Sexual Addiction Reports

[Vbenny]

I've been inactive in meet ups ever since this pandemic took off. I've noticed my family life getting better. I've noticed my finances improve. I've noticed that I have taken more time to engage in healthy eating and exercising. Overall I'm a better person who's actively pursuing more of my interests. I think a lot of that is tied into my not meeting up with girls, not spending as much energy on trying to homework on girls to meet up with. I think that in a lot of ways I should be much happier and running away from this hobby. Yet I'm still checking theses boards, less frequently, but still more than I'm happy with. I've started to scope out postings again. I've never truly gotten any level of enjoyment from a girl that hasn't been attached to some level of shame. I guess I'm not really sure what direction to go in anymore. I don't see SA as a place for me based off some comments I've been reading here, but I think it's becoming clearer to me that this is not something that I'm in control of anymore. What other options have you men found for dealing with addiction? Have you found threads that have been helpful here? Have you found them elsewhere? I'm not sure what my next steps are, or if I'll go back to the hobby later, but I think it's worth exploring more now.

[Bozoner]

I have not been to SAA meetings or even heard of them.

But I got busted years ago and S. O. Sent me to SA Counseling. It started out OK, "you shouldn't do this because of AIDS, immoral, diseases", etc. FINE. I get it. Then after a few weeks she showed me this circle of the evolution of Sexual Addiction.

Starts with Porn.

Then actual meets, cheating or prostitutes.

Then 3 somes.

Then Group sex.

Then possible Bi interactions.

OK I was with her up to this point. I wasn't even bi-curious but I can see how that can happen. I mean with a blindfold on, head is head, right?

OK then the next ring is pedophile!

That's when I left and never returned. No way would that ever happen!

I was busted too, and sent to a therapist. After he expressed what almost seemed like disappointment when I confirmed that I had no interest in "peeping," he sent me to SAA. I am not sure why an overactive libido is instantly classified as "addiction. " One could also label obesity as "food addiction" I suppose.

[DaveSalem]

I have not been to SAA meetings or even heard of them.

But I got busted years ago and S. O. Sent me to SA Counseling. It started out OK, "you shouldn't do this because of AIDS, immoral, diseases", etc. FINE. I get it. Then after a few weeks she showed me this circle of the evolution of Sexual Addiction.

Starts with Porn.

Then actual meets, cheating or prostitutes.

Then 3 somes.

Then Group sex.

Then possible Bi interactions.

OK I was with her up to this point. I wasn't even bi-curious but I can see how that can happen. I mean with a blindfold on, head is head, right?

OK then the next ring is pedophile!

That's when I left and never returned. No way would that ever happen!

Has anyone ever gone to SAA meetings?

[Bozoner]

Has anyone ever gone to SAA meetings? Like AA but its all about Sex and Love Addiction.

I attended a few meetings and I think I was mostly in denial at the time, but to hear some of the struggles it certainly showed how serious this can be. One of the worst part was hearing from some of the young guys in their early 20's that have porn Addiction and porn induced erectile dysfunction. Literally brain is hooked and cannot meaningfully do anything in their lives except look at porn all day. Really sad state of affairs.

I went to quite a few about twenty years ago. I got very uncomfortable with the cult-like feel of the 12 step program and came to realize it was not relevant to my situation. I am not an addict due to any trauma or self-loathing issues and found it curiously odd to be sitting in a group of men (women do not go to SAA meetings in my experice) who I had little in common with other than a sex drive I find difficult to control. It was oppressive in the extreme and depressing in its practice.

[Urbanite]

I am same as one of you here. Thinking lot of time to quit. Get addicted but also can control. But again addition is addiction. More or less dpesnt matter. I'm glad visit this page. Because lot of time I feel like I want to discuss this with someone and like to hear something from others. I found this is the place to share feelings.

Has anyone ever gone to SAA meetings? Like AA but its all about Sex and Love Addiction.

I attended a few meetings and I think I was mostly in denial at the time, but to hear some of the struggles it certainly showed how serious this can be. One of the worst part was hearing from some of the young guys in their early 20's that have porn Addiction and porn induced erectile dysfunction. Literally brain is hooked and cannot meaningfully do anything in their lives except look at porn all day. Really sad state of affairs.

[Ymch520]

I am same as one of you here. Thinking lot of time to quit. Get addicted but also can control. But again addition is addiction. More or less dpesnt matter. I'm glad visit this page. Because lot of time I feel like I want to discuss this with someone and like to hear something from others. I found this is the place to share feelings.

[Ymch520]

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[Urbanite]

I have likened my cravings to a drink from a poisoned fountain that leaves one eternally thirsty. I drank from the fountain when I was 27 and have never stopped looking for that rush again. Yes, I "quit" too for a while, but now I really I can never do it. I want it too much, and have risked everything to get it. Even now, with this epidemic, I know I would not hesitate if there were providers nearby. Only my isolation keeps this hunger in check.

