Sexual Addiction Reports

[QUOTE=Xelajo;3576150]Wow. Wow! Really its a great piece of advice. True from every word of it.

Also another approach you could take is to stop abruptly. I mean a complete stop. I did that successfully with my cigarette smoking addiction and my monger addiction. Just stop it. Don't do it and mentally tell yourself, you are never going to do it again. It might help. It's easier said than done, but worth trying.[/QUOTE]I don't think that I could stop anything by going cold turkey. I just don't think it's in me. It's sad but probably true. Good thing I never started smoking cigarettes. I have enough trouble trying to limit my alcohol consumption. Maybe it would be different with clubbing. As HeadFirst said, it would be wise to find a different form of excitement / reward that appeals to me.

At what point does this habit become an addiction? I am relatively new to mongering (in 1 yr seen about 20 girls), I only do it a couple times a year at best but I when I do, I binge for a week or two then stop.

Sometimes when I go a while without doing it, I feel that RUSH where I NEED it now and can't think of anything else. Can't focus. The hunt. The feelings. The rush. It's like a fix I need no matter if I have no savings or seeing someone.

Is that an early warning sign that I should taper off or stop? I don't want this habit to go into sex addiction territory. I had a scare last week where I had no money but still went mongering in a dangerous area of town at a late hour against all common sense.

[QUOTE=GioDuck55;3624463]At what point does this habit become an addiction? I am relatively new to mongering (in 1 yr seen about 20 girls), I only do it a couple times a year at best but I when I do, I binge for a week or two then stop.

Sometimes when I go a while without doing it, I feel that RUSH where I NEED it now and can't think of anything else. Can't focus. The hunt. The feelings. The rush. It's like a fix I need no matter if I have no savings or seeing someone.

Is that an early warning sign that I should taper off or stop? I don't want this habit to go into sex addiction territory. I had a scare last week where I had no money but still went mongering in a dangerous area of town at a late hour against all common sense.[/QUOTE]9 years ago I saw my first girl on a Friday. And said no more. The next week a saw a different one every day! After 8 mo. I was at 120 different ones. Some more then once.

Ultimately, you have to be the final judge as to whether it's an addiction or not. It's not a matter of when, if or how much. It's a matter of whether you repeatedly do things you later regret, can't stop when you want to, and there's negative, unwanted effects on other areas of your life. When you say "need it now and can't focus" and "had no money but still went mongering in a dangerous area of town at a late hour against all common sense," those sound like behaviors of an addict. Certainly sound like things I've thought and done and led to things I regretted later.

[QUOTE=GioDuck55;3624463]At what point does this habit become an addiction? I am relatively new to mongering (in 1 yr seen about 20 girls), I only do it a couple times a year at best but I when I do, I binge for a week or two then stop.

Sometimes when I go a while without doing it, I feel that RUSH where I NEED it now and can't think of anything else. Can't focus. The hunt. The feelings. The rush. It's like a fix I need no matter if I have no savings or seeing someone.

Is that an early warning sign that I should taper off or stop? I don't want this habit to go into sex addiction territory. I had a scare last week where I had no money but still went mongering in a dangerous area of town at a late hour against all common sense.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=GioDuck55;3624463]At what point does this habit become an addiction? I am relatively new to mongering (in 1 yr seen about 20 girls), I only do it a couple times a year at best but I when I do, I binge for a week or two then stop.

Sometimes when I go a while without doing it, I feel that RUSH where I NEED it now and can't think of anything else. Can't focus. The hunt. The feelings. The rush. It's like a fix I need no matter if I have no savings or seeing someone.

Is that an early warning sign that I should taper off or stop? I don't want this habit to go into sex addiction territory. I had a scare last week where I had no money but still went mongering in a dangerous area of town at a late hour against all common sense.[/QUOTE]Yes. It's a warning sign of danger in your future. Here's a couple of reasons why I say that:

1.) You binge. Right now you may not be doing it on a daily or weekly basis because when you do it you do enough of it to last for a while. Then you come back. If you continue, the time in between will become shorter and shorter and one day you'll find yourself doing it 3-7 X a week.

2.) You do it even when you can't afford it. Huge sign that's it's become more than entertainment. If we get to this point we've crossed the proverbial 'line in the sand.'

