"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[BStreet]

I do that too, but if you unblock, you can't re-block for 48 hours, so there is a chance of you popping up in their people they may know during that 48 hours

If I find an SB from my real FB account I quickly block them. I can review my list of blocked users and briefly unblock them if I want to check their activity.

I believe this keeps them from seeing you pop up in their suggested friends list. Can anyone confirm?

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[Ernest Ll]

She certainly has the look for it in her private photos.

Any intel? https://www.seeking.com/member/290f8...a-3a7157de82f6.

I found her on Instagram from one of the photos she texted me, says she will get totally freaky with me for a few hours for $600.

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Help! An Sa girl turned me in for talking about PPM. I immediately tried to put up another profile using a real and current pic. My picture was denied saying that I was using someone else's photo. It was a REAL undoctored photo of me. I spent 3 hours trying to set up a profile all with my own undoctored pics. I had to come up with several new email addresses so that it was all different information and they finally accepted one. When I started talking to the girls and telling them my story, the girls who just recently put up new profiles had the exact same problem. One SA girl told me that she had a profile up for a month. She decided to add a pic of herself in a bathing suit in her own backyard. They denied her bathing suit photo because they said it was too sexual in nature. What! Has SA hired new staff? Is this why the new girls only have one shitty photo. I'm going to ask some more girls with new profiles and get back to you. Somethings going on and theres an idiot turning down real pics. Why in the world would they treat good paying customers this way?

Take a deep breath.

Seeking is cracking down on fake pics.

At this point, you'll need to create a completely new profile with all new data points (new phone #, email address, etc.) Use nothing from the old profile.

Then, take a pic of yourself from the side, so both of your eyes cannot be seen. Upload that. Seeking should accept it.

You need to start from scratch. Get a burner and use it for the new pic and Seeking registration. Don't use anything from your previous account.

[Madaboutmax]

If I find an SB from my real FB account I quickly block them. I can review my list of blocked users and briefly unblock them if I want to check their activity.

I believe this keeps them from seeing you pop up in their suggested friends list. Can anyone confirm?

Another thing to keep in mind. Now that you have looked at her account and have seen that you have 25 friends in common, the account you used will appear in her "people you may know" feed. If that account has your pics and name, she probably knows as much about you as you know about her. If you used a "monger" account but use the same device (phone?) to access both accounts then FB assumes those two accounts know each other. If your phone was in your pocket when you met her and she had her phone with her (and uses it for FB) then FB will guess that she may know both of your accounts. Both accounts will eventually appear in her feed although your "real" account will take longer and will appear less often and for a shorter amount of time. It's all data points and FB is crazy good at connecting the dots.

[BlueEyedMan58]

There's the Bowl for you. Have had same experiences, I have quit trying to figure it out, only thing I figured out, they like us for the most part for those benjis and that's about it. My theory, after you said you can't do what the old arrangement was, which was probably lie anyway from her, she has moved on to others who have a better bid. Maybe not. But it is usually about the benjis.

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I get that. Like truth being stranger than fiction, so is the bowl. Ranging from experiences so amazing and unexpected that you can't believe you're having them (e. G. , first date doggy in the rest room of a public park with a 22 year old asian spinner less than 45 minutes after meeting her) to so awful you can't wait to extricate yourself from them as quickly and safely as possible (e. G. , women who evidently have a cell and a SA account but no place to live and need a hookup each day just to get a place to spend the night, and probably worse).

But still, I can't figure out why 4 days have now gone by and this woman hasn't even logged on the site. If she's looking for someone more generous than me, why isn't she back on? I'm assuming the SA function that shows when someone last logged on is reliable, and according to that she has not been on SA since our date ended. So, still weird.

[BlueEyedMan58]

I suspect you already know this but are having difficulty getting the small head to listen to the big head. Maybe I can help: Don't Do It! Having that many friends in common is a leading indicator that your lives overlap in some significant way. Once she has your face, she will eventually get your real name. I cannot see any way in which this turns out safe for you. There is always another POT of equal quality some distance in time away. Just keep plugging. She cannot be the last appealing SB you will ever find in life.

Bam.

Thanks to all who responded. I had pretty well decided to cancel the m / g based on what you all said, but then she made it easy for me. Messaged me that she had a job interview scheduled for early morning day of our scheduled noon meeting, and only had enough money for an Uber to the interview, but not to then get to where we were supposed to meet. So, could I arrange an Uber payment in advance? Made cancelling a no-brainer.

