I'm no white knight or booker.
[QUOTE=CreamFire;6597028]Weird that you're implying I'm a booker just because I gave a negative appearance rating on everyone's favorite, Ari, and when most of my post are about asking who the best girls are. If anything, those who responded to my ari review sound like bookers or just white knights but not my job to point it out and up to the viewers to decide who to trust. Feel free to review my post history and gather evidence on what makes you think I'm possible booker. Enjoy.[/QUOTE]I replied to a guy who replied to your post on Ari. That guy asked what fans of Ari see in her. I laid out my case in some detail because I have been led into some regrettable sessions by people whom I think have lower or unusual standards for the things I like. For example, the leanness vs. Juicy ass trade-off. I find that many people have lower standards for what I could consider a juicy ass.
And of course, there are certain people who think every Asian girl is hot and incorrectly guess their ages, usually guessing 10 to 15 years younger.
Funny, yes. Not funny "haha", funny weird.
I'm confused man. You came on the forum to ask for feedback, then you got an overwhelming amount of feedback that said you were indeed in the wrong. But you kept replying to said feedback with your justification to try and convince us that you weren't in the wrong. But ultimately it was disingenuous, because you had already made up your mind about what you wanted to do and you didn't really care about what the rest of the dudes had to say.
Then you started name-calling because she blocked you (despite that being one of the first things that someone told you would happen with her and her crew if you didn't pay her), and accused the folks that disagreed with you as White Knights. Which is the same manipulation tactic that you said the provider used with you. Peculiar ain't it?
That said, next time just be straight up. Don't BS the forum. Do what you wanted to do to begin with without dragging us into it and wasting everyone's fucking time and the forum's precious bandwidth.
[QUOTE=SuelyBrah;6589803]Well said again Lex.
At first, I wasn't going to post my whole story. But I figured it be something interesting for the community to read and learn from my mistake. But shit, who knew it stirred up all kinds of emotions. It sure showed me who can think clearly vs. Who jumps to conclusions based on their half asses reading.
It must have been about the 4th time now that I said I did not realize I had the donation on me until she texted me a few hours later, when I was well out of the city she was hosting. I tried to reply but she blocked me.
I also went through great length to explain that this was AN ACCIDENT. I always fulfill my end of the deal. But apparently, the white knights, trolls, simps, and ignorant fools some how got the idea that this is something I practice on a regular base. Idiots will be idiots.
Next good point is about feeling out the vibe of the session asap. If it feels off, call it off. This was my mistake here. I noticed her cold stare but I was wishful thinking that it would get better. Nope. It only got worse. This is the lesson to be learned.
Lastly, I agree that if the girl honors her menu and had reasonable attitude, and even though her skills sucks, the BJ was painful, she smelled like a dead fish, sounded like a dying donkey, didn't look quite like her pics, but the guy did the deed already, he should pay. This has definitely happened to me.
The girl was subpar, an unsatisfactory experience, yet I always paid them in full because that's what's agreed on.
However, I will let the fellas know to dodge a downer. That's just how it should go.[/QUOTE]
Can why'all PM each other??
What's with these argument novella posts lately? Mongers be getting attached to their favs feeling the need to come to their defenses on an online forum.
Can we please get back to posting reviews and recommendations for potential HYAs. IDK about why'all but I use this forum to guide my decisions about whether I'm going to spend my $$$ on a HYA or not.
If you want to have a back and forth with someone, there's a perfectly good PM system on this forum. We don't need this clouded with your sidebar conversation.
But also "mongers will be mongers"
[QUOTE=Nessant;6726296]They have so much experience, whether it be negative or positive is their perception of things but it leans more towards negative, that it has to mold the way they think, talk, act, move about, etc. You can't live a lifestyle for a certain amount of time and it not become apart of you to some extent, at least imo.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=SolarisMan;6726288]It is proven fact that the behavior change is extremely challenging and requires consistent effort and intentional modification of habits. Cognitive dissonance, the power of habit, homeostasis, and the desire for immediate gratification can make behavior change difficult. It requires taking small steps towards behavior change is crucial, and patience and persistence are essential in achieving self-improvement goals and when the hoe gets a huge sense of entitlement and does not believe that there is anything wrong with what she has done in past, good luck to any man who mingle with these hoes.[/QUOTE]I agree with most of what everyone is saying, and I would just add that everything we say about "them" can actually perfectly describe "us" as mongers, including the two statements above. Our own participation in this stuff has molded our lifestyles and likely damaged us in ways that maybe not everyone among us is ready to recognize and really grapple with. This includes stuff like our entitlement to women's bodies (implicit in the transaction even if we're adamant that we would never), our objectification of women here (the reviews process almost requires it), and our own desires for immediate gratification. I'm complicit in this too, so I'm not even like absolving myself so much as trying to name a hard truth that no one here seems to be calling out directly. Everyone's philosophizing on how "hoes will be hoes," which I do agree with in general, but we seem to also be avoiding the harder work of critiquing ourselves and our roles as mongers in all of this. It's kind of hard to do the work of thinking about the shit we're responsible for in this whole cycle, too.
Notably, too, we generate the demand that keeps girls here or keeps them coming back for more money. We know this deeply: without us, these girls would not be here (or there or wherever there are men. Some of us enable by buying gifts (small or large) for girls, showering them with attention, and even simping for them (I'm not condemning or endorsing these actions here, by the way). So I think that we (at least in part) help produce the conditions that produce "hoes. " Not that it doesn't mean we can't all get together in an online circlejerk and lament how all they want is money, but we should also maybe think about how we give them the money to enable it.
And finally, if all women are hoes, then what does that make the men who cheat on their girlfriends and wives? What does it make the men who pay for and measure sex and intimacy by the hour? It'd be remiss to say we're not implicated or kinda f*cked up in this process too. I'd make the argument that we're certainly are not the beneficiaries we think we are. Like I'm grateful to bang hot girls but I know almost inevitably this is messing up expectations of really settling down with someone in the future. That's the nature of this hobby and this work. Two sides of the same coin.