I've noticed usually there are a wave of new girls on the first days of the month. That hasn't seemed to happen so far this month.
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I've noticed usually there are a wave of new girls on the first days of the month. That hasn't seemed to happen so far this month.
[QUOTE=HelloThar;6815630]Chanel888.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/530efc3a-86c7-489a-8e2b-bbe29d47c628[/URL]
Looking for unknown monthly arrangement, apparently has a 2 yo despite her current profile saying she has none. She says she's up for ppm, but then just ghosts you if you mention it. This is her second account.
[/QUOTE]I finally got it out of her. She wants $1000 ppm covered, anal is extra lmfao. She seems a little screwy too.
[QUOTE=PopItFank69;6811298]Used to have a lot of success on this site. I made a new account a couple weeks ago and it's been nothing but a huge waste of time. Any decent looking girl is just a scammer or pic seller and while the ugly ones (85% of users) are real and responsive they want $$ These cows should be paying me to sleep with them! Considering charging back my sub.[/QUOTE]It's basically Tinder now. Now for all your hard work get the privilege of paying for low grade females! It's only going to get worse now that the ugly ones are getting money! No living with them now! And no, your pics are filtered by AI so no 1 k for you! LOL.
[QUOTE=MarkoRamius;6815954]I've noticed usually there are a wave of new girls on the first days of the month. That hasn't seemed to happen so far this month.[/QUOTE]It has in the areas I look in. Like 8-10 new ones. But that site is Tinder now almost. Still a tumble full of ladies. I'm hanging on to the ones I have. Did get to bang a decent 19 yo recently. That's always fun. Actually college student. Guess she realized instead of gaming a fella why not get laid, eat, and pay for those books! About 2% get it.
They'll be around your area I'm sure. Remember cuffing season is giving way to hot girl summer. They'll need the money soon enough.
[QUOTE=PopItFank69;6816180]I finally got it out of her. She wants $1000 ppm covered, anal is extra lmfao. She seems a little screwy too.[/QUOTE]I reported this lady Channel888 (before Channel444) as scam.
I met her in person. Legit 18-19, she has a fine piece of ass ngl, but don't let that cake get you oblivious like me, she is in the site for the quick money.
[URL]http://www.usasexguide.nl/forum/showthread.php?10145-Non-Pro-s&p=6752514[/URL]#post6752514.
[QUOTE=Papicho;6819195]I reported this lady Channel888 (before Channel444) as scam.
I met her in person. Legit 18-19, she has a fine piece of ass ngl, but don't let that cake get you oblivious like me, she is in the site for the quick money.
[URL]http://www.usasexguide.nl/forum/showthread.php?10145-Non-Pro-s&p=6752514[/URL]#post6752514.[/QUOTE]Sounds like I dodged a bullet with this one. Had plans to meet up for coffee before she dropped the $1 k bomb. She did send me a photo of her DL and she is 19. However, she did a terrible job obfuscating her personal information. Searched up her name and found a Seattle Missing Child report from when she was 14. Also has a 2 year old child which would put her at 16/17 when giving birth. Plus her account was deactivated and she claims it was because she forgot her PW which I call BS on. Way too many red flags with this one.
[QUOTE=PopItFank69;6819835]Sounds like I dodged a bullet with this one. Had plans to meet up for coffee before she dropped the $1 k bomb. She did send me a photo of her DL and she is 19. However, she did a terrible job obfuscating her personal information. Searched up her name and found a Seattle Missing Child report from when she was 14. Also has a 2 year old child which would put her at 16/17 when giving birth. Plus her account was deactivated and she claims it was because she forgot her PW which I call BS on. Way too many red flags with this one.[/QUOTE]Not to mention she has a job and goes to school. Between that and her child, she magically has time for an arrangement. Just another full blown scammer.
On another note, anyone else notice how terrible all the SA women are at texts. I feel like the average chick takes 12-24 hours to respond, you reply once, and then it's another half day. I imagine however that they respond to all their texts at once due to the tons of messages most get. But even those from the other board are better at it.
I think I've only ever encountered 1 woman who was extremely prompt at responding. And interestingly enough she was great at sexting and being up for meeting quickly too.
[QUOTE=HelloThar;6821179]Not to mention she has a job and goes to school. Between that and her child, she magically has time for an arrangement. Just another full blown scammer.
