"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[QUOTE=FTP1999;3883145]Asking for a friend:

He is a SD, 50+, married, no sex W mrs for months now.

He wants to have a vasectomy for obvious reasons but without the wife knowing somehow.

Is that even possible?

He knows the procedure is simple and the scar is small but the post-op recovery of several days and the insurance process seem to make it impossible for him to hide this?

What do you think?[/QUOTE]

Had mine almost 30 years ago, after my 3rd child was born. Recovery time, discomfort level and visible signs (swelling, visible scars, etc.) vary a good deal from guy to guy. I had minimal swelling and only a day of any significant discomfort, though I was ginger in my movements and went commando under lose pants for a week after using a jockstrap the first couple days.

Keep in mind: they shave you around the suture sites, so if you don't normally shave your balls the work will be noticeable for a while after it's done, and if you do shave, the scars will be red and plainly visible for at least 2-3 weeks. Hiding it from a SO would be pretty difficult unless your friend is in the "we never see each other naked" sub-species of marriage. If your friend is part of that last camp, it might be doable - he may need to come up with an, "I had an accident at work and got racked really hard so my balls are sore" line of BS for the SO. Otherwise, unless the SO takes a business trip or vacation, your friend is unlikely to be successful at hiding it.

Oh, one other thing: Some studies have shown that men who have a vasectomy in their relatively early years (mine was at 34) are *much* more likely to experience significant ED, and somewhat more likely to experience prostate enlargement and related urinary issues, in their 50's and beyond. I can personally confirm both. The former of these problems is exacerbated by smoking and/or alcohol ("whiskey dick") so if your friend is under 40 or so, especially if he smokes and/or drinks considerably, he should consider the long-term potential for problems he may not want to have. Not to discount the kind of problem a preggers 20-something SB would be for his marriage, of course... :)

[QUOTE=DrSummer;3883908]This may have happened to some of you, but going to share this as it is the first time happened to me (reason for not showing up). It is intriguing to me. I was taking to this 18 yr old girl on SA. She is a premium member, so don't know when she joined. Well figured slim girl. Much better communication than any other 18 yr old on SA I talked to. After about a week of chat we set up a meet and greet for a dinner. She was on time. Well mannered sweet girl. We got alone very well. Told be she had a SD before. She never asked or mentioned about allowance. Anyway, I gave her $50 gift card after the dinner. We kissed good bye. She was interested on a date and we set up a date few days later. We discussed about me getting a hotel room, she was up for that. I din't see any hesitation at all. She never mentioned about an allowance. We have been chatting and confirming the date. We were supposed to meet at 3 PM, she confirmed in the morning too. Around 12 noon, I get a text from her that she went to the doctor day before and get tested for STD and two STD's came back positive, so she had to cancel the date. I asked her to take care of the situation and wished luck. My first reaction was that it was an iron clad way of shutting me from trying to see her again for some reason. But, if that was the case (if she didn't like me) why she agreed for a date after meeting me. May be she had a cold feet. Or found a better SD. I noted it has been about 3 weeks she didn't log on to SA after that day although her profile is still there. She told me when we met that she works part time at a health clinic, may be this is true. Anyway, just though of sharing.

Stay Safe.

Dr. S.[/QUOTE]Whether or not I believed her would depend on how she told me. If she told me in a manner that demonstrated some concern for me since she would have potentially exposed me to the STD, then I'd be more likely to believe her. If she didn't, I'd ask to see the test results "before contacting my doctor" - her response (or lack of it) to that request would confirm the suspicions, or not.

[QUOTE=RVASpider;3883995]I haven't come across her yet but the GPS and the ones who want me to pay for pictures only is out of control. I hope it changes when VCU is back in school.[/QUOTE]Man, you had me worried there at first, thought you were interested in that GPS and willing to meet her allowance demands!

I don't blame a girl for trying to get top dollar for her puss but damn, she's cute but her "perfect pussy" (her words) is no where near that valuable.

[QUOTE=GuyInTheCorner;3883449]Some girls are one and done. Was she new to the bowl? Maybe she has a boyfriend / husband and was exploring. Maybe she just had second thoughts. Maybe she's a nympho that just wants to fuck for variety's sake. I wouldn't sweat it. Lord knows SDs do disappear as well. I'll not push any further. She clearly doesn't want to engage right now. And maybe try an innocent check in after a few weeks.[/QUOTE]Man, I hate to admit it but I do that to some of these SBs as well. I like variety. But I also like really good sex and when I find an SB with whom I connect and we have some chemistry the sex is better than ever and I'll repeat at least one more time. But, it's happened to me as well. I linked up with a hot little nurse earlier this month and had a great time, with us agreeing to see each other the following week. Lots of sexy texting back and forth for four days and then the day before the next meet she just goes silent. Her profile goes away and she doesn't respond to my texts. She lived with her boyfriend and I suppose there's always a possibility that he caught on to what she was up to. Regardless, I've moved on even though I was ready to visit her in a flash if she were still around.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/aa8821d9-de5d-4e4a-bd40-010a3153e395[/URL]

[QUOTE=FTP1999;3883145]Asking for a friend:

He is a SD, 50+, married, no sex W mrs for months now.

He wants to have a vasectomy for obvious reasons but without the wife knowing somehow.

Is that even possible?

He knows the procedure is simple and the scar is small but the post-op recovery of several days and the insurance process seem to make it impossible for him to hide this?

What do you think?[/QUOTE]I had my vasectomy done about 3 years ago at 48. It couldn't have been easier.

