Sexual Addiction Reports

[QUOTE=Teabag X]I am a sex addict and that's OK. I don't smoke crack. HELL! I don't use drugs at all. I don't commit felonies. I don't drive drunk. I only use a firearm when I have to. I salute the flag. I consider all service men and women as heros, as well as all prior service men and women. I own a business. I pay my taxes. I don't mooch off the system. I drink beer. I make moonshine. And I enjoy having sex with beautiful, petite, young ladies, that enjoy older men.

I'm not doing anything wrong.

I'm a sex addict. And that's OK.[/QUOTE]


Teabag, most of us are sex addicts and there is nothing wrong with that because it is totally natural. I also enjoy sex with those young petite babes.

[QUOTE=Civ2000]You could also get drunk everynight and not be an alcoholic. Millions of college kids do it. Loss of control, unsuccessful attempts to quit, guilt and remorse, and negative consequences.....that is addiction.[/QUOTE]
Which why Alcoholics Anonymous was such a complete failure in Russia. All Russians already knows they are alcoholics... and are fine with that!

The Sexual Addiction Screening Test (SAST) is designed to assist in the assessment of sexually compulsive behavior which may indicate the presence of sex addiction. Developed in cooperation with hospitals, treatment programs, private therapists, and community groups, the SAST provides a profile of responses which help to discriminate between addictive and non-addictive behavior. Before starting the assessment we need basic information in order to build your profile.

Please indicate gender:

Male__ Female __
Indicate Orientation:
Heterosexual __ Bi-sexual __ Homosexual __

Please check any of the following which apply:
__I have no concerns about my sexual behavior but am curious how I would score.
__I have no concerns about my sexual behavior but others are concerned.
__I am having problems with my sexual behavior but do not consider myself a "sex addict".
__I know I am a sex addict.
__I have sought therapy because of my sexual problems.

To complete the test, answer each question by selecting yes/no.

1. Were you sexually abused as a child or adolescent? Y/N
2. Did your parents have trouble with sexual behavior? Y/N
3. Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts? Y/N
4. Do you feel that your sexual behavior is not normal? Y/N
5. Do you ever feel bad about your sexual behavior? Yes No
6. Has your sexual behavior ever created problems for you/family? Y/N
7. Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior you did not like? Y/N
8. Has anyone been hurt emotionally due to of your sexual behavior? Y/N
9. Are any of your sexual activities against the law? Y/N
10. Have you made efforts to quit a type of sexual activity and failed? Y/N
11. Do you hide some of your sexual behaviors from others? Y/N
12. Have you attempted to stop some parts of your sexual activity? Y/N
13. Have you felt degraded by your sexual behaviors? Y/N
14. When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterwards? Y/N
15. Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire? Y/N
16. Have important parts of your life (e.g. job, family, friends, leisure) been neglected because you were spending too much time on sex? Y/N
17. Do you ever think your sexual desire is stronger than you are? Y/N
18. Is sex almost all you think about? Y/N
19. Has sex (or fantasies) been a way for you to escape your problems? Y/N
20. Has sex become the most important thing in your life? Y/N
21. Are you in crisis over sexual matters? Y/N
22. Has the Internet created sexual problems for you? Y/N
23. Do you spend too much time online for sexual purposes? Y/N
24. Have you purchased services online for erotic purposes (sites for dating, pornography, fantasy and friend finder)? Y/N
25. Have you used the Internet to make romantic or erotic connections with people online? Y/N
26. Have people in your life been upset about your sexual activities online? Y/N
27. Have you attempted to stop your online sexual behaviors? Y/N
28. Have you subscribed to or regularly purchased or rented sexually explicit materials (magazines, videos, books or online pornography)? Y/N
29. Have you been sexual with minors? Y/N
30. Have you spent considerable time and money on strip clubs, adult bookstores and movie houses? Y/N
31. Have you engaged prostitutes and escorts for your sexual needs? Y/N
32. Have you spent considerable time surfing pornography online? Y/N
33. Have you used magazines, videos or online pornography even when there was considerable risk of being caught by family members who would be upset by your behavior? Y/N
34. Have you regularly purchased romantic novels or sexually explicit magazines? Y/N
35. Have stayed in romantic relationships after they became emotionally or physically abusive? Y/N
36. Have you traded sex for money or gifts? Y/N
37. Have you maintained multiple romantic or sexual relationships at the same time? Y/N
38. After sexually acting out, do you sometimes refrain from all sex for a significant period? Y/N
39. Have you regularly engaged in sadomasochistic behavior? Y/N
40. Do you visit sexual bath-houses, sex clubs or adult video/bookstores as part of your regular sexual activity? Y/N
41. Have you engaged in unsafe or "risky" sex even though you knew it could cause you harm? Y/N
42. Have you cruised public restrooms, rest areas or parks looking for sex with strangers? Y/N
43. Do you believe casual or anonymous sex has kept you from having more long-term intimate relationships? Y/N
44. Has your sexual behavior put you at risk for arrest for lewd conduct or public indecency? Y/N
45. Have you been paid for sex? Y/N

