"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[JZLizard]

60% is fantastic. I haven't talked to any of them about filming but I may need to get some of the screen names from you of those that agreed to it!

Heh. No offense, but I never share info on girls, or ask for it from others. I know some are into it, but I operate so far away from the UTR / Pro end of the spectrum, that I really cannot think of one of my SBs that would be anything other than horrified that I tried to pass her off to someone. Now, many of them would likely be open to me bringing in another girl or maybe a buddy for a threesome, but I'm not really into that so I never ask.

I can't explain the recent decline in camera shyness. As recent as just a few years ago I used to have a hell of a time getting them to do this on the first date, yet more and more I find them saying yes.

[DrSummer]

It was a matter of time. You guys may already know BP has been shut down as of this morning. Also TER has decided to block its content to US users. What effects will this have on SA?

1. Will all the escorts in BP try to get into SA and make it a further mess?

2. Will SA be the next target?

3. Will SA take stern actions to clean up and make sure escorts don't get in so that they can stay in business? That would be good for us who are tired of the mess in SA now.

4. How will the SBs on SA react knowing that BP is not an option anymore?

Stay Safe.

Dr. S.

[AOneFred7734]

Damn. Thanks for sending this over. I tried to search a few phone numbers last night from my last round of SA before premium expired. Plate was too full to really invest time with these ladies at the time but I stored them for later because of their FB profiles. Now I don't know who is who because I can no longer even see their digits on SA unless I pony up 90 more. Between SA raising rates. New congress online sex laws. FB removing recon abilities and hardened pros invading SA due to BP and CL decline. Things will get tougher. Double damn. Ripper.

If a sb give her number to you retype it back to her and it will be there. They just turn her side off.

[GoneForDays]

Sorry, but what is FC? I'm ramping up for a few MGs, hopefully I can get a room.

[Ripvan12]

No more we can search by phone number here is the article https://newsroom.fb.com/news/2018/04...g-data-access/.

Damn. Thanks for sending this over. I tried to search a few phone numbers last night from my last round of SA before premium expired. Plate was too full to really invest time with these ladies at the time but I stored them for later because of their FB profiles. Now I don't know who is who because I can no longer even see their digits on SA unless I pony up 90 more. Between SA raising rates. New congress online sex laws. FB removing recon abilities and hardened pros invading SA due to BP and CL decline. Things will get tougher. Double damn. Ripper.

[RobHere]

No more we can search by phone number here is the article https://newsroom.fb.com/news/2018/04...g-data-access/.

[FruitNinja]

Just some general thoughts:

Stats and success rates -- I almost feel guilty to say I have a 100% MG to FC conversion rate, minus one anomaly that happened 5 years ago, and one girl that I denied a trip to the FC (she wasn't as attractive as pics) about 2 years ago. I believe the reason has everything to do with my vetting process (which girls I choose, and which ones get filtered out early), and the general conversation and interaction invested with each one. All is far from perfect, though, the statistic I should probably be monitoring more closely are the ones that get generally flaky before the M&G is arranged. I've had no problems with no-shows to the M&G, but I do have the occasional problem with someone enthusiastically wanting to meet, then on the day that I ask for their availability, they want to reschedule because of car trouble or whatever. And in many cases the flake reason is real, for example they will say they can only meet if I come pick them up (due to the car trouble), but they might be like 45 minutes away from where they knew I was going to be, and simply failed to plan better. I'd really like to solve that problem, but the only solution so far is to line up a first and second string in each city I travel to, so that I have a chance of lining up a date with someone else if the one I really want falls through.

In terms of conversation templates, I think personalizing your intro letter is overall a good idea. In general, I'm not a fan of templates though. I keep my first contact very brief but unlock a private (real and recent) photo of myself. I used to paste in a default intro, but I don't even do that anymore, because I figure a simple hello plus a pic is enough that she will bite if interested. I also prefer that they do this with their intro or first message to me instead of sending me a highly personalized greeting. Part of the reason for this is because things that are said in a profile are open to interpretation, and sometimes they will indicate some interpretation of what I said that isn't exactly what I meant, and thus it does more harm than simple small talk. I saw this happen enough times (and got tired of things being incorrectly read into my profile) that I decided to reduce it to just a few sentences that avoid specificity about anything -- just filler material. It seems to work better for me. I've heard HR recruiters say that putting an objective on a resume works against you more than it helps, because it can have a categorizing effect that leads to many potentially false conclusions about you. I think the same principle applies here. I once got a VERY personalized intro letter, where the girl wrote a staggering amount of text, great depth all of the things she saw in me based on my profile. I'm not sure what she was trying to accomplish, but it did not impress me. She was attractive, but I was no more attracted to her after the detailed intro, in fact it actually raised some concerns, because I thought to myself : "my god if that much effort went into her intro letter, what kind of texts is she going to be smothering me with after I bang her?"

