Sexual Addiction Reports

[QUOTE=CephlapodLove;3255054]What is the definition of a Sl*t? An addict?

How many days one had sex in a month qualifies?

How many different partners fits those definitions?

Is binge fucking a symptom? Numerous girls in one day?

Is it possible I am one?[/QUOTE]I think it depends more on how preoccupied you are with it than how often you actually get it. Most guys think about sex a fair amount, but only some guys (myself included) think about it to where it starts to affect other things. I probably think about it more than what is good for a guy.

Also depends on what you're risking. I use a cover for everything, but I'm still risking disease. I'm also risking things like getting beaten or robbed by a pimp, getting on a 5 o'clock news or having, say, a car wreck in a part of town where I have no legit reason for being. I see providers about 1-2 times a month. Which isn't much compared to a lot of guys here, but I'm risking a lot to do even that much.

So with my definition, yes, I am a sex addict.

Well I'm here again, looking for the answer that we can't seem to find for ourselves, I have made it past a few winter months, my travel for Buss. Is going to start back up next week! What better place to go looking for pussy, but "Motown, week after LV. There is no hope for me now, my heart has been racing for weeks in anticipation. My old fingers can't (Tap fast enough USA, Ter, Back page, Craigslist) you name it, I've been there. Taking notes, reading post, texting, writing down numbers, making calls. I think Ill say it now and get it out of the way: I'm a sex addict, so fuck it, I'm going to fuck as many as I can, and roll the dice, before my time has expired! I just can't stop this "high" I'm on now, no matter what I try! See you on the other side, stay safe my friends! Drk.

I began seeing providers when I was in the military three decades ago, stopped for several years when I left the service, saw a couple SWs in the '90's. I stopped picking up SWs because LE in my city began cracking down and because of the overall risks. However, I did a lot of window shopping for many years after that. I guess cruising around and just looking was kind of a substitute for porn. Even without partaking, it was a huge turn on just knowing there were chicks out there who would drop their panties if the price was right.

Then life and high speed internet happened. In the late 2000's, my marriage was rocky, I checked out online porn one day, and it was like a hit of crack. I watched and whacked off nearly every day for a couple years. But eventually that wasn't enough and I wanted to tap the real thing. Resumed seeing providers in the early 2010's. I didn't do FS with them at first due to fear of disease and figuring I wasn't really cheating if I didn't screw them. But of course I soon crossed that line and it's been game on for most of the last 5 years or so.

I used to be able to go a few months without seeing a chick. Now, going 2-3 weeks is torture. I go through a lot of burner phones because I "quit" only to get back in the game at some point. I only get action 1, maybe 2 times a month, which isn't much compared to a lot of guys on USA. But I come to this or related sites almost every day, I still watch porn 2-4 times a week, and I spend a lot of time planning, researching etc who would be the best or most convenient chick to get with. Oh yeah, and the other thing that happened in the last several years was yoga pants and leggings. Man, those reveal far more than the tightest pair of jeans back in the day. Makes it so much harder to stay away from the game. After seeing a bunch of hot 20-something bodies bouncing around at the gym, I start to think, why am I fantasizing, I can just get my burner phone and get with a hot 20-something right now.

It's been 23 days for me since I saw a chick. I occasionally have days where I never visit a site I shouldn't, but it's rare.

[QUOTE=UOnlyLiveOnce;3261941]I used to be able to go a few months without seeing a chick. Now, going 2-3 weeks is torture. I go through a lot of burner phones because I "quit" only to get back in the game at some point. I only get action 1, maybe 2 times a month, which isn't much compared to a lot of guys on USA. But I come to this or related sites almost every day, I still watch porn 2-4 times a week, and I spend a lot of time planning, researching etc who would be the best or most convenient chick to get with. Oh yeah, and the other thing that happened in the last several years was yoga pants and leggings. Man, those reveal far more than the tightest pair of jeans back in the day. Makes it so much harder to stay away from the game. After seeing a bunch of hot 20-something bodies bouncing around at the gym, I start to think, why am I fantasizing, I can just get my burner phone and get with a hot 20-something right now.

It's been 23 days for me since I saw a chick.[/QUOTE]Er, not mocking or bragging, but thanks for that as if that is where a line can be drawn I am miles beyond that and thus in VERY deep! I mean if 2-3 weeks is torture, then what does that say for 2-3 days? Sigh.

[QUOTE=CephlapodLove;3261995]Er, not mocking or bragging, but thanks for that as if that is where a line can be drawn I am miles beyond that and thus in VERY deep! I mean if 2-3 weeks is torture, then what does that say for 2-3 days? Sigh.[/QUOTE]There have been lots of times when I've seen a chick, I swear I won't do it again, and I'm plotting my next action a few days later. 2-3 weeks is about how long it takes to where I'm climbing the walls and am about to lose my mind.