3.) You do it also when you're seeing someone. No need for any splaining here. But a word of advice. Don't think you're fooling her. Females are experts on picking up on the many clues that we leave behind when we're cheating and eventually they figure it out. If you're married be warned she's going to get 60% of everything. Is it worth it?

4.) You're here asking the questions. To use a play off your own mongering name, GloDuck55, and I don't mean any disrespect here. But if it looks like a duck, and walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck. It's probably a duck.

Do you have a problem? Come to your own conclusion but the first step in any successful recovery is admitting you have a problem.

We've all been / are still there. Don't expect any cures here. But we can offer support and free advice.

Guys I need some help here. I've met an amazing beautiful sexy lady and she satisfies my every wish problem is I still want to get a BJ when I see a new girl walking. I've had restraint for about a year so far but the desire is sometimes overwhelming. Has anyone been able to beat the addiction? I've been doing this for 30 years now. How do I stop.

There isn't an easy cure. The rush from trying someone new and different and forbidding is intoxicating and overwhelming. Not surprisingly, what works the best for the most people is a 12-step program. I had some success with it when I was interested and willing to work it, and I've seen others have life-changing success.

For better or worse, there isn't one universal program like Alcoholics Anonymous. Multiple folks started 12-step programs over the years with somewhat different (but similar) definitions of "sobriety. " They include Sexaholics Anonymous (SA), Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) and a few others. Some are available in some cities and some aren't, but chances you can get help of some kind nearby.

This is one source of comparison and information. http://www.billherring.com/comparing-different-12-step-meetings-for-sex-addiction

You can Google much more.

[QUOTE=MeMonger;3643269]Guys I need some help here. I've met an amazing beautiful sexy lady and she satisfies my every wish problem is I still want to get a BJ when I see a new girl walking. I've had restraint for about a year so far but the desire is sometimes overwhelming. Has anyone been able to beat the addiction? I've been doing this for 30 years now. How do I stop.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=TwistedBrother;3643663]
This is one source of comparison and information. http://www.billherring.com/comparing-different-12-step-meetings-for-sex-addiction

You can Google much more.[/QUOTE]Good info. Good place to start. Good post.

Fellas,

I have problem. I think I'm hook on this hobby. I know it not the safest hobby. But I find myself trying to go see my local MT, even I now I don't have the money. I use my CC and almost maxed it out. If I don't go for 2-3 days, I get these urges, like I'm going thru withdrawals. I want to control it, but sometimes I can't. The days I don't see my MT, I masturbate 2-3 x a day. I'm looking for any advice to slow myself down, so I want get to far into debt. It all started when my wife left me.

[QUOTE=TwistedBrother;3702483]It may not work for you, or may not have for some folks you know, but I've seen it work for many individuals in multiple cities over the past 25 years. I know folks whose lives were falling apart, whether it's sex, drugs or alcohol, and this is what did it for them (some "sober" for 20 years or more, including two family members for me).

Obviously different things work for different people and you have to find what works for you.[/QUOTE]Addiction (including sex addiction) involves structural changes in the "reward system" of the brain which are irreversible. Therefore, addiction is an incurable disease in a sense that your brain will never be the same as it used to be before you became addicted. Don't kid yourself into believing that seeing a psychiatrist will solve your addiction problems — presently, there is no any reliable way to treat addiction, pharmacologically or psychotherapeutically. Of course, there are some people with extraordinary willpower capable of sobering up and staying sober for years. But they still have a desease, it didn't go away. They just suppress urges through extreme self-control.

[BLUE]I got rid of his posts because he's wrong. It's not a matter of opinion, the science is in addiction is a disease. His issue is he's an atheist and hates the idea that some people are finding a spiritual solution to their disease and since he couldn't rationally attack their success he tried to invalidate the idea that addiction is a disease.

I'm not advocating for 12 step programs, I have my story and no shame about it but they aren't for everybody. I also have no issue with atheists, some of the people I know who are 12 step inclined are atheists, doesn't seem to hurt them any. he wasn't any of those, he was just a misinformed blowhard who thought his opinion carried the same weight as scientific fact. There seems to be more and more of those these days.

In any event, best of luck to the OP and I appreciate the compassion that you guys show them and even this misinformed blowhard.

