"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[Mike7794]

I contacted a hot blonde on SD4 me and she replied "Babe I know your wife PERSONALLY".

Is she saying not interested or what!

Whoa that would be a shocker.

[JZLizard]

That could be it, but I would think they would tell me I was spamming as opposed to using my account for "commercial purposes". I guess I'll have to change my IP and make a new email addy.

Often the task of vetting out this sort of thing is done by lower-paid workers that are globally dispersed. They usually just have a script of things to look for and actions to take. Engaging their brain, really reading the content in question, etc. Is not in their job description and the level of effort that goes into what they do is commensurate with what they are paid.

So basically if they are told to look out for spammers, and the server sends them a notice / flag indicating a high number of duplicates, they will just look at it and go "yep that's a high number of duplicates, must be a spammer trying to sell something". They won't bother trying to investigate what it is you might actually be trying to sell, they only can identify that their system is being gamed a bit.

In a way that's good, because it works both ways. It also prevents the girls from sending out "highly optimized" form letters based on what they've found to be effective. It requires them to represent themselves honestly rather than just use some text they hijacked from elsewhere. It's a very long standing problem in online dating websites.

Sending out the same text to multiple people is considered a "marketing blast" in Internet related industries, regardless of what's contained in it, so for that reason it might have violated their policy on commercial activity. Ok, so you were only marketing your penis, but some underpaid task-based worker in Asia isn't making enough bank to care about the reasons.

[FotoGuy1970]

Also, make sure not to send out the exact same words to lots of girls. The server will detect you as a spammer / potential scammer. This is a common problem with all online dating sites, not just SD sites. They want to see customized / unique interactions with each person, otherwise they figure an ulterior motive. Sending out form letters will eventually get you banned.

Dating, fishing for SB's etc. Can be a lot of hard work.

That could be it, but I would think they would tell me I was spamming as opposed to using my account for "commercial purposes". I guess I'll have to change my IP and make a new email addy.

[FotoGuy1970]

Very odd. I don't think I would stop in the quest of finding out what they are talking about. They didn't say specifically what the violation was?

Not at all. Their first email was very general and all it said was I was using my account for commercial purposes. When I replied with a total denial of that, they simply told me that my account was unable to be restored, period. They haven't responded to my next reply which basically said that this was a terrible way to treat someone who's been a good customer for over 2 years.

Fotoguy,

I can only think that if you mentioned intimacy and payment thereof and they found out, they'd ban you. Normally, they'd look the other way, but if some woman you chatted to on the site reported it, they'd have to act, since they wouldn't know whether she, or you were LE setting them up for a bust.

If, otoh, you never mention intimacy and money together, it's got me beat. I always take that sort of convo off site. In fact, I try to use that as something to entice the ladies to a m&g.

Nope, that's not it. I've been using the approach of, "Hey I like you, email me!".

They've also suspended my account at misstravel, which I only joined to look over the site. They're apparently banning me from SA and the sister sites, as I tried to make a new account under a different email addy and less than a day later, it was deleted due to "fraud".

Bottom line, be wary of doing business with SA and the sister sites, they'll suspend and delete your account and ban you even if you've been a member in good standing for a long while, all over accusations that are 100% false and without merit.

[JZLizard]

Fotoguy,

I can only think that if you mentioned intimacy and payment thereof and they found out, they'd ban you. Normally, they'd look the other way, but if some woman you chatted to on the site reported it, they'd have to act, since they wouldn't know whether she, or you were LE setting them up for a bust.

If, otoh, you never mention intimacy and money together, it's got me beat. I always take that sort of convo off site. In fact, I try to use that as something to entice the ladies to a m&g.

Also, make sure not to send out the exact same words to lots of girls. The server will detect you as a spammer / potential scammer. This is a common problem with all online dating sites, not just SD sites. They want to see customized / unique interactions with each person, otherwise they figure an ulterior motive. Sending out form letters will eventually get you banned.

Dating, fishing for SB's etc. Can be a lot of hard work.

[Member #5144]

I contacted a hot blonde on SD4 me and she replied "Babe I know your wife PERSONALLY".

Is she saying not interested or what!