[QUOTE=UOnlyLiveOnce;3262039]There have been lots of times when I've seen a chick, I swear I won't do it again, and I'm plotting my next action a few days later. 2-3 weeks is about how long it takes to where I'm climbing the walls and am about to lose my mind.[/QUOTE]So how many different girls in a month might be an indicator?

[QUOTE=CephlapodLove;3262252]So how many different girls in a month might be an indicator?[/QUOTE]People like to get caught up in the numbers game. Addiction is a word that can be used on everything in one3's life. From cigarettes to you name it its an addiction. For me it means is it threatning my health and welfare.

Now everyone has something to lose in this hobby but its a conscious choice we make to play the game. Its pretty simple to me, if it threatens my health or welfare then its time I seek professional help. Oh and to change one has to develop, new habits and friends.

[QUOTE=CephlapodLove;3262252]So how many different girls in a month might be an indicator?[/QUOTE]Hate to keep saying that, but it depends. My income is all right, but I'm stretching my budget to average 1 or 2 encounters a month with an above average provider. I usually stay away from the lower cost chicks because they tend to have more risks than the higher end ones, at least in my area (Cincinnati).

To me, this isn't like drinking where you can say more definitely how many drinks are likely to be a problem for the average person. I regard myself as a sex addict because of my overall picture. Things like the amount of time I spend on sites like this, the preoccupation with getting a piece, texting providers to see who's available and where they are, visiting porn sites at least a few times a week, traveling to see providers I've scheduled with, and then actually seeing them. It's a lot of lost time, cash, and income.

It all comes down to whether you consider it to be a problem for you in your particular case, IMO.

If you DO have a "problem" by whatever definition YIOU determine it to be, see a therapist, and STAY AWAY FROM ANY AND ALL "12 Step Groups" like "SAA" (Sex Addicts Alnonymous), or "Love and Sex Addicts Anonymous). They believe that "sex" is a "character defect" and can be "fixed" with "spirituality". Its the biggest bullshit of a "recovery group" since its close cousins, AA and NA were excreted into existence!

[QUOTE=UOnlyLiveOnce;3262511]Hate to keep saying that, but it depends. My income is all right, but I'm stretching my budget to average 1 or 2 encounters a month with an above average provider. I usually stay away from the lower cost chicks because they tend to have more risks than the higher end ones, at least in my area (Cincinnati).

To me, this isn't like drinking where you can say more definitely how many drinks are likely to be a problem for the average person. I regard myself as a sex addict because of my overall picture. Things like the amount of time I spend on sites like this, the preoccupation with getting a piece, texting providers to see who's available and where they are, visiting porn sites at least a few times a week, traveling to see providers I've scheduled with, and then actually seeing them. It's a lot of lost time, cash, and income.

It all comes down to whether you consider it to be a problem for you in your particular case, IMO.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Redneck3565;3262647]If you DO have a "problem" by whatever definition YIOU determine it to be, see a therapist, and STAY AWAY FROM ANY AND ALL "12 Step Groups" like "SAA" (Sex Addicts Alnonymous), or "Love and Sex Addicts Anonymous). They believe that "sex" is a "character defect" and can be "fixed" with "spirituality". Its the biggest bullshit of a "recovery group" since its close cousins, AA and NA were excreted into existence![/QUOTE]So no chance of hooking up with like minded Sexually addicted women at these meetings?

Right-like there are somehow "sex addicted women" at a 12 Step meeting designed to "recover" from such?

[QUOTE=Knucklebuck;3262661]So no chance of hooking up with like minded Sexually addicted women at these meetings?[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Redneck3565;3262647]If you DO have a "problem" by whatever definition YIOU determine it to be, see a therapist, and STAY AWAY FROM ANY AND ALL "12 Step Groups" like "SAA" (Sex Addicts Alnonymous), or "Love and Sex Addicts Anonymous). They believe that "sex" is a "character defect" and can be "fixed" with "spirituality". Its the biggest bullshit of a "recovery group" since its close cousins, AA and NA were excreted into existence![/QUOTE]To SAA or LSAA meetings. Hanging out with genuine sex offenders (which I'm sure there are quite a few of there) is not my idea of a good time.

Instead, I'm hitting the gym a lot, both so I can check out hot women in tight clothes and so I can find a bed buddy.

[QUOTE=Redneck3565;3262666]Right-like there are somehow "sex addicted women" at a 12 Step meeting designed to "recover" from such?[/QUOTE]LOL good to know!

