"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[QUOTE=FarFarAway;5874134]I'll never figure out women / SBs. This pudgy 19 YO coed was very interested from our first contact. Mind of a 30 YO, very smart, in computer science. We FC a couple of weeks ago. Like a lot of fat girls, lacks confidence, sent me a nude in the shower to get me interested, responded well to positive statements and direction. Absolutely slobbered all over junior + the boys, extremely responsive, loved a spanking. Also, she got us the room and let me reimburse her. So no risk for me. Just show up and bang her. Afterward, I texted her what a great time we had, we should get together again soon, what else is she into, all of that. And crickets.

She claims I am the 4th man to nail her, perhaps second thoughts about being in the bowl.[/QUOTE]I hate it when this happens. Just happened to me also. Was after the 10-12th date though with a girl I liked a lot. It never happens to me with meh girls LOL. On our very last date, right after the hot and heavy, we're lying together in a dreamy reverie, talking, and she suddenly blurted out, "I always have such a good time with you!" That was notable because the timing as she disappeared right after that date. SMFH. It was genuine so thinking she probably got a better offer. Either more $$, or a hotter, younger SD. Haha you never know about these girls. But we never can lose sight that we're basically fungible walking, talking wallets with c0 cks to these girls LOL.

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/c5d3e950-3c80-4fff-aab9-c1cc9daa2eac[/URL]

Thought I finally got a Richmond SB to come up to NOVA. Agree to meetup and ppm. Then I get hit with need help and willing to send nudes.

[QUOTE=HarryMcHardon;5881287]I hate it when this happens. Just happened to me also. Was after the 10-12th date though with a girl I liked a lot. It never happens to me with meh girls LOL. On our very last date, right after the hot and heavy, we're lying together in a dreamy reverie, talking, and she suddenly blurted out, "I always have such a good time with you!" That was notable because the timing as she disappeared right after that date. SMFH. It was genuine so thinking she probably got a better offer. Either more $$, or a hotter, younger SD. Haha you never know about these girls. But we never can lose sight that we're basically fungible walking, talking wallets with c0 cks to these girls LOL.[/QUOTE]Let me be a little less cynical. Sometimes, the lack of connection in sugar dating is an attraction. If she started seeing you as a real person, that may have been outside her comfort zone.

I have had months-long arrangements w / girls I cared about, and they returned that. For me, that is my goal. If I have banged one a few times but haven't felt even a twitch, we're going to split soon.

[QUOTE=HarryMcHardon;5881287]I hate it when this happens. Just happened to me also. Was after the 10-12th date though with a girl I liked a lot. It never happens to me with meh girls LOL. On our very last date, right after the hot and heavy, we're lying together in a dreamy reverie, talking, and she suddenly blurted out, "I always have such a good time with you!" That was notable because the timing as she disappeared right after that date. SMFH. It was genuine so thinking she probably got a better offer. Either more $$, or a hotter, younger SD. Haha you never know about these girls. But we never can lose sight that we're basically fungible walking, talking wallets with c0 cks to these girls LOL.[/QUOTE]For the average guy it's very difficult to imagine the abundance these girls have. A very average 20 yo girl, say a 5/10, will have so many guys (maybe a dozen or two) in her phone ready to bang her on her schedule and whims. If you could see their phone your head would simply explode and it's foreign to most guys that have to put some effort in. They spend 1 or 2 days on a dating app (or seeking) and they have enough contacts for weeks to come. So yeah, if she's slightly cute, young and barely on social media she has more options than she'll ever know what to do with. Don't ever kid yourself that it's any work for her to find a guy or that there isn't a dozen guys behind you ready for a lay. Having said that, don't ever pedestal these girls or think they're special. They're just in their prime of life and guy's thirst is a real thing.

You don't own them, it's just your turn.

[QUOTE=EvilTmp;5881659]For the average guy it's very difficult to imagine the abundance these girls have. A very average 20 yo girl, say a 5/10, will have so many guys (maybe a dozen or two) in her phone ready to bang her on her schedule and whims. If you could see their phone your head would simply explode and it's foreign to most guys that have to put some effort in. They spend 1 or 2 days on a dating app (or seeking) and they have enough contacts for weeks to come. So yeah, if she's slightly cute, young and barely on social media she has more options than she'll ever know what to do with. Don't ever kid yourself that it's any work for her to find a guy or that there isn't a dozen guys behind you ready for a lay. Having said that, don't ever pedestal these girls or think they're special. They're just in their prime of life and guy's thirst is a real thing..[/QUOTE]I'd caution about generalizations. Everyone gets the bowl they seek. Just your selection of profiles is highly non-random, and then you get to learn the behavior of girls whose presence on the site appeals to you.

