Not messaging on NextDoor, duh
[QUOTE=RogerOver;5934431]Doesn't Nextdoor require your real info and address? I was on Nextdoor for about 30 minutes, until I saw it's the same echo chamber that FB is.[/QUOTE]Just get their contact info from their posts and text via an app.
An Evolved Woman's Point of View on Sex for Money
I excerpted parts of an article that appeared 7 years ago in an on line magazine by and for women called DAME. To spare you the entire article, I have edited out the longer less relevant sections and made bold certain sentences that give you the basic gist. If you want to reread the entire article you can find it at [URL] https://www.damemagazine.com/2015/09/29/i-was-offered-3500-have-sex-stranger/ [/URL]
The main point here is that people's attitudes are changing about the whole subject of women having sex for money. I have always contended that morality has little to do with sugaring. It is merely a matter of economics. This article by a professional female writer who is a champion of women's rights agrees. Companionship and sex is like any other labor skill that is bought and sold. Our Puritan roots have caused us as a society to view otherwise, to the point of making such transactions illegal. Well, of course, except in Nevada, LOL. Maybe, like with weed and gambling, we will eventually come to our senses as a society and stop criminalizing something on "moral" grounds. That never works. Remember Prohibition?
[B]I Was Offered $3,500 to Have Sex With a Stranger[/B]
Several weeks ago, I received an email from a stranger that said, "Would you like to go out on a*paid*date*say $3,500 & fool around and play for research for your next book?" That question was followed by his name. A date three days hence was in the subject line. At first, I laughed it off; I've been writing about sex long enough to know which emails to ignore. Yet I I couldn't stop thinking about it not the offer itself, which I didn't actually think was real, but my reaction to it. I was offended, but kept turning over that feeling in my mind. [B]Was I offended that he offered me money or that he didn't offer enough?[/B] Was I bothered by his brevity? Why did this email skeeve me out more than the guys on FetLife who send ludicrous propositions or dick pics, with no mention of financial compensation? [B]Or was it something more sinister was I perturbed by the idea that he'd mistaken me for a prostitute, even though he clearly knew I was a writer?[/B].
The latter assumption didn't sit well with me, especially as someone who*supports sex-worker rights. Could I really say that with a straight face if I somehow felt I was "above" sex work? I asked my friend*Melissa Petro, a former sex worker who was forced to leave her New York City teaching job when her professional history*came to light, for her reaction. Does she believe, as I was starting to suspect, that deep down, every woman has a price? Petro doesn't think so, but she did tell me,[B] I wonder if every woman in need of money doesn't have to consider such offers that much harder than women with money. There were times, for years, that I would have seriously considered every reasonable offer, when I was single and struggling to pay my rent and eat even though it would have felt humiliating. Being broke and not being able to pay your rent or feed yourself is humiliating, too.[/B].
Talking to my friend*Kimberlee Clinea sex worker and founder of non-profit organization*Red Umbrella Policy Project made me wonder if I'd been looking at the subject all wrong. First off, the propositioner wasn't totally out of line, in her opinion. "Even though you're not a sex-for-hire sex worker, you're a sex professional on some level, so reaching out to you in your capacity as an expert does not seem inappropriate. I admire this person's recognition that he should make it worth your time to have sex with him or even really talk to him at all. ".
He wasn't insulting me. "There's this concept that if a man equates sex with money, he's somehow degrading the woman's intelligence and emotional integrity," she explained. "I think that's a really misogynist view of sexuality. " She went on to add, "The whole idea that it's offensive to equate sexuality with money has a lot more to do with the purity of womanhood idea, which is rooted in separating women from the economy. [B] What people are upset about is not that women have sex, but that women are making money, and if there's sex involved with making money, then its acceptable to hate it.[/B].