[QUOTE=Redneck3565;3262666]Right-like there are somehow "sex addicted women" at a 12 Step meeting designed to "recover" from such?[/QUOTE]I can say from experience that there are, it's like 5 or 6 to 1 men to women (there are also more single sex only meetings for obvious reasons) but there are some there. For me, attending several meetings and listening to their stories just helped me understand that while it could turn into a problem if I let it but I don't consider myself an addict.

It works for those that feel they need help and can commit to their programs. And most are free working solely on donations.

[QUOTE=Redneck3565;3262647]If you DO have a "problem" by whatever definition YIOU determine it to be, see a therapist, and STAY AWAY FROM ANY AND ALL "12 Step Groups" like "SAA" (Sex Addicts Alnonymous), or "Love and Sex Addicts Anonymous). They believe that "sex" is a "character defect" and can be "fixed" with "spirituality". Its the biggest bullshit of a "recovery group" since its close cousins, AA and NA were excreted into existence![/QUOTE]Yeah, seems like everybody and their brother co-opted the 12 Step process to use for their addiction. Problem is that Bill W the originator of the 12 Step Process in AA, says it isn't always applicable to other "addictions!" For example, when it gets misapplied to hard drugs, it has a 10% success rate which means 90% failure. So, I would NOT be impressed with a "treatment" regime that is not scientifically based and no just some co-opt of another process. [I]If you truly believe, it works![/I] What's that sound like? Jim Jones?

I consider myself to a be connoisseur of good looking women. In my mind out fun is not much different than some guy that goes out to pick up good looking women.

Personally I have cut back since there less supply and variety in SD and socal. Up until about 4 years ago SD used to have a ample supply of SW's. The police cracked down and chased away most of SW's on ECB. These days there is only a few BSW's and the occasional chunky LSW. Much of this is because the SW's insisted on working in small 5-7 area of ECB. So this made it very easy for the cops give them tickets and most of them go arrest warrants and left town and or arrested. The hunt for SW's is almost as exciting as the sex itself. The chance of finding a better looking SW was fun.

These days I head down to Tijuana roughly every 2 weeks depending on how the action is in Tijuana. As most of you know I prefer the US girls. This because they give better service and are willing to do more. The variety of WSW in the Zona has is limited. I also find that heading all the to Tijuana takes a lot out of me. The good thing however is that I always find a good WSW to satisfy my needs.

[QUOTE=Miketastic69;3230911]I don't classify myself a sex addict. I love pussy, and I like change. I picked a profession where I could travel and see new places and meet new people (USMC) and I have kept that going into retirement and in my new business. I have had the good fortune of traveling every week and had a lot of fun.

Now the sobering reality. I'm fucking broke. In a year where I've made the most money I ever have in life, I can barely pay for anything extra. I'm bleeding flowers, or Mario coins, or hearts, or chocolates and all the other things we call donations. I am trying to put my hobbying on pause but I am finding it hard. Maybe I do need to seek someone with a license on the wall to talk to.[/QUOTE]It took me a long time to admit (to myself) that I might have a problem with sex addiction. But I got there a while back. Admitted it to my psychiatrist. We talked about it, he said he didn't think I did. Huh? A few visits later I bring it up again and he says Ok, maybe you do, go see this guy. I called 5 X, left 5 messages that I'd like to make an appt., never heard from him.

Fast forward to last summer. The psychiatrist's license has been revoked. Overnight he's out of business. The reason: One of his female patients brought charges against him claiming inappropriate sexual behavior was happening in his office. He was a sex addict himself. Oh, did I mention his office was practically wall papered with diplomas, and licenses, and local and national awards.

It can happen to anyone. And does. So be careful if you get to the point where you seek out professional help.

IMHO, the fact that we're posting in this section asking questions indicates that we're at the edge but haven't decided if we want to get better or get laid.

I've read books. Taken a phone call with the author of a sex addiction book. He asked me how much I spend on this hobby. He said for that amount I could get plenty of professional help. He asked if I had insurance. I do but it doesn't cover addiction / mental issues adequately. I reasoned that if I had to pay for it out of my own pocket I would rather go find some pussy.

He says I haven't hit bottom yet. So it's a timing thing and a roll of the dice too. How lucky do I feel that I can continue this hobby before being exposed and my life exploding.

I think my luck is running out so I'm doing what helped me stop my other addictions. Tapering off. I'm making a conscious effort to stay away from paying for pussy. So far only one slip since Dec. 28.

It seems to be working but as any (recovering) addict knows, it's a slippery slope.

