General Reports

It usually never works out. Most of these women don't drive so they have a real need for someone to give them rides for groceries, dr's etc. Once you get caught up in that deal you are on a different level with expectations that usually don't happen. You may be expecting reduced rates for services and maybe quality time together like you might have with a date. These advances in the relationship don't happen, the woman still sees you as a lick and now she she sees you as a sucker too.

I had one experience where I took a SW that I had known for a year to a casino. The deal was that I would advance her some cash to gamble with and she would come over the next day and treat me like a king. Turns out she won pretty good at the casino and on the way home she asked to stop to see a drug dealer. She then proceeded to go on a 3 day bender so I never even got compensated.

I have known guys who befriended SW's who were in their late 40's who wanted out of the biz. Turns out the guys married the SW's and it worked out but those instances have been few and far between.

[QUOTE=Quick Draw; 1766475]How many of us Mongers have ever "fallen" for a provider? Someone you would have dated her if she got out of the business? Obviously we don't have to share names unless we pm.

I can think of 2 or 3 LOL.

Be Safe QD[/QUOTE]Only 1 so far. I'm not foolish enough, however, to believe she would reciprocate. They would say they would to keep you coming back but this isn't Pretty Woman (BTW. I've had escorts way hotter than Julia Roberts, as have most of us). LOL

First, not all situations like this are bad. I had a client I saw a few times, really liked him, and asked him to be my boyfriend. Of course, if you know me, you probably already know this story, and you also know that 'boyfriend' is a very loose (LOL) term for me, and I seem to have a boyfriend in about every state (just kidding! Only two states). As long as you are honest with each other, then it shouldn't matter. Ladies, don't tell the gent that you are going to stop providing, and do it behind their backs. Gents, don't say that it doesn't bother you that the lady is providing when it does bother you, etc.

Ladies can be duped into a 'sugar-daddy' type relationship that isn't nearly as great as they thought it would be.

Gents, some providers have an inane 6th sense to smell a sucker from a mile away, and milk him for all he has got. I just read a story in Richmond VA in which a provider photographed or videoed sessions and then blackmailed the gent for around $100, 000 before he got fed up and went to the cops (she did get arrested for the blackmail).

Love is blind, and love can make you blind, and it's really hard to function properly and cognitively if you can't see.

I've fallen for it myself and am currently very close friends with a provider. If you don't have your head on straight, you'll get crushed. Hopefully the benefits outweigh the issues.

Also, I'm pretty sure there's a monger who currently thinks he's engaged to a provider, although she has absolutely no interest in him. Kind of sad

I am going to throw this question to the board. A provider just complained to me of a monger on our board who is blowing up her phone (50+ calls a day) , incessant texts, driving around her block looking for her (she can see him in his vehicle) and wanting to date her. She says he is stalking her and is concerned. She could block his phone but is afraid this may only exacerbate the situation. Any input would be appreciated. I know the guy's first name, his real name, not his board name. Any words of wisdom? How should this be handled, mongers and / or providers?

[QUOTE=Gitanacv;1767702]I am going to throw this question to the board. A provider just complained to me of a monger on our board who is blowing up her phone (50+ calls a day) , incessant texts, driving around her block looking for her (she can see him in his vehicle) and wanting to date her. She says he is stalking her and is concerned. She could block his phone but is afraid this may only exacerbate the situation. Any input would be appreciated. I know the guy's first name, his real name, not his board name. Any words of wisdom? How should this be handled, mongers and / or providers?[/QUOTE]Now that is one sick fella right there, if true. Can't imagine gettin your jock strap in such a knot over a provider. If things are truely as she states she should VERY STERNLY TELL the sick fvck to lose her number and stay far away from her or she will be forced to file a protective order against him for her safety. If he persists, well then he was warned.

Many years ago in FL, I was with a provider and while we had just finished the wild thing she was rooting around in her purse for something and her "shootin iron" fell out of her purse and onto the floor. CLUNK! I about shite myself there. She said sorry, I have to carry this thing because I do run into a few crazies once in a while. I can surely understand the sentiment if a provider did carry protection, and I'm not talking about the Trojan kind. Must be one of the hazards of the job.

Has anyone seen or heard from Chrissee (sexygurl) of the former fab four?

Haven't seen any posts from her. Hope she is doing ok.

[QUOTE=SinCity12; 1767439]Don't get confused any kind of romantic relationship with a provider is unwise.

No matter what you hear, your not different.

If you want romance meet a woman not in this business who is independent financially, and you have a chance.

With providers make your appointment do your business and go home.

Sincity12 says stay safe[/QUOTE]Couldn't agree more. The smarter guys I've known always go for women who are financially independent or have the ability to earn a decent living. If you marry a civilian with no earnings capability you are still at risk of losing you butt. If you have nothing, well, then you have noting to lose. As far as providers go, the game seems off the charts. I still find it mind boggling that this situation even exists. Being a provider and seeing as many men as these ladies do would have to have a major impact on their psyche. We mongers are just a face in the crowd to them.

