Seeking vs. Adult Friend Finder

[ChipJohnson001]

While I have not scoured the threat for past posts I'm curious if anyone has insight on Secret Benefits? I did not see it mentioned in the recent discussion. It seems to have some legit profiles and good verification, the pay per message is a good use based system, and it seems more directly about 'benefits' than SA. Curious to hear from folks who have tried it.

Thanks.

[I On Da Street]

I had some success long time ago, more from hanging in a local chat room than trying any any of the profiles. It did seem to get more and more fake profiles. I joined a few years ago and a standard member has no real access anymore. Inundated by bots or fakes / scams. Anyone I used to know seemed to be gone so I cancelled pretty quickly to stop getting spammed.

[SPMartini]

I've only met one woman from AFF and that was 3 years ago who lived in my area. Found out that we both worked for a hospital years ago and she knew me. (guess she she had her eye on me for quite sometime) Overall, AFF is like a needle in a haystack. Its legit, but overrun with scammers. Don't bother wasting your hard earned dollars.

Realize I am a newbie but I do have experience in this area. Belonged to AFF for several years and found it was much better years ago than now. Site is loaded with bullshit scams, fake profiles, and cat fishers. Don't know much about SA however, I can speak to several of the swinger sites. I am a member of Swinglifestyle and what another person said on here is true, a lot of couples looking for BBC however, there are those that are interested in regular white guys as well, some are more middle aged but are really into getting it on. Another site is Love Voodoo, again mainly swingers however there are single women on there as well. Another option that I have used is Plenty Of Fish as it is not so much a dating site as it is a hook up site. I've always gone with the paid options for these as they give a lot more access. Hope this info was helpful, as you are looking to get away from the SW scene, I am looking to get back into it as I have been out of the game for a while but now want back in.

[CCF1234]

SA is way better than AFF. Pretty much all of AFF is fake profiles and SA there are a lot of real girls. The few months I paid for SA I might a lot of real and hot girls, could have been even more if I my living situation and work hours were better. I plan to get back on SA eventually.

When I tried AFF it was nothing for the longest time. I started talking to one girl that was attractive but I doubted it and passed but then found out she was real so that sucked. The other girl I met was this massively huge chick that talked about getting drunk in a bar and later at one of the girls places with a couple red sox players that were on the 04 team. She said they got absolutely wasted and hooked up with her friends woke up the next day and went straight to fenway for a game LOL. Anyways this fat girl showed me she could squirt and taught me how to make her squirt, her fat tits were nice and she was amazing at sucking dick. Let me hit it raw and I came on her tits then told her I was out of time and had to leave.

Swing Lifestyle I had a lot of conversations but like it was said most of those dudes want to see their wives and girlfriends with huge dicks. The only luck I had was when I made a second profile based on fucking their wives and girlfriends bareback with creampie if they want, most of the swingers on there are serious about safe play and mass block singles and couples that don't use protection, so this guy messaged me about having a girlfriend that he wants to get into being fucked by other guys and he wants her to get fucked bareback. He showed me her pictures and gave me her email and she said she was really down and proved she was real. I head over and brought some condoms just in case which was good because they decided to use condoms because this was her very first being shared and her first threesome. We fucked the shit out of her and the dude was so excited that she did it because he said she lived with 3 male roommates and was going to have all the guys in the house fuck her. She must not have had that great of a time because I emailed her a few weeks later and she told me she broke up with him and got back with an old boyfriend and wasn't interested in being shared or group sex.

I have been off and on aff for 12 years, It is a lot of work but I hooked up with about 15 chicks over the years, some just 1 time and others a regular thing for a few months, I hooked up with 3 couples and did 3 somes with wife and husband, pros are not paying cons you have to weed out the fakes. Any membership other than gold is a waste. As far as SA I have done pretty good on there but you have to pay, just my 2 cents. And FYI I am an average guy late 40's, very low key and respectful, which has worked for me.

[MeatMan]

What I'm really gunning for on AFF are regular women who are not in the P4P scene who are looking for flings. I do see older women on AFF who are looking to get laid. Yes, I do read between the spam and fake profiles. SA, you know what you're getting (for a price) I'm just trying my luck in the regular flings where payment is nonexistent. I've done it before on AFF, why not again?. And again!.

[Kuro4]

SA is way better than AFF. Pretty much all of AFF is fake profiles and SA there are a lot of real girls. The few months I paid for SA I might a lot of real and hot girls, could have been even more if I my living situation and work hours were better. I plan to get back on SA eventually.

When I tried AFF it was nothing for the longest time. I started talking to one girl that was attractive but I doubted it and passed but then found out she was real so that sucked. The other girl I met was this massively huge chick that talked about getting drunk in a bar and later at one of the girls places with a couple red sox players that were on the 04 team. She said they got absolutely wasted and hooked up with her friends woke up the next day and went straight to fenway for a game LOL. Anyways this fat girl showed me she could squirt and taught me how to make her squirt, her fat tits were nice and she was amazing at sucking dick. Let me hit it raw and I came on her tits then told her I was out of time and had to leave.