In the meantime I'm looking for help but not necessarily from a professional. I think it makes more sense to get help from someone who's been there done that.

For Lent I gave up visiting usasexguide.info

Didn't make it even 24 hrs.

[QUOTE=HeadFirst;3293626]For Lent I gave up visiting usasexguide.info

Didn't make it even 24 hrs.[/QUOTE]I've never given up USASG for lent, but I have sworn it off, only to be back in about 2 or 3 days.

[QUOTE=UOnlyLiveOnce;3318960]I've never given up USASG for lent, but I have sworn it off, only to be back in about 2 or 3 days.[/QUOTE]Replaced USASG with Facebook for Lent and I got back on track.

Fall down 7 times, Get up 8.

1st I seen.

[URL]http://louisville.backpage.com/WomenSeekMen/let-me-come-to-you/12251741[/URL]

Great service, the splits thing had me sold. She laid on her stomach and did the splits while I went to never had anyone do that, better looking in person,.

Katie, Mandy Mo or whatever she goes by. Service was rushed. Felt sketchy on location but all went well and got out safe. I believe someone else was in the apartment. It was located off Rockford lane. Cover she had none. Her number is a 994. I mentioned this girl in q post a few days ago.

Last but definitely the best.

BBW Samantha saw her on fernvalley, she's got a 369 number beautiful thick girl, best personality of anyone I've ever seen. She tops Mia on personality. Very vocal not at all a clock watcher. I damn sure went well over my time. I must say she's my newest favorite.

I believe I've been in this game way to long and I'm going to try and retire. I'm going to head out and seek some help for addiction. I believe this is a addictive game and not the safest. I've been at it since 98 and that way to long. I feel my luck might run out. I'm looking for any possible referrals for addiction help I've realize I'm a sex addict as prob a lot of us are. Good luck and be safe.

[QUOTE=Automan;3343468]1st I seen.

[URL]http://louisville.backpage.com/WomenSeekMen/let-me-come-to-you/12251741[/URL]

Great service, the splits thing had me sold. She laid on her stomach and did the splits while I went to never had anyone do that, better looking in person,.

Katie, Mandy Mo or whatever she goes by. Service was rushed. Felt sketchy on location but all went well and got out safe. I believe someone else was in the apartment. It was located off Rockford lane. Cover she had none. Her number is a 994. I mentioned this girl in q post a few days ago.

Last but definitely the best.

BBW Samantha saw her on fernvalley, she's got a 369 number beautiful thick girl, best personality of anyone I've ever seen. She tops Mia on personality. Very vocal not at all a clock watcher. I damn sure went well over my time. I must say she's my newest favorite.

I believe I've been in this game way to long and I'm going to try and retire. I'm going to head out and seek some help for addiction. I believe this is a addictive game and not the safest. I've been at it since 98 and that way to long. I feel my luck might run out. I'm looking for any possible referrals for addiction help I've realize I'm a sex addict as prob a lot of us are. Good luck and be safe.[/QUOTE]I too have been in the game about the same length of time, at times I've thought the same. Don't think I can completely give it up yet, but did take a recent break, I made it 29 days and completely understand. It can be very addictive and you have to control it like any other addiction. I took about a month long break and my goal is now just 1 appointment a week. I wish you the best and appreciate your help in the last year. Good luck man, and keep in touch!

HC.

[QUOTE=HoosierCream;3343882]I too have been in the game about the same length of time, at times I've thought the same. Don't think I can completely give it up yet, but did take a recent break, I made it 29 days and completely understand. It can be very addictive and you have to control it like any other addiction. I took about a month long break and my goal is now just 1 appointment a week. I wish you the best and appreciate your help in the last year. Good luck man, and keep in touch!

HC.[/QUOTE]I think I might gotten addicted to hs hobby also. After getting divorced about 2 years ago a buddy of mine introduced me to backpage and I went a little crazy. I was averaging 2 providers a day for 3 to 4 times a week. I am pretty easy going and not bad looking so a lot of providers I saw and had great chemistry with actually started contacting fairly often and it got harder and harder to say no. A couple of times I even saw 4 in a 24 hour period. Even with the super discounted rates they were giving me I did not want to get financially ruined and realized that just like any other drug it could lead to that. In the last month I started evaluating my condition and decided to back off. I love to fish and play golf also so I decided to concentrate on those hobbies instead. I found out that I started enjoying my sessions with my favorite providers more and now I am only in this hobby once or twice a week. To those of you that might fall in the same pattern I did get some professional help if necessary. I stopped myself but was willing to ask for help if necessary. Keep in mind that everything in moderation is always more enjoyable. Good luck and stay safe.

