May I suggest you redirect your home mail to a PO boX ASAP! Or a stop delivery notice, which you can file at the appropriate post office. This may buy you a little time. Don't delay!
Baggens.
[QUOTE=Defense Lawyer; 1180606]Hey JP, what a major bummer.
Much of what I'd tell you to do depends on questions I'd have for you through PM, so feel free to send me a PM where you can give me details, such as where this happened, what court you're going to, and some other things.
But, for now, here's a few thoughts.
First of all, you will probably not be charged with prostitution (647 (be) , but rather with lewd conduct (647 (a). You may also be charged with loitering with the intent to do an act of prostitution (653. 22). The prostitution related charges are more difficult, because it's hard to lie to a significant other about the nature of the charges (you can always claim the cops are lying, but that's going to be more problematic as she may not want to take your word for it and may want to trek down to the courthouse and find out for herself what happened.
The bigger question is about keeping this secret from her, and I'm thinking you may have some problems there. There are a subgroup of lawyers in my profession (criminal defense lawyers) who go to the jails every week and pick up a list of arrestees for the week, getting their addresses and sending them a flurry of solicitation letters (they're not technically solicitations, as lawyers are allowed to solicit in that manner). But they are sort of informational letters where they explain that they're lawyers and can handle those type of cases.
Your problem is that these letters are going to start flooding your home like there's no tomorrow. You may get a good 20 of them over the next week. Which will really suck. Unless you have a different (ie. Work) address on your driver's license, the mail's about to hit your home. How you want to spin that is anyone's guess, my best advice is to be there for the mail every day for the next couple of weeks and don't let her get to the mail.
Depending on where this happened, there are very likely very good public defenders in court who can handle your case well. If you have no record, there is probably little danger in setting your case for trial and playing a game of chicken with the the to try and get them to reduce your charge to something that doesn't say "sex" in it. Something like trespassing or disturbing the peace.
The reason I asked where this happened and what court your going to is that will likely make a huge difference in deciding how you play that game of chicken and the disposition of the prosecution and court there. In most cases, they do not ask for jail on a first offense, it's usually 5 days of community service / cal trans work, or about $500 in fines, and an AIDS prevention class and things of the like.
I don't think that you need to get a private lawyer if money is a strong consideration, but we can talk more about that.
Send me a PM and I'll see info I can try and get you.
Good luck, and I'm really sorry about this. [/QUOTE]