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[QUOTE=CheezeFist;3702681]Of course, there are some people with extraordinary willpower capable of sobering up and staying sober for years. But they still have a desease, it didn't go away. They just suppress urges through extreme self-control.[/QUOTE]I've been doing it more than three decades and that's not how it works for me hoss. Not busting your chops, your post wasn't douchey so I didn't have anything to say about the rest. Just saying that me willpower, and self-control have never been well acquainted is all.

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[QUOTE=Admin2;3703737]I've been doing it more than three decades and that's not how it works for me hoss. Not busting your chops, your post wasn't douchey so I didn't have anything to say about the rest. Just saying that me willpower, and self-control have never been well acquainted is all.

A2.[/QUOTE]Well, it could be 12 steps or 144 steps — nothing will work until the person takes back control of his / her life. If you were able to do it for so long, you ARE capable of extreme self-control.

[QUOTE=CheezeFist;3703806]Well, it could be 12 steps or 144 steps nothing will work until the person takes back control of his / her life. If you were able to do it for so long, you ARE capable of extreme self-control.[/QUOTE]Did you miss the part where I specifically told you that it isn't about that for me? Just curious, who do you think knows more about my life? You? Or me?

In my case it has nothing to do with will nor self control. I'm not guessing at that, this is not something I think, it's something I know. I'm [B]informing[/B] you about that. It's not a discussion, it's not open to your interpretation, it's information I'm giving you. It's like if you told me your name. If you told me your name was Joe and I said "no it's Steve" I would look kind of stupid no? So if I tell you that in my case, in my experience, it's not about self will nor self control and that in fact I am totally lacking those characteristics and you tell me that I am incorrect and that having never met me you know more about me than I do, how do you think that makes you look?

Yeah, just that stupid. Please don't argue with me about this. As with the other guy your opinion doesn't hold the weight of fact. Especially when you are putting your opinion against my experience of my very own life.

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[QUOTE=Admin2;3703826]Did you miss the part where I specifically told you that it isn't about that for me? Just curious, who do you think knows more about my life? You? Or me?

In my case it has nothing to do with will nor self control. I'm not guessing at that, this is not something I think, it's something I know. I'm [B]informing[/B] you about that. It's not a discussion, it's not open to your interpretation, it's information I'm giving you. It's like if you told me your name. If you told me your name was Joe and I said "no it's Steve" I would look kind of stupid no? So if I tell you that in my case, in my experience, it's not about self will nor self control and that in fact I am totally lacking those characteristics and you tell me that I am incorrect and that having never met me you know more about me than I do, how do you think that makes you look?

Yeah, just that stupid. Please don't argue with me about this. As with the other guy your opinion doesn't hold the weight of fact. Especially when you are putting your opinion against my experience of my very own life.

A2.[/QUOTE]Sorry man, I apologize for that.

[blue]Cool, this is you being the exact opposite of dumb. Thanks, I appreciate it.

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Look man, I'm sorry your mommy or daddy let you down so badly and it turned you into a rage o holic but I'm not going to let you abuse people here.

Maybe you can help me with something though. Why is it you guys who insist on calling people snowflakes are the ones that do the most crying? It's the case every time.

Sorry man, you can't do this anymore. I know you think you have an ownership stake on this forum but you don't and you have been abusing people for years and you're going to have to adjust that it's over.

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[QUOTE=Admin2;3703737]I've been doing it more than three decades

A2.[/QUOTE]High 5 to you. It's rare to hear of someone with so many years. The world is a better place because of this decision you made years ago.

Me too. It hasn't always been easy but it has been worthwhile.

My goal / legacy is to get to 50 years (2031). At that point I feel this one achievement will trump any failure (s) I had in life.

One morning 13 mos ago my younger brother didn't wake up. He died with a bottle in his hand.

Some people get it. Some don't. But For The Grace Of God ... There I Walk.

My name is Doug, and I am a sex addict.

For several years, I regularly contributed to this forum. That was over 10 years ago. I had well over 100 posts. The majority of them, unlike this one, contained real information intended help others. Then came a day when my membership here caused me tremendous grief in my personal life. I retreated from this site and the hobby for a long time. I thought I could change who I was and what I had been doing. I found new ways to occupy my time, new things to think about. I tried to keep the my secret inner beast at bay. I was successful for awhile. Just when I thought I was out, this thing pulled me back in. Slowly at first, then more and more often I looked here for information which I put to "good" use in my quests. I really should have rejoined the ranks of the posters some time ago. But I felt like doing so would be an acknowledgement that I had completely relapsed. Well, turns out the only person I was fooling was myself. So here I am again.

