Sadomachism

[DomBlkMilitar]

Hi,

I am new here and have reviewed the topics, checked the lingo page, and searched my area threads for bdsm topics and providers with no luck. I used to use backpage and look on eros and craigslist but am unfamiliar with other resources. Is there a thread here on good resources? The familiar backpage women don't post in the "women seeking men" thread as much as they did special interests so I have to assume they're somewhere. I am on fetlife and collarspace but everything else I've searched for seems shady. Any help would be great.

Thanks.

Are you looking for a pro-Domme or a pro-sub?

[LoganSon]

Hi,

I am new here and have reviewed the topics, checked the lingo page, and searched my area threads for bdsm topics and providers with no luck. I used to use backpage and look on eros and craigslist but am unfamiliar with other resources. Is there a thread here on good resources? The familiar backpage women don't post in the "women seeking men" thread as much as they did special interests so I have to assume they're somewhere. I am on fetlife and collarspace but everything else I've searched for seems shady. Any help would be great.

Thanks.

[NicolasBruno]

All I have is this picture and the information she is currently in Detroit, Michigan. She claims she posed for Vogue and Diva.

[Ampboner]

Agree with what is said. First time. CBT by several petite asian dominants. I think I would have lost my head with one had I even hinted yes with my eyes.

As a follow up. CBT with two young Vietnamese in LA. Not real experienced. Really just escorts. One almost bit the head of my cock off. Pain for real. Also a trip to the ER and to a urologist to.

To repair it further with two operations. I still am intact. A little deformed. Could have really lost it. I say to all be very careful and only play with the pro's who know when fantasy is exceeded.

[Arzee Banda]

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[Sascout]

I've done the choke out before. At least I think its a full choke out. She'll just collapse and I'll let go right at that point. Its funny cause it doesn't seem like she's losing consciousness because it only lasts like maby 1 second but she's always like "What happened" and she won't even remember we were having sex.

Oh I forgot to mention. Its not asphyxiation (Oxygen deprevasion) its just pinching off her blood supply. She should still be breathing when she goes lights out.

[Sascout]

I've only read this one page, but Sascout, I know where you come from. I have those same demons, wanting to draw pain, but always relent after only a bit of anal torment to my wife; she abhors it (and me) when pushed into position / performed, despite her protests. I'd love to continue but guilt quickly creeps in and that's the end for me.

Incidentally, reading your post stirred my loins. Maybe later this week I'll again tackle the brown spot (we've got company preventing it until Wed.).

Well then becareful if you are ever angry at her. Cause those guilty feelings just vaporize, and it becomes an addictive method of punishment. Sometimes I'm just ready to start a fight so I can punish her.

[Sascout]

How far are most people willing to go when someone asks for something that's more than a little bit out there? I've drawn the line with a chick at the point of autoerotic asphyxiation to the point of her passing out (a little tightness on the neck is fine, but this chick wants too much from me).

I've done the choke out before. At least I think its a full choke out. She'll just collapse and I'll let go right at that point. Its funny cause it doesn't seem like she's losing consciousness because it only lasts like maby 1 second but she's always like "What happened" and she won't even remember we were having sex.

[Wiregrass]

I've only read this one page, but Sascout, I know where you come from. I have those same demons, wanting to draw pain, but always relent after only a bit of anal torment to my wife; she abhors it (and me) when pushed into position / performed, despite her protests. I'd love to continue but guilt quickly creeps in and that's the end for me.

Incidentally, reading your post stirred my loins. Maybe later this week I'll again tackle the brown spot (we've got company preventing it until Wed.).

[Sludge]

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[Joesouncool]

How far are most people willing to go when someone asks for something that's more than a little bit out there? I've drawn the line with a chick at the point of autoerotic asphyxiation to the point of her passing out (a little tightness on the neck is fine, but this chick wants too much from me).