If you picked up any new ideas from this test, you just might be addicted!

Be safe

One of my recent experiences is, that I've got all sorts of other shit going on in my life so I'm not mongering as much (or at all) as I used to. I've started a new school program, full time, high pressure, and I find that the social outlet of meeting all sorts of new people is really tempting me away from mongering. If I end up with a spare weekend night, maybe even a little tipsy because I was at a social hour, I'm not tempted to go slip off to the monger-zone and get an AMP service. Instead, I'm tempted (in a "what I WANT to do with my time" sort of thing) to get on Facebook and internet-chat with my classmates about some interesting idea that came up; or just get a textbook out and go back over something again because it was cool to me. In particular, I have FRIENDS who don't monger, and they're not UNHAPPY ABOUT LIFE or grumpy like I was. They get me up, instead of my life bringing me down.

For now, this is a solution to my desire to back off from mongering. I'm meeting plenty of younger women, and they spend time with me interacting as though I'm not a jerk. In fact, people, seem to respect me. They like my company. A few think I'm a bit wonky, weird, an older guy hanging out with younger people, but that's OK, I'm game to be the "king of the geeks." It feels like I have friends instead of adversaries. The girls are some of them flighty and difficult to deal with, but instead of them slamming me for the fact that I don't "know how to treat a woman," they instead want my opinion, and like being around me even if they'd never fuck me in a million years. I get the sense, that if or when I actually DO make a pass at one of the ones who's shown some interest, it won't be some kind of occasion for her to be a raving **** to me about how she can manipulate and control me. Instead, it would just be a pair of humans bumbling around like all of us do, and there'd be no bad power-imbalance that drove me to drink, to anger, to hatred of the manipulativeness of women. As I look forward at that possibility, it just seems like natural human clumsiness and wishful thinking on both sides, rather than the fucked up North American model of things which castrates and frustrates men at every turn. It all looks better, at least in my imagination.

This much for now is a wonderful change. I guess I had to get into a forward-looking program, to experience this. Partly, I'm anticipating being more employable, having a better life, more prospects, after I'm done with this degree (Spring 2011). I feel like, when I go to a club, and a girl asks me "so, what do you do?" I don't have to be apologetic. I don't have to MAKE UP something that's impressive, or somehow TWIST what I'm doing to the point that she'll give me the time of day. That means, I'm free to be myself, have my own opinions, because I feel like I deserve the audition.

I remember in my last job, some of the more senior staff were hanging about chatting about some of our ongoing projects. One of the Senior Editors took down a picture of one of the latest authors of ours (it was a publishing house) and pointed out, that she was a very attractive woman. He commented something like, "She's probably married to some doctor or lawyer." He said it with chagrin, annoyance. Like, "... and I'm only a Senior Editor and therefore MY wife has to be uglier than her." Well, I thought at the time, "Gosh, and now *I'M* trapped into being like the Senior Editor, over time, slowly getting to his status." Now, however, I look at my own life and I think, there are CHOICES, opportunities. I can ask Emma out tomorrow. She might say yes. That sounds good. If she says no, or decides she only wants dinner and not fucky-fucky, then I'll still enjoy dinner. That also sounds good from this vantage. I can still ask Caroline out the next day. And it's not UNREASONABLE for me to do these things. I'm not "some Senior Editor who shouldn't think he deserves to be happy," not "some guy who is supposed to accept that his life will be bad."

The whole outlook, from inside me, changed. So far that's a good thing. And, gee what a surprise, the mongering interest shifted along with it.

