Much more sad about you than me
[QUOTE=Jjbee62;3407952]The funny and sad thing is your disbelief is rooted in the fact such a thing could never happen to you.
Almost 4 years ago I was nice to a very sweet 18 yr old online. I talked to her, was respectful and she enjoyed my behavior. Over the following months I continued to be nice and we became friends. After being friends for over a year I decided to spend my vacation visiting her country.
We met, we talked and the whole time I was nice. She bought me lunch, bought me presents and introduced me to a friend. I returned home and we remained friends, in contact almost every day and I continued to be nice. She introduced me (online) to a few of her female friends and I was nice to them too.
Then about 6 months ago, she asked if I would consider moving to Colombia. She offered me a job and promised to put me in touch with the local version of Hugh Hefner (circa 1960) who also had a job for me. She told me she had a nice apartment for me, that I would share with one of her friends (who is almost 25, cute and sweet). I accepted.
I've been here for 8 weeks now. The weather is great, the apartment is great and my roommate is great. I've been introduced to a lot of people including the guy I'll just call Hugh. One of my neighbors is a top model who travels the world. In fact about 20 of my neighbors are models, most working for Hugh. Last week I conducted a training seminar for over 200 models, although all but 12 were watching online. I think they are calling me the new gringo and everyone is nice and friendly.
Last night, as a thank you, I invited my now 22 year old, gorgeous friend and her fiancee to dinner. We ate, talked and discussed plans for the future. Our dinner lasted for 2 hours and I picked up the tab, a whopping $32 at a very good restaurant. Today I'll be spending the holiday with my roommate's family (It's Ascension Day in Colombia).
As Sara said, I'm living the dream. Everywhere I go it's like I wandered into a beauty pageant. In Indy, I'd sit in a restaurant and rate the women, usually there was one or two 8's, sometimes a 9 and rarely a 10. Here, I rarely see a 7 or lower.
All because a long time ago I decided that being nice to people is better than being an asshole.[/QUOTE]First, that you keep spending as much time writing what is completely irrelevant and off-base for someone getting laid in paradise as much as you are.
Second, that you equate my discussion on this board as who I am, which tells me your identity must be tied up in your online persona. Mine isn't.
I don't believe I've ever had a woman, provider or otherwise, complain about my behavior or level of respect in person. I've had a few tiffs on here over the years with women who either didn't like my review AFTER meeting her, or didn't like my report of flakey, sketchy behavior or standing me up. And, the one FF keeps dishonestly bringing up, the AA provider named Kimmie on NR that fabricated a story of me stalking her (ask him about reports of him and I think Lisa? - I don't know the story but they weren't good, if true). Anyone that was on NR at the time probably remembers Kimmie's story, how she was confusing several user names and making an erroneous assumption that we were one in the same, and that she posted her own text records, that completely supported my own story that we had simply become text friends for awhile, she invited me out (only as friends), and then she turned psycho BEFORE WE EVER EVEN MET. The whole problem was that she wanted to go out and expected me to buy her dinner & drinks while she skeeved the bars for some civie action. She freaked out when I said I wasn't interested in financing her night out only to see her go home with someone else. I wasn't expecting her to go home with me, but wasn't interested in that. We never actually even met, as provider / client or otherwise. And I certainly never stalked her like FF keeps dishonestly trying to state.
In fact, I've sacrificed my "reputation" on here and on the old NR to defend or support providers. Some might remember a young Asian provider who was being trashed dishonestly in retaliation for leaving her handler. After much effort, I got the guy banned and her reputation straightened out.
And this whole dust up between FF and I started when I was told by another, well-trusted monger, that Lance gave a VERY different story about operation Leslie than is being reported now. While I do not have proof of that at all, the other party has zero motivation now or back then that I can see to fabricate anything. And as I read below, their story seems to. keep changing slightly also. The very different story came to me, not to gossip, but because FF was trying to begin "Operation Journey" and she did nothing to deserve what I was told he could be planning to do to her. In fact, he admitted to me via PM that he was contacting her on multiple numbers and "So what?" despite her lack of response and obvious unwillingness to meet him. All evidence I was getting and seeing supported the story I was being told. Now, I could have either done nothing and and let what I was told was going to happen proceed to someone I really liked and found innocent, or I could jump in and cause a stir and distraction to try to prevent it. I wasn't concerned with my "reputation" when considering what to do, and I still don't care. I also didn't expect to get an honest answer to a PM from someone planning what I was told he was planning, so that wasn't a viable option to protect her either.
Was the story I was given wrong? I'm still not convinced either way. I don't give a shit either. She was safe and mission accomplished, despite FF threatening me via PM to trash my reputation on the board and that other senior guys were questioning my integrity. Specifically, according to FF, HFoW, Illap, JohnnyZ and he supposedly had a discussion together about my behavior and how I'm not to be trusted. I've met two of the three years ago, along with another I won't name who is PM'ing me in support of what's going on. Was I a dick in their view back then? Not that I remember, and if they think so now, so be it.
As for being a dick, as you say JJbee, I have providers I've still maintained friendship with even though they're out of the hobby. I've had free overnights (offered, no way I could afford an overnight fee and didn't demand it or trade a review for it) despite only paying an hourly rate. Have I been guilty of asking someone out to drinks or dinner when I thought I clicked with her? Yup. Some turned me down, which was fine. Some didn't though. I wasn't asking for sex for free, just offered some time together out. I don't think that makes me sketchy either. Think what you want (or what FF tells you to think if you want, LOL). 'Don't feel bad about it nor that there was anything wrong with it. Hell, even "Stacy / M", who I've been warning people about, just texted me this morning. I've ignored the text, but she's aware of what I've said about her on here. A non-addict wouldn't be interested in seeing me after what I've reported about her, nor would she if I was such a dick in person, wouldn't you agree?
As for answering anything else on this subject, I've said all I plan to. Reply, respond, advise, haze, criticize, I don't care. I'm sure FF will have something to say and he can have at it. Anyone can think what they want of me and any provider reading these can feel any way they feel appropriate as well.
Peace out.