Back to stats, one statistic I'm starting to pay more attention to (or perhaps increase) is my success in getting an SB to agree to a photo shoot (well. Ok. Amateur porn) on the first date. I used to find that a lot of them are just too shy or nervous about this. However, for whatever reason I'm getting better at talking them into being keen on the idea; if they say they don't want to, I drop the idea and don't press it. I think the current generation of 18-25 yr olds has been raised with the idea that filming sex acts are just a part of life. Getting them to do this has always been easier on date #2 or later, but my recent success rate on first date videos is about 60%, and I'd like to bring that up to 80%. These are all non-utr types. I'm sure success rate would increase if I lowered my standard, but I'm not interested in utr or pros.

Good information here. I've never done the calcs but I do fairly well. My target is 18-21. The thing I've found is that you have to strike fast. If you give them to much time they are gone to the next guy.

[RVASpider]

Just some general thoughts:

Stats and success rates -- I almost feel guilty to say I have a 100% MG to FC conversion rate, minus one anomaly that happened 5 years ago, and one girl that I denied a trip to the FC (she wasn't as attractive as pics) about 2 years ago. I believe the reason has everything to do with my vetting process (which girls I choose, and which ones get filtered out early), and the general conversation and interaction invested with each one. All is far from perfect, though, the statistic I should probably be monitoring more closely are the ones that get generally flaky before the M&G is arranged. I've had no problems with no-shows to the M&G, but I do have the occasional problem with someone enthusiastically wanting to meet, then on the day that I ask for their availability, they want to reschedule because of car trouble or whatever. And in many cases the flake reason is real, for example they will say they can only meet if I come pick them up (due to the car trouble), but they might be like 45 minutes away from where they knew I was going to be, and simply failed to plan better. I'd really like to solve that problem, but the only solution so far is to line up a first and second string in each city I travel to, so that I have a chance of lining up a date with someone else if the one I really want falls through..

60% is fantastic. I haven't talked to any of them about filming but I may need to get some of the screen names from you of those that agreed to it!

[S2568]

I have these two girls turned out to be roommates wanting to get together asking for 8 $ for trio and one is OK with 3. Any of you had any input to share PM if you want.

https://www.seekingarrangement.com/m...2-acc45e198b37

Second on is germinthang, this one took out the profile unless she blocked me.

Let me know, please.

Thanks.

[JZLizard]

I read through the FAQ's page on here and found some great info. It looks like Richmond is the top forum in reference to good information for SD's. Thanks to everyone here who contributes its been great info.

My Currently stats:

I have been using SA for 11 months now. I have indulged 19 women off this site. Mostly no pro college girls between 18 and 24. Average damage is $$ plus entertainment costs. Average time seeing the girls continuously is about 30 to 60 days before it fizzles out. I spend a lot of time on SA and would like to make it more efficient. Over time my response and M at G numbers have gone down probably about 30% respond and I am able to get a M at G with 1 out of 4 of those. Getting to the FC on the M at G is at like 80% now though as all expectations are laid out in front.

Process 1 with expectations laid out:

1. Initial message just saying, Hi I think we are on the same page and mentioning something that shows I read her profile and am interested. 30% response.

2. Small talk 1 to 2 messages. 50% response (the girls lose interest fast here if you don't get to the point).

3. Message with my expectations, allowance, and ground rules for the M at G and potential compensation. 20% response but this fluctuates time of year, Christmas and New Years was much higher with much for success. Depends on how money dependent the girl is.

After this point success is very high.

4. Meet and a nice place for drinks or coffee. Flakes less then 1 in 10.

5. FC 80% of those.

I have had some success in the past with not explaining the expectations and allowance until the meeting and we are having a good time. I have gotten two without providing any compensation doing this but takes time for a date that has a higher chance of a date not ending up at FC.

Process 2 without discussing arrangement terms before meetings.

1. Hello message 30% response.

2. Small Talk 50% response.

3. M at G 40% response.

4. FC 60% of those that show up at M at G.

Process one leads to less dates but higher closing ratio on dates spend. Process 2 can be fun but is more time consuming and you get the occasional GPS girl who gets upset about the terms that you have to deal with in person. I am feeling the girls out to see who is in need of money the most that's who tends to go for process 1. Process 2 is better on those who are new and don't know what they are looking for or what they are doing.