(And, again, I'll repeat, I don't try to encourage others to do as I'm doing, nor do I judge anyone negatively or positively for his own choice. Plenty of us can monger and do so with little or no negative consequences, or even a preponderance of extremely positive consequences, and they can choose to continue to do so, and I just say "more power to 'em!" I have no aims at changing their behavior, or recommending any new path, for THEM. I'm just saying that my OWN mongering has been something I've wanted to be able to change. And yet, in the past, I've really had very little self-control on that issue, and very little success with alternate programs of action and behavior. I just kept on doing the same old thing, drinking and mongering and spending money I shouldn't have had -- even though if I'd invested it back then I would be poor because of the stocks crash, just like I am now, and so I'm glad I spent it!)

So God bless the lot of you.

I hope you don't mind hearing from a woman on some of these forums; I tend to speak my mind (at least on paper...er, on the keyboard) and have an opinion or two regarding this subject.

First of all, I am definitely a sex addict - always have been. I've chosen my profession as a provider as a natural consequence of my sexual appetites. But even a "busy" day (which I would consider more than four customers) still leaves me twitchy and wanting. That's why I try to give every one of my clients my all...not only because I love to please men, but because I so very much want to reach that feeling of "completion" that so many of you delicious men seem to take for granted.

Don't get my wrong; I orgasm with every customer, usually squirting several times. But I rarely "climax," as in "Ok, I'm done, let me sleep." It usually takes several hours to get me there, and that's not my usual professional experience.

I always laugh when I hear men wishing they had a nymphomaniac as a girlfriend. I've yet to find one that doesn't "tap out" on me after a few weeks or maybe months. Apparently, there are only so many 3-5 hour sessions any man wants in a week. I inevitably end up frustrated and move on to someone new.

Well, I just wanted to give you guys a little insight into the other half of your hobby. Not that I'm necessarily a "typical" provider. But men aren't the only ones addicted to sex. Some women just make a career, rather than a hobby, out of their predilections.

Reads like spam to me. Generally, women affirming themselves to be so goal-directed as the previous post -- counting orgasm; planning on giving "my all" unit by unit -- and generally, women affirming their ability to do such visually pleasing performances as squirting, or expressing the notion of "completeness" in terms of orgasm rather than emotional bond ... are women who think like men. I'm not saying it isn't possible. Just unlikely.

These "assessment items" were no doubt designed by pathetic "12-Steppers" of "Sexaholics Anonymous" who have the same broad standard to include EVERYONE as an addict, as much as AA does with THEIR "assessments"! I truly doubt there is ANY clinical research behind ANY of these items/behavior questions!

[QUOTE=Mirrar]The Sexual Addiction Screening Test (SAST) is designed to assist in the assessment of sexually compulsive behavior which may indicate the presence of sex addiction. Developed in cooperation with hospitals, treatment programs, private therapists, and community groups, the SAST provides a profile of responses which help to discriminate between addictive and non-addictive behavior. Before starting the assessment we need basic information in order to build your profile.

Please indicate gender:

Male__ Female __
Indicate Orientation:
Heterosexual __ Bi-sexual __ Homosexual __

Please check any of the following which apply:
__I have no concerns about my sexual behavior but am curious how I would score.
__I have no concerns about my sexual behavior but others are concerned.
__I am having problems with my sexual behavior but do not consider myself a "sex addict".
__I know I am a sex addict.
__I have sought therapy because of my sexual problems.

To complete the test, answer each question by selecting yes/no.