Peace, Motogib

[QUOTE=Gitanacv;1767702]I am going to throw this question to the board. A provider just complained to me of a monger on our board who is blowing up her phone (50+ calls a day) , incessant texts, driving around her block looking for her (she can see him in his vehicle) and wanting to date her. She says he is stalking her and is concerned. She could block his phone but is afraid this may only exacerbate the situation. Any input would be appreciated. I know the guy's first name, his real name, not his board name. Any words of wisdom? How should this be handled, mongers and / or providers?[/QUOTE]What is she doing in response? Is she replying to his texts, any of them? If she is she is giving him the attention he needs and that only encourages more attention out of him. She should ignore him totally. And the more attention she gives him, the longer it will take for the path of ignoring him to work.

[QUOTE=Gitanacv;1767702]I am going to throw this question to the board. A provider just complained to me of a monger on our board who is blowing up her phone (50+ calls a day) , incessant texts, driving around her block looking for her (she can see him in his vehicle) and wanting to date her. She says he is stalking her and is concerned. She could block his phone but is afraid this may only exacerbate the situation. Any input would be appreciated. I know the guy's first name, his real name, not his board name. Any words of wisdom? How should this be handled, mongers and / or providers?[/QUOTE]Unacceptable. That fukkk stick is acting like the IRS. She needs to tell him to pound sand and go the Fukkk away. I suggest she reach out to the mods / admins here with the details and that they explain how the real world works to this asss hat. If he persists tee his arse up with a request for a restraining order.

Reminds me a bit of the time a close friend fell off a 20+ foot cliff into the bottom of a quarry while were were all out drinking. We raced to the bottom of the quarry only to be confronted with a large glistening femur sticking out of his thigh. A couple of spineless weasels in the group suggetsted we throw him in the back of the truck and drop him off at the hospital. I told them to Fukkk offf and drove to town, flagging down the first LEO my drunk ass could find. I was not arrested, though in retrospect I should have been, but that was the right thing to do. No cell phones etc. Back in the day. I know that's not an apples to apples analogy but doing the right thing is doing the right thing is and this gal needs to be protected. Again, my suggestion is to reach out internally to see if a come to Jesus speech works. If not? Tee him up!

[QUOTE=Quick Draw; 1766475]How many of us Mongers have ever "fallen" for a provider? Someone you would have dated her if she got out of the business? Obviously we don't have to share names unless we pm.

I can think of 2 or 3 LOL.

Be Safe QD[/QUOTE]There is one I definitely would have dated even if she had not gotten out of the business. I mean I met her because she was a providers, so it would seem hypocritical to suddenly have a problem with how she makes her living and to expect her to give it up.

[QUOTE=SinCity12; 1767439]Don't get confused any kind of romantic relationship with a provider is unwise.

No matter what you hear, your not different.

If you want romance meet a woman not in this business who is independent financially, and you have a chance.

With providers make your appointment do your business and go home.

Sincity12 says stay safe[/QUOTE]I have a great relationship with a local provider. I could swear that we have a connection that is very intense, personal and pleasing to both of us. We can't get enough of each other. And if I didn't keep reading about other guys experiences with her on this board being similar to mine I could almost believe it! Actually the only thing that matters is that we believe it for an hour at a time, although I'm pretty sure I think about her more often that she thinks about me.

For any of you that have been looking for or trying to contact Beth she has a new number. PM me for it.

[QUOTE=Gitanacv;1767702]I am going to throw this question to the board. A provider just complained to me of a monger on our board who is blowing up her phone (50+ calls a day) , incessant texts, driving around her block looking for her (she can see him in his vehicle) and wanting to date her. She says he is stalking her and is concerned. She could block his phone but is afraid this may only exacerbate the situation. Any input would be appreciated. I know the guy's first name, his real name, not his board name. Any words of wisdom? How should this be handled, mongers and / or providers?[/QUOTE]This is obviously a sticky situation. It would be hard to deal with LE or courts. But that also will depend on ure record, are you known, what city and state you are in and how much attention you bring to your self. Personally I am not trying to deal with the law nor do anything that would lead back to me but I would definitely call the biggest baddest dude I know and just have him scare the stalker next time he around. I would hope that every provider would have someone to call in case of trouble (besides LE) and have a way to protect herself. Best if luck to her tho. Also this is a num one reason why I am not trying to tell a bs story to a client that I have feelings for him just to have his money. No money is worth this kind of trouble but unfortunately some people are sick in the head and sometimes after one time of being with you he is in love. And that can go both ways. This is an unfortunate situation and unfortunately this is just one of many problems.

Denko,

I believe that last 14 words answers your own question. Not to mention, that if you get romantically involved with a provider, and you are married, you can only divide your shit in half so many times before there isn't enough shit left to divide anymore.

[QUOTE=Denko;1768129]I have a great relationship with a local provider. I could swear that we have a connection that is very intense, personal and pleasing to both of us. We can't get enough of each other. And if I didn't keep reading about other guys experiences with her on this board being similar to mine I could almost believe it! Actually the only thing that matters is that we believe it for an hour at a time, although I'm pretty sure I think about her more often that she thinks about me.[/QUOTE]