Does being married matter? I always ask.
By the second or third 'message', I always point out the fact that my profile indicates that I'm married. One cared, a couple went silent, the rest indicated that they were good with that, and some also promised discretion. I was pleased to see that several of the girls also indicated they were married (and one was involved with a 'girlfriend') - situations that made me a little more comfortable that they wouldn't turn around and try to blackmail me.
But that last item kept me from going forward with any of the new talent on SA, despite the wonderful pictures. I ended up back at AM, where the women are often less nubile (though often more interesting) - and are just as concerned with keeping everything on the QT as I am. That I don't have to 'buy' them, makes the relationship just that more comfortable for me; not to mention economical.
[QUOTE=Robert1744;3588166]Hey ya'll -.
I have dabbled in the SD world with both good and bad experiences, but I've been out of it for about a year and thinking of jumping back in.
As I do that, I am also perusing Secret Benefits in addition to SA. Here's the thing, my SB profile is literally empty. There's no pic, no blurb, nothing. And yet, I get a bunch of messages from various young women initiating contact. Can I surmise that if the SB women are initiating things with nothing to go on, they're a little more experienced in the game, perhaps even semi-pro? When my SA profile was empty at first, this never happened over there. I was curious if there were any general differences between the women on the two sites.
Also, since I last dabbled in the arrangement world, I got married. It's great, but I just can't stop that young pussy. Do any other of you married guys find that listing your marital status hurts your chances or decreases the opportunities? If I do proceed with another arrangement, I am going to pursue it in another town, as I firmly believe you don't shit where you eat.
Any thoughts on doing this stuff while married (apart from judgement and psychoanalysis) would be welcomed. Thanks![/QUOTE]
Maybe a glitch or loophole
[QUOTE=JohnHandCock;3589777]If I'm not mistaken only paid membership can hide the viewing, favoring info and not be seen. I also think those options only work while your a paid member. If membership lapses then the ones you favored will see you have favored them. If your not a paid member the site is pretty useless.[/QUOTE]Well my lurking profile doesn't even have a user name yet, so it's still useful to separate my lurking from my real profile. I only use it for lurking and taking paper notes on pots that I may contact later if and when I pull the trigger on getting a paid membership on my real profile. Also I did try to favorite a pot from my lurking profile and got an error message stating others can't "discover" me, until I complete the basic information on it.
Please share your experiences on AM and your tips for success!
[QUOTE=JMonger;3588279]...I ended up back at AM, where the women are often less nubile (though often more interesting) - and are just as concerned with keeping everything on the QT as I am. That I don't have to 'buy' them, makes the relationship just that more comfortable for me; not to mention economical.[/QUOTE]How has AM in the Triangle area been for you?
Sorry for being a newbie. LOL
[QUOTE=SailorSam;3600330]It has been a while since I was on there, but I had some great times.
You have to learn to spot the bots, and it helps a lot if you like fat, middle-aged women.
I had one woman from AM turn into an ongoing affair that lasted nearly two years. I got careless and my wife found out. If not for that, I'd still be banging her weekly.[/QUOTE]I have been around the block too many times, sorry but what is AM?
Another scammer. Don't waste your time.
[URL]https://seekingarrangement.com/member/d770f9c9-0dd9-4cf9-8d66-9c5f8b2287bb[/URL]
AM. Slow start, but good deal if you like a long term relationship.
I have had pretty good luck with AM. I'm am currently in my fourth relationship. A couple of which have gone on for multiple years.
What I like is that I get a true GFE experience, we text, we phone, we occasionally meet for lunch, and then every week or so get away for a 3-4 hour session that includes GFE, DATY, MSOG, and anything else we feel like trying (It is the only way I will go bareback). All for the cost of a hotel room (though, my current lady often has her house available, so it is the cost of a trip across town).
All this is under the radar as we both have families. This means it is understood when I'm not available, I don't have to buy gifts, etc. There are a lot of advantages to the situation.
I understand that there used to be a large number of fake profiles, though I that seems to have been reduced since they were caught at it. When I get on, I recognize many of the same profiles I saw a year ago. In a couple cases, ones that I have met. Not sure if it is because I filter to the ones that are active, or because I prefer more mature women, but it is rare that I get a reply that doesn't lead to details that someone in the area would have to write. Sadly, it is even rarer that I get a reply at all. But that is part of the deal.