1. Were you sexually abused as a child or adolescent? Y/N
2. Did your parents have trouble with sexual behavior? Y/N
3. Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts? Y/N
4. Do you feel that your sexual behavior is not normal? Y/N
5. Do you ever feel bad about your sexual behavior? Yes No
6. Has your sexual behavior ever created problems for you/family? Y/N
7. Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior you did not like? Y/N
8. Has anyone been hurt emotionally due to of your sexual behavior? Y/N
9. Are any of your sexual activities against the law? Y/N
10. Have you made efforts to quit a type of sexual activity and failed? Y/N
11. Do you hide some of your sexual behaviors from others? Y/N
12. Have you attempted to stop some parts of your sexual activity? Y/N
13. Have you felt degraded by your sexual behaviors? Y/N
14. When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterwards? Y/N
15. Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire? Y/N
16. Have important parts of your life (e.g. job, family, friends, leisure) been neglected because you were spending too much time on sex? Y/N
17. Do you ever think your sexual desire is stronger than you are? Y/N
18. Is sex almost all you think about? Y/N
19. Has sex (or fantasies) been a way for you to escape your problems? Y/N
20. Has sex become the most important thing in your life? Y/N
21. Are you in crisis over sexual matters? Y/N
22. Has the Internet created sexual problems for you? Y/N
23. Do you spend too much time online for sexual purposes? Y/N
24. Have you purchased services online for erotic purposes (sites for dating, pornography, fantasy and friend finder)? Y/N
25. Have you used the Internet to make romantic or erotic connections with people online? Y/N
26. Have people in your life been upset about your sexual activities online? Y/N
27. Have you attempted to stop your online sexual behaviors? Y/N
28. Have you subscribed to or regularly purchased or rented sexually explicit materials (magazines, videos, books or online pornography)? Y/N
29. Have you been sexual with minors? Y/N
30. Have you spent considerable time and money on strip clubs, adult bookstores and movie houses? Y/N
31. Have you engaged prostitutes and escorts for your sexual needs? Y/N
32. Have you spent considerable time surfing pornography online? Y/N
33. Have you used magazines, videos or online pornography even when there was considerable risk of being caught by family members who would be upset by your behavior? Y/N
34. Have you regularly purchased romantic novels or sexually explicit magazines? Y/N
35. Have stayed in romantic relationships after they became emotionally or physically abusive? Y/N
36. Have you traded sex for money or gifts? Y/N
37. Have you maintained multiple romantic or sexual relationships at the same time? Y/N
38. After sexually acting out, do you sometimes refrain from all sex for a significant period? Y/N
39. Have you regularly engaged in sadomasochistic behavior? Y/N
40. Do you visit sexual bath-houses, sex clubs or adult video/bookstores as part of your regular sexual activity? Y/N
41. Have you engaged in unsafe or "risky" sex even though you knew it could cause you harm? Y/N
42. Have you cruised public restrooms, rest areas or parks looking for sex with strangers? Y/N
43. Do you believe casual or anonymous sex has kept you from having more long-term intimate relationships? Y/N
44. Has your sexual behavior put you at risk for arrest for lewd conduct or public indecency? Y/N
45. Have you been paid for sex? Y/N

If you picked up any new ideas from this test, you just might be addicted!

Be safe[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Book Guy]Reads like spam to me. Generally, women affirming themselves to be so goal-directed as the previous post.- counting orgasm; planning on giving "my all" unit by unit.- and generally, women affirming their ability to do such visually pleasing performances as squirting, or expressing the notion of "completeness" in terms of orgasm rather than emotional bond. Are women who think like men. I'm not saying it isn't possible. Just unlikely. [/QUOTE]I know I've been insulted, but not quite sure as to the nature of the affront. I suppose you're calling me a liar, but I'm not sure upon what what you're basing your opinion.

And I'm really don't know what you mean by "spam. " USG is the only place I posted that response, and I didn't write it for any hope of gain. I merely wanted to share with you gentlemen the fact that sex "addiction" is not located on the Y chromosome.

I don't call myself typical or representative of my gender or profession. What I wrote is what I truly feel. Yes, I know my attitude toward sex is more like of a man, but it's no hype or bullshit. Do you think that all providers are really just angling for someone to cuddle up with?

To stay on-thread, I'll just say one more thing about my addiction: instead of letting my obsession with sex interrupt my "real" life, I incorporated it and now make a living out of your hobby. ("I enjoy being a girl. ")

Oh, and my G-spot doesn't know or care whether or not it's "visually pleasing" to you for me to squirt; it's just what happens when I come.

V

OK OK, I demur. Sorry if I came across as insulting; it was more defensiveness, than aggression, which I intended to convey. I just felt a bit of worry on the basis of your previous post, and I felt it important to share that worry. The worry was, that the post in question sounded to me like typical "starved-for-attention net-trolling male attempting to sound like horny female" posting (or permutation there-of), which is all too common on these sorts of boards. If your statements were genuine, then I'm sorry I called you out for something you didn't do.

