This is very good advice. I appreciate it.
I don't think my problem is one of protocol. Yes, I've been ripped off. More in the last 2 months than the rest of my hobby career. And most of that is by one girl. Fucking sad, I know.
I think my problem is that I'm just not satisfied with the backup plan. I've seen most of the girls you mentioned. And if they're my backup, I'm fucked. I just don't get all that excited about seeing them. If I want a guaranteed pop, I can just jerk off.
I seek the impossible illusion. The problem is I'm looking in the wrong place, I think.
[QUOTE=ToolMan347;4324941]I've had my share of ripoffs and dissapointments for sure. But, I've found one or 2 worth repeating with that have increased my awareness for bullcrap. I'm constantly looking for something new and interesting, but if anything seems off at all, I just walk away and get in touch with one of my good fallbacks. I just have refused to be taken advantage of or ripped off anymore.
I've started enjoying the hobby a lot more since having that attitude. I highly recommend it. If everyone did it that way, the flakes, fakes, ripoffs, and scams would be gone in a month.
I've heard a lot of complaints about the pickings in madison lately. I disagree. There are some good ones there. Bella, Bailey, Green-eyed beauty, Lexxi, Brooklyn, Jane Dusk, Aubrey, Kali, Eva, Staci, Jenn, Luna, and Lilly just to name a few. I made that list in 5 minutes off the top of my head and from the numbers I have in my phone. I'm sure I'm missing some. Some I probably don't know about.
Some are better than others, many have off days, weeks, or even months. And some have not been 100% honest in the past or even now. But, if I stick to those or others like those, I will likely not leave dissapointed. I almost certainly won't get ripped off. I may not always leave with my head spinning or my mind blown, but I will likely have gotten what I was looking for at least at a minimum.
I think some here have too high of expectations. Think about what we are talking about here. This is a hobby that borders on illegal. What types of people are we expecting would be in it? Some seem to expect that every girl on stg will have a modeling or porn background. Or be a hot college student. And that you can hand over a couple hundred bucks to all of them and trust that you get what you pay for.
And if I'm going to see someone new for the first time that has no reviews here, I'm smart. Not gullible. I've said this before. I'll say it again. I put the donation in an envelope. I set it somewhere near me where I can always see it and even reach it. I ask that it stays there till my appointment is thru. It's ok if they count it. I just ask that they put it back when they're finished. If they object, why do you suppose that is? It's not because they're hurt that I don't trust them. It's because they either plan to rip me off or leave me dissapointed. And, they think that I will want it back when we are thru. Or maybe even before we start or halfway thru. So, if they object, I take the envelope and walk out. Simple. Then I'm on my phone as soon as I hit my car lining up someone more reliable. And the envelope goes to them instead.
I've found that there is something strangely satisfying about walking away. I have not always been that way. I used to have no back up plan. So, I might have been leaving with my money, but also empty handed. This is no longer the case. Now when I walk away, they are the only ones that lose. I still get what I was looking for eventually.
I started having this attitude and philosophy about 2 years ago. It has not failed me yet. I have not had a bad "dream" since.
And I have also noticed that almost all the ripoff reports posted on this forum would have been thwarted using it. I have been tempted even to see some of the girls intentionally that have ripoff reports here just to see if my mileage would vary. If nothing else, to have the satisfaction of wasting their time that they spent trying to rip me off. I may still.[/QUOTE]