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[QUOTE=ErnestLl;5466444]And no explaining a key for a hotel that is unique to our town.
And every book / counselor / etc about overcoming infidelity says you have to admit it to move forward.[/QUOTE]That's like getting arrested and them telling you it be better if you admit it. Maybe it worked for you but my motto is stfu when confronted. They could have me on video and it ain't me I don't know. Book or counselors obviously don't know women. She gunna bring that shit up forever. Good luck.
I have a potential good situation and just wonder if anyone has attempted this. A very cute girl on a local Facebook group posted that she was looking for a job. Has anyone ever approached a girl out of the blue about being a potential SB in this type of scenario? If so what was your opening lines? Also I have an alternate FB profile that doesn't have any pics or real info about me. Thanks.
[QUOTE=WilyBird63;5468128]I have a potential good situation and just wonder if anyone has attempted this. A very cute girl on a local Facebook group posted that she was looking for a job. Has anyone ever approached a girl out of the blue about being a potential SB in this type of scenario? If so what was your opening lines? Also I have an alternate FB profile that doesn't have any pics or real info about me. Thanks.[/QUOTE]I have a family member that does that. He just sends them a message asking if they need help. He sometimes tells them he needs them to come over to his house to help with tasks. Kinda lays it out there without outright saying it. He mainly sends messages to girls who use to be addicts or strippers. So, I'm not sure how this girl fits the mold.
[QUOTE=WilyBird63;5468128]I have a potential good situation and just wonder if anyone has attempted this. A very cute girl on a local Facebook group posted that she was looking for a job. Has anyone ever approached a girl out of the blue about being a potential SB in this type of scenario? If so what was your opening lines? Also I have an alternate FB profile that doesn't have any pics or real info about me. Thanks.[/QUOTE]Yes. It can be done == but go very slowly -- do not scare them off -- and ask in such a way as it can be misconstrued and you can back away. No danger to you as such. But FB may put you in FB jail if you are too direct and she reports you.
Drop hints and see if she bites -- if she is interested, she will tell you. No need to be obvious!
SA.
[QUOTE=Jcn1965;5466985]That's like getting arrested and them telling you it be better if you admit it. Maybe it worked for you but my motto is stfu when confronted. They could have me on video and it ain't me I don't know. Book or counselors obviously don't know women. She gunna bring that shit up forever. Good luck.[/QUOTE]Police and wives are different. No rules of evidence apply in marriages. I doubt you could deny and let it go without a reasonable explanation of why there's a local hotel key in your pocket. Pre-covid, I traveled 75% of the time. A hotel key from a national chain floating around in my stuff was just another day ending in the letter "Y". A local hotel? That would be weird.
Again, I don't have an SO, so I can't say for sure.
[QUOTE=Jcn1965;5465747]Deny deny deny. It's always gonna be in their head but as long as you never admitted it they really not sure.[/QUOTE]Gentlemen,
I present you to you. The Crisis Control Plan.
1. Silence.
If you know about it, stay quiet.
. . . Until evidence is presented.
2. Flat denial.
Denial – "That doesn't seem right," "Really?" or "I can't believe that. ".
Answer questions honestly, but do not provide additional information.
Sympathize with any victims.
Use delay tactics.
. . Until reasonable evidence is presented.
3. Angry denial.
Staunch angry denial – "How can you believe that?" or "Are you serious?" or "This seems so silly and out of the ordinary. "
Seek to show plausible deniability.
Identify the accuser and begin research.
Continue delay tactics.
. . Until evidence is overwhelming.
DENY, DENY, DENY.
While you are HAIR SPLITTING THE EVIDENCE.
Attack the evidence with hair splitting, nit-picking definitions and the reasonings, "What exactly do you mean by _ or "You obviously haven't considered _ or "This is a very sensitive situation" . . .
Include defining motives and alibis: Why and Where.
Identify the scapegoat.
Continue delay tactics.
. . MEANWHILE.
As you are actively STALLING FOR TIME, insist on the complete use of due process. Insist on viewing the documentation and evidence and meeting the accuser. Prepare for offense engagement with thorough informational research of the accuser and the scapegoat.
5. VIGOROUS ATTACK OF THE ACCUSER.
Make your attack from all angles, motives, and possible motives. "So what do you have to gain from this?" "You've been looking for your chance", or "You are not telling the truth. " Do whatever possible to discredit the accuser.
6. PRESENT THE SCAPEGOAT.
Shift the blame to another. Blame several others and by any means possible.
Cloud the issue with alternate theories and reasonable doubt.
7. ADMISSION & APOLOGIZE.
As a last possible circumstance, reluctantly and shamefully admit that a misunderstanding has been made. Provide rationale (s), vigorously apologize, claim you have learned from your mistake (s), pay fines / fees, and beg for forgiveness.
8. RE-DIRECT.
Quickly redirect attention to other matters.
[QUOTE=ErnestLl;5464886]I was careless / stupid.
Hotel key was found.[/QUOTE]I keep a stack of about 50 key cards--and there are others around the house. Now, it's no big deal if there's a stray key card laying around.
[QUOTE=TodaysNooner;5468584]Gentlemen,
I present you to you. The Crisis Control Plan.
1. Silence.
If you know about it, stay quiet.
