UTR's are great, excpet when they aren't
(apologies up front, I wrote this in an offline text editor, and it didn't translate well so that is why the grammar sucks).
I've had (2) UTR's I've been seeing on a regular basis now for a few years.
They did both advertise on STG on a regular basis in the past, but no longer do. One of which I still see weekly, but the other is what THIS story I am sharing is about. I've chosen to cut one of them loose and ghost them because it's what is best for ME.
What I am not going to do is share any names or locations, and as I explain this story it will Become clear as to why.
Backstory:
I met this UTR provider by accident. Several years ago I had an appointment for a session with someone for doubles, and I was basically ripped off and the 2nd provider that I was told would be there (and was the reason I made the appointment) was a no show. So the UTR provider came into the room, and proceeded to give me a really, really Good BBBJ. Good enough that I popped pretty quickly considering the situation.
So after this was over, this UTR walked me back to my car. We chatted for about 20+. Minutes afterwards and said if you liked that, I will make your next visit one you will never forget. So a few weeks later I took her up on that offer, and we clicked very well and she became one of my regulars despite her mixed (more bad than good) reviews and ads. She wasn't someone I would have ever picked to establish a session with based on what I had read on here or seen ads for. It was great for a few years!! When they say YMMV, I rode it hard, drove it like I stole it and then the wheels off this one!! .
Current Situation:
A few months ago my UTR contacted me (not unusual, sometimes I'd initiate Contact, sometimes she would). She said her new hosting location was difficult To schedule. I kept asking her when were good times, and I'd get either crickets Or non-answers. She also told me she just went through three major life changes and. Told me what they were. A lot for anyone to deal with and so I just chalked up the. Non-answers to this. We finally agreed on a time, and gives me her new address.
I arrived on time, and I txt her to let her know I was there and to give me her new. Apt number. Crickets. This went on for nearly 20 minutes. So I texted her that I was. Leaving. All of a sudden she txt me back saying she's on her way. I responded like. Well where are you, you were supposed to be here 30 minutes ago?? She says she's running. Late and she's still 30 minutes out (I'm also leaving the current city in the county out). But that she's driving up US1 now.
I SHOULD HAVE LEFT right then and there. This was my big mistake and it could have dearly cost me. I instead let my little head override my spidey sense and I agreed to wait for her.
About another 5 minutes pass, and now I've got some woman knocking on my car window. It's the landlord for the apartment complex, asking why I am there and who I am there to see. After a few minutes of going back and forth, I semi gained her trust and she Let some of her guard down and started conversing with me in a more normal tone.
After I told her who I was there to see (I do know the UTR's real name), the landlord said she did not know her. Now I am thinking, oh shit this could go sideways really quick. After some more back and forth she determined which unit she thought it was, and proceeds. To tell me that she was pretty sure that my UTR and the tenant had just got married.
I didn't do a good job hiding my suprised reaction because I was genuinely shocked and taken Off guard because I knew she wasn't married last time I saw her (but it had been quite a few weeks). The entire conversion lasted about 5 minutes and ended up with me feeling It was safe to stay put a few more minutes.
So about 10 minutes after the conversation ended with the landlord, my UTR shows up in a car I've never seen before (I am 99% sure it wasn't hers). We proceed to enter her apt and I. Confront her about being late and about the confrontation with the landlord, then I dropped The marriage question. You would have thought I'd just poured a cold glass of water over her Head by her reaction to the question. Jaw just dropped and a blank stare for a few seconds.
Basically an oh shit reaction. She asked me how I found out? I told her the landlord Had told me. Now she knows I caught her in a BIG lie.
So now she's in complete defensive mode and trying to defend herself by saying she only Married the guy so she'd have a place to live and that she didn't love him, and that he was A former client and that he'd never find out and she didn't give a shit what he thought about it.
Now I am like WTF?? Really??
Now she's spilling her guts, giving me the FML story about this and that and I am slowly Processing this and figuring out that she is still seeing a few regulars, and the husband Thinks she's out of the game. She's also got a GF, who she is also crashing with a lot Of nights, and those two are on the outs, and she's cheating on the husband and the GF with Another woman. (yeah this could easily be its own ep of Jerry Springer).
I figured I had about 15 minutes to safely stay there, then I'd bolt, so I busted a nut, and Made up some BS story and I hauled ass, and I haven't contacted her since.
Now the part of this story that is f'ed up is that landlord could have made my life hell if she wanted to. All she would have needed to do was call LE and now I am left trying To explain all this and avoid a trespass. I don't need that shit. No woman is worth This much trouble and drama.