[QUOTE=DougStamper;3788531]My name is Doug, and I am a sex addict.

For several years, I regularly contributed to this forum. That was over 10 years ago. I had well over 100 posts. The majority of them, unlike this one, contained real information intended help others. Then came a day when my membership here caused me tremendous grief in my personal life. I retreated from this site and the hobby for a long time. I thought I could change who I was and what I had been doing. I found new ways to occupy my time, new things to think about. I tried to keep the my secret inner beast at bay. I was successful for awhile. Just when I thought I was out, this thing pulled me back in. Slowly at first, then more and more often I looked here for information which I put to "good" use in my quests. I really should have rejoined the ranks of the posters some time ago. But I felt like doing so would be an acknowledgement that I had completely relapsed. Well, turns out the only person I was fooling was myself. So here I am again.[/QUOTE]Hope you don't cause tremendous grief in your personal life this time.

[QUOTE=MeyghaMann;3794286]Hope you don't cause tremendous grief in your personal life this time.[/QUOTE]I hope so too. Trying to limit risk, but what can I do?

I'm an addict.

ADDICT = (Noun.) The state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma.

[QUOTE=DougStamper;3788531]My name is Doug, and I am a sex addict.

For several years, I regularly contributed to this forum. That was over 10 years ago. I had well over 100 posts. The majority of them, unlike this one, contained real information intended help others. Then came a day when my membership here caused me tremendous grief in my personal life. I retreated from this site and the hobby for a long time. I thought I could change who I was and what I had been doing. I found new ways to occupy my time, new things to think about. I tried to keep the my secret inner beast at bay. I was successful for awhile. Just when I thought I was out, this thing pulled me back in. Slowly at first, then more and more often I looked here for information which I put to "good" use in my quests. I really should have rejoined the ranks of the posters some time ago. But I felt like doing so would be an acknowledgement that I had completely relapsed. Well, turns out the only person I was fooling was myself. So here I am again.[/QUOTE]

I was really trying to cut back (hopefully stop completely) and stay truer to my marriage. At least I wanted to refrain from mongering except while traveling. For a while I was doing better, but I've relapsed considerably in the past 3-4 months, to the point where I've BBFS at a local AMP twice in the past month. And that's just part of it, taking all sorts of my time, money and more. So conflicted as part of me is excited about these new adventures, and part of me dreads losing the quality of my marriage as well as much more.

I want to stop now, but already have plans for tomorrow, then want to stop after that. Crazy, no doubt.

What do you mean by trauma?

Cessation doesn't cause me severe trauma. I often have to pause the hobby due to family events / trips or work related priorities or because of review sites being down (as they have been recently). But I don't suffer anything that can be described as trauma. I could easily see myself segueing into another hobby. But I continue because I like it. And we only live once.

[QUOTE=DougStamper;3796840]I hope so too. Trying to limit risk, but what can I do?

I'm an addict.

ADDICT = (Noun.) The state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma.[/QUOTE]

I find myself maybe being to much into this time to time where I just have to resist. Since I am in CO, weed seems to help a ton for me LOL if the urge get's to crazy.

One night drank a lot, smoked a lot. I don't think I could even get a stiffy for a few days, was starting to get worried LOL. Once cleared my system fully though, came back all good.

I do think of myself at times, to be 'border line', was bad for a while but I've improved.

Just use to take off randomly in middle of night and try to find a pickup, where I could be looping for hours to find something good.

Couple experiences though, changed that mind set quite fast. Doing it so freely at least.

[QUOTE=Glennie;3798011]What do you mean by trauma?
Cessation doesn't cause me severe trauma. I often have to pause the hobby due to family events / trips or work related priorities or because of review sites being down (as they have been recently). But I don't suffer anything that can be described as trauma. I could easily see myself segueing into another hobby. But I continue because I like it. And we only live once.[/QUOTE]I quickly pulled that definition off the web. Perhaps trauma is a bit of a stretch. But not much. Ever see an addict that needs a fix? Here are the behavioral characteristics of a drug addict. When you read them, mentally change every mention of the word drugs with SEX. That is how it is with me. You said you could move to another hobby. That is fantastic news for you. I have tried; more times than I can count. I am unable to quit.