Anyone have a good general opening line template and expectations template? It looks like best practice to use a template but cut in something from the SB's profile to make it personal. Hollywoodguy has some templates but am looking for something shorter and less template looking. I would like to raise the initial response rate and the response to the expectations and allowance part. Also any general feedback would be great!

Just some general thoughts:

Stats and success rates -- I almost feel guilty to say I have a 100% MG to FC conversion rate, minus one anomaly that happened 5 years ago, and one girl that I denied a trip to the FC (she wasn't as attractive as pics) about 2 years ago. I believe the reason has everything to do with my vetting process (which girls I choose, and which ones get filtered out early), and the general conversation and interaction invested with each one. All is far from perfect, though, the statistic I should probably be monitoring more closely are the ones that get generally flaky before the M&G is arranged. I've had no problems with no-shows to the M&G, but I do have the occasional problem with someone enthusiastically wanting to meet, then on the day that I ask for their availability, they want to reschedule because of car trouble or whatever. And in many cases the flake reason is real, for example they will say they can only meet if I come pick them up (due to the car trouble), but they might be like 45 minutes away from where they knew I was going to be, and simply failed to plan better. I'd really like to solve that problem, but the only solution so far is to line up a first and second string in each city I travel to, so that I have a chance of lining up a date with someone else if the one I really want falls through.

In terms of conversation templates, I think personalizing your intro letter is overall a good idea. In general, I'm not a fan of templates though. I keep my first contact very brief but unlock a private (real and recent) photo of myself. I used to paste in a default intro, but I don't even do that anymore, because I figure a simple hello plus a pic is enough that she will bite if interested. I also prefer that they do this with their intro or first message to me instead of sending me a highly personalized greeting. Part of the reason for this is because things that are said in a profile are open to interpretation, and sometimes they will indicate some interpretation of what I said that isn't exactly what I meant, and thus it does more harm than simple small talk. I saw this happen enough times (and got tired of things being incorrectly read into my profile) that I decided to reduce it to just a few sentences that avoid specificity about anything -- just filler material. It seems to work better for me. I've heard HR recruiters say that putting an objective on a resume works against you more than it helps, because it can have a categorizing effect that leads to many potentially false conclusions about you. I think the same principle applies here. I once got a VERY personalized intro letter, where the girl wrote a staggering amount of text, great depth all of the things she saw in me based on my profile. I'm not sure what she was trying to accomplish, but it did not impress me. She was attractive, but I was no more attracted to her after the detailed intro, in fact it actually raised some concerns, because I thought to myself : "my god if that much effort went into her intro letter, what kind of texts is she going to be smothering me with after I bang her?"

Back to stats, one statistic I'm starting to pay more attention to (or perhaps increase) is my success in getting an SB to agree to a photo shoot (well. Ok. Amateur porn) on the first date. I used to find that a lot of them are just too shy or nervous about this. However, for whatever reason I'm getting better at talking them into being keen on the idea; if they say they don't want to, I drop the idea and don't press it. I think the current generation of 18-25 yr olds has been raised with the idea that filming sex acts are just a part of life. Getting them to do this has always been easier on date #2 or later, but my recent success rate on first date videos is about 60%, and I'd like to bring that up to 80%. These are all non-utr types. I'm sure success rate would increase if I lowered my standard, but I'm not interested in utr or pros.

[MaxxLapper]

I've had one that said it was platonic only, went out for drinks, and ended up having fun in my car that night. It was fantastic and I've seen her twice since then.

RVA very interesting you had that experience. I usually avoid the ones that have platonic in their profiles because they seem to be the most likely to scam us. And yet, you had success, good game, good job. Thanks for sharing.

[FunGuy570]

I read through the FAQ's page on here and found some great info. It looks like Richmond is the top forum in reference to good information for SD's. Thanks to everyone here who contributes its been great info.

My Currently stats:

I have been using SA for 11 months now. I have indulged 19 women off this site. Mostly no pro college girls between 18 and 24. Average damage is $$ plus entertainment costs. Average time seeing the girls continuously is about 30 to 60 days before it fizzles out. I spend a lot of time on SA and would like to make it more efficient. Over time my response and M at G numbers have gone down probably about 30% respond and I am able to get a M at G with 1 out of 4 of those. Getting to the FC on the M at G is at like 80% now though as all expectations are laid out in front.