. . . Until evidence is presented.
2. Flat denial.
Denial "That doesn't seem right," "Really?" or "I can't believe that. ".
Answer questions honestly, but do not provide additional information.
Sympathize with any victims.
Use delay tactics.
. . Until reasonable evidence is presented.
3. Angry denial.
Staunch angry denial "How can you believe that?" or "Are you serious?" or "This seems so silly and out of the ordinary. "
Seek to show plausible deniability.[/QUOTE]That's pretty good except at end admission lmao. There is no way I'm admitting to anything because once you do it's pretty much over. A good women or man for that matter can forgive a lot of crap but cheating is not one of them. Most times there's no coming back from the mistrust because every time you go out or your late that is rolling around in their brain. Good luck be safe be smart.
[QUOTE=Jcn1965;5470636]That's pretty good except at end admission lmao. There is no way I'm admitting to anything because once you do it's pretty much over. A good women or man for that matter can forgive a lot of crap but cheating is not one of them. Most times there's no coming back from the mistrust because every time you go out or your late that is rolling around in their brain. Good luck be safe be smart.[/QUOTE]I'm not a good judge of significant others, but seriously, if you have one that will let it go just because you refuse to confess, then I'd offer that you married poorly. Or very successfully depending on what you really want in a partner. LOL.
[QUOTE=Jcn1965;5470636]That's pretty good except at end admission lmao. There is no way I'm admitting to anything because once you do it's pretty much over. A good women or man for that matter [b]can forgive a lot of crap but cheating is not one of them. Most times there's no coming back from the mistrust because every time you go out or your late that is rolling around in their brain.[/b] Good luck be safe be smart.[/QUOTE]Just saying, that if someone truly forgives then there should be no more or the "coming back" stuff. If she can't forgive then yeah, you have the sword of Damocles hanging over your head.
I knew a dude who had a high leverage job and often was sanctioned by management to go get a room, so there was quiet for their work. So there was a reason for key cards in the briefcase.
[QUOTE=ErnestLl;5464886]
Hotel key was found.[/QUOTE]I know -- this is how it happens. Something little. 98% of the time I leave the key in the room when I leave; one less thing to remember. But I've put it in my pocket and found it later.
Leave the key. Don't take a printed receipt. You don't even need to stop at the desk to check out. I make a beeline for the door; also reduces chances of running into someone I know if I'm in my home area.
If you buy condoms and don't use them, throw them away. Stop and buy more next time. Don't have them found for trying to save $6. 00 or whatever.
[QUOTE=Shampoo55;5471254]Just saying, that if someone truly forgives then there should be no more or the "coming back" stuff. If she can't forgive then yeah, you have the sword of Damocles hanging over your head.
I knew a dude who had a high leverage job and often was sanctioned by management to go get a room, so there was quiet for their work. So there was a reason for key cards in the briefcase.[/QUOTE]We talking about women though. Not sure how many serious relationships anybody has been in but in my experience women don't forget nothing and will bring it up at anytime. Now maybe you have that perfect women and relationship but then you got to ask yourself why you cheating? Right now I have no SO so no skin in this discussion just my experience with opposite sex. Be safe.
[QUOTE=Bran001;5471485] Something little[/QUOTE]Yep, its never an SO following you to the hotel or walking in to you office while the "temp" is bent over your desk.
[QUOTE=Bran001;5471485] 98% of the time I leave the key in the room when I leave; one less thing to remember. But I've put it in my pocket and found it later.[/QUOTE]I usually get them to book it in their name, so there is no receipt and THEY are the ones checking in, but only if I am doing the PM / AM double header do I ever take a key.
[QUOTE=Bran001;5471485]You don't even need to stop at the desk to check out. I make a beeline for the door; also reduces chances of running into someone I know if I'm in my home area.[/QUOTE]Yep, and even worse in a smaller towns in Central VA. I won't book rooms locally -- don't need the papertrail. 90% of the time I know the SBs real name and book it in their name via [URL]Hotels.com[/URL] and once I trust them I can paypal them the $$ to book, but lingering ina lobby while a clueless clerk takes their time and tries to make small talk is a nightmare. Plus, in most hotels now, the name on the registration is what shows up on the TV for video check out, so you don't want an SB able to look for QVC and find your name!
[QUOTE=Bran001;5471485] If you buy condoms and don't use them, throw them away. Stop and buy more next time. Don't have them found for trying to save $6. 00 or whatever.[/QUOTE]Yep Being cheap will bite you in the ass. Don't bother trying to get points for hotel stays eitehr!
[QUOTE=BobLobLa;5471549]Plus, in most hotels now, the name on the registration is what shows up on the TV [/QUOTE]In some chains the name is on the TV from the moment of check-in. It's usually on the screen along with some annoying music, so I make a beeline for the remote and click it off. Super annoying and a reason to avoid those chains if possible. I forget which ones do that; I don't THINK the Marriott chains do.
[QUOTE=Bran001;5471647]In some chains the name is on the TV from the moment of check-in. It's usually on the screen along with some annoying music, so I make a beeline for the remote and click it off. Super annoying and a reason to avoid those chains if possible. I forget which ones do that; I don't THINK the Marriott chains do.[/QUOTE]Hilton I think does it.