I don't think this is the case for the girls I seek. So many of them are unsure of what they want to do w / the site, they are just perennially on it browsing, but never even getting to the point of meeting anyone they might have even messaged with, on or off the site. At the least, for those, IK they aren't really UTR escorts, they are so skittish about even meeting up w / me for a coffee or a drink. Someone who is a pro can't afford to be so discriminating.

Just for giggles I read the Top 10 things to watch out for Blog, on Seeking.

Point 10 says if the profile is unavailable, before you meet in person, the person might be a scammer.

After I start texting with a girl / woman off Seeking. I normally block her profile a day later. I block so, she does not report our raunchy texting to Seeking and get me banned.

Am I doing it all wrong?

[QUOTE=Happtrav;5884527]Just for giggles I read the Top 10 things to watch out for Blog, on Seeking.

Point 10 says if the profile is unavailable, before you meet in person, the person might be a scammer.

After I start texting with a girl / woman off Seeking. I normally block her profile a day later. I block so, she does not report our raunchy texting to Seeking and get me banned.

Am I doing it all wrong?[/QUOTE]No, I think it's a very smart strategy. I got in a pissing match with a potential Baby. I sent her a pic I use that's me but with a beard (I'm normally clean shaving) a Red Sox cap & Rayban Wayfarers. At the time, since I'm very discrete for a variety of reasons, my profile pic was Tony Soprano from the waist to the nose. She reported me for using a fake pic & my account was canceled. Luckily with a lot of work I got a new one up in a week or two. Also my membership had expired so I didn't lose any paid membership.

I definitely could easily be banned for what I text once we go to text. Like I said, good strategy, if your definitely done with them on the site. If your still talking & she sees your profile isn't visible anymore, tell her, "once I found you I deleted my account". Brownie points for sure!

[QUOTE=BobLobLa;5801088][URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/9b0c3575-df57-407a-bcd4-6ed984a7d155[/URL] -- she's baaaaack![/QUOTE]I've been chatting with this one, she's willing to come to DC but I thought I'd do my homework first and found this post. Something tells me there is more to the story. LOL.

[QUOTE=Happtrav;5884527]Just for giggles I read the Top 10 things to watch out for Blog, on Seeking.

Point 10 says if the profile is unavailable, before you meet in person, the person might be a scammer.

After I start texting with a girl / woman off Seeking. I normally block her profile a day later. I block so, she does not report our raunchy texting to Seeking and get me banned.

Am I doing it all wrong?[/QUOTE]I guess that is OK, but I just recommend not doing anything at all on the site that is against their TOS. Even if you don't get reported by the girl, they could stumble on what you've done and ban you. It is a super big pain to get banned, it is in many cases impossible to resurrect an account without divulging more than anyone would reasonably want to. You can also have trouble setting up a new account. There are message threads here about all the hoops you must jump through. Best advice is never to do anything that would get you banned.

I never ever report a girl who might do something I don't like or which violates site rules. I just block her and move on. If you report something, the mods on SA look at you too. That could get you in trouble.

I block a girl after we've done our first FC, first taking a screen shot of her profile and saving her pics. A little insurance for the future, just in case. That also permits me to be back on the site to scan for other girls without her knowing. Some girls might be offended by that.

[QUOTE=FarFarAway;5885677]I guess that is OK, but I just recommend not doing anything at all on the site that is against their TOS. Even if you don't get reported by the girl, they could stumble on what you've done and ban you. It is a super big pain to get banned, it is in many cases impossible to resurrect an account without divulging more than anyone would reasonably want to. You can also have trouble setting up a new account. There are message threads here about all the hoops you must jump through. Best advice is never to do anything that would get you banned.

I never ever report a girl who might do something I don't like or which violates site rules. I just block her and move on. If you report something, the mods on SA look at you too. That could get you in trouble.

