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[QUOTE=Bubba261]Interesting viewpoint. However, what I was referring to was newbie "Lovin BBWs" posting the same one twice consecutively.
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He probably didn't realize that as a noob, his posts will not appear instantaneously. I've seen several impatient guys do that.
[QUOTE=Sarang Haeyo]He probably didn't realize that as a noob, his posts will not appear instantaneously. I've seen several impatient guys do that.[/QUOTE]It took a day or 2 2 show up.
I get what I'd like to refer to as stalkers allot. And I would like some input as to why.
Let me indulge you.
I see a client a couple times, most of my clients like to see me weekly or bi weekly. More than half of them can see the difference between a escort/Gentleman and a girl/boyfriend scenario, even when experiencing the gfe. Though it seems about 25% of them believe that they can save me.
They claim to love me, tell me they want me to be with them, send me 50-100 I'm's within an hour span and god forbid I don't reply! Then I'm a harlot, a *****, a ****, a **** and god knows what else. But they always say sorry in the end and say things like "I just need you" or "Do you hate me now" Mind you. I'm still not at the computer to reply to any of this.
I can't just throw them on ignore, I do incalls, and thus they know my address. So I continue to play along, and slowly inch away until they are hooked onto someone else.
I suppose the point in this post is to ask you Gent's if you know why men (about 10-15 right now) do this crazy crap to me, and if it happens to all escorts.
[QUOTE=Gothic Bbw]I get what I'd like to refer to as stalkers allot. And I would like some input as to why.
Let me indulge you.
I see a client a couple times, most of my clients like to see me weekly or bi weekly. More than half of them can see the difference between a escort/Gentleman and a girl/boyfriend scenario, even when experiencing the gfe. Though it seems about 25% of them believe that they can save me.
They claim to love me, tell me they want me to be with them, send me 50-100 I'm's within an hour span and god forbid I don't reply! Then I'm a harlot, a *****, a ****, a **** and god knows what else. But they always say sorry in the end and say things like "I just need you" or "Do you hate me now" Mind you. I'm still not at the computer to reply to any of this.
I can't just throw them on ignore, I do incalls, and thus they know my address. So I continue to play along, and slowly inch away until they are hooked onto someone else.
I suppose the point in this post is to ask you Gent's if you know why men (about 10-15 right now) do this crazy crap to me, and if it happens to all escorts.[/QUOTE]Some hobbyist are here just for the fun.
It sounds like your gfe is too good.They get caught up in the fantasy.You may be the closest thing to a relationship they can find.They want to be your knight in shining armor.You are going to have to look at all your past stalkers and find the common thread and catch your behavior with new callers so you are not caught up in that mess.
[QUOTE=Gothic Bbw]I get what I'd like to refer to as stalkers allot. And I would like some input as to why.
Let me indulge you.
I see a client a couple times, most of my clients like to see me weekly or bi weekly. More than half of them can see the difference between a escort/Gentleman and a girl/boyfriend scenario, even when experiencing the gfe. Though it seems about 25% of them believe that they can save me.
They claim to love me, tell me they want me to be with them, send me 50-100 I'm's within an hour span and god forbid I don't reply! Then I'm a harlot, a *****, a ****, a **** and god knows what else. But they always say sorry in the end and say things like "I just need you" or "Do you hate me now" Mind you. I'm still not at the computer to reply to any of this.
I can't just throw them on ignore, I do incalls, and thus they know my address. So I continue to play along, and slowly inch away until they are hooked onto someone else.
I suppose the point in this post is to ask you Gent's if you know why men (about 10-15 right now) do this crazy crap to me, and if it happens to all escorts.[/QUOTE]The purpose for this board is to share information about women who are professional sex workers. This is a group of men who utilize this forum to openly exchange non-biased information. I think it was really fucking stupid for anyone who uses this site properly to give you its address. There is no place for you here. The Classifieds section is an area for us to report on ads we have seen at various sites that offer sex for money-- NOT a place for you to look for clients.
This is certainly not a place for you to recveive therapy about the emotional or psychological or harrassing behaviors you have encountered in your chosen line of work. Take that shit somewhere else. I can almost guarrantee there are sites you can get all that in some chat room or other forum.
This is the second time recently that a working woman has posted on the board in order to solicite. I think this sets a bad precedent for the purpose of USG-- again, we are a community of men openly sharing information about sex.
Finally, be aware that there are some pretty stupid motherfuckers out there sharing the site with the wrong elements. Want to get infiltrated with BS handles/accounts? It will happen if this continues.
Finally, Gothic BBW, I [personally] do not think this is the place for you-- go back to the advocate or to craigs list or TER or whereever.
I gotta agree with Garthy. If we're going to have providers on this board it needs to be controlled somehow (right now I don't think it is). There is another board where any solicitation is removed unless the provider has paid an ad fee. Without that kind of control this board could end being a useless series of 'flaming threads' with providers disputing marginal reviews.