Obsessive thoughts and actions:

Acquiring and using the drug become the main priorities of life while all or most other obligations including work, family, or school are sidelined.

Disregard of harm caused:

Although the drug abuse is causing physical and mental distress to the individual and their loved ones, the person struggling with addiction continues using drugs or alcohol.

Loss of control:

Even in the face of wanting to stop or reduce their drug use, the person cannot do so.

Denial of addiction or hiding drug use:

When confronted, the person battling addiction will deny or downplay their drug use. To avoid having to explain themselves to others, the person may do drugs in secret.

I think we have to be careful to equate sex addiction with drug addiction. Health professionals are reluctant to even acknowledge that the former exists as a separate disorder. It may be wrapped up in other known disorders. These disorders are products of the mind, unlike a physical addiction to a substance like heroin. It seems to me that if it's a product of the mind then there is some hope to control it, the same way you control any behavior. I've read a bit about the mind. It's interesting that there are two halves, which have a fair amount of redundancy. For example, when a part on the left is damaged, it may be rewired through therapy to operate on the right. There are, in effect, two people in your brain and they even have different personalities. One half can talk the other out of doing certain things. I know it works with me, as I have arguments with myself often about what's best to do. There's also an emotional processing center whose job it is to render decisions about complex problems with imperfect or incomplete information input. I'll admit I'm not an expert on any of this stuff, but it's what I've read and good enough for this forum, LOL.

In the last few years I've been immune from all forms of sex addiction except for sugar babies. I certainly don't judge anyone for liking street prostitution or other stuff because I've been there done that. It's just that I've gotten older, the fires are cooler, and I find what's available unappealing. But now a sugar baby, OMG! A pretty young woman who kisses you and admires you and is nice to you -- that is addictive! But expensive. And my main tool to control this addiction has been keeping a careful budget. I recently had a nearly 4 month affair with a SB, which I ended when I realized I was going to have a hard time paying for some expenses that were coming up this summer. I have a family and they tend to take what they know should be available, given my income. My family (mainly my wife) will grant me a "fun budget" but an SB costs about twice my normal fun budget. So I ended the SB / SD relationship and told her the honest explanation why. The SB, who was very sweet, said she understood and I could come back when my situation changes. For now I'm going cold turkey while saving money. Maybe I relapse in September? I don't know.

I am intrigued by Snake27's observations and I have some questions and comments if you don't mind. Snake is right on with the opening statement "I think we have to be careful to equate sex addiction with drug addiction. " I liken this addiction to sex more in line with an addiction to gambling or even running and sports participation. The emotional high you get from the result of sexual contact can be like winning a wager on a close game or even the adrenaline rush from completing a marathon. You just can't wait to do it again. All of this is a product of the mind with no interactivity with a substance. Placing a wager on a game while in progress and 10 - 20 minutes later the long field goal or one handed catch that covers the wager leads the mind to become euphoric over the outcome. It's much like the same feeling of euphoria maybe a few minutes to an hour or so after orgasm at the hand of a beautiful woman. It can last for days and make you want to return for more. This all happens without the need for a drug of some form to make it so.

When Snake states "there is some hope to control it, the same way you control any behavior. " and "that there are two halves (to the mind)" equating to two people or in reality two personalities that can "talk the other out of doing certain things" it hits the mark with myself. I also have arguments with myself often about what is the best course of action.

What I question is what defines a form of sex addiction? Snake has moved through the available scenarios of sexual contact in his hobbying and has been enjoying a "sugar baby". But I believe that Snakes progress from one sexual encounter to another is because he, like the gambler wagering again and again, wants or needs to return for more. It's all sex addiction no matter how it is satisfied. I am much the same way as I have to have the euphoric feeling fulfilled over and over. I can't help myself but do control the addiction to an extent because my other personality helps with that control. I am addicted to getting that feeling and I used to get it often at home so there was no need to look outside the marriage.