[Sascout]

I (male) have am in a codependent relationship with a submissive female that I seem to be addicted to how I've been taking her sexually the last year or so. She is paranoid that I'm going to leave her and will stop at nothing to keep me from breaking up with her, Yet this hasn't stopped her from being very argumentative with me. I don't know if this qualifies as a BDSM type relationship but she's always in pain when I have anal sex with her, she hates it and finds it horrible and used to always complain about it and tell me to slow down use more lube., stop taking it out "once its in leave it in" stuff, and used to make me stop. After a real bad argument one time I pretty much gave her an ultimatum. I told her I was going to do her anal and that if she didn't let me finish I was going to leave her, I was so furious at her. She reluctantly agreed and opened Pandora's box that night.

I was really angry and wanted her to feel some pain and discomfort to punish her. I didn't think she could handle it and that I'the be out the door eitherway, and this was the case at first as she would get angry and yelled at me to stop. I began gathering my clothes and things as I was really ready to leave the relationship. She starts mocking me but eventually realizes I'm serious as I start ignoring her. She starts trying to negotiate with me as I'm packing up silently ignoring her. As I'm walking out the door she starts to panic and starts crying. She wraps her self around me blocking me from leaving. Pretty much pleading to know what she can do for us to work it out. Angrily I tell her to let me finish. She disagrees I advance towards the door, she eventually agrees after a few attempts to negotiate and me rejecting them by moving to the door.

She presents her self doggy with her ass up high and her head way down on the bed. She also makes the mistake of taunting me. I forget exactly what she says but I want to remember it was some what insulting along the lines that "Your not a man". She bolts forward when I roughly thrust my penis forcefully inside of her to which I snap at her that "I'm not messing around either your going to do this or I'm out." She says nothing. She repositions and faces away from me with that face of disgust I've learned to love punishing over and over these days. Not nearly as aggressive as my first thrust I reinsert my cock in to her and start pumping. Still feeling annoyed I thrust more quickly enjoying the firm pinch of her sphincter but more so now that my speed and pressure are no longer regulated by her demands or grunts of agony. All the way in and all the way out, I can feel my cock expanding a little bit more with each thrust, and I'm guessing so does she. Her head turns around from time to time to glare at me all angry like she thinks it will intimidate me, but this just makes me more callus and I thrust harshly and till she breaks eye contact. I take little breaks now and then and pull all the way out for a while to let her close up and then start up again. It must have been working cause I see her face tense up and wince. I pull out when I see she's loosing to let her close up then repeat the penetration. Her back and body is wet from a cold sweat. Her buttocks feel cool against my hips as they slap into them. She's trying to be strong but she's starting to cry into the pillow.

Do the sounds of your woman crying during anal sex also send a chill down your spin and out your penis like a bolt? To me its almost like the sensation of biting into a lemon. Does it feel primal and natural taking her this way? Are you addicted to the sounds of her agony and desperation? I know I'm addicted but much like other addictions fail to satisfy as time goes on. I keep finding my self pushing and pushing her to the edge but stopping just before she starts screaming. One time she panicked and froze up on me and went into a fetal crouch. She wasn't even crying she just up stopped. I don't push her that hard anymore.

The strange thing is the moment I come I feel disturbed by all this I put her through and feel really bad for her. I start to cuddle and she's of course greatly relieved its all over. The holding and carerssing must be why she goes through with it. I don't know she brings the monster out of me. Its like I feel disturbed but that feeling wears off after an hour or so and its back to normal. We pretty much have anal sex exclusively and she hates it always but she knows it's a huge part of our relationship and knows her place in bed so se performs it faithfully.

I know this story may sound to fantastic to be true but Its true, and I also know I'm not alone. But I'm wondering how your relationships are? How far has your relationship gone with your submissive woman?

[Ampboner]

Agree with what is said. First time. CBT by several petite asian dominants. I think I would have lost my head with one had I even hinted yes with my eyes.

[DockMan]

But did not partake didn't like the price. Perhaps I should have.

I've played with a pro domme and it's a lot of fun. I'd never believed that it would be enjoyable, but I had a blast. She knew how much I could take and I was very satisfied at the end of the session.

[Toshi69]

I've heard that it's pretty intense and great fun to watch. It's on my bucket list.

But did not partake didn't like the price. Perhaps I should have.