On another note, anyone else notice how terrible all the SA women are at texts. I feel like the average chick takes 12-24 hours to respond, you reply once, and then it's another half day. I imagine however that they respond to all their texts at once due to the tons of messages most get. But even those from the other board are better at it.
I think I've only ever encountered 1 woman who was extremely prompt at responding. And interestingly enough she was great at sexting and being up for meeting quickly too.[/QUOTE]Yeah unfortunately my acct auto renewed so I guess I will try to suffer through. But it is amazing at how bad at responding they are even when you catch them online and talk on the site and then move off usually convo and wants etc trail off so fast it's nothing but a huge waste of time.
I didn't see any of these reports, I guess I got lucky.
600 for 2 hours. Nicest ass I've ever seen and she begged me to fill it.
[QUOTE=RocDiesel;6821243]Yeah unfortunately my acct auto renewed so I guess I will try to suffer through. But it is amazing at how bad at responding they are even when you catch them online and talk on the site and then move off usually convo and wants etc trail off so fast it's nothing but a huge waste of time.[/QUOTE]"Online" isn't at all accurate for those sites. It doesn't even seem to have much to do with when they recently logged in. At times I suspect they are trying to make it appear they have more activity than they really have by putting some of their profiles "Online" temporarily.
Keep in mind that about ninety percent of the profiles are as fake as pro wrestling or female orgasms in porn.
[QUOTE=RocDiesel;6821243]Yeah unfortunately my acct auto renewed so I guess I will try to suffer through. But it is amazing at how bad at responding they are even when you catch them online and talk on the site and then move off usually convo and wants etc trail off so fast it's nothing but a huge waste of time.[/QUOTE]I guess to be fair, if the roles were flipped and we had a ton of options to choose from, we would probably do the same thing. Message those we like and ghost all the rest.
I try to be direct as possible about meeting while being respectful to minimize wasted time even if that means I don't connect with some women. Some get all uppity and prudish when you do this, but chances are they're not the types you want to be with anyway. Many actually appreciate being upfront as they get a lot of time wasted by flakers or weirdos on the site apparently.
Those of you who play the long game with small talk and whatnot must have the patience of saints as I don't think I could do it on SA unless I was really interested in someone.
[QUOTE=WhoreHey;6821786]I didn't see any of these reports, I guess I got lucky.
600 for 2 hours. Nicest ass I've ever seen and she begged me to fill it.[/QUOTE]Are you saying that you boinked her?
I guess I was a hard pass for her and preferred to grab the one benji.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/68ea113f-152c-4965-b55f-7529d48856a5[/URL]
Anyone see this one before, seems kind of familiar. Gives off pro vibes from comms.
Would usually disregard, especially those with children and 30+, but tough to find ones outside of Seattle sometimes.
[QUOTE=HelloThar;6822157]I guess to be fair, if the roles were flipped and we had a ton of options to choose from, we would probably do the same thing. Message those we like and ghost all the rest.
I try to be direct as possible about meeting while being respectful to minimize wasted time even if that means I don't connect with some women. Some get all uppity and prudish when you do this, but chances are they're not the types you want to be with anyway. Many actually appreciate being upfront as they get a lot of time wasted by flakers or weirdos on the site apparently.
Those of you who play the long game with small talk and whatnot must have the patience of saints as I don't think I could do it on SA unless I was really interested in someone.[/QUOTE]Keep in mind that because of the global reach of the the web and all the unearned attention they get (from thirsty betas) the "unlimited" options are in their head a bit too. Most live in a online fantasy. At least most I've dealt with on SA under 25 (crazy). Really, out if the populace how many men have the means to drop 3/4/5/600 on poon. Not that many.
However, if they just want dick, they can get it at the drop of a hat. But 99% of the time they will go to a thug / bad boy / game ninja for a throttling. Not Mr. Mid age business man. (me) LOL.
[QUOTE=PriceIsRight39;6823264]Keep in mind that because of the global reach of the the web and all the unearned attention they get (from thirsty betas) the "unlimited" options are in their head a bit too. Most live in a online fantasy. At least most I've dealt with on SA under 25 (crazy). Really, out if the populace how many men have the means to drop 3/4/5/600 on poon. Not that many.