Things changed within the relationship but my need didn't. So I went outside the marriage eventually, became guilty after the first encounter, confessed openly, and to my surprise am allowed to continue. It sounds like, based on Snakes statement that "My family (mainly my wife) will grant me a fun budget", that he also has permission to indulge within reason. Are my summations correct? If so do any of you and your partners have an agreement in order for you to partake in this hobby? If you feel the need to not answer or comment to any of this I understand.

I have been thinking of this addiction and how it applies to me for quite a while. Does it really control me to where I can't function responsibly? I have even gone to the extent to take several online tests to see how addicted I really am. The results advise I get professional counseling for this "Problem". That prompts another question I ask myself. Why would I want to be convinced that I have a problem with something so pleasurable in my life and have somebody try to convince me that I am a bad person and have to change? I see no upside to this. I might have maybe fifteen or so years left of being able to enjoy the feelings I get from sexual satisfaction. So there you have it, I have a addiction to sex. So what? I'm not going to do anything about it but enjoy having sex anyway I can without feeling guilty about it. I admit I'm addicted to sex.

[QUOTE=USABarry;3831269]What I question is what defines a form of sex addiction? [/QUOTE]If you have a question he has the answer.

[URL]https://www.amazon.com/Out-Shadows-Understanding-Sexual-Addiction/dp/1568386214[/URL]

[QUOTE=USABarry;3831269]

I have been thinking of this addiction and how it applies to me for quite a while. Does it really control me to where I can't function responsibly? I have even gone to the extent to take several online tests to see how addicted I really am. The results advise I get professional counseling for this "Problem". That prompts another question I ask myself. Why would I want to be convinced that I have a problem with something so pleasurable in my life and have somebody try to convince me that I am a bad person and have to change? I see no upside to this. I might have maybe fifteen or so years left of being able to enjoy the feelings I get from sexual satisfaction. So there you have it, I have a addiction to sex. So what? I'm not going to do anything about it but enjoy having sex anyway I can without feeling guilty about it. I admit I'm addicted to sex.[/QUOTE]

Hey. You're a sex addict and you admit it but you think you're smarter than the disease and as long as you're not hurting anybody or yourself you're going to do it for as long as you live. You know what? You may very well do exactly that. So go do it.

What's your point in coming here? To be honest, I don't want to hear about people like you that can have their cake and eat it too. In fact I don't like people like you! It's seems not fair to me that you can do this as much and as often as you do and not suffer any consequences but I can't. So if you don't mind would you just go away and not come back to this topic. You don't want help. You just want to brag. Go brag somewhere else.

Buh-bye.

So how exactly IS a willingly, knowingly, and VOLUNTARILY engaged in BEHAVIOR, somehow a "disease"? Please explain HOW you "catch it" involuntarily! Pleaser learn to take responsibility for YOUR OWN ACTIONS! No one has a gun to your head. Not even a sex drive. It's time to grow up now!

[QUOTE=HeadFirst;3836862]Hey. You're a sex addict and you admit it but you think you're smarter than the disease and as long as you're not hurting anybody or yourself you're going to do it for as long as you live. You know what? You may very well do exactly that. So go do it.

What's your point in coming here? To be honest, I don't want to hear about people like you that can have their cake and eat it too. In fact I don't like people like you! It's seems not fair to me that you can do this as much and as often as you do and not suffer any consequences but I can't. So if you don't mind would you just go away and not come back to this topic. You don't want help. You just want to brag. Go brag somewhere else.

Buh-bye.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Atheistically;3852640]So how exactly IS a willingly, knowingly, and VOLUNTARILY engaged in BEHAVIOR, somehow a "disease"? Please explain HOW you "catch it" involuntarily! Pleaser learn to take responsibility for YOUR OWN ACTIONS! No one has a gun to your head. Not even a sex drive. It's time to grow up now![/QUOTE]The resource I offered was written by the absolute acknowledged leader in the field who holds a PHd in counselor education and has an award named after him for people doing outstanding work in the field of sexual addiction. He says it's a disease.

You on the other hand are some blowhard asshole on the internet who thinks he knows something. Instead what you do is mistake belief for opinion and opinion for fact.

I'm going with what's behind door number 1.

You on the other hand may not post in this thread anymore because you don't know what the fuck you are talking about and are just here to pick a fight.

A2.

Seriously, don't post in here again.

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I told you not to do this. You are a special kind of stupid aren't you?