I did some research and ended up going with a "no needle, no scalpel" guy; a urologist / surgeon who specializes in vasectomies as well as reversing them. I did it on a Friday, so I would have the weekend to recover. He had me wash the boys with Hibiclens (Over the counter anti-bacterial liquid soap) a couple of times before the procedure, and shave the front of my balls (no big noticeable bald patch). I went in, pulled down my pants (didn't even take them off, he said it's easier in the end to just pull them up again), sat in his reclining chair. A couple of those hi-pressure "injections" of anesthetic to the lads and one very small, hardly noticeable small puncture later, (about 10-15 min) I was done. Tiny band-aid to cover the wound, no stitches, no nothing. Easily hideable from a Ms.

Doc gave me a prescription for Vicodin which I never even filled.

Spent the weekend taking it easy, with an occasional ice pack on my balls. I went to work Monday, and it began to feel a little painful from walking around the office. I called and told the Dr. About it, he said to try Ibuprofin. Worked like a charm. Couple of days of that, and I was like new again.

Went back 6 or 8 weeks later for the sperm test, all clear.

I highly recommend finding someone who specializes in the no needle, no scalpel type of procedure. My insurance even covered it 100%. Didn't cost me a dime.

Overall, if you need to get this done on the sly, in my opinion this is the way to go. I didn't need to, but it would have been super easy to hide the fact that I'd had anything done.

Yes she was fun. Saw twice, very cute.

[QUOTE=CoolPix;3884463]Man, I hate to admit it but I do that to some of these SBs as well. I like variety. But I also like really good sex and when I find an SB with whom I connect and we have some chemistry the sex is better than ever and I'll repeat at least one more time. But, it's happened to me as well. I linked up with a hot little nurse earlier this month and had a great time, with us agreeing to see each other the following week. Lots of sexy texting back and forth for four days and then the day before the next meet she just goes silent. Her profile goes away and she doesn't respond to my texts. She lived with her boyfriend and I suppose there's always a possibility that he caught on to what she was up to. Regardless, I've moved on even though I was ready to visit her in a flash if she were still around.[/QUOTE].

[QUOTE=BStreet;3884521][URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/aa8821d9-de5d-4e4a-bd40-010a3153e395[/URL][/QUOTE]Not worth the time to chat with, only to be told her expectations which are off the chart.

She messaged me cold laying out a novel length explanation of her virtues.

Does anyone remember this one from last fall? A former VCU student turned NYC model / dope fiend, she returned to Richmond to get away from the needle and work the SB scene. She and I exchanged a few texts then she disappeared. I understand she ripped off a few guys w / o fucking before going back north. Well someone is playing on her phone. I received some pretty provocative texts and photo requests mid-evening recently. We chatted and it was clear she had no idea who I was and I didn't try to remind her. I'm 90% sure it was not her. Heads up brothers!

[QUOTE=BStreet;3884521][URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/aa8821d9-de5d-4e4a-bd40-010a3153e395[/URL][/QUOTE]She's been on SA for a decade, with the same unrealistic expectations and the same self-absorbed attitude. I think she spends some time in NYC and DC, where she may be able to find more men with the means she expects and a willingness to put up with her attitude.

Never forget: no matter how hot she is, some guy somewhere is tired of her shit.

I knew who this was even before I looked at the profile.

LOL. I believe she used to call herself the Baroness. Major GPS and not even close to worth it IMHO.

[QUOTE=CantWinLosin;3885155]She's been on SA for a decade, with the same unrealistic expectations and the same self-absorbed attitude. I think she spends some time in NYC and DC, where she may be able to find more men with the means she expects and a willingness to put up with her attitude.

Never forget: no matter how hot she is, some guy somewhere is tired of her shit.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Madaboutmax;3885388]I knew who this was even before I looked at the profile.

LOL. I believe she used to call herself the Baroness. Major GPS and not even close to worth it IMHO.[/QUOTE]She told me her expectations depended on how interesting she found me. She messaged me first and wanted to know too much about my occupation. I. e. Ability to pay.

[QUOTE=JustLonely;3878924]Anyone seen her?

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/273daaf4-079a-424a-8e8d-4c1c12c46a90[/URL][/QUOTE]I met her onetime a while back she hosted near the forest hill area, she is hot wasn't heavy at that time its been a year may be now! But she is got nice hot body tall and huge tits for 3 bens.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/24af3b24-2f96-42f8-8ef6-6f2c00683fda[/URL]

This one gave me shock of my lifetime! Wanted $500 per meet non intimate. She is hot but no where near worth that much.

GPS all around, more and more on the site WTF.

I think there may be another scam going around, I was Favorited by a 18 hottie from NC in the nearby town her handle was.

Bunnylover11; she said she will make the journey. Wow she was so sweet and said she will drive 3 1/2 hours to see me! Nice daddy like me she wanted make the journey just for me all I had to do was to send her money for gas!

Another one from Williamsburg building up a case for me to donate for travel to Canada she doesn't have enough money to go! She is gone from the site now.

WTF these young ones think after being on there for few days they can scam a man who may be thinking with their dicks!! They won't be doing these sort of scams if they are not working on some morons!

Are may be there are pros using pictures of other places trying to scam people.

[QUOTE=BStreet;3884521][URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/aa8821d9-de5d-4e4a-bd40-010a3153e395[/URL][/QUOTE]I spent a week texting with this one, she was fairly persistent but has a bad case of GPS and insisted on a monthly allowance. I'm sorry, I just don't do monthly allowance, I just don't. No guarantee the SB won't just ghost you as soon as you hand over the cash. Besides, there are plenty o' fish out there who will agree to PPM if you're so inclined.