Response to recent reports
Long-sorry, but it's broken up by subject.
1. Dana at Dollies-very pretty black girl but an absolute nut case. She's mixed it up twice with me. First time I smiled back at her but didn't buy her a drink because I was waiting on someone. She went off. Second time I was at the bar with my back to the stage talking to someone and she interrupted for a tip for her dance. Same routine that was reported below. She fired off at me and wouldn't leave until Janie intervened. Despite those two times I asked her to sit down one afternoon because the dancer I went to see wasn't there. Why? Because I think she's pretty, I was a bit buzzed and I'm a freaking idiot. She was so messed up on something-actually I think a mix of something plus booze-that she couldn't carry on a conversation. She asked me to do a private dance and I told her I would but asked how much she charged for songs. $50. I actually laughed at her.
2. The regular routine is really the biggest downside of clubbing besides the money. I quit going to Kitty's because of it. It seemed to get worse when the economy went south. It got to the point that I would swear they already had my money spent before I walked through the second door.
3. For the guy who's looking for benefits at Hollywood, good luck. Even if money is no object you'll likely waste tremendous amounts of time chasing down the elusive combination of girl and situation. The advice offered below-take time to get to know them and meet outside-is solid. There's no question that an angry boyfriend is the biggest risk you run with OTC, followed closely by the possibly of jr. Or an std. Condoms are helpful with two and three. Boyfriend isn't really that hard to flush. Here's what I've done.
If you find someone you like it isn't really a waste of time to get to know her and once you do you'll have dramatically reduced the risk of an altercation with an angry boyfriend. They get bored and if you're a good listener and better tipper they would rather tell you just about anything you want to know than try to make money from a guy who wants to twist their nipples for a dollar. Of course you never know the first time around if it's even remotely true. Over time though it's pretty easy to figure out who's available safely and who's dating the guy who just got out of prison. Here are some pretty simple things that work:
-Talk about cars and figure out if she has one and what it is. If it's on the lot she is less likely to have a guy she's supporting. They typically get dropped off. If it isn't on the lot odds of boyfriend trouble increase dramatically. First, odds are very strong boyfriend dropped her off. Second, he's probably not on the chamber of commerce because she's making money and he's driving the car.
-Figure out if she has kids. If she does she'll talk about them with virtually no encouragement. It won't take long to figure out how things stand with the baby daddy / daddies and if he / they are no longer living with her it won't take long to find out if there's friction with a current boyfriend.
-Figure out her schedule-if you can call their work routines that-and once you get comfortable with her ask her to lunch on an off day but make it pretty short notice. If she agrees and actually shows it's much less likely that boyfriend is lurking.
-Exchange numbers and call her randomly, to see if she might be at the club even though it's her off day. It's a good sign if she answers or calls back quickly. It's a bad sign if you hear guys in the background.
The funny part of all of it is most dancers that you actually listen to will just start talking about their men. Again, they're bored as hell and would rather talk to you than someone else who doesn't tip well and wants action.