I got scammed and extorted
Hello guys,
I wanted to give a warning. I have a significant other. I love my marriage and wife but our sex life has declined as she has gone through menopause. So I have turned to SA and other outlets.
I previously found a like minded woman on SA who was also married and her marriage had the same problem. So it was great with us, till it wasn't and we parted ways. So I searched for the same thing, 'Married but Looking'. I found someone who seemed interested and claimed to have the same issues as me. We took our conversation off line, she was using a number with a strange area code but said it was a work number but she also had said she worked in school system. I use google voice but when I tried to send pics it would not go through, so I used Textnow app (I should have noticed that, this meant I had to use something other than google voice). Google voice is more secure. She asked for pics and I sent some my best that were taken on vacation her response was to ask for a selfie taken right now so that she knew I wasn't scamming her and not a catfish. My spiddy sense went off so I asked for a voice call first. She didn't respond and after a little while I sent a selfie of me in my backyard against my better judgement. She responded with similar photos. She continued with just day to day type conversation. I felt it was just normal conversation. She mentioned that this was her second affair and asked if I had done it before, I said yes (now she has historical incriminating info). She asked about details of my previous arrangement, like payment and what are my preferences and kinks (more historical incriminating info). Then some more adult photos came and she asked for some of me (my photos didn't include my face but were taken at my house and background can be identified, more incriminating info). This is all over less than 48 hours.
Then on my way to work the next morning I get a text message to my google voice and textnow app from a new number with screen shots of my SA profile, my messages, the pictures I had sent, my wife's facebook page, and my facebook page. The messages from a seemed to be a angry husband. I did not respond but I soon got a call to my google voice number from the husband. He lit into me about the situation and told me he was private investigator and that he had caught his wife texting me with her work phone, I remained calm and apologized as much as possible. He goes on and on about what a shitty person I must be and what I have done to my wife and him. He says he is going to hang up now and call my wife. In the back of head I felt like something was off. He says he wants me to tell him why he shouldn't call my wife. I apologized and said what I could. He responds that he now has to divorce his wife and its unfair that he is burdened with this cost and that I should help him out. So I now I am pretty certain that I am being extorted but I am trapped he has my identity and my wife's identity. I am not a rich man or have tons of cash so I braced myself. His number was higher than I had onhand so he accepted what I could pay right now and said I would never hear from him again. I actually believe him on that.
After some research trying to determine how he got my info I discover that Textnow numbers can be researched and the identity of the owner can be found. I also made the mistake of not scrubbing the meta date off of the pictures I took from home. Metadata includes things like GPS coordinates and other such info. Take a look at the website Exif to see more. Finally I had my google number set up to forward calls to my regular number and if a call goes to voice mail the message has my full name on it. So between these things he had all he needed.
I won't say how much he got from me. I am leaving this here for others awareness and maybe caution some of you. It truly shook me and is the closest I have come to what could have been and might still be a life destroying event. I am rethinking my activity in the game.
Re: I got scammed and extorted
Wow. Sorry that this happened to you. Several mistakes. I hope others will learn from your mistakes. For Apple users, turn off Location Services for apps that do not have a need to know your location. I generally do not send pics of me. No way. Am too ugly. Hahaha. But I score as much as the best of us. I even give some of the women to my buddies. Nothing has my real name. Am not on Facebook. I have IG with a fake name just to follow beautiful women.
Am afraid this person may come back for more money.
Be carful out there.
Burner phone and never send pictures
[QUOTE=Schandl2;6416276]Hello guys,
I wanted to give a warning. I have a significant other. I love my marriage and wife but our sex life has declined as she has gone through menopause. So I have turned to SA and other outlets.
I previously found a like minded woman on SA who was also married and her marriage had the same problem. So it was great with us, till it wasn't and we parted ways. So I searched for the same thing, 'Married but Looking'. I found someone who seemed interested and claimed to have the same issues as me. We took our conversation off line, she was using a number with a strange area code but said it was a work number but she also had said she worked in school system. I use google voice but when I tried to send pics it would not go through, so I used Textnow app (I should have noticed that, this meant I had to use something other than google voice). Google voice is more secure. She asked for pics and I sent some my best that were taken on vacation her response was to ask for a selfie taken right now so that she knew I wasn't scamming her and not a catfish. My spiddy sense went off so I asked for a voice call first. She didn't respond and after a little while I sent a selfie of me in my backyard against my better judgement. She responded with similar photos. She continued with just day to day type conversation. I felt it was just normal conversation. She mentioned that this was her second affair and asked if I had done it before, I said yes (now she has historical incriminating info). She asked about details of my previous arrangement, like payment and what are my preferences and kinks (more historical incriminating info). Then some more adult photos came and she asked for some of me (my photos didn't include my face but were taken at my house and background can be identified, more incriminating info). This is all over less than 48 hours.