I'm one of us too. Covid has been a distraction that keeps me from "acting out" as its called in the SA community. Its a tough disease and can't do it alone. One of the best resources that's frank and non judgmental is the work of Robert Weiss. Google him, watch his YouTube videos or pod casts in car. He's spot on when it comes to this.

[ManuelJellison]

I get what you're saying about women being picky and having incredibly high standards, but its escalation through social media is only a side effect. That's just how women are. The bottom 80% of women compete for the top 20% of men.

You're very open about what you like, a tight-bodied girl who knows how to turn you on in the sheets. That's what every guy wants. Welcome to the club. It's only fair to recognize that women have preferences too, though they aren't anymore noble than ours.

At the end of the day, you have to be what women want you to be. That largely means being wealthy, charismatic, and looking like you can beat the shit out of other men. Be at least one of those things if you want to keep them interested.

I agreed with you absolutely.

[Von1995]

I never thought I would be doing this honestly in a million years. I'm still somewhat young (30's) consider myself attractive, decent stable job, homeowner, blah blah blah. But over the years I just got burned out by relationships. I feel like most women these days are so full of themselves and with the rise of social media, things have gotten ridiculous as far as dating goes. Its like if the girl is even remotely attractive she gets multiple messages per day from keyboard knights in shining armor saying how beautiful she is and hoping to hang out sometime. I think its blown egos out of proportion and now we as men (at least in my generation) get held to such a high standard that if we don't deliver on the daily, James Bond from Home Depot gets to swoop in because hes been throwing her BS lines for months until she finally decides to give the dog his day. F*ck that. I'm not enslaving myself to that torture. I have way too much self respect.

If I can humble myself for a second, that isn't to say that I shouldn't have a finger pointed at me as well. I feel like sometimes the sexual portion of the relationship takes the drivers seat above everything else for me and when I look for a potential partner, they have to fit my criteria on attractiveness or they are just aren't someone I wish to pursue something with. Can't tell you how many good girls I've shrugged because I just can't picture the thought of seeing myself in bed with them. I like a tight bodied girl with some curves that lets her hair down and knows how to turn me on in the covers. But as mentioned before the effort of keeping someone like that interested is more than a full time job.

I get what you're saying about women being picky and having incredibly high standards, but its escalation through social media is only a side effect. That's just how women are. The bottom 80% of women compete for the top 20% of men.

You're very open about what you like, a tight-bodied girl who knows how to turn you on in the sheets. That's what every guy wants. Welcome to the club. It's only fair to recognize that women have preferences too, though they aren't anymore noble than ours.

At the end of the day, you have to be what women want you to be. That largely means being wealthy, charismatic, and looking like you can beat the shit out of other men. Be at least one of those things if you want to keep them interested.

[Gumpy1989]

I never thought I would be doing this honestly in a million years. I'm still somewhat young (30's) consider myself attractive, decent stable job, homeowner, blah blah blah. But over the years I just got burned out by relationships. I feel like most women these days are so full of themselves and with the rise of social media, things have gotten ridiculous as far as dating goes. Its like if the girl is even remotely attractive she gets multiple messages per day from keyboard knights in shining armor saying how beautiful she is and hoping to hang out sometime. I think its blown egos out of proportion and now we as men (at least in my generation) get held to such a high standard that if we don't deliver on the daily, James Bond from Home Depot gets to swoop in because hes been throwing her BS lines for months until she finally decides to give the dog his day. F*ck that. I'm not enslaving myself to that torture. I have way too much self respect.

If I can humble myself for a second, that isn't to say that I shouldn't have a finger pointed at me as well. I feel like sometimes the sexual portion of the relationship takes the drivers seat above everything else for me and when I look for a potential partner, they have to fit my criteria on attractiveness or they are just aren't someone I wish to pursue something with. Can't tell you how many good girls I've shrugged because I just can't picture the thought of seeing myself in bed with them. I like a tight bodied girl with some curves that lets her hair down and knows how to turn me on in the covers. But as mentioned before the effort of keeping someone like that interested is more than a full time job.

Even skipthegames has girls trying to trick so its obvious this isn't avoidable but it is a better option for the most part. Its incredible to see someone you like (after reading reviews here of course) effortlessly getting a number to her and making a plan to meet later that day and it be a guaranteed thing. No more free drinks and dinner dates for girls who won't even so much as give a decent hug at the end of the night. Sure it comes with a higher price tag but I figure one successful STG visit is roughly same damage as 2-3 dinner dates and also has a better guarantee. Of course like everything though. Who knows how long this will accessible before LEO steps in or just becomes diluted with scammers that it becomes not worth the time either.

Dude I feel ya there. I'm only 31 and the dating sucks horribly here. I started seeing escorts in my early twenties. My last relationship wasn't so great and that's when I turned to this. I've been trying to date but honestly girls are so petty these days. If you're not a perfect ten or rich then they won't give you the time of day. I want to get out of this lifestyle but I don't want to be lonely either. I've been burned to much in this and in the dating game as well. I'm definitely getting out eventually though.