P.

I think the addiction stems from too much disposable income. I used to have the same problem, still kind of do. But I found that the more bills I have to pay, the less likely I am to even think about seeing a provider. And when I do, due to the financial limits I placed on myself, I seek out girls I've seen before and really enjoyed. I rarely ever see new girls often because it's too expensive.

Just for example, I totaled my car not too long ago and am now stuck with making car payments again and increased premium. That, I didn't foresee, so the money I was using to fill my addiction crave to prostitutes, I no longer have unless I want to go in even more debt and worst. We all have biological needs so either we can get a girlfriend or fuck prostitutes. I don't like jacking off because it just leaves me feeling even more deprived. Sure, some people have a lot of money and don't have to worry about balancing a budget for paying for pussy routinely, but that is not me. So I try to use discipline to break the habit. Willpower alone and money burning that hole in your pocket are always a bad combination.

Now that I think about it, if I had more discipline in the beginning, I wouldn't have spent so much on this stuff. You really don't see how this clouds your brain in everyday life until you start trying to get clean. It's kind of like porn, except we have an unlimited access to real pussy we just call and pay up for any time of the day. So why should we try pursing girls outside of this? No reason. Except that this can become a real addiction and cloud your judgement and the way your brain operates. It's very weird in all honesty.

[QUOTE=JustFriends;3346749]I think the addiction stems from too much disposable income. I used to have the same problem, still kind of do. But I found that the more bills I have to pay, the less likely I am to even think about seeing a provider. And when I do, due to the financial limits I placed on myself, I seek out girls I've seen before and really enjoyed. I rarely ever see new girls often because it's too expensive.

Just for example, I totaled my car not too long ago and am now stuck with making car payments again and increased premium. That, I didn't foresee, so the money I was using to fill my addiction crave to prostitutes, I no longer have unless I want to go in even more debt and worst. We all have biological needs so either we can get a girlfriend or fuck prostitutes. I don't like jacking off because it just leaves me feeling even more deprived. Sure, some people have a lot of money and don't have to worry about balancing a budget for paying for pussy routinely, but that is not me. So I try to use discipline to break the habit. Willpower alone and money burning that hole in your pocket are always a bad combination.

Now that I think about it, if I had more discipline in the beginning, I wouldn't have spent so much on this stuff. You really don't see how this clouds your brain in everyday life until you start trying to get clean. It's kind of like porn, except we have an unlimited access to real pussy we just call and pay up for any time of the day. So why should we try pursing girls outside of this? No reason. Except that this can become a real addiction and cloud your judgement and the way your brain operates. It's very weird in all honesty.[/QUOTE]Thanks, to the members that are addressing the white elephant in the room. I imagine this is more of an addiction than hobby for most of us, but difficult to admit because of the shame often felt with addiction. Sexual feelings and desires are natural and important, but we don't want those feelings and desires to jeopardize our chances of happiness in life. I would suggest a section to address and share addiction concerns with other members. Hobby or Addiction, Bro's or Ho's, Tits or Ass- We should all support the wellbeing of everyone. Just a thought.

[QUOTE=JustFriends;3346749]I think the addiction stems from too much disposable income. I used to have the same problem, still kind of do. But I found that the more bills I have to pay, the less likely I am to even think about seeing a provider. And when I do, due to the financial limits I placed on myself, I seek out girls I've seen before and really enjoyed. I rarely ever see new girls often because it's too expensive.

Just for example, I totaled my car not too long ago and am now stuck with making car payments again and increased premium. That, I didn't foresee, so the money I was using to fill my addiction crave to prostitutes, I no longer have unless I want to go in even more debt and worst. We all have biological needs so either we can get a girlfriend or fuck prostitutes. I don't like jacking off because it just leaves me feeling even more deprived. Sure, some people have a lot of money and don't have to worry about balancing a budget for paying for pussy routinely, but that is not me. So I try to use discipline to break the habit. Willpower alone and money burning that hole in your pocket are always a bad combination.

Now that I think about it, if I had more discipline in the beginning, I wouldn't have spent so much on this stuff. You really don't see how this clouds your brain in everyday life until you start trying to get clean. It's kind of like porn, except we have an unlimited access to real pussy we just call and pay up for any time of the day. So why should we try pursing girls outside of this? No reason. Except that this can become a real addiction and cloud your judgement and the way your brain operates. It's very weird in all honesty.[/QUOTE]If you date women your going to spend 120.00 every night on them. To me I would rather have one young sexy lady that I can call two times a week. I am 56 and been called handsome, but really I know I would never be able to have a young sexy lady as I did when I was 35. I am two time married and divorced and NOT looking for a third marriage. I guess what I am saying we (men) are going to pay either way, so why not have a thin, sexy, firm young 20 year old to cuddle up with?? Lukos.