However, if they just want dick, they can get it at the drop of a hat. But 99% of the time they will go to a thug / bad boy / game ninja for a throttling. Not Mr. Mid age business man. (me) LOL.[/QUOTE]One thing I've come to experience first hand is how crazy pretty much all SA girls are, or at the very least all have lingering issues of some sort. Which would follow otherwise they wouldn't be on the site.
Even the inexperienced ones begin to view sex as a matter of rate and time allowed before long. And then they wonder why guys don't want to see them for longer arrangements which leads to ridiculous ppms. Trying to find a normal girl at a normal rate is seemingly more and more difficult. But then again, my lack of patience doesn't lend well to it.
Hello gentlemen,
I'm new to Seattle and have been playing the seeking game for a month. I thought I'd share reports weekly with scammers, GPS, and of course the real unicorns I discover. Starting today with the scammers and online / platonic time wastes.
Honeybee (online only, scammer).
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/26fe0448-c976-4f93-805f-62ed797f89d6[/URL]
Mysterious queen (Snapchat scammer).
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/d29825cd-c3ff-4e7a-9450-d408e6a63f14[/URL]
FunnyChickie (pic scammer).
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/b82c8096-e415-4a75-9ac1-3eadcee5c49e[/URL]
DaisyRiverquest (platonic and rude about it).
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/2137b732-10af-495d-8fdf-5b9b07ebcceb[/URL]
NiceDuchess (scammer).
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/e85c71c0-af27-474c-b49a-613b71aaaf28[/URL]
Secretcrush (scammer).
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/ef8c9828-7525-4a06-b98a-f255841beef3[/URL]
Following up with the GPS and real babies soon.
[QUOTE=EasyLife772;6823506]Hello gentlemen,
I'm new to Seattle and have been playing the seeking game for a month. I thought I'd share reports weekly with scammers, GPS, and of course the real unicorns I discover. Starting today with the scammers and online / platonic time wastes.
Honeybee (online only, scammer).
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/26fe0448-c976-4f93-805f-62ed797f89d6[/URL]
Mysterious queen (Snapchat scammer).
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/d29825cd-c3ff-4e7a-9450-d408e6a63f14[/URL]
FunnyChickie (pic scammer).
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/b82c8096-e415-4a75-9ac1-3eadcee5c49e[/URL]
DaisyRiverquest (platonic and rude about it).
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/2137b732-10af-495d-8fdf-5b9b07ebcceb[/URL]
NiceDuchess (scammer).
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/e85c71c0-af27-474c-b49a-613b71aaaf28[/URL]
Secretcrush (scammer).
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/ef8c9828-7525-4a06-b98a-f255841beef3[/URL]
Following up with the GPS and real babies soon.[/QUOTE]I have thought about going back to SA. I use SB and have mixed results it's just not as fun as it was say 5 years ago.
[QUOTE=FripOverGuy;6823622]I have thought about going back to SA. I use SB and have mixed results it's just not as fun as it was say 5 years ago.[/QUOTE]How do you use SB in a cost effective manner? I purchased $50 worth of credits and not a single woman I message responded. At least with SA you get a good response rate even if many are scammers. I do however, use SB verified profiles to find their matching SA accounts as many women post on both sites.
[QUOTE=FripOverGuy;6823622]I have thought about going back to SA. I use SB and have mixed results it's just not as fun as it was say 5 years ago.[/QUOTE]Honestly if you could make it here with SA in Seattle, you can probably make it anywhere in the country -- the deck is stacked that poorly against you here.
The variance of good and bad is just incredibly high (more so bad imo) so it takes a lot of patience and willingness to sift through crap.
I'm sure guys who are willing to splurge are having a great time, though I feel like the average rate on SA is becoming closer to that of the other board which each passing day. I would say it's about 500+ average ppm here now with many getting stingy over even 2 hrs of time together. At that rate, you might as well find someone on the other board who has great reviews and negotiate being a regular. She would also know what she's doing vs a likely unskilled non-pro.
On another note here are some reports I have:
PeachesandDreams.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/bcc12146-a9cb-45cc-a07f-254dd4f12899[/URL]
Can host, was vague on ppm though, guessing 400 or so. Too difficult to keep contact with so have kind of given up. Not really my type anyhow and guessing she's on the thick side going by pics.
