Sexual Addiction Reports

[QUOTE=Butchcasidy]I have to tell someone about how crazy this hobby is. I just kicked this fine 20 yr old ebony chick to the curb. When you start having relationships with these girls, you are better off retiring.[/quote]
Easy said than done otherwise it won't be addiction.
[QUOTE=Butchcasidy]Here is my last straw. I was meeting with this youngster for about a month, low budget, great service. Then I got greedy [free pussy] and listened to her desire to leave the street life in the hood and change her ways.
I picked her up and all of her clothes in a large rubbermaid box. She was at the crib for two days and had to hit the streets. Two days later she called me an wanted to get clothes... this continued for a couple days while I told her I was not driving into the hood to drop off clothes, cell phone chargers, etc and that I was making one trip in so she needed to find a place to put her things.
She finially got me, the little head spoke loudly. After another two days at my house, she needed to make some cash to go out of town to visit her mother. [b]I took her over to a pimps house, a broke ass pimp at that, but knew he would take her in[/b]. The next morning she calls to change clothes and wants to get her nails done. I told her I would take her to get the nails, but she would have to pay. She told me she made only $$ all night long. Then ho goes nuts, calls the pimp to take her in and starts hitting me. She gets to my house and pulls a nine inch knife on me, tells me she is going to cut me up, and to leave her alone while she packs.
When I drop her off at the pimps, she still has the knife out, she also talked the whole time with different people on her cell phone, asking them if she should cut me up.
After I dropped her off and returned home, I notice that my digital camera was stolen. After numerous calls to the pimp and the ho I finially get my camera back for $.
I think it is time to retire.[/QUOTE]
Let us make some things clear here. I assume she wanted to hit the street to get her fix. You took her to a broke ass pimp that would take her in! So you knew that pimp.
I would not have taken the knife threats. These are some [url=http://www.usasexguide.info/forum/showpost.php?p=524985&postcount=56]thoughts on scams and rip-offs[/url]

PsyberZombie
It's good to hear from you bro. You make a very good point.
[QUOTE=PsyberZombie]NO .... it is time to think about WHY we Mongers keep falling for these girls
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Book Guy
A good interpretation and I can totally and always relate to what you say but it's still addiction. Evenif we know the solution we keep doing it.

I am a sex addict. I think of screwing a girl every two minutes. I look at on the internet, I travel to screw them, I pay them, etc.

I have figured out I was a sex addict a couple months ago when I was travelling with my five year old son. We were staying at my friends house who was out of town and while he was sleeping upstairs (when he sleeps, he is knocked out) I called a provider and we screwed downstairs on the couch. All he had to do was get up, walk downstairs and see his old man balls deep in another women. Did that stop me? Hell no!

Here in lies the problem: When I see good looking women, wether it be in the street or tv or the internet, something starts to itch and the only way to stop the itch is to pound some pussy. (sorry for the graphic language but its the only way for me to express myself) There have been times when I have been driving, see a really hot chick walking down the sidewalk and next thing I know I am calling my regular escort and within an hour I am banging her. I have walked into my local McDonalds and there are some really pretty latino women in there and that has kickstarted me! Hell, I love to workout and the gym chicks get me horny! And not just horny like, "Man, that chick is hot." No, horny like, "Man, she is hot." <breaks out the cell phone> "Hey, ____, can you meet me in an hour so I can fuck your brains out?"

Does anybody else feel this way? I cannot help myself. I have tried for a couple of months to stop to only find myself doing it again. Its like a drug addict who sees a picture of crack and has to smoke it. Now, there is not a single drug that I like doing except the feeling of blowing my load with another woman.

I need help. I need a harem to satisfy my primal urges.

[QUOTE=Hairypusslover] I need a harem to satisfy my primal urges.[/QUOTE]
A harem ? That's a wonderful idea ! Why didn't I think of that !

I guess another solution is to simply grow old and lose interest in or the ability for sex.

Other possible solutions:

1. Each time you think of sex, run to a private place and jack off. But I guess that still makes you an addict.

2. Volunteer for the army and seek duty in Greenland. There are no women in Greenland. Indeed no chance for anything sexual, although there is the danger that you'll go crazy or turn gay. But if you make it through your tour, you'll be cured. It's sort of like holding your breath to cure hiccups.