If we can keep this to the general section somehow that could work. If controlled it's actually interesting to hear from providers.
[QUOTE=Garthy]The purpose for this board is to share information about women who are professional sex workers. This is a group of men who utilize this forum to openly exchange non-biased information. I think it was really fucking stupid for anyone who uses this site properly to give you its address. There is no place for you here. The Classifieds section is an area for us to report on ads we have seen at various sites that offer sex for money-- NOT a place for you to look for clients.[/QUOTE]
You seem like a smart girl. I'm a bit surprised you don't already know the answer as most providers seem to have a tremendous talent for reading people.
The short answer is, it's all about basic human need. In this case it's all about love baby. If you already have it in your life than mongering is a little extra thrill to spice things up. If you don't then mongering gets confused with filling that need. And you end up with 100 IMs of desperation.
Later,
Vegas
[QUOTE=Gothic Bbw]I get what I'd like to refer to as stalkers allot. And I would like some input as to why.
Let me indulge you.
I see a client a couple times, most of my clients like to see me weekly or bi weekly. More than half of them can see the difference between a escort/Gentleman and a girl/boyfriend scenario, even when experiencing the gfe. Though it seems about 25% of them believe that they can save me.
They claim to love me, tell me they want me to be with them, send me 50-100 I'm's within an hour span and god forbid I don't reply! Then I'm a harlot, a *****, a ****, a **** and god knows what else. But they always say sorry in the end and say things like "I just need you" or "Do you hate me now" Mind you. I'm still not at the computer to reply to any of this.
I can't just throw them on ignore, I do incalls, and thus they know my address. So I continue to play along, and slowly inch away until they are hooked onto someone else.
I suppose the point in this post is to ask you Gent's if you know why men (about 10-15 right now) do this crazy crap to me, and if it happens to all escorts.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Garthy]This is certainly not a place for you to recveive therapy about the emotional or psychological or harrassing behaviors you have encountered in your chosen line of work. Take that shit somewhere else. I can almost guarrantee there are sites you can get all that in some chat room or other forum.[/QUOTE]Agree 100%!
There is no description of each forum saying bla bla bla you can't place ads here. Why would you yell at her like that? Someone obviously misinformed us. We didn't know, someone told us that we could place ads here and then there is a forum that says classified ads, well sounds like a place to post an ad at to me. As far as what she just asked, she was genuinely looking for an answer. When I messaged her about the flagging at craigs she was talking to me about the same problem, and I'm sure she wasnt trying to solicit me seeing as I am a girl and obviously not gonna buy since I am selling.
You are extremely rude. And grouchy and I'm thinking that maybe you need to get laid or something.
I do not understand people. Always soo rude everywhere you go it's the holiday season lighten up if a new person posts in the wrong spot pm them and let them know hey maybe you should try posting here. No one else complained about my ad except you just now. I got lots of messeges from people trying to see my pics.
Anyways. How's everyone liking this ice? Sux when your trying to make money though LOL.
I have to disagree with the nasayers. I think there is a place in this forum for women. If you want to advertise there is an advertising section. If you want to ask questions or give advice it is here.
Why shouldn't they be able to talk about their work. That is why we are here. The do not need to wear veils. They also can call out the asshole mongers who mistreat them.
Please don't tell me (we) senior members havent answered some stupid ignorant questions from our fellow men!
There is a place for women here. Do not hold it aginst them because someone, a guy, I might point out pretended to be a woman in the Danbury section. If you's all recall while we were duped we did have a good time thinking we were getting a womans point of view.
MHO there is allways a place for the ladies. This is an open forum for the exchange of information on sex. They should be treated like any other member.
Steel Blue
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My only point is this: How direct are you going to be about a review of a girl when you know she is going to read it. The other board I mentioned has tons of examples where the girl 'disagrees with the review', turns it around and all of a sudden she paints the guy like he is an a-hole. As a reader, not only don't you know who to believe but if I'm the guy. Why would I want some beoch possibly calling me out in public and spewing out some details about me (license plate number, physical description, wether I'm a cheap tipper, etc. Etc).
Kind of all a mute point as this is an open forum anybody can join.
Later,
Vegas
[QUOTE=Gothic Bbw]I get what I'd like to refer to as stalkers allot. And I would like some input as to why.
I suppose the point in this post is to ask you Gent's if you know why men (about 10-15 right now) do this crazy crap to me, and if it happens to all escorts.[/QUOTE]
Men are pathetic. We get the shit kicked out of us at work; then we go home where we expect to find some sanctuary from our employer and those with whom we work only to get the shit kicked out of us some more by a wife or SO who doesn't appreciate our efforts.
We then turn to professionals so that we can get an hour or so of respite from the above BS. This time is so precious that we want repeat performances early and often. Some of us get so wrapped up in the provider experience that we want it to be real. Hence, your stalkers.