MissJackieeeee.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/8ef40d9e-a6c2-4e75-9636-61e93e5d59be[/URL]
Seemed up for ppm, but then ghosted, probably due to not being able to host.
mtnpond
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/e6ae39ce-6f33-441c-bbe3-e2574bb20d05[/URL]
Seemed nice in responding, but couldn't host unfortunately.
Spreadsheet Lover.
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/messages/inbox/98db0759-6ca4-4f74-83a2-02ffff792855[/URL]
Wants 500 to host.
I used to filter all the profiles that mentioned children or 'preferred not to say (aka yes)' and now I remember why. I swear they're the most entitled of the bunch, both in ppm and being stingy about time, not to mention body type is a toss up. I also laugh at the ones that block me when I say I'm not interested due to distance and they get offended no matter how polite I am.
[QUOTE=HelloThar;6824000]Honestly if you could make it here with SA in Seattle, you can probably make it anywhere in the country -- the deck is stacked that poorly against you here.
The variance of good and bad is just incredibly high (more so bad imo) so it takes a lot of patience and willingness to sift through crap.
I'm sure guys who are willing to splurge are having a great time, though I feel like the average rate on SA is becoming closer to that of the other board which each passing day. I would say it's about 500+ average ppm here now with many getting stingy over even 2 hrs of time together. At that rate, you might as well find someone on the other board who has great reviews and negotiate being a regular. She would also know what she's doing vs a likely unskilled non-pro.
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[/QUOTE]Honestly I've never looked at the sugar world as a less expensive alternative to regular providers. Certainly if you care about dollars per orgasm there are no great deals here. And certainly in terms of time efficiency it is rarely a better deal either. There are lots of MPs and a few strip clubs you can go to and get everything done in an hour for less than any sugaring girl is going to cost you for less time and effort and not needed a membership to a stupid ripoff web site.
I don't really care that 99 percent of them are either ripoffs or scams or otherwise not suitable. That 1 percent is still far more pussy than I could imaginably fuck under even the most optimistic conditions.
Also, I never host at my home and wouldn't at all be okay with meeting a sugar girl at their home. Just too likely to be all fucked up. But one more thing that makes this game more expensive.
[QUOTE=MarkoRamius;6824345]Honestly I've never looked at the sugar world as a less expensive alternative to regular providers. Certainly if you care about dollars per orgasm there are no great deals here. And certainly in terms of time efficiency it is rarely a better deal either. There are lots of MPs and a few strip clubs you can go to and get everything done in an hour for less than any sugaring girl is going to cost you for less time and effort and not needed a membership to a stupid ripoff web site.
I don't really care that 99 percent of them are either ripoffs or scams or otherwise not suitable. That 1 percent is still far more pussy than I could imaginably fuck under even the most optimistic conditions.
Also, I never host at my home and wouldn't at all be okay with meeting a sugar girl at their home. Just too likely to be all fucked up. But one more thing that makes this game more expensive.[/QUOTE]Have you found that the ones on SA are more willing to work with you with you booking a hotel? And I assume you just prebook and if they don't show up, you cancel. I know dayuse offers some convenient options with this.
I haven't messed with hotels myself as the added costs really do stack up in addition to always having to check in vs just going to someone's place, but I should really be more open to changing that.
[QUOTE=HelloThar;6823485]One thing I've come to experience first hand is how crazy pretty much all SA girls are, or at the very least all have lingering issues of some sort. Which would follow otherwise they wouldn't be on the site.
Even the inexperienced ones begin to view sex as a matter of rate and time allowed before long. And then they wonder why guys don't want to see them for longer arrangements which leads to ridiculous ppms. Trying to find a normal girl at a normal rate is seemingly more and more difficult. But then again, my lack of patience doesn't lend well to it.[/QUOTE]Most are raised in a manner that teaches them that they are in charge, equal in every way to us men, men are dumb (see male TV sitcom characters) and cooperating with a man is a loss. Therefore most will never know how much better a well off man could make their life! Feminism has done them wrong. I don't want them once they wake up at 33-34!
I also have little time for their shit! My scores reflect that. I don't simp (anymore) on SBs!
[QUOTE=HelloThar;6824542]Have you found that the ones on SA are more willing to work with you with you booking a hotel? And I assume you just prebook and if they don't show up, you cancel. I know dayuse offers some convenient options with this.