3. Manage to get thrown in jail. (See point 2.)

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Just kidding, of course.

Hairypusslover,

Yes, I would say you are a sex addict. I am too. If interested, I can provide you with some information. PM me and I'll get it to you.

Hello, brothers in addiction;.),

Have you tried having a gf. I found that regular and frequent sex jst tires me out enough not to think about it all the time. Or even if I do not beilng able to do much (outa mojo). The only problem I have is, well, a commitment proble. So anything more than 3 mo tends to end quickly. Could addiction be driving commitment fear? Anyway, if you don't have the commitment issues as I do, try a gf and regular frequent sex with one person. I guess that may defeat the purpose as you are still doing it. Plus from what I hear after 3 months sex is not as frequent anymore. So maybe that is part of the issue with me. In any case I am just sharing thoughts.

[QUOTE=Gogagoga]Hello, brothers in addiction;.),

Have you tried having a gf. I found that regular and frequent sex jst tires me out enough not to think about it all the time. Or even if I do not beilng able to do much (outa mojo). The only problem I have is, well, a commitment proble. So anything more than 3 mo tends to end quickly. Could addiction be driving commitment fear? Anyway, if you don't have the commitment issues as I do, try a gf and regular frequent sex with one person. I guess that may defeat the purpose as you are still doing it. Plus from what I hear after 3 months sex is not as frequent anymore. So maybe that is part of the issue with me. In any case I am just sharing thoughts.[/QUOTE]

I think it's a misperception that a sex addict is just someone who needs lot's of sex. I've had girlfriends that wanted sex all the time and were very good at it, yet still cruised for SW's. There is just something very thrilling and addictive about cruising. Picking up that strange woman you've never met and getting a bj in a busy parking lot during the day or in a dark spot late at night. You know you could be robbed, arrested, catch something, get caught and yet you do it anyway. It's a total adrenaline rush. And once you get addicted to that, it's hard to be completely satisfied with normal behind closed doors sex.

Civ2000: sounds to me, like you might be interested more in the thrill and risk, than in the sex. I enjoy the thrill, too, sometimes. Especially the thrill of the hunt, finding a girl on the streets and being excited about her appearance. Different people are motivated by different aspects of the experience. I heard about one guy who didn't like mongering with window-girls in Amsterdam because they cost too little. It didn't "excite" him to spend only the equivalent of US$40 for a 20-minute session. But when the Euro was introduced, and the exchange rate changed such that the average price effectively rose to US$60, he was into it again. It was the "overpriced" part of it that got him off.

I notice that of all the mongering types of behaviors I engage in, the ones I enjoy most, will always allow me to assess the woman from a rather distanced point of view, before choosing to engage with her. If I get to look at her among a bunch of other women in a room, and then get my rocks off with her, then good. But if I get to look at her and she doesn't know I'm assessing her or hasn't identified me as the assessor (like, in a strip club), then that's even better. And if I get to watch her "from afar" in a manner like you'd do while cruising a street, then that's the best (as long as her looks and mannerisms do sufficiently live up to my beauty ideals), except I'd rather see her naked than clothed and I'd rather know about her mannerisms as well as her beauty. For these reasons, I find the "best" excitement for me, is at a strip club where some girls will offer back-room services. This allows me to look at the girls without being looked at back (I don't like those massage parlors where the girls come in one by one; they know that I'm assessing them), secretly. Then assess the girls' bodies, each one as she goes on stage. Then pick the one I like. Then do the deed. Internet providers, or massage parlor girls, or street walkers, all twist this ideal arrangement for me, by putting one or another thing in the wrong order. But that's JUST ME. Other guys have other fascinations.

About the suggestion for a girlfriend, to fulfill some of the sexual need. Well, that might work: I find in fact that I actually don't monger, usually, when I have a girlfriend, so you'd think it was a proven solution. I did cheat like hell on one girl, but on other girlfriends I had before her and after her I didn't. So go figger? For me, one of the major stumbling blocks to that girlfriend suggestion, is that it's so damned hard to GET a girlfriend. I go for long long years without hooking up. Women are such prissy cunts about letting me have access to their pussies.

