This IS the GENERAL discussion thread
[QUOTE=RichmondDude;1464118]All of you, or start a thread, so you guys can compare your stuff, and who is right and wrong. I even called said girl. She acted skidish, so I said later, these girls are like buses. You miss this one, theres another in 10 minutes. We all have freedom of choice. Sounds like alot of ego here to me.[/QUOTE]For discussion of general matters. The agreement of how referrals should be used seems to fall into the "General" category. It's not clogging up the Backpage, Massage, Escort, Streetwalker, Strip Club, or Craigslist thread. So if you don't want to take part in this discussion, and don't have an opinion on whether people should talk about the board or how they know the "friend" who passed along a girl's number, you can ignore it.
People who find and share girls with others, and those who get referrals, need to be clear on how the information is used. We say over and over that "this is a forum for sharing information," but if that information is not used according to people's expectations, they're going to stop sharing.
As far as Steveo41 saying "can't we just talk about the girls," for a guy with 3 reviews, who's had most of his posting career deleted by the admin, perhaps you could take your own advice.
Molly, if you have nothing constructive to contribute to the conversation, please step off. Neither Cantwin, Jimmy nor I are immature, and we're not having a pointless argument. This is an important issue that comes up in many cities, and needs to be cleared up. Your comment of "no wonder girls don't visit X city" is the standard chime-in of girls on almost every board I've read for the past 15 years. There are two factors in whether girls visit a city: the profit they leave with, and their personal safety. The discussions in this thread have no effect on whether or not girls visit Richmond, or any other city.
Finally, Cantwin, when I said the person who messed up Jimmy's deal should be banned, you had not stepped forward, so it wasn't directed at you. As far as the beanball, the likelihood of our facing each other across a plate is zero, so my saying it "would" happen in MLB is nothing more than an observation. I probably couldn't top 35 mph anyway, so even if I made a threat, it wouldn't have much credibility.
If anyone has an opinion on how referrals should be used, please share it here. If you don't care about the issue, there are a half-dozen other threads that we're keeping this discussion out of.
At the risk of being verbally attacked.
I thought I would share my opinion about this matter. I am new to the business, and very concerned with staying safe both from the law, and from the clients themselves. I had posted an ad on BP and gotten a lot of sketchy replies and had not met many clients. One day I saw a client who said he had some friends that he trusted and could help me get some more business if I didn't mind him giving out my number, and I agreed. He never mentioned this board but I found out that's what he meant when he said "some friends". I found out because a few days later someone called me and said they had gotten my number from a member on this board. He only told me because I pretty much demanded to know where he had gotten my number since I knew I wasn't advertising at the time anywhere. At first I was really confused, and a little alarmed, but he gave me the URL and I came and checked it out. I saw someone had posted a review on here and was exchanging my number with senior memebers. I can only assume the client who asked me if I'd like more business and the person who posted the review are one in the same.
I actually sent the person who had posted the review a PM to say thank you. I now have a way of getting clients who are pretty much pre-verified if they state that they are senior members of this board. I.almost exclusively- am happy to see such members as clients. Now I don't have to deal with shady BP or screen my dates so excessively. Personally, I am glad that he posted the review and gave my number to others. As far as the person who told me that this place existed, and how he got my number, I respected his honesty with me. I would've been totally sketched out had he not told me, and wondered where the hell he had gotten it. I probably wouldn't have returned his text / phone call had he not explained what USA sex guide is.
I can't see how any girl would stop seeing or be upset at a client for posting a review of her on here, or trading her number. I mean the way I see it, you are pretty much doing us a favor. Why would anyone be upset about that? Why would anyone stop seeing a client for attracting her more business that is a more safe that just random people reading your ad? Maybe some girls are more up-tight than I, but thats the way I feel about it. I could understand a provider getting upset at a negative review, but then the person probably wouldn't be trading her number and recommending her to anyone anyway, right?
No reason for anyone to attack you
[QUOTE=LittleMissy; 1465015]I thought I would share my opinion about this matter. I am new to the business, and very concerned with staying safe both from the law, and from the clients themselves. I had posted an ad on BP and gotten a lot of sketchy replies and had not met many clients. One day I saw a client who said he had some friends that he trusted and could help me get some more business if I didn't mind him giving out my number, and I agreed. He never mentioned this board but I found out that's what he meant when he said "some friends". I found out because a few days later someone called me and said they had gotten my number from a member on this board. He only told me because I pretty much demanded to know where he had gotten my number since I knew I wasn't advertising at the time anywhere. At first I was really confused, and a little alarmed, but he gave me the URL and I came and checked it out. I saw someone had posted a review on here and was exchanging my number with senior memebers. I can only assume the client who asked me if I'd like more business and the person who posted the review are one in the same.
