Always, total respect for the providers!
[QUOTE=Procrast333;6631996]Yeah you are right, it was uncool. I wasn't sure it was legit when I went in. Ads on Backpage, etc. Led me to suspect. Skimpy clothes, "special oil" etc, it all felt like there was something to be had. For give me please brethren, sliding a hand across my sack and a brush a few time over Junior and I take notice.[/QUOTE]I just want to say that I am sadden by all this nonsense and disrespectful conduct. Sorry but I don't see how treating these woman in such a manner furthers our hobby.
We may be mongers but that doesn't mean we have to be monsters
In light of the ummm how do I put this recent activity" on the boards I thought I would talk about one of my recent sessions w / Anahi.
Advertises on CL and is part of the ever rotating Latinas at Fairfax which to put it bluntly has pretty much spiraled downhill after the departure of Valeria and Vanessa and their elk. But, figured I'd give it another go and got Anahi.
Honestly a pretty pleasant gal from Bolivia. Maybe one of the youngest providers I've seen, at 22 years old. (and frankly in my opinion, too young for this hobby. At the very least my liking).
Not only are the older girls usually open to doing more, they are more into it and less timid. Her English was ok we had some good conversation and after talking with her she told me she doesn't like the massage very much. She's a little on the chubby side she's not ugly but definitely not as attractive as someone like Vanessa. I'd give her a solid 6/10. But for me looks alone aren't enough to get me erect. There has to be some sort of vibe or chemistry where we can click even if it's entirely fabricated on the end of the provider. But she wasn't into it and said as much. The happy ending is less that and more of a reluctant and quite frankly robotic finish. She didn't go anywhere near my junk but fellas I've been in this hobby long enough and know how this story ends. I asked her if she'd be willing to let me touch her, because first and foremost I don't want to force myself onto a lady whose already made it clear in convo that she's not all that comfortable, and I figure if she was truly into making the ending happy that she's at least got to give me some consent in order to escalate this further.
It feels less rapey that way and giving her that autonomy will put my mind at ease and more importantly, hers as well.
However upon me asking if it was ok to touch her she said no and that she did not wish to undress and only wanted to do the mechanical finish.
She said happy ending is 100 extra and was trying to soft touch to arouse junior but I wasn't having any of that. I won't lie. It was a total bummer and a complete mood killer, but I respect it. You have to be able to respect the boundaries in this hobby and every girl plays on a different court. I told her the truth that for me there's got to be mutual play at some level or I can't get into it. If this isn't fun for you it's not fun for me and frankly we're both in the wrong place if that's how we feel about the finish. So I thanked her for her time. I paid her the 120 house fee and nothing more and said it was a pleasure meeting her. Sorry things didn't work out, but that's ok.
Yeah it sucks and feels like a waste but this hobby is like gambling. Sometimes we strike and win big and sometimes we fail and walk home with nothing. Oh well. I'm not going to go around breaking slot machines and demand my money back and I'm definitely not going to find the oil dispenser and ruin the fun for all the other mongers that follow in my wake by adding my own sticky recipe. Respect the ladies brothers. That's why this board exists man. You tell the stories of the wins to share the spoils of war and you tell the cautionary tales of the losses so you can spare the coin of another monger in hopes he will do the same for me on the next go.
That's all there is to it.
Learn or drown.
Massage review (which is why this site exists) // and, Respectfully, I disagree
[QUOTE=PapiKulo;6632816]Honestly the ladies don't care about mongers and how nice they are. Let's all be honest. They just want your money. So stop saying "they are humans too" mongers are humans too! LOL.
Ingenious and hilarious to make the oil "special" BUT now everyone here going to be wondering what spa you went to so do the courtesy and tell us so we can avoid. Also settle in the beginning if you're getting FS or not and if not, walk your crybaby ass out and go to another spa.
Anyways looks like I'll be bringing my own oil to the spas now lmao.[/QUOTE]There are many ladies that DO CARE. They care to be treated with respect and at the minimum social kindness. Some even care about the human who is the monger.
Yes. They all care about the money too -- but so does every other "small business" man or woman.
So, respectfully, I disagree with your "honest statement. ".
== REVIEW ==.
I had an appointment last week with Tara. Tara is a beautiful, Thai lady, and she is a small BBW (but she has lost, and continues to drop weight). She cares to be treated politely.
She has returned from her vacation travels (next trip not scheduled until deep-mid-winter).
Her customer care and skill is why I've been a client for several years.
Tara cares about me as a client, and as person. Although my visits might be months apart, she remembers my preferences with regards to haircut and personal grooming (good business woman).
She also remembers "general friend details" and, similar to other health-field professionals, she has a great "bedside manner" (which is an expression for a caring person, and has nothing to do with massage or other activities, and no, we never get near a bed. However, I can confirm the massage table is always covered in clean linen and is comfortable).
She provides a superb, deep-tissue massage and never rushes the scheduled time (last appointment was for 90-minutes).
I always leave relaxed and happy (sometimes happy twice).
Always be nice to the ladies.
PA.