This shit you're experiencing comes with the territory. A guy doesn't get what he wants and he's going to take all of his frustrations out on the easiest target: you. If he vents to his boss: fired. If he vents to his wife: burned meatloaf. If he vents to you: he gets his rocks off, no penalty.
Get it? Does this get you into the "minds of men"?
I agree with Steel. I have no problem with the ladies posting here, looking for business, after all, I'm looking for the business! We may have looked at the "Classified " section as a review of classified ads, and the providers who place those ads, but why not let them provide info here. After all, CL seems like quite the waste these days. Perhaps here, there is better control, and better feedback.
I'd rather know where I'm going, and what I'm going to do, than jump in the car and see what I can find! After all, a phone number,(or other contact,) is worth alot of time and gas money. The "General Reports" area may not be the place to post, but I have no problem with providers using the classifieds.
I gotta say, I'm with Steel on this one too. Despite his spelling handicap, I couldn't have said it better. ;) I see no reason why a woman / provider can't join in on the conversation here...
Of course, like the rest of us, women need to follow the forum rules too.... no spamming the forum, keep discussions in the proper place and category, and keep advertising in the "Classified Ads" section (the Classifieds sections are actually FOR classifieds, not necessarily for reviewing classifieds -- per the Forum Rules:
[b]No Self-Promotion: Please do not post any messages anywhere on this site that are primarily for the promotion or advertising of any website, forums, email address, business, multi-level marketing activity, or other entities that you have an affiliation with EXCEPT in the classified advertising section.[/b] )
Also, newbies would be good to remember (especially newbies who are used to repeatedly and excessively posting on CL) that this place is NOT a democracy -- everyone who posts and continues to post here does so at the pleasure of Jackson -- break the rules or behave in a generally annoying fashion, and you're gone. Don't believe me? Have a look at the Banned Users Hall of Shame.
So, I say welcome to Gothic BBW and Crazytits... Feel free to join in on the conversation but be aware: this place is like a rowdy sports bar of sex... expect frank talk, a little obnoxious offensiveness and a bunch of heavy-handed (yet constructive) criticism if you stray off base. Work on developing a thick skin -- we have a lot of fun here, and on the whole I'd say that we're a generally good, fair and respectful group of guys but at the same time we're not about to coddle you, pat you on the head and tell you it'll all be OK after you've had a rough day...
Good luck!
jmg
I do concur with my man, JMG and Steel. Though I do understand where Garthy is coming from. However, if a woman wants a no holds barred response from a gent, this is the place to get it. None of the boards can give it. More over, you can't quite call up a hotline or advice column for this shit.
Gothic,
I've been at this game for a few years and know plenty of gents online and off who've been at this game. It is nothing new. There is nothing new under the sun. When a woman gives a man undivided attention and strokes his ego or shows herself to be in need of a man, well...men do what men have always wanted to do.
Rip their shirts, remove their ties, and reveal the (S) on their chest. Men are doers. They see a need and rush to fill it. Its in our nature. Some men develop an oversized ego when it comes to helping a lady.
Be that as it may, what you are facing is something that goes on constantly in strip clubs. If you want good advice from a stripper, you may want to befriend a few and see where it takes you.
If you want a male perspective, understand this: lonely hearts seek loneliness. If you show a man your loneliness, he will think that he can fill his loneliness and meet your need at the same time. Show them your LACK of loneliness, while stiking a balance of seduction and desire, and you may find the equilibrium you seek. It will not work for all, mind you, but for many. It will also cost you a few dollars here and there, for the sake of your sanity.
Always be careful however of disturbing an illusion. If you think a stalker is truly a stalker, especially in the physical sense, you should be 100% aware that things could turn beyond ugly. You should never hesitate to call in community resources to assist you.
One thing I can't beleive you've done...and I caution you to end it...is to invite men into your address. Its a huge no-no. For you, and all of your clients. Reconsider.
[QUOTE=Gothic Bbw]I get what I'd like to refer to as stalkers allot. And I would like some input as to why.
Let me indulge you.
I see a client a couple times, most of my clients like to see me weekly or bi weekly. More than half of them can see the difference between a escort/Gentleman and a girl/boyfriend scenario, even when experiencing the gfe. Though it seems about 25% of them believe that they can save me.
They claim to love me, tell me they want me to be with them, send me 50-100 I'm's within an hour span and god forbid I don't reply! Then I'm a harlot, a *****, a ****, a **** and god knows what else. But they always say sorry in the end and say things like "I just need you" or "Do you hate me now" Mind you. I'm still not at the computer to reply to any of this.
I can't just throw them on ignore, I do incalls, and thus they know my address. So I continue to play along, and slowly inch away until they are hooked onto someone else.
I suppose the point in this post is to ask you Gent's if you know why men (about 10-15 right now) do this crazy crap to me, and if it happens to all escorts.[/QUOTE]