To my surprise, while the women I have talked to admit to being inundated with emails, they indicate the vast majority are not attractive (for instance, being overtly sexual or sending provocative pictures seems to be an instant fail for the women I have talked with). I have been told that while we have a lot of competition, the competition isn't very competitive when it comes to identifying what most women are looking for.
Though I budgeted about the cost of an low-end incall ($150), I normally run about $20-50 in AM costs and a few hours composing text (but most content is recyclable. I send the same material largely unchanged to everyone). It usually includes a lunch meeting or two to make sure we are compatible, then the fun starts.
The one negative is the lead time. I'm finding it takes a while, and some false starts, to get a relationship started (but then, at my age, I'm not that hot a property). YMMV.
[QUOTE=PghGuy2005;3600294]How has AM in the Triangle area been for you?[/QUOTE]
web site for people looking to have affairs!
[QUOTE=Raltime;3600793]I have been around the block too many times, sorry but what is AM?[/QUOTE]
A and M are the first letters of popular female names. A what is left after something burns and M the fourth president
Any advice on composing profiles / messages that elicit a response from women
[QUOTE=JMonger;3601087]I have had pretty good luck with AM. I'm am currently in my fourth relationship. A couple of which have gone on for multiple years.
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To my surprise, while the women I have talked to admit to being inundated with emails, they indicate the vast majority are not attractive (for instance, being overtly sexual or sending provocative pictures seems to be an instant fail for the women I have talked with). I have been told that while we have a lot of competition, the competition isn't very competitive when it comes to identifying what most women are looking for.
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The one negative is the lead time. I'm finding it takes a while, and some false starts, to get a relationship started (but then, at my age, I'm not that hot a property). YMMV.[/QUOTE]JM,
I really appreciate you taking the time in composing this very helpful post. Any ideas on profiles / messages that will pique women's interest?!
Not the best time of year.
I should probably mention that we are entering the 'dry period' for AM. With Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas, many wives and mothers have a lot on their plate and responses are way down. Another caveat of this type of 'dating' site.
New to the bowl and not looking back.
So I finally pulled the trigger on SA paid membership, got and email for 33%off for Halloween which was cool. So far I've got one serious pot (adorable 20 year old coed) that will hopefully do a m&g with here soon. Got a couple others just chatting with for now. So I am wondering if any of you brothers out there have talked or met with princessss2322 or candASS? Princess messaged me today to strait up ask if I was free today. Kinda smells like an utr pro, but I may message her for more info. Candass messaged me and in her first message asked me to text her and gave me her number. Number checks out on social media and no hits on the BP type sites so I'm a little interested. Any info would be great brothers.
Savannah. Multiple profiles
Did the M&G and maybe more. LOL.
I'd guess an under the radar semi-pro. Older than pics, imagine that. Stories seem to change as to what she actually does for a living. Certified for both hair styling and masssge, but actually fairly sweet. Tall, and thin body with some belly. Smoker, so be prepared if you are not. Everyone has their own taste, but for me a no repeat.
[QUOTE=PghGuy2005;3607252][URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/7df175d7-8364-47d7-8183-f1869efff787[/URL]
I texted with her for a day or two after which she asked me to call her during the conversation I could hear a guy talking to her in the background and was told it is her brother. Creepy! She was unhappy that I was using a burner phone and hence was not sure if I was real.[/QUOTE]
SA potentials. UniqueCreations
UniqueCreations. Waste of time.
[QUOTE=IneptPlayer;3618042]Anyone try to hook up with either of these two:
Yourdreambby: [URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/308499f2-8341-4da8-a1f8-974de80fda20[/URL].
UniqueCreations: [URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/48fcc670-0cbb-4c1b-afa9-aeb1d12fa323[/URL].
I messaged the first of these for a couple of days and was about to pull the trigger when she requested a deposit of 20-50. Moved on to others including the second of these. She eventually requested a deposit of 20-50. Of course I passed but I found it interesting that they would ask for the same amount. Perhaps they're working in cahoots or its the same scammer?[/QUOTE]