I actually sent the person who had posted the review a PM to say thank you. I now have a way of getting clients who are pretty much pre-verified if they state that they are senior members of this board. I. Almost exclusively- am happy to see such members as clients. Now I don't have to deal with shady BP or screen my dates so excessively. Personally, I am glad that he posted the review and gave my number to others. As far as the person who told me that this place existed, and how he got my number, I respected his honesty with me. I would've been totally sketched out had he not told me, and wondered where the hell he had gotten it. I probably wouldn't have returned his text / phone call had he not explained what USA sex guide is.
I can't see how any girl would stop seeing or be upset at a client for posting a review of her on here, or trading her number. I mean the way I see it, you are pretty much doing us a favor. Why would anyone be upset about that? Why would anyone stop seeing a client for attracting her more business that is a more safe that just random people reading your ad? Maybe some girls are more up-tight than I, but thats the way I feel about it. I could understand a provider getting upset at a negative review, but then the person probably wouldn't be trading her number and recommending her to anyone anyway, right?[/QUOTE]I think people are more concerned about sharing information on UTR (under the radar) girls they may have found on craigslist, and are mostly concerned about not having someone connect their board name to a face. In your case, it worked out OK, but guys are worried about blowback, or in some cases, possibly blackmail.
Thanks for sharing your experience.
Molly, are you sure it's Jimmyjams?
[QUOTE=MollyDaniels; 1464737]Here is a PM I received from a member named Jimmyjams.
Maybe if you were giving up some free or greatly discounted services someone would give a sh-t about anything you have to say. Stay in your lane. Ho. I knock down way more free ass than I compensate for. Never will there be a shortage of providers, NEVER. Unnecessary for you to put your mouth in it, it is better used for other things I'm sure. If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem. RUN TELL THAT!
Wow!
Such harsh negativity. I pity the horrid life he lives.[/QUOTE]I checked the member directory, and there's also a jimmyjam, a Jimmyjam1, and a JimmyJams1.
There have been cases of trolls setting up member names close to someone else's to cause confusion and blame.
Admin: the exchange of information is exactly what we're talking about
[QUOTE][blue]Gentlemen,
The purpose of this Forum is to provide for the exchange of information between Men on the subject of finding Women for Sex.
Let's get back to the subject.
Thank You,
Jackson[/blue][/QUOTE]If people aren't clear on how the information they share with others will be used, they're going to be less likely to share in the first place.
Another peanut gallery comment.
[QUOTE=Jimmyjams;1465876]LM here is the deal. I would NEVER share a womans info and she not be aware of it and be expecting to get some calls from people. I tell her who they are going to say referred and tell the SMs who to say referred. There is NO reason for them to share info about the board or details about the person they received the referral from other than to say "just a friend or trusted friend". The SM was correct this is more to do with "tweeners" or "UTR" girls. Girls that are full long in the biz are a bit of a different story but still discretion is the better part of valor. You are right to want to know where some random person got your number. That wasn't the situation we are talking about.[/QUOTE]Well that's kind of what I meant. I am "UTR". I advertised on backpage once and was freaked out by the whole thing. I only have a couple clients that I see, so when the person said "from a friend", I wanted to know WHAT friend. If a provider only sees a couple regular clients and then her number ends up in someone's handa, she has a right to know EXACTLY where it came from. If my number was advertised all over BP or other sites, it wouldn't be a concearn.
Worlds colliding encounter
After a number of texts and phone calls, I recently arranged to meet with a young lady for a brief shag session. As soon as I walked into her room she remarked at how familiar I seemed. For 5 mins I had no clue who she might be, but by min #6, I knew exactly who she was and why she knew me. About ten years ago, she and my sister were coworkers and friendly if not actually friends and she had even been in my home a few times. With no interest in waiting for her to figure it out, I made an excuse and hit the road. She called no less than ten times, every ring making me thank my cautious heart for Google Voice.
RE: Worlds colliding encounter
You could have just enabled the "Do Not Disturb" feature and she wouldn't have made it to ten times. If she's persistent, the "Block Caller" feature works well or you can just add her to a "Group" and disable forwarding for that particular group. If you haven't looked at the newer features they've also added a way to handle "Anonymous Callers."
[QUOTE=Tidad;1479215]She called no less than ten times, every ring making me thank my cautious heart for Google Voice.[/QUOTE]
Now I know why Missy didn't respond to my PM
[QUOTE=Chdc666;1479151]I can confirm also that she is definitely not ok. She has suffered multiple strokes and a heart attack. She is currently in intensive care in a local hospital. I won't say which one out of respect for her privacy, but the prognosis is not good at all. Please everyone say a prayer for her, she needs all the positive energy that she can get. I saw her on a few occasions, one of which turned into an all night session where we just sat and talked. She is a really sweet girl and I hope and pray that she will get better soon.[/QUOTE]I thought she seemed really laid back from her comments here, so I sent her a note asking about getting together. When I didn't hear back, I assumed she was blowing me off, which seemed out of character for her.
Hope her situation improves.