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[QUOTE=RicoTheGmMan;3865785]You are so right 98% of these girls are addicts in one form or another it just is how good or bad they take care of you, nicole is a good girl at what she does, I stick with her she is my go to girl. I will be waiting for the post from W62 in the ripoff section when he gets a real bad one and there is plenty out there. Besides I take lightly with someone that has 2 posts anyway.[/QUOTE]Any of us involved in these activities are addicts as well.

After 20+ years of multi-state mongering I've decided to quit while I'm still healthy. I've busted more than a fair share of awesome nuts and had a great time doing it. I've met some great girls who have let me live out every sexual fantasy that I could imagine (At a price LOL). But I'm older now, and I realize that for me buying sex is an addiction for me just as much as drugs are the girls addiction. This game we play is dangerous but we play anyway. I don't know about the rest of you but I have a wife and kids a home and a great job making 200 K / yr. I can't tell you how many times I've been pulled over just by an officer recognizing a girl in my car as we passed or how many times I had to physically remove a violently upset that I didn't want a date girl from my car before the cops came. Most of all I have caught everything except herpes and HIV from these girls and thank god I never passed anything to my wife. The last couple of times including very recently I have caught gonorrhea from BBBJ. I had symptoms and like I always did I went and got tested anonymously thru a website I use. Only the test came back negative but the very mild symptoms persisted and I went to a urgentcare and was diagnosed. I had to take meds and take a shot and the doctor told me there is an untreatable strain going around so thank god I was cured. Who wants gonorrhea forever? Not me! But after my last infection and the fact that I see so many girls that I don't even know who infected me but I do know that I had to infect a couple of my regs and I had to tell them so they could get treatment which wasnt easy. One girl told me that she wasnt upset because "its all part of the game". And that made me think to how much I value my own life. I've thrown my dick on the crap table on many a night whether having BBFS BBBJ or CFS with a BBj finish. I think to all the times a girl told me that it was ok if I didn't use a condom. I'm a lucky mF to be walking around still healthy so I'm quitting before my luck runs out because the way these girls are moving out there i know its just a matter of time b4 i catch HIV. So good luck to you gents. Be smart and stay safe. Don't mean to be preachy just wanted to share a bit of my story.

[QUOTE=MrSwagg;3873097]After 20+ years of multi-state mongering I've decided to quit while I'm still healthy. I've busted more than a fair share of awesome nuts and had a great time doing it. I've met some great girls who have let me live out every sexual fantasy that I could imagine (At a price LOL). But I'm older now, and I realize that for me buying sex is an addiction for me just as much as drugs are the girls addiction. This game we play is dangerous but we play anyway. I don't know about the rest of you but I have a wife and kids a home and a great job making 200 K / yr. I can't tell you how many times I've been pulled over just by an officer recognizing a girl in my car as we passed or how many times I had to physically remove a violently upset that I didn't want a date girl from my car before the cops came. Most of all I have caught everything except herpes and HIV from these girls and thank god I never passed anything to my wife. The last couple of times including very recently I have caught gonorrhea from BBBJ. I had symptoms and like I always did I went and got tested anonymously thru a website I use. Only the test came back negative but the very mild symptoms persisted and I went to a urgentcare and was diagnosed. I had to take meds and take a shot and the doctor told me there is an untreatable strain going around so thank god I was cured. Who wants gonorrhea forever? Not me! But after my last infection and the fact that I see so many girls that I don't even know who infected me but I do know that I had to infect a couple of my regs and I had to tell them so they could get treatment which wasnt easy. One girl told me that she wasnt upset because "its all part of the game". And that made me think to how much I value my own life. I've thrown my dick on the crap table on many a night whether having BBFS BBBJ or CFS with a BBj finish. I think to all the times a girl told me that it was ok if I didn't use a condom. I'm a lucky mF to be walking around still healthy so I'm quitting before my luck runs out because the way these girls are moving out there i know its just a matter of time b4 i catch HIV. So good luck to you gents. Be smart and stay safe. Don't mean to be preachy just wanted to share a bit of my story.[/QUOTE]Good job, sex addiction is no joke and hope you stay strong, I am extremely careful who I play bare with but it is combination of luck and paranoia that kept me safe so far but this game is dangerous.

