Dayton UTR Violet is a tragic CFE needing help
Aside from evolutionary reasons, I'm confident I, like many, engage our hobby because it's ALWAYS excitingly different. Like any drug, the exhilaration of a first-time encounter is rarely matched a second or third time. And I'm confident most will agree no two providers are alike. But as evolution is what constantly drives us to spread our seed, our hobby ought to be fondly named "the variety game. " I, for one, embrace it. And this site enables it. So, there's nothing worse than the excitement buzz-kill that occurs after just getting started when you suddenly realize your fantasy frolic is taking place with a mannequin barely moving beneath you in the bed (aka: cold fish). So, I propose we introduce to the USASG abbreviations guide the new acronym "CFE" for "Cold Fish Experience" and I elect Dayton UTR Violet as its poster child after my second and last experience with her. We've all experienced a CFE at least once. Remember Cincinnati EE's Melea from not too long ago? And it makes sense. Rare is the provider who actually enjoys her role in this hobby (and we not only know who they are, we support and protect them as best we can).
But what's also entertaining about our hobby is the myriad of personalities we encounter in addition to their varied performance styles. There are the quiet ones, the loud ones, the chatty ones, and then there are the ones who want to tell you their entire life stories in hopes of sympathy, empathy, or just a good listening ear. The latter was the case with Violet who, for whatever reason, found herself comfortable enough with me during our second visit to reveal all. And after hearing her quite believable story (because it was delivered in a manner where she at least appeared not seeking sympathy) I cringed discovering her cold fish behavior is likely because she's clearly not in this hobby by her own volition. In other words, she's numb not only because of H. My conclusion from her story is she was involuntarily victimized recruited into her H habit and into this hobby years ago as a minor by a relative. And, now as an adult, she knows no other path while she supports that leech of a relative's H habit as well as her own. This formerly underage victim has never stopped being a victim IMHO.
Why am I convinced? Because unlike other users I've encountered, this one didn't try to steal from me or beg for extra $, or text me at odd hours (or any time for that matter) begging for our next encounter since last week, etc. Tragic. This petite young intelligent beautiful and formerly innocent very young twenty something nubile exists within an inescapable vortex needing help significantly beyond any I nor anyone here can offer. Why did I go for a second visit? Because before I heard the life story I figured the second visit would be better simply after having had the first one to break the ice (as has happened successfully numerous times in the past). Not this CFE.
I, for one, will no longer enable that situation. And though I thought deeply about how I might be able to help, I'm helpless (in addition, of course, to knowing better). What does someone do in this case other than nothing, if anything?