Pretending to be sugar babies.
Be warned for anyone that thinks any of these girls will honor a sugar baby type situation they won't. The girl that took me for 10 k has found another dude to pull the same scams on and I met a regular that explained what was going. She told me she had a dude that spent 15 k on her so she wouldn't do dates.
The scams I personally fell for was phone breaking, overdue fines, kidnapped and owes someone money, things breaking or getting stolen in their house, going to rehab, getting away from drugs and needing a new place to live, etc. They key give away is that they will always ask for 200 within 2 days because the cost of their habit is that much. It was too late for me but as someone else said.
At their worst, these girls lied, cheated and stole from their own family and during their best, they could not care about me or you.
I am blessed to have an opportunity for a promotion and to recover the money I lost but my trust in all girls is fully gone. I didn't know people would inflict so much pain on others for money.
And it makes me so frustrated
To see other dudes type that they aren't hot or successful and still get girls.
All I wanted in life was a cute girl that loves to work out and play video games. Yet another year will go by with only rejections and it just makes me want to avoid everyone and sit in my apartment day after day knowing I tried my best and even invested financially into therapy, dating coaching, even sugar baby.
Don’t confuse dating and mongering.
[QUOTE=FairFight;4939298]To see other dudes type that they aren't hot or successful and still get girls.
All I wanted in life was a cute girl that loves to work out and play video games. Yet another year will go by with only rejections and it just makes me want to avoid everyone and sit in my apartment day after day knowing I tried my best and even invested financially into therapy, dating coaching, even sugar baby.[/QUOTE]Rule #1 - Keep your paid sex life 100% separate from your search for a girlfriend. If a"girlfriend" asks you to pay for anything other than your dates, it is a paid relationship.
Rule #2 - There aren't enough cute girls who work out and play video games for every man who wants one.
Rule #3 - Sitting in your apartment solves none of this. Though it might be the best thing to do until COVID is resolved.
My attraction for older girls isn't there.
[QUOTE=MoonBat11;4939831]I understand your frustration and I understand that things were a lot different for older guys than they are for younger guys with online hookup apps and other broader social changes. The good thing is that you're still pretty young at 28 years old, and things will almost certainly change as you get older and as women age (the amount of attention that they get from men generally goes down with the passing years, which tends to have an impact on their perspective). I would say that the most important thing right now is to set boundaries. Don't give more than you get and never give people things to get them to like you. They'll like the stuff but they won't like you, and they'll have no respect for you, and then they'll pass that word around. Again, don't be afraid to set boundaries and enforce them. If someone sees that you're giving in terms of a genuine overture for example, such as an invitation to spend time with them or inviting them to a social event, if they're a decent person that'll be received in an entirely different way. If they're not, you don't need them in your life anyway.[/QUOTE]Seriously I don't want the "adult" version of romance. I wanted the high school or college romance. I just don't find older women attractive, our interest vary greatly, fashion style isn't my type, a lot of them don't work out or have kids or divorced.
How will it work out for me? When I'm still wanting a girl that's just as inexperienced as me but there none left. That's why it's such a burden and something I'm chasing now before I'll never find a girl in her early 20's that's also new to dating and willing to give her 100%.
An old joke that may be a propos
There is an old joke about the man who asks a girl if she will sleep with him for a million dollars. Of course, she says yes. He then offers her two dollars and she slaps his face, saying, 'What do you think I am?' He answers, 'I know what you are. We are just haggling over the price.
The FUQ is going on here?
I feel like I'm watching some bad episode of a Dr. Phil session!
It's only a big deal because of envy.
People don't dwell too long on their problems and usually fix them in a matter of months or a year. Since it's a personal issue it's a figure it out on your own type of situation but I can't imagine how anyone could be more of a loser than someone that has their first relationship in their 30's or even 40's.
I spend most of that energy lifting weights. I'm 5'7 155 lbs and I bench 200. I will be 180 lbs benching 300 in 1. 5- 2 years.
Wasn't really thinking of your situation specifically
[QUOTE=AssmanToYou;5040892]Except I did post a bunch of pics of girls recently. He's the one to pop off without "putting in the work" and looking at what I did post. I have put in many tanks of gas at WW loop and not seen these unicorns being discussed so yeah if anyone has pics I'm asking.[/QUOTE]It may have seemed like it, but I honestly didn't give a lot of thought to the specifics of your particular situation, Assman. I was speaking in general about general trends I see. So if the initial response to you that I was responding to didn't exactly apply to you, I wasn't trying to reinforce and say that it did. I just notice all of the posts consisting of the questions: "Digits? "Where can I find her? "What time of day did you see her?" . And while I'm sure many are applying effort and asking questions, it seems like a ton don't put any effort, just ask a bunch of damn questions. Unless a SW has a schedule and stands in a certain spot at a certain time every day, inquiring about when and where to find them is mainly useless. You just have to keep trying until you catch them.