In other words, I shouldn't be offended by being offered money for sex, when [B] money has always been at the root of intimate relationships and still is[/B], even in our supposedly egalitarian times. Take sugar babies and sugar daddies meaning women, typically young, who are just starting out in the working world and accept money from older men. Money is already part of the equation in sexual and romantic relationships, whether they officially involve sex work or not. To think otherwise is to ignore the history of marriage and its current reality. Remember all the buzz about the "wife bonus?" It sounded outlandish, but of course [B]we all make negotiations about money every day. Why should the realm of sex be any different?[/B].
What Women Say vs. What They Mean
[QUOTE=EvilTmp;5937409]In my experience you should never ever listen to what a woman says or write about dating or men to women relationships. It is completely irrelevant and not grounded in any reality. It's all rationalization and what makes her feel a certain way at that moment. Truth, trying to find some kernel of veracity, or learning a valuable lesson is never part of it. They don't do it out of spite or maliciously, it's simply how they're wired. It's all about avoiding accountability for their actions, maximizing rewards, saving their reputation, and feeling in control of the relationship. We now have so much objective data to see how women behave vs what they say and that gulf is wide. I don't begrudge them for it, I understand its simply their nature.
The author is rationalizing sex work because duh! money. And every girl LOVES money. How many fathers want their little girl growing up to turn tricks and sell snatch to strangers?[/QUOTE]You may be quite correct in your assessment that women say one thing and mean another. Just look at the following examples of what a woman says vs. what she really means.
[B]It's fine[/B]
It's totally NOT fine but I am completely frustrated with your argument and I choose not to continue talking to you, you big fucking jerk!
[B]Does This Make Me Look Fat?[/B]
I am feeling completely vulnerable at this moment and I need reassurances from you that I am not just acceptable to you but also that I am the love of your life around which the entire universe revolves.
[B]We Need To Talk[/B]
You have done something that really upsets me and I have been thinking about it now for 24 hours and have rehearsed over 100 times a verbal assault you will not survive without complete and utter contrition.
[B]Ill Be Ready in Five More Minutes![/B]
I am tired of your badgering me to get ready and I will take my goddamn time doing so. So back off and cool your heels until I am happy with my indeterminate preparations!
[B]Awww, look at that baby![/B]
I am feeling extremely maternal and all warm and cuddly. Fuck me immediately and impregnate me with child so I can re-focus my life on a beautiful baby rather than your sorry ass.
[B]Ill Just Go For One Drink.[/B]
Who the hell are you to tell me how much I can drink? I will have one drink and then another and then another if I damn well please!
[B]Do Whatever You Want.[/B]
You refuse to knuckle under to my request, so go ahead and do what you want at your peril. Because the hell you are going to go through with me definitely isn't worth it.
[B]Youre Just Like a Brother To Me.[/B]
You are definitely never ever getting into my pants.
[B]We Can Still Be Friends[/B]
We are definitely not fucking any more. But if you want to hang around and do my bidding, and laugh at my jokes and fawn all over me like a lost puppy, I won't object.
[B]Sorry, My Phone Was Off[/B]
My time is more important than yours and I don't need to reply to you as quickly as you think you need me to. So wait in line like the other losers in my life.
[B]How Do You Know Her?[/B]
You piece of shit. You fucked her didn't you?
[B]I Wasnt That Drunk[/B]
Do NOT remind me how tanked I can get and do stupid shit. I deserve a pass. Why? Just because.
[B]Is That What Youre Wearing?[/B]
You tasteless boob. You don't have a clue and you need me to pick out your future clothing purchases so I can tell everyone how helpless you are without me.
[B]Its Not You, Its Me.[/B]
You pissed me off in ways I don't care to explain. Get out of my fucking sight!
[B]I Have Nothing To Wear.[/B]
You are responsible for my wardrobe malfunction which can be easily addressed with either cash or your credit card.
[B]Ill Just Have a Salad.[/B]
I was a pig all week and ate 99,999 calories worth of junk. This salad is my atonement so praise me for having such gastronomic discipline.
As for a father not wanting his darling daughter to suck strangers' cocks and sell her snatch for dough? I guess then it is fine if she sucks a lot of cocks and gives up her snatch for free?
