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swear your innocent and it must have been from 37 years ago whatever you do. better yet don't say anything except some vague pain and wait for test results.
or pick a fight with her so she is angry then she won;t want to look at your nuts.
the best doctors in the world do cancer, heart, brain surgery, etc.
the second rate ones do std research.
it is not a hard and fast science.
it is possible for herpes to lay dormant for years.
if she was a nurse she will know that the human body is weird and it is hard to asolutely rule out any possibility. she is probably on your side.
it's not your fault she is diabetic and you didn't do this on purpose.
relax a little stop beating yourself up.
[QUOTE=Dbldowndon]Thanks so much for the note. I truly appreciate these notes more than you can ever know.

Well, it IS something, and my pecker and balls are in agony. And my pecker has all these little lumps on it. It's gotta be herpes. As cringing in pain due to an "accident" that ain't gonna fly as I will have to do this for ever as herpes can be spread without lumps or sores present. And since she is a type 1 diabetic, this could kill her.

My wife used to be a nurse and has heard/seen it all. No way will she accept the a lie. I'm dead, one way or another. Hell, I would have to have contacted herpes 37+ years ago.[/QUOTE]

well std's are fairly rare. especially if the woman was always covered. most liekly it is nothing.
have you talked to the woman who you think gave it to you? find her and ask her if she is ok or has had any positive tests.
be nice to her, you don't want to scare her away by gettting pissed off. she will lie also. but be supportive tell her you're not upset but need more infor. encourage her to go to the dr also and get tested.
it is always possible one of you will have a false negative so two getting tested is better than one. also she has been exposed longer you may not test positive yet.

if you don't want to get divorced admit nothing.
[QUOTE=Dbldowndon]Actually, I quit to retire. There goes retirement, the house, relaxation ... They have already replaced me with a good person. This "fling" was my parting favor to myself. I have virtually no mongering history. Now this.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Crazy Jim Wood]well std's are fairly rare. especially if the woman was always covered. most liekly it is nothing.
have you talked to the woman who you think gave it to you? find her and ask her if she is ok or has had any positive tests.
be nice to her, you don't want to scare her away by gettting pissed off. she will lie also. but be supportive tell her you're not upset but need more infor. encourage her to go to the dr also and get tested.
it is always possible one of you will have a false negative so two getting tested is better than one. also she has been exposed longer you may not test positive yet.

if you don't want to get divorced admit nothing.[/QUOTE]
Crazy Jim Wood ~ I emailed her first off and she went ballistic! I was very nice and suggested she get tested. She said she does and "just because you had a drip, you're freaking out." No drip. Told her the three other tests were negative.

Still no report back.

I recently had an encounter that involved a CBJ that did not go to completion (just not the right place and time). I left the cover on and went on my way. When I got home, I removed the cover and there were all sorts of dark specks (black/dark brown) on my penis and a few left inside the cover. The specks almost looked like the tobacco from a cigarette. Now I'm trying to figure out what exactly this could have been. I was not the one to supply the cover, so now I'm a bit worried.

[QUOTE=Glenn61]Sh1t from outer space, you're going to turn into a weir wolf soon![/QUOTE]Good to know. It's damn cold here so I could use another layer of warmth.

I DO wonder what it was that I found, though.

First, I doubt this is your first experience with someone other than your wife? Right?

Second, I'd not get too upset until you have positive test results.

Third, the last thing I'd do is share this with your wife until you know something for sure.

I've had a few of those scares myself. I don't have herpes but was blessed with the embarrassment of living with "cold sores" all my life. My last wife was as well. Fortunately neither of us has had an outbreak in the past ten years.

But it caused a bit of guilt in the past. Sometimes any "vigorous activity" would cause an outbreak that would show up in the genitals. It could be self-manipulation, but sometimes after visiting someone other than my wife, I'd "break out." I felt guilty as hell, even though I could pass it off as normal because my wife was very aware of "our" situation.

I know it's tough to live with the guilt, but until you know anything for sure why get "everyone" all wound up? Let's say you tell her, and it turns out to be nothing except anxiety. Now what? Either way you're gonna feel guilty so I'd wait until you know something worth reporting.

I sincerely hope it ends up being nothing. I also hope you don't tell the wife before it's time. I know you might feel the need to "come clean," but it's gonna get you nowhere at this point (well except maybe divorce court.) Again you'll feel guilty either way.

So hey... If your wife wants to fuck, just say "I caught my pecker in my zipper and have this sore." Offer to wear a condom (after 37 years?) or offer to just "eat it" until after you heal.

