Start off with a well reviewed provider
[QUOTE=Zarum;3578176]Long time lurker, first time poster, first time partaker. Tried to TOFTT (I think, didn't see any other reviews for this one) with Maria: [URL]http://detroit.backpage.com/WomenSeekMen/maria-here/39771547[/URL].
So just to start with, she's a very sweet and attractive young lady, the location was good and safe at hotel around 14/75 for people in Troy / Madison Heights / Warren. She also makes you feel very relaxed to start with, though with roommate in next room (which is fine and totally understandable). Damage was 2 for 60 minutes, which I would guess is probably a bit steep but before the meet she said GFE was included. If all you're OK with all business (though very friendly / polite / clean) then this was a decent experience I think. The cons was that there are more restrictions than the IRS code book. No kissing on lips was explained in advance, but only later did I find out that extends to basically anywhere on the body except breasts (minus nipples which were also a no-go zone). Positions are also limited, PM if you need more details. There was also a one cover limit if you want to switch back to CBJ, not sure how standard that is but if it's an issue, better bring your own spares. I didn't stay the full 60 minutes and wasn't able to reach a happy place, but I wasn't rushed; it just wasn't working. Again she's a nice girl and I wish it'd worked. I imagine most people don't hit a home run on their first at bat, so looking for any suggestions if anyone knows where I can get something similar with BBBJ and GFE. Cheers.[/QUOTE]Congrats on popping your cherry. A little constructive criticism- Never exchange money on a date until all aspects of the date are covered. When I see a new provider, they always ask what I want and I walk them through start to finish like I'm a film producer. Sounds funny but nothing ruins a session for me more than watching a provider slip my money in her purse and then casually mention that she just had back surgery, thinks her period might be starting, I don't get on top, I only do doggystyle with clients I'm comfortable with, I only do one position for short stays, etc.
My breaking point was a threesome I set up with two girls. I knew one of the girls and assumed the other would follow suit. Turned out the other girl was the alpha and they ran game on me. After they had my money the new girl said she wouldn't get on the bed the same time as the other girl. I was pissed, but recognized at that time I was powerless to do anything. I told them okay, dismissed the alpha to stare at the bathroom mirror while I grudge banged who I once looked at as a provider I could trust.
It took me years to have the confidence necessary to safely negotiate with providers because I had to understand that from their perspective we are not white knights, future boy friends, fwbs, or sugar daddy's. We are tricks. They get paid to squeeze as much money out of us as they can, and then move on to the next trick. We have the money, which equals control.
My recommendation for you is to rtff again and seek out providers with tons of reviews to get your feet wet.