[QUOTE=JustFriends;3346749]I think the addiction stems from too much disposable income. I used to have the same problem, still kind of do. But I found that the more bills I have to pay, the less likely I am to even think about seeing a provider. And when I do, due to the financial limits I placed on myself, I seek out girls I've seen before and really enjoyed. I rarely ever see new girls often because it's too expensive.

Just for example, I totaled my car not too long ago and am now stuck with making car payments again and increased premium. That, I didn't foresee, so the money I was using to fill my addiction crave to prostitutes, I no longer have unless I want to go in even more debt and worst. We all have biological needs so either we can get a girlfriend or fuck prostitutes. I don't like jacking off because it just leaves me feeling even more deprived. Sure, some people have a lot of money and don't have to worry about balancing a budget for paying for pussy routinely, but that is not me. So I try to use discipline to break the habit. Willpower alone and money burning that hole in your pocket are always a bad combination.

Now that I think about it, if I had more discipline in the beginning, I wouldn't have spent so much on this stuff. You really don't see how this clouds your brain in everyday life until you start trying to get clean. It's kind of like porn, except we have an unlimited access to real pussy we just call and pay up for any time of the day. So why should we try pursing girls outside of this? No reason. Except that this can become a real addiction and cloud your judgement and the way your brain operates. It's very weird in all honesty.[/QUOTE]I would say that you are not an addict. If you have the will power to do the correct thing than you are under control. I would consider your use of the hobby as more of an luxury every now and then. In my younger years nothing would stop me from getting what I wanted. Until I had gotten what I wanted I was going to make a bad decision. I definitely went into debt playing in the hobby. My rent was late, I missed car payments, I couldn't buy people gifts and it had an overall negative experience on my life. However If I needed my fix it didn't mater. Now that I am older and money is no longer an issue I don't seem to play as much. Funny how that works.

I think its different for all of us, however if we are honest with our selves the hobby for the most part is a negative in ones life. It affects all relationships most of the time and its hard to see things practically past the sexual experience. I think I have realized that as I have gotten older and I have tried to make changes for the most part. I still slip every now and then but not to the extent that I once did in the past.

I don't consider myself a sex addict because I do not go on the hunt for it. I'm not going broke, I'm not hurting my wife; if I need it or desire it, I work it into my own little budget.

I pay someone to touch me once a month. I want to be caressed, my lips to be sucked on, my neck to be kissed; just to feel her mess my hair up, look into my eyes, smile at me.

I want to feel passion and elation of being the most important person in someone's life, if just for an hour.

I do not get that at home.

I long to be touched and kissed. And therefore, I am willing to pay for it on a monthly basis. I feel it keeps me sane in this too crazy world.

If that's an addiction, then ok. I'm good with it. As long as I'm not putting another human in danger, humiliation, drama.

Any information on this one?

[URL]http://louisville.backpage.com/WomenSeekMen/daddys-little-girl-louisville-5-5-5-8-100-real-life-fun-size-treat/12730168[/URL]

I've been in 12-step groups for Sex Addiction off and on over the years and have seen people who want to stop, and stay stopped, having success. Maybe didn't work for you, but works for others and would work for me if I was willing. So speak for yourself, but please don't try to force your opinion on others. That's not to say a therapist, or some combination might work for someone. To each his own. The point is if it's out of control and messing up your life, you find out what works and do it. For some, that will be 12 step.

[QUOTE=Redneck3565;3262647]If you DO have a "problem" by whatever definition YIOU determine it to be, see a therapist, and STAY AWAY FROM ANY AND ALL "12 Step Groups" like "SAA" (Sex Addicts Alnonymous), or "Love and Sex Addicts Anonymous). They believe that "sex" is a "character defect" and can be "fixed" with "spirituality". Its the biggest bullshit of a "recovery group" since its close cousins, AA and NA were excreted into existence![/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=TwistedBrother;3419597]I've been in 12-step groups for Sex Addiction off and on over the years and have seen people who want to stop, and stay stopped, having success. Maybe didn't work for you, but works for others and would work for me if I was willing. So speak for yourself, but please don't try to force your opinion on others. That's not to say a therapist, or some combination might work for someone. To each his own. The point is if it's out of control and messing up your life, you find out what works and do it. For some, that will be 12 step.[/QUOTE]Exactly what types of problems are people in those groups for? Are they mostly run of the mill mongers like us? I can relate to mongers like me who pursue adult women, but I want nothing to do with true sex offenders who have either been to jail or ought to be in jail.