Process 1 with expectations laid out:

1. Initial message just saying, Hi I think we are on the same page and mentioning something that shows I read her profile and am interested. 30% response.

2. Small talk 1 to 2 messages. 50% response (the girls lose interest fast here if you don't get to the point).

3. Message with my expectations, allowance, and ground rules for the M at G and potential compensation. 20% response but this fluctuates time of year, Christmas and New Years was much higher with much for success. Depends on how money dependent the girl is.

After this point success is very high.

4. Meet and a nice place for drinks or coffee. Flakes less then 1 in 10.

5. FC 80% of those.

I have had some success in the past with not explaining the expectations and allowance until the meeting and we are having a good time. I have gotten two without providing any compensation doing this but takes time for a date that has a higher chance of a date not ending up at FC.

Process 2 without discussing arrangement terms before meetings.

1. Hello message 30% response.

2. Small Talk 50% response.

3. M at G 40% response.

4. FC 60% of those that show up at M at G.

Process one leads to less dates but higher closing ratio on dates spend. Process 2 can be fun but is more time consuming and you get the occasional GPS girl who gets upset about the terms that you have to deal with in person. I am feeling the girls out to see who is in need of money the most that's who tends to go for process 1. Process 2 is better on those who are new and don't know what they are looking for or what they are doing.

Anyone have a good general opening line template and expectations template? It looks like best practice to use a template but cut in something from the SB's profile to make it personal. Hollywoodguy has some templates but am looking for something shorter and less template looking. I would like to raise the initial response rate and the response to the expectations and allowance part. Also any general feedback would be great!

[Ernest Ll]

I've had success with "platonic" girls by being patient and respectful as well. The temptation is to call them out on it, but what's the point of that?

I let them know that I'm not looking for a platonic relationship and that no relationship would hold my attention long if intimacy wasn't ultimately a part of it. I tell them I'm willing to go slow and get to know each other before starting an arrangement. If that is not what they are looking for, I let them know I respect their view, wish them luck and to let me know if they reconsider.

Thanks to how many guys act on the site, it doesn't take them long to see reality. If they disappear, I saved myself some wasted time. If they contact me again, I know they understand my expectations.

I find the whole "platonic / go slow" thing curious. When I was dating and the age of most SBs, everyone new the 3 date rule for civvy dating (and girls are a lot more open to random hook ups now than ever before). So if any kind of $$$ is involved, why would anyone invest more than 3 dates getting a girl naked? Yeah, sure they are half your age and don't want a relationship, but that's why $$ are involved to bridge that gap.

If anyone is at all hesitant about the age difference or feeling like an escort, I usually tell them the key to a successful arrangement is being comfortable. If you look at me and can't imagine enjoying having my head between your legs or looking back over your shoulder while making your back arch, then there is no real point in meeting again. But if you find that prospect appealing, keep this in mind. By the time most women are 30, they have had way too many dead-end relationships, jerk boyfriends who cheat on them or don't treat them well, dutch dates with the soulful barista with the man bun who just wants to get you on his futon, and more than a few regrettable drunken hook ups and / or selfish sex partners who are all jackhammer and no finesse. And all you have to show for it are some bad stories to share with your girlfriends and- heaven forbid- a pregnancy scare thanks to some dopey loser. On the other hand, we could go to dinner have some laughs and you can go home with me and have a night with someone who understands a woman's pleasure comes first- and often- since mine is assured with a hottie like you- maybe get some help or advice on navigating adulthood that your peers are clueless about (finding renter's insurance, weight job options) and not have to worry about rent this month. Doesn't sound like a very hard decision to me.

[FruitNinja]

Do some guys have non-physical relationships with SBs? I've come across a few girls that say they get paid to hang out with men without having to do anything sexual. These girls want $400+ to go out to dinner and say that talking about paying for sex is off limits. I'm sure for some there is a crazy amount they would accept to have sex but I am curious to find out if anyone pays for a truly platonic relationship.

Had a few that want big money just to have coffee. Scratch that one. I've also had one mediocre guy offering 6 k a month. She was a dead fish. I wouldn't give her 100.

[MaxxLapper]

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Only if you want to give money to chicks so they treat you like shit and don't fuck you. You could always just get married if you want to do that.

A2

Haha LOL! Yeah, apparently there are some guys who gladly feed into this. Or the SA chicks hear about it on some SA blog, and they think they can get money for nothing. Some apparently do, good luck with that.