A monger needs to be prepared, you know? Good luck DD. Keep us posted.

Red Dog

[QUOTE=Red Dog]First, I doubt this is your first experience with someone other than your wife? Right?

Second, I'd not get too upset until you have positive test results.

Third, the last thing I'd do is share this with your wife until you know something for sure.

I've had a few of those scares myself. I don't have herpes but was blessed with the embarrassment of living with "cold sores" all my life. My last wife was as well. Fortunately neither of us has had an outbreak in the past ten years.

But it caused a bit of guilt in the past. Sometimes any "vigorous activity" would cause an outbreak that would show up in the genitals. It could be self-manipulation, but sometimes after visiting someone other than my wife, I'd "break out." I felt guilty as hell, even though I could pass it off as normal because my wife was very aware of "our" situation.

I know it's tough to live with the guilt, but until you know anything for sure why get "everyone" all wound up? Let's say you tell her, and it turns out to be nothing except anxiety. Now what? Either way you're gonna feel guilty so I'd wait until you know something worth reporting.

I sincerely hope it ends up being nothing. I also hope you don't tell the wife before it's time. I know you might feel the need to "come clean," but it's gonna get you nowhere at this point (well except maybe divorce court.) Again you'll feel guilty either way.

So hey... If your wife wants to fuck, just say "I caught my pecker in my zipper and have this sore." Offer to wear a condom (after 37 years?) or offer to just "eat it" until after you heal.

A monger needs to be prepared, you know? Good luck DD. Keep us posted.

Red Dog[/QUOTE]
Thanks for your notes and support. All tests came back negative, but I need to go back for more in 2.5 months. My doctor tells me that testing after 15 days is not conclusive, and I need to be tested 3 months after the fact.

Now, something is up. My balls are killing me and the end of my pecker hurts frequently. I think my nuts are from exercising with too much weights (shit, gotta remember I'm an old man). The exercise thing happened the Sunday after Thanksgiving, but started hurting the next day.

Could the exercise and damage I may have done (not positive it's from that) also make my penis hurt?

Again, you guys have been a great support.

Don, have you seen a urologist about this, or just had testing done at a clinic? A urologist may be able to diagnose your symptoms and answer the questions you have about the mysterious pains--now that you've tested negative for infection. As has been stated, a lot of things can go wrong with your nads and penis. Very complex plumbing. Tubes can become twisted or ruptured, you could have a cyst, you could have a non-venereal urinary infection. It goes without saying you should also have your prostate double-checked. On a positive note, you're probably off the hook about being outed because of venereal disease, and there's no blame for the above mentioned ailments, however painful. Good luck to you, sir.

Hey Dbldowndon, congrats on passing ur std test.
It could also be a back injury or injury in the pelvic area or injury to an abdominal muscle etc. A nerve could be pinched in any of those areas, or inflammation of a nearby muscle could be radiating to the genitals. There are nerves in the lower mid/upper lower back for the genitals so you could have pinched a nerve there which might make you feel pain in your genitals.
I suppose you could have a hernia also.
You could get an ultrasound of the genital area, make sure there is no cyst or something, varicose veins, etc. An ultrasound could do that.
Be sure to let us know how you fare! No doubt there are other guys out there avidly reading your posts as they attempt to self-diagnose on the internet.
I am so disapointed in the medical profession in general. They give us sloppy treatment, charge an arm and a leg, and don't really answer our questions or treat us with dignity and respect.
That being said, if the dr says don't worry, it's nothing, after you do all your tests, hey, you have some type of change in your body but it does not correspond to the most common human ailments, so don't worry about it!
Still feel anxious?... go fuck a ho bareback to take the edge off.
CJW
[QUOTE=Dbldowndon]Thanks for your notes and support. All tests came back negative, but I need to go back for more in 2.5 months. My doctor tells me that testing after 15 days is not conclusive, and I need to be tested 3 months after the fact.

Now, something is up. My balls are killing me and the end of my pecker hurts frequently. I think my nuts are from exercising with too much weights (shit, gotta remember I'm an old man). The exercise thing happened the Sunday after Thanksgiving, but started hurting the next day.

Could the exercise and damage I may have done (not positive it's from that) also make my penis hurt?

Again, you guys have been a great support.[/QUOTE]

I'm more than a little concerned for DD. His first post sharing his plight showed some real stress he was feeling. Although this last post of 12/10 was more optimistic, he has not posted since then. Also, he has not replied to two PM's that I sent him, which is very uncharacteristic of DD. Finally, if you look at his profile, he has not logged on since that 12/10 posting, which is not at all like him. I've shared info. back and forth with DD in PM's over the last couple of years and have found him to be a really good guy, so I'll be much relieved if he comes back on board to indicate all is well.

