Quite enjoy reading your posts LOL
Hey SO,
Don't mean to kiss your ass. But I have been quite enjoying of reading your posts, especially those educational lectures. LOL. Great logic and good sentences structures. I would say sometimes I found this forum is a good place to advance my English level.
As a newbie on this forum, I support your points. Wish other newbies would understand, it's not a simple idea of "give before ask", it's more about safety.
UP.
[QUOTE=StressedOut;2818424]The whole senior member argument has come up more than a few times. While being 'senior' does offer some insight into how many posts a gent has it obviously does not get into the quality of the posts or the trustfulness of him / her. (unless our friend A2 checks into the quality of posts before elevating to senior) And lets face it we have had some meathead seniors as well as non senior members.
My non helpfulness with newbies most often stem from two things. The first is the statement that "I have been a lurker for quite awhile" or 'I have been to a bunch of places and I'm looking for' without having commented on any posts while lurking or having passed on any info of the places visited. And please go back and you will find that many / most usually have that sentence in the request. The second item is the question asked. Let's just look at the one recently asked by a newbie asking for a place to get a BBBBCIM in xxx. Really. That's like asking a woman her age. You are going to get slapped.
Now before I have pissed off newbies on my ass here is the number one reason I don't pass on info to newbies or non trusted members. If I have developed a friendship / relationship with a provider over time (and talking mostly non-AMP) then I am going to take her safety seriously. Just as I trust she will take my safety seriously I'm not going to put her in jeopardy by passing her info onto people I don't know or aren't sure of. Cause truth be told if someone I send or give her info to turns out to be a dickhead she will find out somehow I sent her and that will end my relationship very quickly. And it HAS happened. More times than I care to remember. Providers read the forum and know who we are.
So don't get bent out of shape. Take a chance. Go see someone or go someplace and report back. It isn't hard to get in our good graces.[/QUOTE]
Times have changed, Tougher to give quality reports
[QUOTE=StressedOut;2818424]The whole senior member argument has come up more than a few times. While being 'senior' does offer some insight into how many posts a gent has it obviously does not get into the quality of the posts or the trustfulness of him / her. (unless our friend A2 checks into the quality of posts before elevating to senior) And lets face it we have had some meathead seniors as well as non senior members.
My non helpfulness with newbies most often stem from two things. The first is the statement that "I have been a lurker for quite awhile" or 'I have been to a bunch of places and I'm looking for' without having commented on any posts while lurking or having passed on any info of the places visited. And please go back and you will find that many / most usually have that sentence in the request. The second item is the question asked. Let's just look at the one recently asked by a newbie asking for a place to get a BBBBCIM in xxx. Really. That's like asking a woman her age. You are going to get slapped.
Now before I have pissed off newbies on my ass here is the number one reason I don't pass on info to newbies or non trusted members. If I have developed a friendship / relationship with a provider over time (and talking mostly non-AMP) then I am going to take her safety seriously. Just as I trust she will take my safety seriously I'm not going to put her in jeopardy by passing her info onto people I don't know or aren't sure of. Cause truth be told if someone I send or give her info to turns out to be a dickhead she will find out somehow I sent her and that will end my relationship very quickly. And it HAS happened. More times than I care to remember. Providers read the forum and know who we are.
So don't get bent out of shape. Take a chance. Go see someone or go someplace and report back. It isn't hard to get in our good graces.[/QUOTE]RI AMP scene is now on the standing 8 count and the AMP / aamp scene in Boston area has past its peak years ago.
Visit is are now far and few between these days. You have to do your research and take your chances to go for it.
Sure you can churn out 20-30 posts in a couple of weeks of you simply ask questions.
SO sooo rightsharing discretion
[QUOTE=StressedOut;2818424]
Now before I have pissed off newbies on my ass here is the number one reason I don't pass on info to newbies or non trusted members. If I have developed a friendship / relationship with a provider over time (and talking mostly non-AMP) then I am going to take her safety seriously. Just as I trust she will take my safety seriously I'm not going to put her in jeopardy by passing her info onto people I don't know or aren't sure of. Cause truth be told if someone I send or give her info to turns out to be a dickhead she will find out somehow I sent her and that will end my relationship very quickly. And it HAS happened. More times than I care to remember. Providers read the forum and know who we are.
So don't get bent out of shape. Take a chance. Go see someone or go someplace and report back. It isn't hard to get in our good graces.[/QUOTE]SO,
So right,
About two weeks ago I reviewed a CL girl.
And no less than 4 newbie with less than 2 reviews hit me up for info. I didn't dismiss them, that said I explained less eloquently than you, that this is about safety for the ITR ladies as well as all ladies. 2 took it well and two not so much.
As I see it if you can't respect my respect for the ladies safety then I am right not on my instinct to not share with that particular person. I have keen a member for a little over a year and slowly but surely I have been developing a trusted group of guys who share and respect my recommendations. I am still building but I try sharing and being honest.
Your post expressed it perfectly.
Thanks for articulating it.