More on love and strippers (in an unrelated sense)
[QUOTE=Atldrummer; 1447001]I would throw out a word of caution here. I'm not saying that it's not possible to have a great SB who's a dancer. I hope you have found one. Just be aware that in all the aspects of the paid adult world from SBs, to escorts, to strippers, none is more skilled or trained at deceiving and extracting $$$ from a guy for very little return than a stripper. I'm not saying there aren't exceptions, but just don't let your emotions get ahead of your pocketbook.
A good site from years ago (still live) which serves as an example is.
[url]www.ihatestippers.com[/url]
This site has a series of voicemails between a stripper and her target that are both hilarious and scary. I'm sure you're nothing like the guy who is duped by this woman, but it still shows the mentality of many dancers.
Don't mean to be such a bummer with my last two posts.
One of my new SBs is over for dinner tonight and I have M&Gs Mon and Tue evenings. Hopefully more positive reports will come out of those.
Happy hunting!
Drummer[/QUOTE]My ATF is a stripper, so I know to tread carefully here. I'd like to think that I can tell the difference between BS (or, more appropriately, SS (stripper shit) and reality, but it can be difficult sometimes, especially with the best SSers.
Back on the love issue again for a minute, thought. I think maybe, just maybe, most of the time it isn't true love. It's probably infatuation. It feels like love, it looks like love, and it may be in part based on love, but the emotions get carried away. We get ahead of ourselves. We start thinking in terms of dreams instead of reality. This is not to say that true love isn't possible, but it helps to take a step back and try to take an objective look at the situation. Sometimes that helps recalibrate the thinking and emotions.
Great to hear from you Lit
Good to hear from you Lit. Yes, this is a strong and active forum and there are a number of regulars. I can attest that Mandy is as close to "one of the guys" as you will find in someone without a penis. She has been a good contributor and, I think, understands the multi-fucking goings-on as well most since she is herself a participant.
Hope to hear soon that you are back in the game with all cylinders cranking.
Alias
Can you really define sugar?
Golf,
I'm going to have to disagree with you on a number of things. The first being your comment that girls can't possibly actually dig older guys. Well, the first time I had an "older guy" I was 20 and he was 39. 19 year age difference and at that age it was the best sex I'd ever had! Yes, you all, like a fine wine get much better with age. Shortly after that experience I quit dating guys my own age.
Then, there is the mentor fact that obviously a guy our own age can not give us. I immensely enjoy having dinner with Memories and having him challenge my thesis question and whatever research I've just read. It takes education and experience to be able to do that and again, that's not found in younger men. I wanted to chime in on this discussion the last time it came up but didn't have the time. Memories is teice my age and The Doctor is 17 years older than me. Although he is in better physical shape than most men my age and I do adore him for a number of reasons beyond the sugar.
This brings me to another issue. Where does it say you have to sleep with your baby every time you are together otherwise she's no longer an SB? I would have been screwed in December when I was very sick and The doctor brought me out so he could take care of me. It was physically impossible for me to play that weekend so instead he just wrapped me up, held me, and tried to make the pain go away.
Now, as some have heard me say "off line" maybe you're playing with a different kind of baby and not the type that you'd ever want to evolve to a longer-term relationship in which case you will not experience a girl looking for the above things. Your experience will simply be a sugar baby who just wants the money. Which, is ok if that's what you want, but don't discount Scott's experiences simply because they are different from your own.
As for the not providing sugar each time, it depends on the relationship. I certainly don't require it from The Doctor but what I did learn this weekend is that all I have to do is ask and he will oblige. I'll admit that's probably because I don't ask for a lot at any one time because I look for a long-term gain not short term.
Maybe this only happens when you start to get into the longer relationships which Scott, Nando and myself are in. Several guys on here are looking for that same thing, while others are just having fun playing around with 20 something's and either is fine. As I tell the sugars I coach. Just know your goal and it all follows from there.
If you want a ltr with a bit more educated girl then know your going to have to divulge some real info. We're too smart to put ourselves at risk. If you just want a toy for a month and then to move on, well keep your personal stuff to yourself.
Every sugar relationship is different and we should have fun on here enjoying the variety instead of saying what is or isn't sugar. Just my thoughts, on the topic.
Don't even try to pigeonhole
These babies.
My last report here I mentioned I was corresponding with a 20 yr old college student. At first, I thought she might be one of you. LOL. Well, I am glad to say that I was wrong. What she has turned out to be, is a curious, worldly, sexy, beautifully confident young muse. We met today for the first time. Coffee and conversation. Which was fun and lite and flirty and good. A kiss good bye. Any talk of sugar? Nope. Talk of meeting again? Yes, soon. Is she interested in me? Very much. Do I want to bed her? Very much so, but not yet. To be honest, I want to get to know her better. Kinda like we might be dating.
SB alt androgynous model. Horny, porn watching, nymph. Have met with her three times. No holds-holds-barred-straight up-let's fuck each other senseless meetings. I've paid for lunch, drinks, sex toys and the room. Nothing more. I've even offered, which she laughed at. She say's that she likes having a mature, drama free lover on the side.
SB local grad student. Amazing body, beautiful looks. Busy gal who knows the game. Talks a great game, but in my opinion, doesn't quite deliver. Have seen her twice and that will most likely be it. Interestingly enough, she is the only SB that has ever really talked sugar with me, which I think is her primary motive, which would be fine with me if she delivered in the way that I need. But, she doesn't.
SB art student. I don't want to talk about.
SB wannabe Playmate. Stunning. Complete freak in bed. Everything and anything is offered and encouraged. We've met several times over the past couple of months. If she met my emotional needs, she would be the one. Sugar? Has never talked of it and has always sent a sweet text saying thank you when she finds it.
I guess what I'm getting at, something we all know, is that this game is filled with a lot of different players. I know what I seek, I get to know my POTS before we even think about meeting. I love the seduction that's involved here, the anticipation.
As I write this, SB local girl just sent me a picture of herself after getting caught in the rain. Got to love it.