[Aside: I've learned, perhaps, that the problem is how I "project" my expectation that they be resistant, onto them, and that if I were to interact differently with them, then my evident expectations of their "virtue" might be a little bit less prevalent. I certainly don't REALLY hope for them to be "virtuous" and therefore make me do without sex for months and months; but for some reason they get that message, on the basis of my interaction, even if I try to tell them otherwise (we're all of us always communicating in subtle ways, and just verbalizing something is not always the most heavy weight of a communication, especially not if your body language and all your behaviors betray the opposite). But learning to interact differently is easier said than done. I don't even know what I'm doing wrong, much less what to do to change it. I just try to continue to muddle through, and it isn't getting me girlfriends regularly. Kind of like, "Just eat cake, if you don't have bread." Well, I WOULD, if I could GET cake ...]

Anyway, "just get a girlfriend" also doesn't resolve the issue, of wanting VARIETY. If I could actually have a set of "relationships" that fulfilled my mongering need, I guess they would be with a new woman about twice a week. Go to the bar on Wednesday, meet my "girlfriend," have sex. Go to the bar on Saturday, meet my new "girlfriend," have sex. Etc. Problem with this is, sex is better if the woman is trying to get you off. Sex with a woman you meet in a bar, is sex with a woman who is trying to get HERSELF off. I just HATE the fact that they don't know their way around my dick. I haven't ever had sex in a private booth in a strip club, and FAILED to get off. The girls look hot, they're dolled up like tramps, and they work like hell to make me cum. And they KNOW HOW to make me cum.

But if I meet a "civilian" and "date" her in real life, then (a) our sexual activity is likely to be with her being rather resistant to it, instead of proactively seeking it, and (b) she won't know what she's doing. For example, if she offers to give me a blowjob, it will be a very bad one, perhaps with a lot of pain, and certainly without any ball-licking until I tell her to ball-lick. At which point she'll lick twice, then stop and go back to her standard pump-pump-pump uninspired action. Why can't "normal" chicks follow instruction? They seem to all think that rapid-fire hard-core pump-pump-pump is the only thing I would want. If I say, "Slow down," she slows down ... FOR TWO STROKES. And then goes back to fast. If I say, "Please don't suck like that, it hurts like hell," she stops sucking like that ... FOR TEN SECONDS. And then goes back to hurting me by sucking like that. What is WITH that crap? "Can't follow directions." That's something we used to use as a joke, to talk about the little kids in the playground who just were unclear on the concept. "Can't follow directions. Does not play well with others. Has some issues with sharing. Must work on hygiene." Etc. :P

Yeah, come right down to it, one thing I want is a chick with skill. Manual dexterity, tongue action, general attitude, that all combines into, "Book Guy orgasms quickly if he chooses to." I've NEVER experienced even 5% of a professional's skills, in a civilian girlfriend. I'd grade them all as solid Fs, in both what they come to the relationship with, and what they bother to try out when I ask them. Weird, no?

[QUOTE=Civ2000]I think it's a misperception that a sex addict is just someone who needs lot's of sex. I've had girlfriends that wanted sex all the time and were very good at it, yet still cruised for SW's. There is just something very thrilling and addictive about cruising. Picking up that strange woman you've never met and getting a bj in a busy parking lot during the day or in a dark spot late at night. You know you could be robbed, arrested, catch something, get caught and yet you do it anyway. It's a total adrenaline rush. And once you get addicted to that, it's hard to be completely satisfied with normal behind closed doors sex.[/QUOTE]

I agree 100%.

[QUOTE=Gogagoga]Hello, brothers in addiction;.),
Have you tried having a gf. I found that regular and frequent sex jst tires me out enough not to think about it all the time. Or even if I do not beilng able to do much (outa mojo). The only problem I have is, well, a commitment proble. So anything more than 3 mo tends to end quickly. Could addiction be driving commitment fear? Anyway, if you don't have the commitment issues as I do, try a gf and regular frequent sex with one person. I guess that may defeat the purpose as you are still doing it. Plus from what I hear after 3 months sex is not as frequent anymore. So maybe that is part of the issue with me. In any case I am just sharing thoughts.[/QUOTE]Sure, and if you get married, sex every 3 months will seem like a 2nd honeymoon.

