Any intel on this SA lady? EducatedBeauty
She goes by EducatedBeauty I know she has been on SA for quite some time and I talked with her years ago. I just found her on social media and we talked again. Has anyone seen her?
[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/f7e6f6ad-40af-4c73-b493-8fa329daee84[/URL]
Assault in the second degree
[QUOTE=Papicho;6720053]Oh man, sounds like she is looking for someone who is willing to adopt her. She is still texting me, seems appealing but after you said probably, it is better to ghost her, what exactly she did to her ex partner to press charges against her LOL.[/QUOTE]The case against her was one of the first things she mentioned to me. I asked her for her side of the story and she said she had no memory of what happened (major red flag). Then, she gave me her full name so that I can just research the case myself. I found the public court filings, and apparently her ex wanted to break off their engagement, so she took a knife and threatened to harm herself, and then lunged at him trying to stab him, but he was able to move away and call the police. The ex told the police that this was extremely unlike her, and that he called the police mostly about the possibility of self harm, not her being a danger to others.
She keeps telling me that she does not remember the incident, and that she had a really bad memory. My concern is that she will forget that she provided consent to whatever, and then you have a bigger problem on your hands.
So, just be careful everyone.
There is a fine line between "help" and "enabling"
[QUOTE=Mamouna;6721405]... But, you're right, she's a mess and no one. Particularly dudes on arrangement sites. Are in a position to really help.[/QUOTE]Yeah. Realistically some people are so damaged that they are beyond your resources and expertise to help and chances are any "help" you manage to give them will do more harm than good. That isn't their fault and it isn't your fault either.
Guys have to remember that they aren't charitable institutions or government agencies. We are all here to have a good time and we shouldn't ever make any of these girls into a project.
Long ago I was dating this lady I really liked. Except when she had too much to drink and then it was a hot mess. I finally gave her an ultimatum to get into substance abuse counseling or GTFO. She chose the latter and I never saw her or heard from her again. More recently another girl I was seeing had obvious severe problems, I gave her a similar ultimatum to get help or GTFO. She agreed to get help and improved. But after about six months she blew it all off, but was lying to me that she was still in counseling. Some time later it all detonated. At this point in time she has multiple warrants out for her arrest and AFAIK is living on the streets someplace, probably in the greater Seattle area. At some point the cops will become involved in this mess and I'll likely be drug into it.
So no, its never worth it to help someone when they are too messed up.