Presuming arguendo that your statements were the truth: I do congratulate you on your evident capacity to move on from a self-daignosed condition and incorporate it into your life in a positive way that allows you to make it a benefit rather than a detriment. I'm sure you know that most of us won't be able to do that. Hot female sex addicts can become providers (given a set of other characteristics and willingnesses etc.); horny male sex addicts can seldom do the same for themselves. Most of us on this thread would LOVE to be able to wave a magic wand and change the world such that we were paid-for-play gigolos with nothing but nubile, beautiful, desperately horny women demanding our attention all day every day. Oh wouldn't it be woeful to be a male sex addict then? :) No, of course not. The world would actually FULFILL rather than DENY our needs.

I recall once on TER, a hot female provider -- call her Brandy --posted something along these lines: "I just had the most wonderful experience. I saw the Goddess. I and a woman with whom I have a deal to provide erotic services (they work together) decided to take a weekend off together, and call our favorite friend. Call him Pablo. Pablo and I and Juliette, we lay about the garden, gave each other massages, engaged in long stimulating foreplay, and finally tweaked each other to amazing, slow orgasms under the beautiful midnight moon. I don't understand why other men can't be as accommodating, giving, and sharing as Pablo and Juliette were. If you men would just stop being so selfish, and stop CARING about your own petty peeny little orgasms, and instead just let things come as they may, then you'd find that you were as close to seeing your God as I was to seeing my Goddess last night. I wish I could find men who would share with me like Pablo."

My response to this pablum was, to call her out at once. She was essentially saying, "if you're physically beautiful like Pablo or Juliette, and Brandy happens to give you the dumb-luck once-in-a-lifetime chance of lying around her expensive garden with her, then you'll be free to relax and not care about getting an orgasm with a hot woman because you'll know that the nut is forthcoming by the end of the evening. Now, presuming you ARE physically beautiful and Brandy happens to call you in to this tryst, she wants you to act nicer. And, oh, by the way, for the rest of you losers who aren't as hot as Pablo? Never mind the fact that you aren't Pablo, just go ahead and act like him anyway. Even if no hot woman EVER calls you, and you don't EVER get to cum, you'll still be thankful that you had the chance to be nice. Just sit around and wait for good things to happen. They happened to Pablo, who is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING LIKE YOU, and therefore they should happen to you, maybe. Even if good things don't happen to come about randomly, then her advice is, still, to just sit around waiting and doing the same thing over and over inactively, and maybe they will later. So, you should wait forever. And not be frustrated about lack of orgasm, in the interim."

What she doesn't GET, is not that her message is false. Her message is fairly true. The essential tenets aren't objectionable: you should relax, give to others, stop caring about selfish needs like the immediate-gratification style of typical male orgasm, and you'll probably have a better experience in life. Yeah, true dat.

What she doesn't GET, is that her message isn't APPLICABLE. Most men on that bulletin board ARE NOT PABLO or JULIETTE. We're here BECAUSE we're desperate. We can't CHOOSE to do without orgasm. Biologically, FACTUALLY, we NEED IT IMMEDIATELY. It'd be nice to learn to be more relaxed about it. But tell a man dying of thirst, "We have better water coming tomorrow. Why don't you wait a bit. Here's a nice chair. Go dilly-dally in the garden."

We here can't just say, "Hey, I'm going to act like Pablo because I know Brandy and Juliette are going to give me a call." They aren't. Pablo, furthermore, probably got laid with Betty the night before Brandy called, or at least, no more than a week previously, I'll bet. Therefore, when Brandy called, he was already well-screwed-out. He'd gotten a nut or two. He wasn't frustrated and angry at women. His balls sagged a bit. He thought of Brandy and Juliette as added spice to an already good life. I think of a chance with Brandy as the only small bit of nourishment I ever experience, the few drops of life-sustenance I can barely scrape up, once every six months or so. I'm the man dying of thirst. Don't deny me whatever water is immediately available, I might not make it.

We aren't so lucky as Pablo. Our looks, or wealth, or height, or "style," is the sort that makes us wait and wait and ... if we're really nice to hot chicks ... wait some more. And never get called. We have to BE PROACTIVE. We can't rely on dumb-butt Brandy to "happen" to decide to make our lives better for free.

It never ceases to amaze me, that women misunderstand this about most men. Even about men who are so bad at getting laid, that we ask one another's advice ON A SEX-ADDICT bulletin board, at a web site devoted to GETTING MONGERING OPPORTUNITIES. We are the blind leading the blind, yet still someone arrives to tell us to just take off the sunglasses and the moonlight will be so pretty. Blind. Moonlight. Duh.