[QUOTE=Civ2000]I think it's a misperception that a sex addict is just someone who needs lot's of sex. I've had girlfriends that wanted sex all the time and were very good at it, yet still cruised for SW's. There is just something very thrilling and addictive about cruising. Picking up that strange woman you've never met and getting a bj in a busy parking lot during the day or in a dark spot late at night. You know you could be robbed, arrested, catch something, get caught and yet you do it anyway. It's a total adrenaline rush. And once you get addicted to that, it's hard to be completely satisfied with normal behind closed doors sex.[/QUOTE]that sums it up pretty well. Although it sounds a little more glamorous the way you describe it.

[QUOTE=Gogagoga]Try a gf and regular frequent sex with one person. I guess that may defeat the purpose as you are still doing it. Plus from what I hear after 3 months sex is not as frequent anymore.[/QUOTE]

Yeah... that doesn't work. At least not for me. I'm in a very long term relationship - and after more than a few years we're still getting it on right around three times a week and it's not enough. Not nearly enough. Not even close.

[QUOTE=Benchseats Rock]Yeah... that doesn't work. At least not for me. I'm in a very long term relationship - and after more than a few years we're still getting it on right around three times a week and it's not enough. Not nearly enough. Not even close.[/QUOTE]

Benchseats: is it possible that the rate of sexual activity in your relationship with your "civilian" long-term girlfriend is something that is created as much by your own perceptions, expectations, hints, and other behaviors, as it is by her? I mean, can't it be that she's misreading you and "going along with" the status quo on a tacit female assumption that the male is "supposed" to create the sexual opportunities? I found, once with one girlfriend, that it really was all about me sending some kind of signal that she felt like she would seem "slutty" if she was pro-active about sex. Maybe you can change the signals and work with her to create more opportunities for activity?

Now, I know this doesn't alleviate a lot of related problems: the need for variety, or the thrill and excitement of the "hunt and chase" and risk of getting caught, that street-walkers provide. But I heard about some real "manly men" (you know, corporate lawyer make-no-apologies types) who basically only ever had girlfriends who were "willing to service" them 100% of the time, or else they broke up and got a better girlfriend. That would kind of be my goal, if I DID have a girlfriend. If I want a blowjob, what kind of skin is it off HER back to give me one? I should get it whenever, wherever; and I don't really even see how that's sexist or wrong even in the mind of the most stridently bitchy anti-masculinist femi-nazi.

A "Sex addict" is such a strong word, I consider myself a hobbyist. In search for the ultimate thrill of pay for pleasure. I mean not that there's anything wrong with that.

Misfit

Misfit:

If you're happy with your own actions, and do not feel that they impinge on your sense of well-being or on your capacity to function productively and positively in the other aspects of your life, then you're not an addict, just a participant.

Same as with drinking or any other potentially deleterious action. People who drink socially, enjoy doing it, call it off when it's responsible to call it off, make sure that their drinking experiences have little or no bearing on their interpersonal relationships and job performance, are not alcoholics, pretty much no matter HOW big an amount of drinking they do. But people who can't control it because it controls them? They're alcoholics even if it only an ounce of liquor passes their lips and then something bad happens.

The question isn't one of how much you do or how stringent the word is. It's about whether or not the rest of your life can be in order along with your mongering / hobbying activities. Different people have different responses.

BG



[QUOTE=Misfit]A "Sex addict" is such a strong word, I consider myself a hobbyist. In search for the ultimate thrill of pay for pleasure. I mean not that there's anything wrong with that.

Misfit[/QUOTE]

I believe the rest of my life is in fact in order along with my mongering / hobbying activities. From time to time I may take a trip out on my lunch break from my work in search for some PFP (Pay-For-Play). But I always get my ass back to work on time. You have to find a balance between having fun & not just living a dull & boring life. Just one mongers opinion.

Misfit