I haven't messed with hotels myself as the added costs really do stack up in addition to always having to check in vs just going to someone's place, but I should really be more open to changing that.[/QUOTE]Yeah, they all have been willing to work with me if I'm booking a hotel.
Generally unless I am really sure the meetup is going to go down I just use the Expedia app to confirm that there is availability and then just show up at a hotel I know has availability. Yes, I might eat a higher rate but I'm taking zero risks. Generally if you are canceling the same day (and especially after check-in time) you probably won't get a refund unless you are really persistent.
Usually I like to take them to dinner and scope them out and figure out what the vibe is before we retire to a hotel for a fucking. If they behave oddly or badly at the dinner you can just thank them for their company, pay the bill, and go home. And enough of them do behave oddly or badly that it is worth the trouble and bluntly we all have to eat anyway. I've had enough experiences with girls where they freak out and I don't want that freakout to happen in a hotel room where I have a credit card on file, and also since I probably don't know her full name or even her real name and she doesn't know mine. That kinda gets awkward if you have to talk to hotel security or the police.
Don't panic too much, I just kind of think about worst case scenarios and I've never had an SB freak out like that in a hotel room with me.
My own experience is that they are much less likely to chicken out on you if you are just taking them to dinner.
[QUOTE=HelloThar;6823233][URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/68ea113f-152c-4965-b55f-7529d48856a5[/URL]
Anyone see this one before, seems kind of familiar. Gives off pro vibes from comms.
Would usually disregard, especially those with children and 30+, but tough to find ones outside of Seattle sometimes.[/QUOTE]Pro vibes and price structure as well.
$300 an hr, next.
[QUOTE=MarkoRamius;6824345]Honestly I've never looked at the sugar world as a less expensive alternative to regular providers.[/QUOTE]It is less expensive if you were doing multiple hours with a regular provider.
For less than 2 hrs of fucking meetings, SA might be more expensive.
[QUOTE=DelToro;6824765]It is less expensive if you were doing multiple hours with a regular provider.
For less than 2 hrs of fucking meetings, SA might be more expensive.[/QUOTE]One thing I've noticed is less meetings overall while being on SA just from being exhausted the entire week or however long after.
But I really like to make each meeting count too.
Anyone meet her yet? [URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/ff326db8-1a7a-4a6e-88a3-ff061d320220[/URL].
[QUOTE=DelToro;6824765]It is less expensive if you were doing multiple hours with a regular provider.
For less than 2 hrs of fucking meetings, SA might be more expensive.[/QUOTE]Yeah, but I'll still bet that on average anyone playing on a sugar site is spending more money than the average monger. So effectively you are getting a volume discount.
I routinely get overnighters for 500-600 so that is a far better deal than you'd get from any escort. What I tell 'them is that my "fee schedule" is from 400 to 600 for a date, with the expectation that at 600 they are spending the night. That has worked fine so far and I think it is reasonable and fair. Some ladies I see can only get away for relatively short periods of time (like 4-5 hours) so they usually go for 400.
A lot of it is I find any kind of negotiation a massive turn-off and it doesn't take much upselling and GPS to make me look elsewhere. Also I intensely dislike girls who constantly hit me up for money between dates and that often makes me drop otherwise serviceable girls like toxic waste.
[QUOTE=MarkoRamius;6825590]Yeah, but I'll still bet that on average anyone playing on a sugar site is spending more money than the average monger. So effectively you are getting a volume discount.
I routinely get overnighters for 500-600 so that is a far better deal than you'd get from any escort. What I tell 'them is that my "fee schedule" is from 400 to 600 for a date, with the expectation that at 600 they are spending the night. That has worked fine so far and I think it is reasonable and fair. Some ladies I see can only get away for relatively short periods of time (like 4-5 hours) so they usually go for 400.
A lot of it is I find any kind of negotiation a massive turn-off and it doesn't take much upselling and GPS to make me look elsewhere. Also I intensely dislike girls who constantly hit me up for money between dates and that often makes me drop otherwise serviceable girls like toxic waste.[/QUOTE]The fee schedule part I imagine works well and gives them some flexibility. I'm sure you still run across many that say 600 for 1 or 2 hours 'I know my worth' and you move on.
I actually appreciate those that don't immediately go for the high end too when you give them a range. Showing the ability to compromise is a huge green flag to me and likely a testament to a good personality, but it's fairly rare. It makes me want to work with them.