I feel REALLY bad for the husband and he very well may be a member here (this is why I am not mentioning names or cities). I found his FB page and it says he's married to her and his profile photo is of both of them and I confirmed it through county records.
I never had feelings for this UTR, so letting her go isn't that hard, but I thought I needed to vent and share this experience with the community because this could happen To anyone getting caught off guard and by surprise, by even someone you think you know and think you have established trust with.
Well it was a great few years while it lasted. Maybe at some point in the future she will get her shit some what straight, and I could re-establish a UTR relationship with but I think she's In for a rough future considering what I saw and heard and the major life events I am aware of. She flat out isn't dealing well with it at all, and I can't afford to care as it would suck me Into her vortex of darkness. I wish her the best but I can't be around that.
Stay safe out there everyone!!
Sex, Lies and Video Tapes
[QUOTE=OrlFun;6381125]Everyone on here knows you can't trust these women even if you've known them for years. We are a paycheck to them, that is all, nothing more, and to expect anything other than that is stupid. I don't care if a provider is married, single or whatever, that is her shit to deal with, not mine. All I care about is if she is going to suck my dick and fuck me. These are purely transactional relationships and you shouldn't expect anything more. They have their lives and we have our own.[/QUOTE]Absolutely agree one hundred percent! With all these women, whether UTRS or advertised provider, we are merely "clients" and it is always transactional! Sure, we all are guilty of getting too close to a provider whom we see on a long term basis. But, it never ends well! Take it from me and read "A Cautionary Tale" and use the Search Function to find it, it will certainly show you guys, especially you "newbies" what happens when you get too close or too involved with a provider! Of course, I do have "friendships" with some of these women and if you have read my reviews, you probably know who they are and shouldn't be too hard to figure out.
These Are Purely Transactional Relationships!
[QUOTE=OrlFun;6381125]Everyone on here knows you can't trust these women even if you've known them for years. We are a paycheck to them, that is all, nothing more, and to expect anything other than that is stupid. I don't care if a provider is married, single or whatever, that is her shit to deal with, not mine. All I care about is if she is going to suck my dick and fuck me. These are purely transactional relationships and you shouldn't expect anything more. They have their lives and we have our own.[/QUOTE]I couldn't possibly agree more with OF's declaration that these are purely transactional relationships and thinking otherwise is foolish and likely fraught with drama.
Conversations with landlords? Confronting providers with personal matters? Declaring they've been caught in a lie? Looking up FB profiles and county records of husbands?
This is bat shit crazy and is a perfect example of what not to do.
Key takeaway?? Respect the narrow focus of the interaction and keep one's nose where it belongs.
Here's your sign (for the 1 or 2 useful replies I got, thanks).
Thanks for all the 'no shit sherlock, transactional relationship' and other useless like 'where my nose belongs', and gaslighting comments. Not at all applicable to me but thanks anyways.
It always was purely a transactional relationship, that was built on mutual business trust. Trust that she ruined when she lied to me that her incall was safe like it always had been before, when in fact she put me in danger. She told me that she only had a new roommate, not that this person was her new husband that didn't know she was hosting for having sex with other people for crying out loud. HUGE DIFFERENCE!! So hell yeah I called her out on it.
HAD I KNOWN THE TRUTH, I WOULD HAVE NEVER AGREED TO THAT LAST APPOINTMENT WITH HER AT THAT INCALL LOCATION!
Last thing I f'ing need is for an angry husband to come home and walk in on me in his apartment. That's how people get shot or get seriously hurt or killed, and I'm not trying to be that, BECAUSE IT IS ONLY A TRANSACTIONAL RELATIONSHIP to me, and I understood that from the get go! Not sure how so many of you got confused on that one, but whatever.
I didn't choose the conversation with the landlord, she confronted me, but I guess some of you missed that part?? Kind of had no choice at that stage but to play the hand I was dealt. The only mistake I made was waiting, and I already stated that in my original post.
I make it my business to know WHO I am interacting with, and if that includes public records and social media accounts, you are damn right I do it! Because being ignorant of who you are doing business with is a choice that can have consequences too, but to each their own. The public records were the only way to figure out the truth this time, because I didn't trust anyone at that point and I didn't believe a word coming out of her mouth. Don't like it? I don't care. It's not for you to like and doesn't require your approval. It's to keep me informed with knowledge that can benefit my safety.
I'm safe, there has been no blow back, and that's all that really matters.
My UTR wants us to have some company
Hey all. My UTR is 35 dirty blonde, great Cs, the most talented I've been with & that's a few, super concerned about being discrete, she's hit a tough spot with her job & she's in school. She told me to see if I could set something up. I'm probably talking about sometime Monday. So if any interest pm me.