private legacy but still find the high so hard to resist.

I just took the sexual addiction test. Most addicts are an average 6. I scored a 11. I'll point out that I was sexually abused by my babysitter and I haven't been the same since I guess. I'll have sex with multiple women because I'll get bored with the same one. Sorry if I am rambling guys, but this is a surprise to me.

Try the test.

[URL]https://www.recoveryzone.com/tests/lib/UCCASSv1.8.1/survey.php?sid=53[/URL]

[QUOTE=MeatMan;2278839]I just took the sexual addiction test. Most addicts are an average 6. I scored a 11. I'll point out that I was sexually abused by my babysitter and I haven't been the same since I guess. I'll have sex with multiple women because I'll get bored with the same one. Sorry if I am rambling guys, but this is a surprise to me.

Try the test.

[URL]https://www.recoveryzone.com/tests/lib/UCCASSv1.8.1/survey.php?sid=53[/URL][/QUOTE]Fuck, I scored an 18.

[QUOTE=TwistedBrother;2278737]Count me among those who wants to "quit," who's tried to quit, who's done sex addiction recovery work (back in the 90's and early 00's), who still wants the high of a score, who's had marriage wreckage, etc. I've been active on here for many years, with more than 2,500 posts since 2002, which was a year before my 2nd marriage ended.

I'm engaged to and have been with #3 for a few years, but save for the past 3 weeks have still been seeing anywhere from 1 to 5 girls a month. I've never done so much, so secretly, and not been discovered. My compulsion for porn is as bad. It's periodic for me, but never far from my mind. Every drive in my car is wandering eyes, my monger mind is always going.

My story is so long I hardly know where to begin. I'm wanting to change my private legacy but still find the high so hard to resist.[/QUOTE]I get it. You're not alone. My mind is always on pussy hunt mode. It's very, very bad. Tough to change behavior. Even when I think there's a chance, I get bored and fall into the same routine.

[QUOTE=Dsrtp1;2279354]I get it. You're not alone. My mind is always on pussy hunt mode. It's very, very bad. Tough to change behavior. Even when I think there's a chance, I get bored and fall into the same routine.[/QUOTE]OK So I don't have many posts, mainly due to the sheer depravity of my dreams with SPs which are much too embarrasing to disclose. I scored an 18 as well LOL. I have spent countless hours and $ on therapists, SLAA, the whole enchilada, all to no avail. Sooner or later, whatever my bottom looks like, just like a druggie, when and if I hit it maybe I will stop out of utter necessity. Until then, for a few or many of us this addiction will not go away and I simply get to wait until my body parts won't function and maybe then it won't matter so much IMHO.

OK guys, I was bored and was reading some of the posts here. They forced me to comment so here goes.

First off the statistics currently in on people having sex outside of marriage are like this.

54% of men and like 48% of women now do it. So why are you guys beating yourselves up? Sex is the second most powerful drive in the world, right after hunger. Everything else is just an illusion to allow us to get more of one of the two above. Our society in particular has been trying to emasculate men for decades now. Why? Well men who are highly sexual also tend to have higher testosterone levels which relate also to not being able to be led around easily. Experiments were done by both the German's and the Japanese during the second WW on what types and amounts of foods, would make the prisoners more compliant. We did the same thing only using chemicals and we also did, and are, doing it to our own population.

Have you ever looked at the number of wives / mistresses that conquers took when they conquered a village in the olden days? Sex has been, was, and IS the reward for being a successful male in ANY society. Look at athletes, how many women did Wilt Chamberlain sleep with. His reckoning was 20,000 during his career. WTF? Anyways this is just my rambling. Whether or not you have an addiction is strictly up to you. YOU know if you have one. Some intellectiod does not have to give you a test to determine it. The difference was that in the past, men were rewarded for being a man, now we are punishing them for being men. So with that said, It is all about values, You have to determine which will bring you the better rewards in life. Having a family, and remember that it may be your wife who leaves YOU for some other guy. 50/50 chance, or you doing what is biologically programmed into each of us. Your call. Oh and you guys worried about not being madly attracted to your wife of 40 some years. Do you ever see honey bees looking to pollinate an old fruit tree that has no nectar? Just saying. We are biologically programmed guys. Oh and a FYI. Why do women quit looking at men in their mid 40's. Same reason. We no longer exude the scent of a young virile male. Sometimes we can make up for it for awhile with money and success that shows how virile we are. But in the end, that sweet thing will be hitting on the pool boy EVERY time.

This is of course all IMHO and feel free to comment, contradict, or PM me if you would like.

G2.

I think much of the desire to quit is because it's affecting productive aspects of our lives. I reflected and accepted that I enjoy the hobby. But when I'd rather be trolling the city at night for the second or third girl rather than preparing for an early morning presentation. Well that's a problem. I'd also note the sheer amount of resources consumed.

Yes, I enjoy the hobby. But I still have to find a way to bring it under my control. Even if that means cutting it out.

[QUOTE=Genghis2;2299732]OK guys, I was bored and was reading some of the posts here. They forced me to comment so here goes.

