"Feelings aren't facts. "
". dealing with an ongoing case. ".
"They said that someone had pulled my name that very day. ".
OK. So how is it you know that if someone, indeed, looked up either your name or case number that it wasn't related to your on going case?
Exactly what information did the court system provide to whomever made your name pop up?
"Am I being paranoid. ".
Well, since you do NOT know who made your name pop-up, and do NOT know what information could have been provided, you probably are being paranoid!
One day, I heard a wise man remark "Feelings aren't facts. ".
". or is it that Pearl is looking into our background / public records before approving us?
Just about the ONLY person who can answer a question about what Pearl does or does not do is PEARL. If it's important to you to know, your best bet at getting an accurate answer is to ask PEARL.
". why in the world does she get to invade our privacy?
Invade your privacy? How did she do that? You fill in a form giving her information. If she checks on the info you provide how is that invading your privacy? If you are concerned about your privacy being invaded, focus on what info is collected from your activity on line. The info that Congress allows any person or organization to collect about you based upon on-line activity is tantamount to NO restrictions. Like living around here in The wild wild West before there were any laws. They get to do that because they aren't prevented from doing it.
". she's a control freak. I am furious,. ".
Furious? Furious at who? Your self? At Pearl? Why would you care how some one lives their life when it doesn't have a thing to do with you or have any impact on you?
"This further leads me to believe that this is what she is doing. ".
Let us see. You make an assumption that since someone at a court house says your name popped up that the ONLY way that could have happened was because Pearl did it. You don't have any information telling you what information about you was provided. Then, because a thread indicates someone else filled out the form and didn't hear back for two weeks or so, that is proof-positive of what Pearl has done or is doing?
"I think it's quite unacceptable and intrusive. ".
Exactly what was intrusive? So far the only reliable information you have is that you filled out a form. After filling out the form you now think what you did was unacceptable and provided intrusive information.
One day I read an article in the newspaper about a few banks that would NOT cash a check drawn on them if the person cashing the check didn't have an account with them. I called my bank to see if that was true? If I give some one a check they won't cash it for the amount I write it out for! They confirmed the story.
Next day I found a bank that would honor a check for the amount I wrote on it, went to my bank and FIRED them!! Went to the other bank and gave them my business. If I don't agree with a organization's policies, I don't have a relationship with them. Same way or thing if I don't like the food at a restaurant, I don't buy food from them. To belabor the point, I HATE beets!! SO, I don't eat them. Don't give a dam if you like 'them. NEVER considered telling anyone they shouldn't eat those vile, nasty, loathsome things.
Some people plan a vacation from start to finish; they plan what they will do when they are wherever the want to be for every day they are away from home. NOT me. I have a general idea of what I want to do and see in an area and then do what ever I feel like when I get there, including going some place else. My life has little structure. Going on a vacation with some one who has a lot or structure for their life isn't a vacation for me. So I don't that. That doesn't mean I'm not friendly with high structure people, and / or that I haven't had high structure friends.
How they get the most enjoyment out of their lives isn't a concern for me.
Bottom line, yes, I have a for profit business background, is that with intimate knowledge about me, and years of experience dealing with me, at times I have difficulty making the best choices for my self. Thinking I can evaluate what choices others make for their lives is pretty silly and just wastes my time.
Deprived and Dumfounded.
P.S.: Eat all of those fucking beets you want to!!
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[QUOTE=NewToThishbby;2252626]I was looking for a provider and didn't know who to go see. I asked my buddy and I could tell he was uncomfortable talking about his experiences, so I decided to go out on a limb and look into it on my own. I came across Pearl's ad and thought her screening was the norm to get an appointment. I filled it out and heard nothing. Three weeks later, I was downtown at the court house dealing with an ongoing case. Out of curiosity I asked if it were possible to check if anyone had looked me up. They said that someone had pulled my name that very day. I didn't think much of it at the time. Later on that same day, I got an email from Pearl saying that I was approved to go to her business. Am I being paranoid or is it that Pearl is looking into our background / public records before approving us? They don't show their faces or give their real names, so why in the world does she get to invade our privacy? Someone mentioned earlier that she's a control freak--if this is so, I totally agree. I am furious, but I need you guys to give me your two cents about this. Could she really be doing this? I read some other reviews saying it took Pearl a couple of weeks to get back to them for approval or not. This further leads me to believe that this is what she is doing and I think it's quite unacceptable and intrusive.
-New to this hobby and already having doubts.[/QUOTE]First off did you actually give her your real (full) name? If so well your bad. Did you give her your actual personal phone number? If so well your bad. Did you clarify if you had a nut allergy, if so well not really relevant. Seriously fill the form out with an alias and a burner phone number. That's how I rolled and had no problem being cleared for an appointment, now I just have to get around to booking one inside their apparently tight schedule. From the inability to book one seems to me they are crazy busy. I have a very close monger buddy who has told me it is a rocking good massage. Meaning at least the massage is better than any other group out there. The finish pretty standard for what is out there.
AZT.