What does you wife tell her friends about you?

[RubberyMan]

Fotoguy,

I can only think that if you mentioned intimacy and payment thereof and they found out, they'd ban you. Normally, they'd look the other way, but if some woman you chatted to on the site reported it, they'd have to act, since they wouldn't know whether she, or you were LE setting them up for a bust.

If, otoh, you never mention intimacy and money together, it's got me beat. I always take that sort of convo off site. In fact, I try to use that as something to entice the ladies to a m&g.

[PghGuy2005]

I contacted a hot blonde on SD4 me and she replied "Babe I know your wife PERSONALLY".

Is she saying not interested or what!

[JZLizard]

Well, I will no longer recommend SA. I had just signed up for another month when out of the blue my account was suspended and apparently deleted. When I contacted customer support to find out what was going on, they tried to tell me that I was using my account for commercial purposes and they had proof of it in my message outbox. When I denied any such thing, they simply replied that my account was gone for good. I've been on that site for over 2 years, have paid for a month of premium membership on several occasions, even paid to have my background verified. For them to just pull the plug completely on my account for ridiculous reasons is customer service at its worst. I didn't even have 24 hours of access this time around when they suspended and deleted me. So I basically paid 70 for them to kick me off the site. Terrible, terrible way to run things.

Very odd. I don't think I would stop in the quest of finding out what they are talking about. They didn't say specifically what the violation was?

[FotoGuy1970]

Well, I will no longer recommend SA. I had just signed up for another month when out of the blue my account was suspended and apparently deleted. When I contacted customer support to find out what was going on, they tried to tell me that I was using my account for commercial purposes and they had proof of it in my message outbox. When I denied any such thing, they simply replied that my account was gone for good. I've been on that site for over 2 years, have paid for a month of premium membership on several occasions, even paid to have my background verified. For them to just pull the plug completely on my account for ridiculous reasons is customer service at its worst. I didn't even have 24 hours of access this time around when they suspended and deleted me. So I basically paid 70 for them to kick me off the site. Terrible, terrible way to run things.

[HollywoodGuy]

I been messaging with this one for months. Obviously a hottie. Supposed to meet me later this week. Still no txts back from my two M&G's over the weekend. Ones I thought went well. But who knows. Glad I have a couple regulars and an ATF. It usually takes me about 6 months to find the next regular. If I stumble on to 2 or 3 in a year I am lucky. One reason I hold on to them for so long. This game is tough on a budget.

In 7+ years of sugaring, my current ATF, who has been the least expensive (so far just under a $ a date after 50 dates) is the most loyal and dedicated. Although many claimed to be in love and even proposed marriage she is probably the best overall girl I have been with so far.

[JohnnyTheWad]

Not having any family obligations today I decided to M&G a petite 18 year old (pictured) kinda far from my house. I got there at noon and spent the next 4 hours with her. She had me treat her to a nice lunch and I got to hear her lifes romance history. At 18 they are usually and hopefully not too long. Hers was very brief. One sexual BF that never got her to orgasm once. A few non-sexual BF's that she says broke her heart. She admitted to masturbating a little just to know what an O was. And she sounded so sweet and innocent telling me about it. As her parents have her under lock and key she can only get out when they are at work during the day. She is not allowed to go out at night yet. We'll see if I can make this work but it won't be easy. She would have to commute by train and bus for at least 90 minutes each way but said she was willing.

I had to drive right past my ATF's on the way home so I stopped by for a makeout session in her bedroom (and that was it) as her mom was home. Nice lady and the first time meeting her. She knows everything about us, so no drama there. Also she was still on her time of the month. It's only been 4 days since we fucked but it seems like 4 months.

The spinner from yesterday has not txted me back yet, which has me a bit mystified as we had a good date. But being from NY and a "career girl", maybe there is some "girl code" back there that says she needs to appear cool and not too needy. The girl today was the definition of needy. While I can appreciate a good sport fuck from a real hottie, what really gets my juices flowing is a sexy needy girl whose biggest desire in life is to please her daddy. I had today's girl laughing and blushing. A totally non sexual date except for the closeness of cuddling in the booth at lunch.