Swing Lifestyle I had a lot of conversations but like it was said most of those dudes want to see their wives and girlfriends with huge dicks. The only luck I had was when I made a second profile based on fucking their wives and girlfriends bareback with creampie if they want, most of the swingers on there are serious about safe play and mass block singles and couples that don't use protection, so this guy messaged me about having a girlfriend that he wants to get into being fucked by other guys and he wants her to get fucked bareback. He showed me her pictures and gave me her email and she said she was really down and proved she was real. I head over and brought some condoms just in case which was good because they decided to use condoms because this was her very first being shared and her first threesome. We fucked the shit out of her and the dude was so excited that she did it because he said she lived with 3 male roommates and was going to have all the guys in the house fuck her. She must not have had that great of a time because I emailed her a few weeks later and she told me she broke up with him and got back with an old boyfriend and wasn't interested in being shared or group sex.

[Mattis1775]

I had a friend who was on AFF and told me that he was successful in meeting some girls who are in the "lifestyle" eg swinging. But he said that it generally sucks. I would be interested in hearing your thoughts on AFF. I think seeking is pretty good for what it is, but you really have to put in alot of work. Its kind of like dating imo.

I did the membership twice and had no success. One day, I decided to go on a full blast and responded to everyone and not one person responded. I wrote somewhat of a detailed response and it wasn't just some generic note. I know that non-paid members have limited ways to respond or perhaps no way to respond at all. But, I've tried twice and decided not to waste any more money. Seeking, I have an account. But, never paid for the service. Didn't want to throw money out the window.

[OkWhatever]

I tried it once and met nobody. Total waste of money. You are better off taking that money and buying scratch tickets.

Yep. Thread bump. So, after three or more years, I relented and joined AFF for a month. I really want this to go well and be money well spent. Any mongers here on USASG members of AFF and if so, how is your success rate?. I'm really getting burnt out dealing with streetwalkers and the occasional escort for all the negative reasons. Lets see how it goes.

[BostonJones]

Yep. Thread bump. So, after three or more years, I relented and joined AFF for a month. I really want this to go well and be money well spent. Any mongers here on USASG members of AFF and if so, how is your success rate?. I'm really getting burnt out dealing with streetwalkers and the occasional escort for all the negative reasons. Lets see how it goes.

My 2 cents. I've done 3 rounds on AFF over the years and it led to absolutely nothing. I had a somewhat successful run on Ashley Madison (maybe 4 woman over a 3 year period) back before it was redone and is now absolute garbage. Swinger lifestyle, you're mostly dead in the water unless you're in a couple or you're a massively hung Adonis. SugarDaddyForMe, EstablishedMen seem like they could yield success, but I tend to see a lot of the same profiles there as I see on SA. Which brings me to SA. Hands down the absolute best thing that ever happened to greying, dad-bod old wolves that's ever been invented. Been active on it for 8 years, lost count of my conquests but it spans at least 12 states, and 2 or 3 Canadian provinces, with several dozen young women in the mix. The one revelation I've recently made, is now I look on SA for keywords that imply interest in kink or submissiveness, and sometimes I can find them on Fetlife. This has revolutionised the way I hunt now, and it has payed huge rewards. So that might be something you want to try, might work with AFF too.

[Gianni Versace]

Yep. Thread bump. So, after three or more years, I relented and joined AFF for a month. I really want this to go well and be money well spent. Any mongers here on USASG members of AFF and if so, how is your success rate?. I'm really getting burnt out dealing with streetwalkers and the occasional escort for all the negative reasons. Lets see how it goes.

I had a friend who was on AFF and told me that he was successful in meeting some girls who are in the "lifestyle" eg swinging. But he said that it generally sucks. I would be interested in hearing your thoughts on AFF. I think seeking is pretty good for what it is, but you really have to put in alot of work. Its kind of like dating imo.

[MeatMan]

Yep. Thread bump. So, after three or more years, I relented and joined AFF for a month. I really want this to go well and be money well spent. Any mongers here on USASG members of AFF and if so, how is your success rate?. I'm really getting burnt out dealing with streetwalkers and the occasional escort for all the negative reasons. Lets see how it goes.

[MeatMan]

I've only met one woman from AFF and that was 3 years ago who lived in my area. Found out that we both worked for a hospital years ago and she knew me. (guess she she had her eye on me for quite sometime) Overall, AFF is like a needle in a haystack. Its legit, but overrun with scammers. Don't bother wasting your hard earned dollars.

[Zakk1317]

All I can say is sadly I paid for adult friend finder for a few months and it was legitimately awful. Largely a complete scam and you might as well light your money on fire. I found there to be too few real people on there to justify and a lot of.

The profile views are from fake accounts. Just my. 02 C Better off on Craigslist or from info on here.

I have to agree. Got scammed on there a few years back. Found out later that the majority of the ads are fake.

[BSmith1116]

Hi.

I was curious on the difference between the 2 sites. I know they are both pay sites curious to hear how guys have made out with either? Which one do you think is better? Debating on trying a different approach and would be interested in hearing feedback.

Thanks.

Jon.

All I can say is sadly I paid for adult friend finder for a few months and it was legitimately awful. Largely a complete scam and you might as well light your money on fire. I found there to be too few real people on there to justify and a lot of.

The profile views are from fake accounts. Just my. 02 C Better off on Craigslist or from info on here.

[Jon Gris]

Hi.

I was curious on the difference between the 2 sites. I know they are both pay sites curious to hear how guys have made out with either? Which one do you think is better? Debating on trying a different approach and would be interested in hearing feedback.

Thanks.

Jon.