Somehow, the advice given, seems to always be, "Just act like John F. Kennedy, Jr., and everything will be fine if you're John F. Kennedy, Jr." There's no dispensation for the 99.9999999% of us who aren't John F. Kennedy, Jr.

In like manner, your recent post says, "Just realize that women can be sex addicts too, and if you realize that, then all the females who are sex addicts will be free to act the way female sex addicts might choose to act." Jeepers. That applies to us ... HOW?

[QUOTE=Book Guy]In like manner, your recent post says, "Just realize that women can be sex addicts too, and if you realize that, then all the females who are sex addicts will be free to act the way female sex addicts might choose to act." Jeepers. That applies to us ... HOW?[/QUOTE]First of all, your logic as it applies to my remarks is captious. Yes, I wanted you all to know that there are women sex addicts. But your (men's) acceptance or rejection of that fact has nothing to to do with how I act, or how any woman acts. I don't need your permission, or even understanding, to conduct my life as I choose.

Secondly, you seem to be under the impression that, since I service men all day in my profession, my only function on this site is to somehow be of service to the men. Your implication that my post doesn't necessarily apply to all of the men on this site is correct; however, it does apply to sex addiction, which is what this thread is about, and I know that some men share my frustration at needing several hours of solid sex to to feel "done."

Much like Teabag X posted in an earlier response, I'm merely affirming that "I am a sex addict and that's OK" (from Teabags X's post).

Yikes, didn't mean to cause an argument, Verotica. I thought I'd apologized, but evidently I did a bad job of it. So, umm, again, sorry. :(

Anyway, yeah, you have a right to say, "I'm a sex addict too." I didn't mean to disparage that.

I think you can probably see, however, despite the above, where I'm coming from. My (admittedly rather long-winded) anecdote about Pablo et al. goes more to my point, than any accidentally negative comment I made toward you, Verotica. Maybe I was too long-winded. I'll try to put it tersely. What I'm getting at is, simply, the following notion:

Most male sexual addiction, and male lack of adequate access to sexuality, are essentially the same.

(Sure, there are some men who, even if they had enough sex enough of the time with hot-enough partners for free, would still be controlled by their addiction to the point of dysfunction. Yup, they're a different kettle of fish. And sure, the question of female sexual addiction isn't discussed in that sentence of mine. Yup, you're a different kettle of fish, too.)

And I think that this straightforward formulation is the heart of the matter. If most men GOT ENOUGH AT ALL then most men wouldn't be UNHAPPY ABOUT HOW THE DRIVE FOR SEX CONTROLS US.

Frankly, the only thing I need, to "fix" my need for sexuality, is more sex. It's not like I'm obsessive, or desperate, or somehow living a bad or imbalanced life. It's just a straightforward formula. Level of desire? 99 out of 100. Level of access? 1 out of 100. Discrepancy? 98. A 98% discrepancy between what I want, and getting what I want, is by definition an unhappy life. There ya go, that's my "sexual addiction" in a nutshell.

I'm sure there are other intelligent tangents to take that subject. I was responding to your initial post, Verotica, from the point of view of wishing to convey that simple nutshell, nothing more. You can see now how you're really almost contradicting my intent? I know you didn't mean to, but it ends up being that way anyway.

Presuming, of course, you're for real at all. :)

One thing for sure that makes men's addiction different than women is accessibility. If men had access to sex they won't feel they are addicted. Women definitely have more access that's why the market of supply and demand gave them the chance to charge for it. There is no free sex. Even the one that might seem free it ends up to be the most expensive one. So what's addiction?

The term "addiction" is used in many contexts to describe an obsession, compulsion, or excessive physical dependence or psychological dependence, such as: drug addiction, alcoholism, compulsive overeating, problem gambling, computer addiction, etc.

In medical terminology, addiction is a state in which the body relies on a substance for normal functioning and develops physical dependence, as in drug addiction. When a state of Chemistry on which someone is dependent is suddenly removed, it will cause withdrawal, a characteristic set of signs and symptoms. In physiological terms, addiction is not necessarily associated with substance abuse since this form of addiction can result from using medication as prescribed by a doctor.