Any sex parties in LA?

[QUOTE=MrChooShoes;3371314]I don't consider myself a sex addict because I do not go on the hunt for it. I'm not going broke, I'm not hurting my wife; if I need it or desire it, I work it into my own little budget.

I pay someone to touch me once a month. I want to be caressed, my lips to be sucked on, my neck to be kissed; just to feel her mess my hair up, look into my eyes, smile at me.

I want to feel passion and elation of being the most important person in someone's life, if just for an hour.

I do not get that at home.

I long to be touched and kissed. And therefore, I am willing to pay for it on a monthly basis. I feel it keeps me sane in this too crazy world.

If that's an addiction, then ok. I'm good with it. As long as I'm not putting another human in danger, humiliation, drama.[/QUOTE]Did you bother to post in this thread?

[QUOTE=UOnlyLiveOnce;3421725]Exactly what types of problems are people in those groups for? Are they mostly run of the mill mongers like us? I can relate to mongers like me who pursue adult women, but I want nothing to do with true sex offenders who have either been to jail or ought to be in jail.[/QUOTE]It can be either or other; it doesn't really matter what the behavior is as it relates to sex. It's that you want to stop and you can't. It could be doing horrible, damaging things to others that could land you a life term, or it could be watching porn on your computer and consensual flirting with co-workers. If you want to control it, or stop it, and you can't, then it's like drinking, drugging, etc. That's somewhat simplistic, but that's the gist of it.

[QUOTE=TwistedBrother;3486962]It can be either or other; it doesn't really matter what the behavior is as it relates to sex. It's that you want to stop and you can't. It could be doing horrible, damaging things to others that could land you a life term, or it could be watching porn on your computer and consensual flirting with co-workers. If you want to control it, or stop it, and you can't, then it's like drinking, drugging, etc. That's somewhat simplistic, but that's the gist of it.[/QUOTE]The idea that a person somehow "can't stop" an alleged "compulsive" behavior, or a substance abuse addiction is NONSENSE and MORONIC IDIOCY perpetrated by the advocates of "12 Steppism". The "true believers" of "12 Steppism" believe that someone is allegedly "powerless" over the ingestion of a substance, or engaging in a VOLUNTARY ACTIVITY, like promiscuous sexual behavior. And yet the fact that a person engaging in such activity CAN STOP-for even ONE SECOND-proves that the person CAN STOP! Staying stopped is a different issue, but there is ALWAYS STOPPING! THAT indicates there is SOME level of POWER! The idea of "powerlessness" over what a person WILLINGLY ENGAGES IN is the most moronic thought put into modern psychology. Whether it is over a drug or an activity. There is ALWAYS the choice to CONTINUE, MODERATE, or OUTRIGHT STOP! Each and every time!

[QUOTE=Redneck3565;3487045]Staying stopped is a different issue There is ALWAYS the choice to CONTINUE, MODERATE, or OUTRIGHT STOP! Each and every time![/QUOTE]STAYING stopped is the goal. How we achieve that is different for each of us.

When I stopped drinking it was overnight. Same with drugs. Now that I'm diabetic I have to use this same method for staying off of sugar (because there's no way in Hell I can eat just one cookie).

For smoking I used the taper method. Once I was able to get to 1 an hour I then stopped completely.

For this activity, after 27+ years, I've tried to stop but can't even make it to get a 30 day chip. So I've been doing the taper down (over 8 months) and have gone from 2-6 X a week to averaging once every 10-14 days. I've given myself all the time I need to do this and so far so good. A side effect of of not indulging is that's it's getting me to consider getting into a healthy relationship again so that's positive.

Having a very strong 'why' is key to success in this endeavor (and any endeavor) and not wanting to be exposed of this sometimes nasty behavior is working for me.

[QUOTE=HeadFirst;3548847]STAYING stopped is the goal. How we achieve that is different for each of us.

When I stopped drinking it was overnight. Same with drugs. Now that I'm diabetic I have to use this same method for staying off of sugar (because there's no way in Hell I can eat just one cookie).

For smoking I used the taper method. Once I was able to get to 1 an hour I then stopped completely.

For this activity, after 27+ years, I've tried to stop but can't even make it to get a 30 day chip. So I've been doing the taper down (over 8 months) and have gone from 2-6 X a week to averaging once every 10-14 days. I've given myself all the time I need to do this and so far so good. A side effect of of not indulging is that's it's getting me to consider getting into a healthy relationship again so that's positive.

