"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[BamBam]

I suspect you already know this but are having difficulty getting the small head to listen to the big head. Maybe I can help: Don't Do It! Having that many friends in common is a leading indicator that your lives overlap in some significant way. Once she has your face, she will eventually get your real name. I cannot see any way in which this turns out safe for you. There is always another POT of equal quality some distance in time away. Just keep plugging. She cannot be the last appealing SB you will ever find in life.

Bam.

I'm a new poster, but have a lot of experience "in the bowl. " But something now where I'd like advice. I live in a medium city -- maybe 3/4 million metro area. Have a tentative m / g set with an attractive potential for Monday. She's already made allusions to having a private venue for visits. But I was able to glean enough information about her to get her real name, and I check FB I discover 25 mutual friends. Some are remote acquaintances of mine, but a couple I know well. I wouldn't plan on giving this s / b my real name, but it's hard to talk about my life at all without giving some clue that might let her say something to somebody. Even of course just describing what I look like.

She's really appealing and seems very nice. Maybe even long term exclusive material. But of course I have no idea how much tact or discretion she would have. And for me (I'm married) discretion is HIGHLY critical.

So, should I have the m / g or cancel it and move on. Thoughts, opinions, similar experiences welcome. Thanks.

[FarFarAway]

I'm a new poster, but have a lot of experience "in the bowl. " But something now where I'd like advice. I live in a medium city -- maybe 3/4 million metro area. Have a tentative m / g set with an attractive potential for Monday. She's already made allusions to having a private venue for visits. But I was able to glean enough information about her to get her real name, and I check FB I discover 25 mutual friends. Some are remote acquaintances of mine, but a couple I know well. I wouldn't plan on giving this s / b my real name, but it's hard to talk about my life at all without giving some clue that might let her say something to somebody. Even of course just describing what I look like.

She's really appealing and seems very nice. Maybe even long term exclusive material. But of course I have no idea how much tact or discretion she would have. And for me (I'm married) discretion is HIGHLY critical.

So, should I have the m / g or cancel it and move on. Thoughts, opinions, similar experiences welcome. Thanks.

I am guessing you know the answer, otherwise you would not be posting. Think w / the big head. There are lots and lots of SBs in the world, as you know. There's only 1 person who can make you cry. A vindictive ex-wife.

[BlueEyedMan58]

Since I've broken my posting "cherry," and while I await advice on my possible m / g Monday, let me ask what people make of a recent experience of mine. M / G at a Starbucks last Thursday. She is early 40's (still a good bit younger than me) and says she was a "club girl" in Las Vegas in her younger days. I can believe it, she still has a spinner body with an ample chest, and very cute features that are just beginning to show signs of age. She says she is looking to replace a SD that she met in the clubs there (different city than mine). We hit it off, go to a bar for a drink, take a ride, have an amazing make-out session in the car. Can't go to my place, no time for a motel, her son is at her place that day so she says can I please come back later that night and finish what we started. She also lays out the terms of her old arrangement, which I say I can't match, but tell her what I can do. She says it isn't all about Benjamins for her, she likes me, and whatever I can do is fine. We commit to see each other asap, maybe next day (Friday). I don't have a burner right now -- a long story in itself -- but we agree to exchange email addresses thru SA. I get home late Thurs. Afternoon, send her my email, say how much I enjoyed meeting her, look forward to seeing her soon, etc. Crickets from her on the site. It's now getting close to 3 days, and she hasn't responded, read my messages, or as best I can tell even logged in. There is no doubt whatever in my mind that she was genuinely having fun when we met, and I did give her a small gift at the end, and made it clear that more would be forthcoming if we (as it seemed we would) became regular friends. But. Now, this silence. WTF?

[MrHockey40]

I chatted her from SA as well. She sent a few pics but was going on vacation. Sent me more picks when she got back asking to meet. DTF for $300 but too far and extra pics weren't doing it for me so didn't meet.

I have chatted with her when she came down to Chesapeake. Supposedly she has moved to Hampton. I was quoted 200 but she would take 150.

[BlueEyedMan58]

I'm a new poster, but have a lot of experience "in the bowl. " But something now where I'd like advice. I live in a medium city -- maybe 3/4 million metro area. Have a tentative m / g set with an attractive potential for Monday. She's already made allusions to having a private venue for visits. But I was able to glean enough information about her to get her real name, and I check FB I discover 25 mutual friends. Some are remote acquaintances of mine, but a couple I know well. I wouldn't plan on giving this s / b my real name, but it's hard to talk about my life at all without giving some clue that might let her say something to somebody. Even of course just describing what I look like.

She's really appealing and seems very nice. Maybe even long term exclusive material. But of course I have no idea how much tact or discretion she would have. And for me (I'm married) discretion is HIGHLY critical.