The ones who are rigid and set on X amount due to worries about devaluing themselves seem to do it well enough themselves, especially when not every meet with every person is the same.
[QUOTE=Loopguystl;6792267]Truly. Those prices are way too lower than anything I have seen quoted.[/QUOTE]He's probably A really good looking dude.
[QUOTE=MarkoRamius;6825590]Yeah, but I'll still bet that on average anyone playing on a sugar site is spending more money than the average monger. So effectively you are getting a volume discount.
I routinely get overnighters for 500-600 so that is a far better deal than you'd get from any escort. What I tell 'them is that my "fee schedule" is from 400 to 600 for a date, with the expectation that at 600 they are spending the night. That has worked fine so far and I think it is reasonable and fair. Some ladies I see can only get away for relatively short periods of time (like 4-5 hours) so they usually go for 400.
A lot of it is I find any kind of negotiation a massive turn-off and it doesn't take much upselling and GPS to make me look elsewhere. Also I intensely dislike girls who constantly hit me up for money between dates and that often makes me drop otherwise serviceable girls like toxic waste.[/QUOTE]Yikes. No wonder it sucks in Seattle for regular guys now. Sorry, my guy, your logic is flawed. I hope that for 600 a SB date, they are top quality. Because you're always paying more than their fee. Hotels, dinners, activities. You're probably closer to $800 - for an amateur. Most guys aren't hosting, and spending an entire evening with someone is an effort. So you can't say the value is better across the board.
The point of SB for me is the medium to long term experience, not just poon-hunting. Over time, you build a rapport. When those relationships work, the returns are pretty sweet because they start adding extras, going bare, GFE. That's what makes SB better than escorts, IMO.
[QUOTE=PopItFank69;6825279]Anyone meet her yet? [URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/ff326db8-1a7a-4a6e-88a3-ff061d320220[/URL].[/QUOTE]Invest in some image search apps on your phone. This one came up posted on jenny_seahawks profile on X. I would proceed with caution. I saw photos on that account of other girls from WYP and seeking, one is a catfish I cancelled on when she sent me a selfie of her real face.
[QUOTE=Mamouna;6827007]Invest in some image search apps on your phone. This one came up posted on jenny_seahawks profile on X. I would proceed with caution. I saw photos on that account of other girls from WYP and seeking, one is a catfish I cancelled on when she sent me a selfie of her real face.[/QUOTE]Reminds me that I like to tell women I'm picture / 'ID' / whatever verified and they're not when I ask for them to do a selfie verification pic. Even though being verified probably means jack shit on the site as I imagine the systems pass everything. But at least they are more likely to follow through when you say that.
Granted there's zero reason for them to deny sending a pic anyway unless they have something to hide.
Any intel on this one? First encounters have gone excellent but if I lock down a sugar and drop the roses needed for this one I want to be sure it's a safe and exclusive situation.
Anyone else getting the sense of an uptick in chat bots via text? I am on the search again and have had three or four profiles that all ask question after question with generic responses in text. A couple went sexual very quickly again just question after question. One seems to repeat a sentence or two regularly.
It's like chatting to a reverberating wall. I did accuse one of it / said sorry if I was wrong to which she called me a liar and told me to go away. LOL. Again, a very odd response. How was I lying?
Getting annoyed. Search seems more difficult this time round than previous times.
[QUOTE=Paradigum;6832023]Anyone else getting the sense of an uptick in chat bots via text? I am on the search again and have had three or four profiles that all ask question after question with generic responses in text. A couple went sexual very quickly again just question after question. One seems to repeat a sentence or two regularly.
It's like chatting to a reverberating wall. I did accuse one of it / said sorry if I was wrong to which she called me a liar and told me to go away. LOL. Again, a very odd response. How was I lying?
Getting annoyed. Search seems more difficult this time round than previous times.[/QUOTE]One thing I try to do is have them initiate the conversation just so I can sus out scammers / bots. They should be asking questions about your initial message or profile.
I noticed a lot of illegitimate profiles will just agree to whatever you say and you're doing most of the texting. Even a simple question asking you what your ideal arrangement is like is better than 'how are you?
You can usually tell who is fake within 1 or 2 messages.
Is it just me or do the women on SA take it extremely poorly when you end things with them. I do it out of courtesy each time, but I'm beginning to think just ghosting is the better option with how badly many take it.