Then on my way to work the next morning I get a text message to my google voice and textnow app from a new number with screen shots of my SA profile, my messages, the pictures I had sent, my wife's facebook page, and my facebook page. The messages from a seemed to be a angry husband. I did not respond but I soon got a call to my google voice number from the husband. He lit into me about the situation and told me he was private investigator and that he had caught his wife texting me with her work phone, I remained calm and apologized as much as possible. He goes on and on about what a shitty person I must be and what I have done to my wife and him. He says he is going to hang up now and call my wife. In the back of head I felt like something was off. He says he wants me to tell him why he shouldn't call my wife. I apologized and said what I could. He responds that he now has to divorce his wife and its unfair that he is burdened with this cost and that I should help him out. So I now I am pretty certain that I am being extorted but I am trapped he has my identity and my wife's identity. I am not a rich man or have tons of cash so I braced myself. His number was higher than I had onhand so he accepted what I could pay right now and said I would never hear from him again. I actually believe him on that.
After some research trying to determine how he got my info I discover that Textnow numbers can be researched and the identity of the owner can be found. I also made the mistake of not scrubbing the meta date off of the pictures I took from home. Metadata includes things like GPS coordinates and other such info. Take a look at the website Exif to see more. Finally I had my google number set up to forward calls to my regular number and if a call goes to voice mail the message has my full name on it. So between these things he had all he needed.
I won't say how much he got from me. I am leaving this here for others awareness and maybe caution some of you. It truly shook me and is the closest I have come to what could have been and might still be a life destroying event. I am rethinking my activity in the game.[/QUOTE]I would definetly never send pictures or use my main number, always use a burner phone and find pictures of a guy that looks similar to you, that's what these girls do anyways. I had an issue back in the day with Asian Hotel, they would send me texts everytime they restocked the shelves. Its very annoying!
I would if it were any good
[QUOTE=GutterMind4;6420949]I think if that's all you're looking for, go get a SW or Asian message. This game is too expensive and time consuming for just some occasional head. Now if you like the chase and don't care about the time it takes, this is your arena. Just know that a lot of thes girls can make a lot from nothing on OF now, so you have to compete with local mongers AND national basement dwellers with no game. Good luck.[/QUOTE]
Pro quality around here are ghastly.
Warning About a Gastonia Girl
I usually post on the ATL board where I'm from, but I cast a wide net in my sugar search & play in the Carolinas too from time to time.
There is a girl operating out of Gastonia who's running a dine & dash scam that you need to know about. She blocked me before I could put a link to her profile, but she's 5'4" with long blonde hair & a great body too. Has about 10 pics of her in the bio & a couple in a bikini. Very nice.
We texted well for 2-3 weeks before I could get up to Gastonia & meet her, so she made efforts to establish trust & never asked for any advance money, which I wouldn't give anyway. She told me her deal is she wants to meet in a restaurant in Gastonia where I send 200 when I see her & then, once we get to know each other, she'll give me her home address & I send an additional 150 when I get to her place.
Yeah, I'm skeptical, but her pics are really hot. I make the 3 hr drive & see her at the restaurant. I send the 200 mid-lunch & then she excuses herself to the restroom. Yes, I'm highly suspicious at this point. Then she waltzes right out of the restroom & out into the parking lot & into a waiting car. Yep. So I quickly pay the restaurant bill & run out there, only to find a stupid note on my car windshield. I then call her & hear a dude's voice on the line while I'm talking to her, so she's got a POS bf in on this. Cash & dash.
I'm an experienced monger & fell for this, so please spare me the "you're a dumbass" comments. I know I fell for this hook, line & sinker. But I'm trying to do why'all a solid by warning you about her. I'm pissed as hell about it.
Seeking Benefits / Secret Benefits
[QUOTE=Cracker151;6368753]So I just recently discovered that secret benefits and seeking arraignment are in cohorts. Let me explain.
Last week I met this girl on Seeking Benefits. We were chatting it up and I asked her if she ever picked up a stalker on secret benefits. She proceed to be confused, and stated she isn't on Secret Benefits, but was talking to me through seeking arraignment (which I don't have). We even looked at each other chat logs and sure enough nothing matched up. So there is something odd going on between the two.
I also met up with someone I know from the local strip club who I mentioned the site to her. She mentioned she had deactivated her account last year due to stalkers, but somehow I got notification two days ago she admired my profile and visited. Go figure.
Also have you ever got a message from someone and it sounds like it's more of an answer versus an introduction? That's also due to the site sending ghost messages. Same also when your on the site, and you get these notifications all the same time: visitor, admirer, unlocked photos, unlocked photos request, and message. This is a Bot and you should just ignore it.
Your best bet to have the most luck is stick to verified accounts. But even those are compromised when they are duplicating and spring deactivated accounts. There are a handful of real girls, but majority of the profiles are fake or inactive and Also cross promoted.[/QUOTE]Just going to the homepage shows one is like a lead site, secret benefits the actual site.
Click around a bit and you find out.