The term addiction is also sometimes applied to compulsions that are not substance-related, such as sex and computer addiction. In these kinds of common usages, the term addiction is used to describe a recurring compulsion by an individual to engage in some specific activity, despite harmful consequences to the individual's health, mental state or social life.

However, common usage of the term addiction has spread to include psychological dependence. In this context, the term is used in drug addiction and substance abuse problems, but also refers to behaviours that are not generally recognised by the medical community as problems of addiction, such as compulsive sex.

[i]Such as Verotica though she has solutions for the problem one of them is do not charge for the hour. Let your customer know he can spend as much time I am sure you will find men like myself.[/i]



[QUOTE=Verotica]First of all, your logic as it applies to my remarks is captious. Yes, I wanted you all to know that there are women sex addicts. But your (men's) acceptance or rejection of that fact has nothing to to do with how I act, or how any woman acts. I don't need your permission, or even understanding, to conduct my life as I choose.

Secondly, you seem to be under the impression that, since I service men all day in my profession, my only function on this site is to somehow be of service to the men. Your implication that my post doesn't necessarily apply to all of the men on this site is correct; however, it does apply to sex addiction, which is what this thread is about, and I know that some men share my frustration at needing several hours of solid sex to to feel "done."

Much like Teabag X posted in an earlier response, I'm merely affirming that "I am a sex addict and that's OK" (from Teabags X's post).[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Verotica]First of all, your logic as it applies to my remarks is captious. Yes, I wanted you all to know that there are women sex addicts. But your (men's) acceptance or rejection of that fact has nothing to to do with how I act, or how any woman acts. I don't need your permission, or even understanding, to conduct my life as I choose.

Secondly, you seem to be under the impression that, since I service men all day in my profession, my only function on this site is to somehow be of service to the men. Your implication that my post doesn't necessarily apply to all of the men on this site is correct; however, it does apply to sex addiction, which is what this thread is about, and I know that some men share my frustration at needing several hours of solid sex to to feel "done."

Much like Teabag X posted in an earlier response, I'm merely affirming that "I am a sex addict and that's OK" (from Teabags X's post).[/QUOTE]

Verotica, there may be some women sex addicts or nymphos in this world. But the bottom line is that over 90% of the time men are paying women for the sexual relations they have together. Also it is not my intention to insult you but a friend of mine made the accurate observation that women control 70% of the money and own 100% of the p*ssy.

[QUOTE=Book Guy]Hot female sex addicts can become providers (given a set of other characteristics and willingnesses etc.); horny male sex addicts can seldom do the same for themselves. Most of us on this thread would LOVE to be able to wave a magic wand and change the world such that we were paid-for-play gigolos with nothing but nubile, beautiful, desperately horny women demanding our attention all day every day. Oh wouldn't it be woeful to be a male sex addict then? :) No, of course not. The world would actually FULFILL rather than DENY our needs..[/QUOTE]
Hey, I'd settle for "nothing but average-looking, 45-year old, desperately horny women demanding my attention"! I am not greedy :)

[QUOTE=Book Guy]Yikes, didn't mean to cause an argument, Verotica. I thought I'd apologized, but evidently I did a bad job of it. So, umm, again, sorry.[/QUOTE]I appreciate the sincerity of your apology and retract the tone, if not the message, of my previous post, Book Guy.

[QUOTE=Book Guy]Frankly, the only thing I need, to "fix" my need for sexuality, is more sex.... It's just a straightforward formula. Level of desire? 99 out of 100. Level of access? 1 out of 100. Discrepancy? 98. A 98% discrepancy between what I want, and getting what I want, is by definition an unhappy life. There ya go, that's my "sexual addiction" in a nutshell.
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You can see now how you're really almost contradicting my intent? I know you didn't mean to, but it ends up being that way anyway. [/QUOTE]I understand the discrepancy; indeed, I pay my rent off of the discrepancy. Fair? No. But a fact of life in today's America.

And I can now see how my...well my [i]existence[/i] increases your frustration, since we are alike in certain areas of constitution, but live very different lives as a result of societies hang-ups and mores. You'll forgive me for not apologizing for being on the positive side of fortune in this one area of my life.

[QUOTE=Book Guy]Presuming, of course, you're for real at all. [/QUOTE]If you'd like proof that I'm genuine, both in flesh and attitude, PM for pics and more details.

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