[QUOTE=MrSwagg;3873097]After 20+ years of multi-state mongering I've decided to quit while I'm still healthy. I've busted more than a fair share of awesome nuts and had a great time doing it. I've met some great girls who have let me live out every sexual fantasy that I could imagine (At a price LOL). But I'm older now, and I realize that for me buying sex is an addiction for me just as much as drugs are the girls addiction. This game we play is dangerous but we play anyway. I don't know about the rest of you but I have a wife and kids a home and a great job making 200 K / yr. I can't tell you how many times I've been pulled over just by an officer recognizing a girl in my car as we passed or how many times I had to physically remove a violently upset that I didn't want a date girl from my car before the cops came. Most of all I have caught everything except herpes and HIV from these girls and thank god I never passed anything to my wife. The last couple of times including very recently I have caught gonorrhea from BBBJ. I had symptoms and like I always did I went and got tested anonymously thru a website I use. Only the test came back negative but the very mild symptoms persisted and I went to a urgentcare and was diagnosed. I had to take meds and take a shot and the doctor told me there is an untreatable strain going around so thank god I was cured. Who wants gonorrhea forever? Not me! But after my last infection and the fact that I see so many girls that I don't even know who infected me but I do know that I had to infect a couple of my regs and I had to tell them so they could get treatment which wasnt easy. One girl told me that she wasnt upset because "its all part of the game". And that made me think to how much I value my own life. I've thrown my dick on the crap table on many a night whether having BBFS BBBJ or CFS with a BBj finish. I think to all the times a girl told me that it was ok if I didn't use a condom. I'm a lucky mF to be walking around still healthy so I'm quitting before my luck runs out because the way these girls are moving out there i know its just a matter of time b4 i catch HIV. So good luck to you gents. Be smart and stay safe. Don't mean to be preachy just wanted to share a bit of my story.[/QUOTE]Kudos to you Bro for taking a step in the right direction. I stopped SW business and occationally visit AMP's in passaic which are much safer and clean. Eventually will stop them as well.

[QUOTE=DudeNJ;3873270]Good job, sex addiction is no joke and hope you stay strong, I am extremely careful who I play bare with but it is combination of luck and paranoia that kept me safe so far but this game is dangerous.[/QUOTE]Its not sex addiction if you go out on your nights off looking for pussy.

About a week ago, I saw a girl I never had before, Samantha. She did a very good job for $20. She said she was out there about a year. A cute 23 year old.

[QUOTE=Sugarbandit;3885850]Its not sex addiction if you go out on your nights off looking for pussy..[/QUOTE]Um, yeah, it is if you're doing it regularly.

One of the most recognized symptoms of sexual addiction is repeatedly and regularly going out looking for, and hiring, prostitutes. So, we're *all* probably sex addicts.

[QUOTE=MrFrench;3886090]Um, yeah, it is if you're doing it regularly.

One of the most recognized symptoms of sexual addiction is repeatedly and regularly going out looking for, and hiring, prostitutes. So, we're *all* probably sex addicts.[/QUOTE]So guys that go to bars every week and get laid are sex addicts?

After I was with Samantha, I spotted Kat, a really cute one, but she wanted $30 and I now realize they all will come down to $20.

I didn't see Laura and Sandy walked by fast.

Hallo, ik ben op zoek naar vrouwen voor sex. Ik ben al lid op verschillende sites zoals [URL]https://www.gratissexafspreken.nl[/URL]. Hebben jullie nog andere tips?

I had another B'Day last week and it reminded me of the promise I made to myself a while ago to stop paying for pussy.

At the height (or is it the lowest) of this addiction I was going 5-7 X a week, every week, for years. I could so I did. Then some things changed but I also recognized that what I was doing was harmful (to me) so I decided to stop it. But I soon realized what a hold it had on me. Many visits with a psychiatrist and a psychologist didn't work and I came to the conclusion that I'd rather be spending this cash on pussy than doctors.

As with my other addictions I learned that tapering works best for me. So I've been doing that and after 2 years it's gotten me to the point of 2-4 visits / rewards a month. I've not gotten this monkey completely off my back but it seems to be working and I consider it progress.

Curbing my Appetite (For Destruction) has allowed me to consider getting into a healthy meaningful relationship again. But the other side of that coin has me fantasizing about buying an AMP. It should be a no-brainer but it's not (yet), so.