I thought the "I know I am sorta hot for my age MILF" in the booth across from us was going to hurl. But her husband did a great job of never, not even once, take a look at us. I am sure if he did look with anything more than total disgust his SO would have turned off the sex for a month. But he didn't even risk that. He just stared at his plate the entire time we were there. I felt a little sorry for him. But in the end I was just thinking, better him than me.

"But in the end I was just thinking, better him than me. " LOL I can just picture that poor bastard. Dude, seriously. . . . you need to do some (novels) writing, this is good shit. Carry on LOL.

[HollywoodGuy]

My overall confidence level has never been higher since I started playing in the bowl. When I am in the grocery line in front of the "I know I am sorta hot for my age MILF" and she looks at me like an old geezer (if she looks at me at all) it gives me great satisfaction knowing that tomorrow morning a 20 yo submissive blonde will be lovingly giving up her back door to make her Daddy happy. Long live the sugar bowl.

Same here bro. When I am in the arms of my ATF or feeling my new church girl cum from a good ass fucking, my spirits couldn't be higher.

[Dsprdo]

I thought the "I know I am sorta hot for my age MILF" in the booth across from us was going to hurl. But her husband did a great job of never, not even once, take a look at us. I am sure if he did look with anything more than total disgust his SO would have turned off the sex for a month. But he didn't even risk that. He just stared at his plate the entire time we were there. I felt a little sorry for him. But in the end I was just thinking, better him than me.

I tell myself every time I'm in public with a SB and we get a look "screw them, I'm having the time of my life", but I have to admit I still get a little self concious about it. Have to work on that.

My squirter just left, it was kinda cool at first but it is getting to be a pain the ass washing the sheets every single time I see her.

Just got home from a 4 week trip, have a few new M&G's planned, I'm looking for at least one new regular. I'm trying to be very specific this go round, looking for a redhead or a 30 something MILF type. I like the 22 year old's best, but thought I would just see if I can pull one.

[VaSD1]

Not having any family obligations today I decided to M&G a petite 18 year old (pictured) kinda far from my house. I got there at noon and spent the next 4 hours with her. She had me treat her to a nice lunch and I got to hear her lifes romance history. At 18 they are usually and hopefully not too long. Hers was very brief. One sexual BF that never got her to orgasm once. A few non-sexual BF's that she says broke her heart. She admitted to masturbating a little just to know what an O was. And she sounded so sweet and innocent telling me about it. As her parents have her under lock and key she can only get out when they are at work during the day. She is not allowed to go out at night yet. We'll see if I can make this work but it won't be easy. She would have to commute by train and bus for at least 90 minutes each way but said she was willing.

I had to drive right past my ATF's on the way home so I stopped by for a makeout session in her bedroom (and that was it) as her mom was home. Nice lady and the first time meeting her. She knows everything about us, so no drama there. Also she was still on her time of the month. It's only been 4 days since we fucked but it seems like 4 months.

The spinner from yesterday has not txted me back yet, which has me a bit mystified as we had a good date. But being from NY and a "career girl", maybe there is some "girl code" back there that says she needs to appear cool and not too needy. The girl today was the definition of needy. While I can appreciate a good sport fuck from a real hottie, what really gets my juices flowing is a sexy needy girl whose biggest desire in life is to please her daddy. I had today's girl laughing and blushing. A totally non sexual date except for the closeness of cuddling in the booth at lunch.

I thought the "I know I am sorta hot for my age MILF" in the booth across from us was going to hurl. But her husband did a great job of never, not even once, take a look at us. I am sure if he did look with anything more than total disgust his SO would have turned off the sex for a month. But he didn't even risk that. He just stared at his plate the entire time we were there. I felt a little sorry for him. But in the end I was just thinking, better him than me.

My overall confidence level has never been higher since I started playing in the bowl. When I am in the grocery line in front of the "I know I am sorta hot for my age MILF" and she looks at me like an old geezer (if she looks at me at all) it gives me great satisfaction knowing that tomorrow morning a 20 yo submissive blonde will be lovingly giving up her back door to make her Daddy happy. Long live the sugar bowl.