[UOnlyLiveOnce]

I never thought I would be doing this honestly in a million years. I'm still somewhat young (30's) consider myself attractive, decent stable job, homeowner, blah blah blah. But over the years I just got burned out by relationships. I feel like most women these days are so full of themselves and with the rise of social media, things have gotten ridiculous as far as dating goes. Its like if the girl is even remotely attractive she gets multiple messages per day from keyboard knights in shining armor saying how beautiful she is and hoping to hang out sometime. I think its blown egos out of proportion and now we as men (at least in my generation) get held to such a high standard that if we don't deliver on the daily, James Bond from Home Depot gets to swoop in because hes been throwing her BS lines for months until she finally decides to give the dog his day. F*ck that. I'm not enslaving myself to that torture. I have way too much self respect.

If I can humble myself for a second, that isn't to say that I shouldn't have a finger pointed at me as well. I feel like sometimes the sexual portion of the relationship takes the drivers seat above everything else for me and when I look for a potential partner, they have to fit my criteria on attractiveness or they are just aren't someone I wish to pursue something with. Can't tell you how many good girls I've shrugged because I just can't picture the thought of seeing myself in bed with them. I like a tight bodied girl with some curves that lets her hair down and knows how to turn me on in the covers. But as mentioned before the effort of keeping someone like that interested is more than a full time job.

Even skipthegames has girls trying to trick so its obvious this isn't avoidable but it is a better option for the most part. Its incredible to see someone you like (after reading reviews here of course) effortlessly getting a number to her and making a plan to meet later that day and it be a guaranteed thing. No more free drinks and dinner dates for girls who won't even so much as give a decent hug at the end of the night. Sure it comes with a higher price tag but I figure one successful STG visit is roughly same damage as 2-3 dinner dates and also has a better guarantee. Of course like everything though. Who knows how long this will accessible before LEO steps in or just becomes diluted with scammers that it becomes not worth the time either.

I can't imagine being a young single guy in the social media and Tindr era. Social media has changed everything and inflated women's egos to disastrous proportions. If you haven't read his books or his blog already, read Rollo Tomassi's stuff. It's more descriptive than a step by step guide.

I'm in my 50's. I don't have the exact requirements that you do, but I not into chicks who are either skinny (slender ok, skinny is not) or more than, say, 20 or 25 lbs overweight. Even those requirements rule out a lot of chicks, though.

[CGuy2537]

I never thought I would be doing this honestly in a million years. I'm still somewhat young (30's) consider myself attractive, decent stable job, homeowner, blah blah blah. But over the years I just got burned out by relationships. I feel like most women these days are so full of themselves and with the rise of social media, things have gotten ridiculous as far as dating goes. Its like if the girl is even remotely attractive she gets multiple messages per day from keyboard knights in shining armor saying how beautiful she is and hoping to hang out sometime. I think its blown egos out of proportion and now we as men (at least in my generation) get held to such a high standard that if we don't deliver on the daily, James Bond from Home Depot gets to swoop in because hes been throwing her BS lines for months until she finally decides to give the dog his day. F*ck that. I'm not enslaving myself to that torture. I have way too much self respect.

If I can humble myself for a second, that isn't to say that I shouldn't have a finger pointed at me as well. I feel like sometimes the sexual portion of the relationship takes the drivers seat above everything else for me and when I look for a potential partner, they have to fit my criteria on attractiveness or they are just aren't someone I wish to pursue something with. Can't tell you how many good girls I've shrugged because I just can't picture the thought of seeing myself in bed with them. I like a tight bodied girl with some curves that lets her hair down and knows how to turn me on in the covers. But as mentioned before the effort of keeping someone like that interested is more than a full time job.

Even skipthegames has girls trying to trick so its obvious this isn't avoidable but it is a better option for the most part. Its incredible to see someone you like (after reading reviews here of course) effortlessly getting a number to her and making a plan to meet later that day and it be a guaranteed thing. No more free drinks and dinner dates for girls who won't even so much as give a decent hug at the end of the night. Sure it comes with a higher price tag but I figure one successful STG visit is roughly same damage as 2-3 dinner dates and also has a better guarantee. Of course like everything though. Who knows how long this will accessible before LEO steps in or just becomes diluted with scammers that it becomes not worth the time either.

[Von1995]

I have likened my cravings to a drink from a poisoned fountain that leaves one eternally thirsty. I drank from the fountain when I was 27 and have never stopped looking for that rush again. Yes, I "quit" too for a while, but now I really I can never do it. Even now, with this epidemic, I know I would not hesitate if there were providers nearby.

The coronavirus situation was never going to seriously affect my personal play time. I don't know which would be worse, giving up my favorite hobby for an extended period or actually getting the coronavirus. Call me stupid, but that's honestly how I feel.

The privileges of working from home and the increased availability among providers made seeing them even easier and more tempting, especially a few months ago when things got really bad.

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