[QUOTE=Crazy Jim Wood]Hey Dbldowndon, congrats on passing ur std test.
It could also be a back injury or injury in the pelvic area or injury to an abdominal muscle etc. A nerve could be pinched in any of those areas, or inflammation of a nearby muscle could be radiating to the genitals. There are nerves in the lower mid/upper lower back for the genitals so you could have pinched a nerve there which might make you feel pain in your genitals.
I suppose you could have a hernia also.
You could get an ultrasound of the genital area, make sure there is no cyst or something, varicose veins, etc. An ultrasound could do that.
Be sure to let us know how you fare! No doubt there are other guys out there avidly reading your posts as they attempt to self-diagnose on the internet.
I am so disapointed in the medical profession in general. They give us sloppy treatment, charge an arm and a leg, and don't really answer our questions or treat us with dignity and respect.
That being said, if the dr says don't worry, it's nothing, after you do all your tests, hey, you have some type of change in your body but it does not correspond to the most common human ailments, so don't worry about it!
Still feel anxious?... go fuck a ho bareback to take the edge off.
CJW[/QUOTE]

I'm more than a little concerned for DD. His first post sharing his plight showed some real stress he was feeling. Although this last post of 12/10 was more optimistic, he has not posted since then. Also, he has not replied to two PM's that I sent him, which is very uncharacteristic of DD. Finally, if you look at his profile, he has not logged on since that 12/10 posting, which is not at all like him. I've shared info. back and forth with DD in PM's over the last couple of years and have found him to be a really good guy, so I'll be much relieved if he comes back on board to indicate all is well.

Hey i too heard and private message the guy as well. Still no return and i have personal feeling he is worried as hell like anyone else in the situtation and does everything he is told by a doctor and the tests as well. I think maybe it has alot to do with over exercise and he has a heart probs before too ! So this might be a diff matter altogether in the long run, plus we do have support for him. I think he is going to be cool and get it taken care of in time that follows.

[QUOTE=Dbldowndon]Friends, Less than three weeks ago I had completely covered sex with a provider. I am 90% sure i have herpes. ...

This provider was chosen because she does EVERYTHING covered. I have only once seen a provider before, and now this.

Looking for help here...[/QUOTE]


Go to a health food store or vitamin store and tell them that your wife has a yeast infection. Find some tablets to remove yeast and start taking them 3 times a day. In the meanwhile, cut out beer and bread, pizza and other items with yeast.

Give it 10 days and you should be OK. Let us know how you are doing.

First, I truly appreciate ~ more than you can believe, the support of you guys on the forum. Here is where I am now:

I have seen two doctors, and while my tests have proven negative (15 days after possible exposure), both have said that it is inconclusive. I may not have an STD, but I need to be tested again 3 months after the fact. One doctor says I may have strained something internally. The pain finally stopped New Years Eve. Shit, this has been a REAL cause of nerves, lack of sleep, and worry. I don't remember lifting anything really heavy or straining myself, so who knows? I did help someone move some appliances around this time and some exercises, so I hope that was the problem.

I guess like Truman said, "If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen." For the past month, I sure don't want to experience this type of heat again, that's for sure.

Dudes, be CAREFUL out there. I have always been careful, and still am very nervous.

All the very best for the New Year.

[QUOTE=Dbldowndon]First, I truly appreciate ~ more than you can believe, the support of you guys on the forum. Here is where I am now:

I have seen two doctors, and while my tests have proven negative (15 days after possible exposure), both have said that it is inconclusive. I may not have an STD, but I need to be tested again 3 months after the fact. One doctor says I may have strained something internally. The pain finally stopped New Years Eve. Shit, this has been a REAL cause of nerves, lack of sleep, and worry. I don't remember lifting anything really heavy or straining myself, so who knows? I did help someone move some appliances around this time and some exercises, so I hope that was the problem.

I guess like Truman said, "If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen." For the past month, I sure don't want to experience this type of heat again, that's for sure.

Dudes, be CAREFUL out there. I have always been careful, and still am very nervous.

All the very best for the New Year.[/QUOTE]

Is there such a term called pulled Groin Muscle? Great to hear ya back !!

Traditional condoms cover the penis only but not the pubic area, so can not effectively isolate the body fluids. This condom has an attached skirt at the base to also prevent HPV and other skin to skin transmitted STDs.
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