So, should I have the m / g or cancel it and move on. Thoughts, opinions, similar experiences welcome. Thanks.

[Mdterp05]

I chatted her from SA as well. She sent a few pics but was going on vacation. Sent me more picks when she got back asking to meet. DTF for $300 but too far and extra pics weren't doing it for me so didn't meet.

I've followed her too on SA but noticed that her location changes from Chesapeake to.

Chester and other areas between Tidewater and RVA.

So she's probably not a SB. If anyone knows more, let us know.

[Passport4]

Anyone have info / dreams with this one on the southside -https://www.seeking.com/member/d8cfd...5-901b51f42e1c.

I've followed her too on SA but noticed that her location changes from Chesapeake to.

Chester and other areas between Tidewater and RVA.

So she's probably not a SB. If anyone knows more, let us know.

[JustLonely]

I used a pic of a guy who looked exactly like me but slightly younger. SA denied it saying that I was using someone else's pic. Then I sent some real, recent pictures of myself and they denied those too and deactivated my account. They asked me to send a photocopy of my I'd to verify, but there was no way I was going to that.

I used a pic of myself holding a fish that I had posted on a fishing forum years ago. SA denied it saying post my own pic. I am guessing the forum added some data to the image as I just downloaded the pic from the site as I had no clue where my original pic was stored.

[Truncated]

I used a pic of a guy who looked exactly like me but slightly younger. SA denied it saying that I was using someone else's pic. Then I sent some real, recent pictures of myself and they denied those too and deactivated my account. They asked me to send a photocopy of my I'd to verify, but there was no way I was going to that.

You have to alter the pic before you submit it to Seeking. They use image search software to see if you lifted the pic from elsewhere.

Crop the pic and flip it 180 degrees.

I wouldn't send Seeking a photo I'd. When that site eventually gets hacked, all the data will end up as blackmail material.

At this point, you'll need to sign up with a new account, and use a new email address. Make sure not to use any of the same data points you used on your old account (phone , address, etc.).

[BStreet]

Anyone had any luck with her, she is on a lot and was texting with her quite a bit but when I tried to get her to commit to meeting, would ghost. Profile says no text buddy, but that was exactly what we were.

https://www.seeking.com/member/ce82a...2-6bdd8273e577

[FarFarAway]

I used a pic of a guy who looked exactly like me but slightly younger. SA denied it saying that I was using someone else's pic. Then I sent some real, recent pictures of myself and they denied those too and deactivated my account. They asked me to send a photocopy of my I'd to verify, but there was no way I was going to that.

Well, dude, they can use reverse image search like anyone else. You have to modify the pic so that when they do that, they don't get any hits.

[JustLonely]

I have a past SB message me this week saying she is short on her apartment rent for college due August 1. She quit SA because of rude men her words. I stopped seeing her because hand jobs was all she would do. Tonight she just texted me that she wanted to be more "intimate". The summer tips waiting tables didn't add up. She made the mistake of working at an Italian place that has lots of old couples that don't tip much.

I told her I can help but I expect a GFE date. She didn't know what that meant. After explaining it to her she said ok. Money outweighs morals!

[TheArcher]

I would do a google image search and find someone who looks like you. Or, use your own pic that you take just for SA, and never use anywhere else. Take either pic and flip it 180 degrees, and then add a small black band across the (your) eyes.

That's the only pic I would post on SA.

I wouldn't worry about metadata unless you take the pic from your own phone. Then, I would strip it. No matter, SA will have your details unless you are using a burner laptop and phone only for SA. And you never slip up.

I used a pic of a guy who looked exactly like me but slightly younger. SA denied it saying that I was using someone else's pic. Then I sent some real, recent pictures of myself and they denied those too and deactivated my account. They asked me to send a photocopy of my I'd to verify, but there was no way I was going to that.

[Roadie1]

Plantinum Blonde. ,Killer rack -- espeically in the photos texted. Willing to travel outside of RVA, but wants a deposit.

Chatted with her on the phone, seems very DTF and Open Minded, though her voice was a little weird, a little street sounding -- incongruous with her look.

https://www.seeking.com/member/e5a75...e-acab5f9aa8ff

I used to see her regularly when she worked for a local escort service. I bailed her out of jail once on a prostitution charge. I found out she had a long wrap sheet, so I bailed after I made sure she showed up for court. These girls all make up fake personas on SA with different names, different jobs, different life stories depending on who they're trying to make money off of and what that guy is looking for.

[Ernest Ll]

Plantinum Blonde. ,Killer rack -- espeically in the photos texted. Willing to travel outside of RVA, but wants a deposit.

Chatted with her on the phone, seems very DTF and Open Minded, though her voice was a little weird, a little street sounding -- incongruous with her look.

https://www.seeking.com/member/e5a75...e-acab5f9aa8ff