Having a very strong 'why' is key to success in this endeavor (and any endeavor) and not wanting to be exposed of this sometimes nasty behavior is working for me.[/QUOTE]Head First, all of what you said is of help to me. I've been strip clubbing for almost 7 years, it's been fun throughout the duration. Sure been some "heartbreaks and disappointments", but fun 97% of the time. I can't spend the time traveling and being at the clubs anymore. If I do I'll be busted sooner or later. Frequency for me lately 2-3 x per week. I've tried to say 2 x per month to myself but can't seem to stick to it. Your insight is appreciated.

[QUOTE=Midwt2006;3567140]Head First, all of what you said is of help to me. I've been strip clubbing for almost 7 years, it's been fun throughout the duration. Sure been some "heartbreaks and disappointments", but fun 97% of the time. I can't spend the time traveling and being at the clubs anymore. If I do I'll be busted sooner or later. Frequency for me lately 2-3 x per week. I've tried to say 2 x per month to myself but can't seem to stick to it. Your insight is appreciated.[/QUOTE]Yeah. I used to do the strip clubs. In my career as a monger it's at about the half way point. Looking back it didn't amount to many happy endings but it did help to transfer lots of my hard earned into the purses of some very pretty girls. Eventually I wised up to their game and settled into ***** houses, Reader, Gentleman pages, BP and CL girls. Now pretty much AMP's.

If you're hitting these places 2-3 X a week and wanting to cut back to 2-3 X a month, that's a good goal. But a hard one. If it's not working out for you, don't give up. Re evaluate and adjust. Maybe shoot for staying away for a week in the beginning. Then 10 days. 2 weeks. Then 3. Try to get to a month. See what happens.

Compare it with training to run a marathon. You don't go out and one day decide you want to run 26.2 miles and the next day do it. You got to prepare and condition. Same here.

What helped me also at one time was taking anti depressants. They zapped the hell out of my libido so in that respect they worked. But at the time I was married so I stopped taking them for fear of my ex straying.

You mentioned that you have fun 97% of the time. So you have to consider replacing whatever amount of fun you're going to give up with a different type of fun. When it comes right down to it I believe a lot of us use this hobby as a reward to ourselves for for something we think we deserve being rewarded for. Find something equally as fun to reward yourself. Go fishing. Or golfing. Maybe a concert. Buy a new car for yourself. Do something you've always wanted too.

This is a tough one to kick. I've gotten down to once a week /10 days, sometimes 2 weeks and I'm okay with that right now. Many people have done it before me and I want to join that group some day. Because if my daughter ever found out what her father does sometimes, I would never be able to look her in the eyes again (and vice versa) without her thinking what a pervert I am.

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[QUOTE=HeadFirst;3570409]Yeah. I used to do the strip clubs. In my career as a monger it's at about the half way point. Looking back it didn't amount to many happy endings but it did help to transfer lots of my hard earned into the purses of some very pretty girls. Eventually I wised up to their game and settled into ***** houses, Reader, Gentleman pages, BP and CL girls. Now pretty much AMP's.

If you're hitting these places 2-3 X a week and wanting to cut back to 2-3 X a month, that's a good goal. But a hard one. If it's not working out for you, don't give up. Re evaluate and adjust. Maybe shoot for staying away for a week in the beginning. Then 10 days. 2 weeks. Then 3. Try to get to a month. See what happens.

Compare it with training to run a marathon. You don't go out and one day decide you want to run 26.2 miles and the next day do it. You got to prepare and condition. Same here.

What helped me also at one time was taking anti depressants. They zapped the hell out of my libido so in that respect they worked. But at the time I was married so I stopped taking them for fear of my ex straying.

You mentioned that you have fun 97% of the time. So you have to consider replacing whatever amount of fun you're going to give up with a different type of fun. When it comes right down to it I believe a lot of us use this hobby as a reward to ourselves for for something we think we deserve being rewarded for. Find something equally as fun to reward yourself. Go fishing. Or golfing. Maybe a concert. Buy a new car for yourself. Do something you've always wanted too.

This is a tough one to kick. I've gotten down to once a week /10 days, sometimes 2 weeks and I'm okay with that right now. Many people have done it before me and I want to join that group some day. Because if my daughter ever found out what her father does sometimes, I would never be able to look her in the eyes again (and vice versa) without her thinking what a pervert I am.[/QUOTE]Wow. Wow! Really its a great piece of advice. True from every word of it.

Also another approach you could take is to stop abruptly. I mean a complete stop. I did that successfully with my cigarette smoking addiction and my monger addiction. Just stop it. Don't do it and mentally tell yourself, you are never going to do it again. It might help. It's easier said than done, but worth trying.