Have seen stuff from name-calling to blaming me for their deadfishing (my favorite, and I only met them once) to personality shifts. Hell, a couple have tried to get me to send them money as an obvious last hurrah when I'm pretty sure I'll never see them again. Some of these are women I've seen for months.
There's also this sentiment that you owe them the same thing even if they try to change the terms, then they lash out when that doesn't work for you. It's especially apparent when they get complacent about meetups. You definitely get a thicker skin over time dealing with all the bullshit.
Sort of a rant, but hopefully many can relate and / or learn from the 1 year mark that I've been on SA.
[QUOTE=HelloThar;6832241]Is it just me or do the women on SA take it extremely poorly when you end things with them. I do it out of courtesy each time, but I'm beginning to think just ghosting is the better option with how badly many take it...
[/QUOTE]Yeah, that has been getting worse for a while.
I read somewhere that around half of people aged 18 to 34 have a diagnosable mental health condition. I also fucking believe it. In my professional life I have to hire and fire a lot of folks in that age range and it is pretty stunning how many seriously fucked up people are walking around out there.
And let's face it, if you are an attractive younger female with debilitating anxiety and depression SA is someplace you are very likely to end up. My own experience is about ninety percent of the ladies on those sites do have a significant mental health issue. And I'd also say if you are kind and a little bit patient ninety percent of the time it isn't an issue. Also it can work for you because a lot of them are seriously uncomfortable in a public place like a restaurant so you can just move the whole meetup to someplace private and let things proceed from there.
If that sounds awful, it kind of is. But in practice if I meet someone and it is obvious (and it will be obvious) that they aren't able to handle the situation for whatever reason I cut things off early, preferably before we get all naked. On the other side of it nobody is going to take responsibility for your safety and well-being in these situations except you, so you need to do what it takes to take care of yourself and keep yourself safe.
I use those kinds of terms about safety because I've met more than a couple of girls on that site who were, I judged, capable of stabbing me in my sleep or burning my house down. So that shit is out there.
[QUOTE=EasyLife772;6830872]Any intel on this one? First encounters have gone excellent but if I lock down a sugar and drop the roses needed for this one I want to be sure it's a safe and exclusive situation.[/QUOTE]Exclusive? LOL sure.
[QUOTE=MarkoRamius;6832489]Yeah, that has been getting worse for a while.
I read somewhere that around half of people aged 18 to 34 have a diagnosable mental health condition. I also fucking believe it. In my professional life I have to hire and fire a lot of folks in that age range and it is pretty stunning how many seriously fucked up people are walking around out there.
And let's face it, if you are an attractive younger female with debilitating anxiety and depression SA is someplace you are very likely to end up. My own experience is about ninety percent of the ladies on those sites do have a significant mental health issue. And I'd also say if you are kind and a little bit patient ninety percent of the time it isn't an issue. Also it can work for you because a lot of them are seriously uncomfortable in a public place like a restaurant so you can just move the whole meetup to someplace private and let things proceed from there.
If that sounds awful, it kind of is. But in practice if I meet someone and it is obvious (and it will be obvious) that they aren't able to handle the situation for whatever reason I cut things off early, preferably before we get all naked. On the other side of it nobody is going to take responsibility for your safety and well-being in these situations except you, so you need to do what it takes to take care of yourself and keep yourself safe.
I use those kinds of terms about safety because I've met more than a couple of girls on that site who were, I judged, capable of stabbing me in my sleep or burning my house down. So that shit is out there.[/QUOTE]I'm of the same opinion regarding making sure they have their shit together early. Not looking for drama, especially if we're having to trust one another in private.
And it works most of the time -- I can 'usually' tell in text and would say it's a rarity to meet anyone unhinged by that point. But I've heard some bad stories about meetups. For me, it's when disagreements come up down the road and no matter how polite you are, you start seeing the other side of people when they don't get their way. I get it in some ways, you're a source of income and now that's being threatened. But we're not obligated to give them anything if we don't see them and they don't have to meet us.
I think much of the entitlement also comes from having a large amount of attention on SA. How dare this guy drop me when I have all these other guys at my beck and call?
One trick I've learned on SA is that if you share private photos, taking away permissions has just as much of a chance in getting a greeting as anything else. Something about seeing that prompt 'their private photos have been unshared' triggers insecurities.