Having a grand time and nobody to share it with.
Now I know that there's a lot of SD's here that are focused on and looking to maximize time in the FC, often with a variety of SB's. With my first LTR SB, things were definitely oriented towards FC time, both quality and quantity. That morphed into something a little too real, and not entirely in a good way.
Different life situation now, and I find myself buying into the notion that it can be "the whole package". Certainly my current SB is in that category. Since we can spend evenings and overnights, we spend a lot of time just enjoying each other's company, and when planning dates that is the main focus. My place? Her place? Eat out? Cook for each other? Binge watch or take in a movie? While we usually cuddle and tease a bit, sex doesn't happen every date. And frankly, just like an IRL relationship, we're still working on getting on each other's wavelength when it does happen. And my past self would be out the door by now given the latter, but we're going into our third month and I'm willing to work on that given everything else is going so well.
I've had just such a great experience so far, it's a little frustrating that the social stigma is such that I basically have to keep this all to myself. No drinking buddy to share how she is pretty but in an unglamorous way, which makes her all the more attractive. How, in contrast, her body is a work of art. Sharing how I had almost a schoolboy crush on her for the first few weeks. How right it felt when it clicked, right down to the paint colors she used in her apartment. How effortless conversations are. How it gets better every time we are together, and we open up to each other a little more. How exciting it is that we have our first weekend trip together soon. How, despite all this NRE ("New Relationship Energy") I am fully aware that this is not an IRL relationship, and am careful to keep some emotional distance.
So am I the only one with this problem? There is, of course, this forum as an outlet. But there's the oversharing problem (which I'm doing a little bit in this post) that limits how much can be said in confidence.
Who do you turn to when your SB just rocks your world and all you want to do is share the experience with someone?
An odd dynamic to be sure
[QUOTE=Madaboutmax;4011379]I've had a great experience in the Sugar World. I've enjoyed a great variety of beautiful young women and a few long term "real life relationships" with women half my age.
I've found the more variety I've had the more variety I've craved. Somehow, that's made me more of a lifetime partner candidate for some. I've found that as a successful, in shape, reasonably attractive, middle aged man, not desperately seeking a partner and maybe overly confident because of my bowl success I am now in hi demand. I've had 6 women, who are half my age, discuss wanting marriage and children with me.
Maybe it is an indictment of younger men today, but more likely plays to a need many women have to be talen care of by a dominant type a personality male.
I'm much more successful with women now that I'm in my 50's than I was in my 20's.[/QUOTE]Totally same deal here with my 20-something past vs my 50-something present. Being personable and in shape goes a long way. I'm sure many 20-something SB's have this really negative mental image of a 50-something dude (remember how impossibly old that seemed to us), and blowing that stereotype to bits certainly doesn't hurt.
While I've not been a dance-card-always-full SD, I've accumulated enough experience that I can see where that makes me more attractive. Being able to confidently and casually talk about previous experiences with POTS definitely has an effect on how they see you.
For now I'm tired of the chase, so holding onto this catch and experiencing her from a LTR angle is pretty appealing. I know that it will inevitably end, and am prepared for it to be sooner than later, because you never know what curveball will come your way (or for that matter, hers). Maybe then I'll try shifting gears a bit, as my life situation and personal needs will likely have evolved.
But for now, I'm good.