I block a girl after we've done our first FC, first taking a screen shot of her profile and saving her pics. A little insurance for the future, just in case. That also permits me to be back on the site to scan for other girls without her knowing. Some girls might be offended by that.[/QUOTE]The downside to blocking is that it becomes a pain to keep track of what they are up to afterwards. I keep a second profile for occasionally seeing who has blocked me but it is a pain to log out, change IP address then log in only to reverse the process shortly afterwards. I generally keep most info about my profile hidden in the settings but I am guessing that after you message them, they can always see you in search. I wish there was a way to counteract that.

BAM.

I was still sugaring up right up until about the time the pandemic hit (Feb-March 2020). Other priorities took over, so I really haven't been playing the game since then.

Probably time to jump back in.

How has the scene changed in the last two years? Anything new about SA? Did any other sites become more popular?

The one thing I noticed about SA is there just seems to be a lot less girls among the recently active sort than I remember, with just a quick sort in the DC area.

[QUOTE=BamBam;5886646]The downside to blocking is that it becomes a pain to keep track of what they are up to afterwards. I keep a second profile for occasionally seeing who has blocked me but it is a pain to log out, change IP address then log in only to reverse the process shortly afterwards. I generally keep most info about my profile hidden in the settings but I am guessing that after you message them, they can always see you in search. I wish there was a way to counteract that.

BAM.[/QUOTE]100% agreed, Bam. I also had two profiles, using only one at a time paid up. However, I got one of them banned b / c of 'photo not of person'. IDK if it was the girl or the mods, but I had sent my real photo to her through the message feature. Even though my profile pics don't have a full face (and they're not really of me), it doesn't matter if they are 'proof' - once they decide to ban you for this, the only way to get back on is send a selfie w / your driver's license. No way Jose.

You are also like me in keeping profile information mostly hidden, and I have my whole profile hidden from search. It cuts out the spam messages from foreign lands. But as you say, once I visit a girls page, she can see my profile from then on.

Full time college student. Vibrant and intelligent. Horny as a MoFo! Plays with herself in the car as we head to the hotel. Flashes truckers. Loves to talk dirty and is very good at it. Squeals like a fire siren and vibrates like a paint shaker when she cums, which she likes to do a LOT!

I usually get tired of most SBs after a while, no matter how good they are, but this one is intriguing enough to have mucho legs.

[QUOTE=PartyTimeGuy;5887560]Full time college student. Vibrant and intelligent. Horny as a MoFo! Plays with herself in the car as we head to the hotel. Flashes truckers. Loves to talk dirty and is very good at it. Squeals like a fire siren and vibrates like a paint shaker when she cums, which she likes to do a LOT!

I usually get tired of most SBs after a while, no matter how good they are, but this one is intriguing enough to have mucho legs.[/QUOTE]Looks like an amazing time!! Do you have a link or did you find this one on your own?

Stay safe.

RR.

[QUOTE=FarFarAway;5885677]I guess that is OK, but I just recommend not doing anything at all on the site that is against their TOS. Even if you don't get reported by the girl, they could stumble on what you've done and ban you. It is a super big pain to get banned, it is in many cases impossible to resurrect an account without divulging more than anyone would reasonably want to. You can also have trouble setting up a new account. There are message threads here about all the hoops you must jump through. Best advice is never to do anything that would get you banned.

I never ever report a girl who might do something I don't like or which violates site rules. I just block her and move on. If you report something, the mods on SA look at you too. That could get you in trouble.

I block a girl after we've done our first FC, first taking a screen shot of her profile and saving her pics. A little insurance for the future, just in case. That also permits me to be back on the site to scan for other girls without her knowing. Some girls might be offended by that.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=BamBam;5886646]The downside to blocking is that it becomes a pain to keep track of what they are up to afterwards. I keep a second profile for occasionally seeing who has blocked me but it is a pain to log out, change IP address then log in only to reverse the process shortly afterwards. I generally keep most info about my profile hidden in the settings but I am guessing that after you message them, they can always see you in search. I wish there was a way to counteract that.

BAM.[/QUOTE]I too keep a second profile. Switching between accounts is actually easy. Just use a different browser! Different browser means different tracking cookies. The only time I've noticed SA pays attention to IP is when an account is first created. Hasn't been an issue once the account is active.

I block someone after I've met them and gotten to the FC. I can claim I'm off the site but I can still monitor her activity from my other account. I just make sure my main profile isn't searchable otherwise I'll still show up in a search that she might do but then show profile unavailable and that could lead to additional questions.