First off the statistics currently in on people having sex outside of marriage are like this.

54% of men and like 48% of women now do it. So why are you guys beating yourselves up? Sex is the second most powerful drive in the world, right after hunger. Everything else is just an illusion to allow us to get more of one of the two above. Our society in particular has been trying to emasculate men for decades now. Why? Well men who are highly sexual also tend to have higher testosterone levels which relate also to not being able to be led around easily. Experiments were done by both the German's and the Japanese during the second WW on what types and amounts of foods, would make the prisoners more compliant. We did the same thing only using chemicals and we also did, and are, doing it to our own population.

Have you ever looked at the number of wives / mistresses that conquers took when they conquered a village in the olden days? Sex has been, was, and IS the reward for being a successful male in ANY society. Look at athletes, how many women did Wilt Chamberlain sleep with. His reckoning was 20,000 during his career. WTF? Anyways this is just my rambling. Whether or not you have an addiction is strictly up to you. YOU know if you have one. Some intellectiod does not have to give you a test to determine it. The difference was that in the past, men were rewarded for being a man, now we are punishing them for being men. So with that said, It is all about values, You have to determine which will bring you the better rewards in life. Having a family, and remember that it may be your wife who leaves YOU for some other guy. 50/50 chance, or you doing what is biologically programmed into each of us. Your call. Oh and you guys worried about not being madly attracted to your wife of 40 some years. Do you ever see honey bees looking to pollinate an old fruit tree that has no nectar? Just saying. We are biologically programmed guys. Oh and a FYI. Why do women quit looking at men in their mid 40's. Same reason. We no longer exude the scent of a young virile male. Sometimes we can make up for it for awhile with money and success that shows how virile we are. But in the end, that sweet thing will be hitting on the pool boy EVERY time.

This is of course all IMHO and feel free to comment, contradict, or PM me if you would like.

G2.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=MeatMan;2278839]I just took the sexual addiction test. Most addicts are an average 6. I scored a 11. I'll point out that I was sexually abused by my babysitter and I haven't been the same since I guess. I'll have sex with multiple women because I'll get bored with the same one. Sorry if I am rambling guys, but this is a surprise to me.

Try the test.

[URL]https://www.recoveryzone.com/tests/lib/UCCASSv1.8.1/survey.php?sid=53[/URL][/QUOTE]I scored an 8. But a lot of those questions ask if you are feeling guilty about your behavior (which raises the score). I only wish I was getting more pussy and I don't really care who knows that. LOL.

After reading all the personal insight in this forum it makes you take a step back and look at what you're doing and how you're living. I enjoy the hobby and it is a big part of my life and by choice. I am in my mid 40's, no kids, no wife or ex wives and working a job that I love and very well compensated for and allows me to enjoy a life of luxury and travel. My money is not shared with any one and I choose to do as I will. The hobby works for me and I get what I want t and the providers get what they want. I get to walk away without any drama or misunderstandings. I choose the girls I spend my time with and not the other way around. Sure I would love to be married one day and have the house the kids and the dog but for now it not in the cards yet. I dated so many women that I got tired of the games, sure I've spent thousands on my hobby but try taking a couple different women out a few night s a week and see how much you spend and at the end of the night you leave alone and have to go take the cold shower. Not for me and I treat some of the providers very well and more than a few occasions have taken them on trips with me even business dinners to help close a deal when a special client needs that distraction of a beautiful woman and at the end of the night without a doubt I will be getting some with no questions or complaints.

I grew tired of so many women out there looking for that wealthy man for a marriage but don't bring anything to the table but maybe good looks and a hot body and those looks will not last forever. So for now I choose this life style. Of my 800 plus reports, I would guess at least 600-650 are about the women I have spent time with and it's not bragging it's just a fact of my life that I live and can afford to live without hurting anyone. So am I sexual addicted? You bet your ass I am.

Lex.

Regarding my addiction, I really didn't regard it as a problem as much when I was "alone." At that point, the concerns were whether I spent too much money, took time away from work or made overly risky choices. Sometimes I did and sometimes I didn't. But unfortunately, I also want the best of both worlds. So now I've been with a gal for 5 years and plan to marry her, which will be my 3rd (and would have married a few years ago with her if not for a particular financial consideration about her kids in college). I've been fortunate not to get caught or have my hobby adversely affect our relationship as much as it did with the first two. But after some particularly active stretches and some other types of consequences and a lot consideration, I've stopped -- at least for now. It's been about 7 weeks now "sober." Been a few times I really wanted to and almost did, but so far no.

Not sure whether to be proud or embarrassed, perhaps both?

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I don't believe I have a problem, why do I feel like I have hit a line of coke, after, before, doing the hunt??I have not hurt anyone. Drksd.

[QUOTE=Dsrtp1;2258468]By the way, how are you still a regular member and not senior after 188 posts and 2 years?[/QUOTE]I have been on this board for a only short time and you are the only one to ask that question!! I am a bad, bad, boy that's way, just ask, A1,A2, Drksd.