[VetSD]

Help! An Sa girl turned me in for talking about PPM. I immediately tried to put up another profile using a real and current pic. My picture was denied saying that I was using someone else's photo. It was a REAL undoctored photo of me. I spent 3 hours trying to set up a profile all with my own undoctored pics. I had to come up with several new email addresses so that it was all different information and they finally accepted one. When I started talking to the girls and telling them my story, the girls who just recently put up new profiles had the exact same problem. One SA girl told me that she had a profile up for a month. She decided to add a pic of herself in a bathing suit in her own backyard. They denied her bathing suit photo because they said it was too sexual in nature. What! Has SA hired new staff? Is this why the new girls only have one shitty photo. I'm going to ask some more girls with new profiles and get back to you. Somethings going on and theres an idiot turning down real pics. Why in the world would they treat good paying customers this way?

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Since I've broken my posting "cherry," and while I await advice on my possible m / g Monday, let me ask what people make of a recent experience of mine. M / G at a Starbucks last Thursday. She is early 40's (still a good bit younger than me) and says she was a "club girl" in Las Vegas in her younger days. I can believe it, she still has a spinner body with an ample chest, and very cute features that are just beginning to show signs of age. She says she is looking to replace a SD that she met in the clubs there (different city than mine). We hit it off, go to a bar for a drink, take a ride, have an amazing make-out session in the car. Can't go to my place, no time for a motel, her son is at her place that day so she says can I please come back later that night and finish what we started. She also lays out the terms of her old arrangement, which I say I can't match, but tell her what I can do. She says it isn't all about Benjamins for her, she likes me, and whatever I can do is fine. We commit to see each other asap, maybe next day (Friday). I don't have a burner right now -- a long story in itself -- but we agree to exchange email addresses thru SA. I get home late Thurs. Afternoon, send her my email, say how much I enjoyed meeting her, look forward to seeing her soon, etc. Crickets from her on the site. It's now getting close to 3 days, and she hasn't responded, read my messages, or as best I can tell even logged in. There is no doubt whatever in my mind that she was genuinely having fun when we met, and I did give her a small gift at the end, and made it clear that more would be forthcoming if we (as it seemed we would) became regular friends. But. Now, this silence. WTF?

Everything she told you is a lie. Go into it assuming that.

It isn't about the money? LOL She was a club girl in Vegas, assuming that's true. Every club girl is obsessed with $.

She is playing you and, probably, five other guys. Keep that in mind before you fall for her. Don't fall for these women. They are all escorts to some degree.

If she really looks as good as you describe, she's running a mile of D through that P every week, and fat stacking those Bennies.

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Just get a divorce and don't worry about discretion so much.

This is the correct answer.

I've never felt a better feeling as I did the day I grew a pair of balls and told my ex the truth and moved on in life.

Wander over to the MGTOW forums and do some reading. It's like an AA meeting for married guys.

[BStreet]

There's the Bowl for you. Have had same experiences, I have quit trying to figure it out, only thing I figured out, they like us for the most part for those benjis and that's about it. My theory, after you said you can't do what the old arrangement was, which was probably lie anyway from her, she has moved on to others who have a better bid. Maybe not. But it is usually about the benjis.

Since I've broken my posting "cherry," and while I await advice on my possible m / g Monday, let me ask what people make of a recent experience of mine. M / G at a Starbucks last Thursday. She is early 40's (still a good bit younger than me) and says she was a "club girl" in Las Vegas in her younger days. I can believe it, she still has a spinner body with an ample chest, and very cute features that are just beginning to show signs of age. She says she is looking to replace a SD that she met in the clubs there (different city than mine). We hit it off, go to a bar for a drink, take a ride, have an amazing make-out session in the car. Can't go to my place, no time for a motel, her son is at her place that day so she says can I please come back later that night and finish what we started. She also lays out the terms of her old arrangement, which I say I can't match, but tell her what I can do. She says it isn't all about Benjamins for her, she likes me, and whatever I can do is fine. We commit to see each other asap, maybe next day (Friday). I don't have a burner right now -- a long story in itself -- but we agree to exchange email addresses thru SA. I get home late Thurs. Afternoon, send her my email, say how much I enjoyed meeting her, look forward to seeing her soon, etc. Crickets from her on the site. It's now getting close to 3 days, and she hasn't responded, read my messages, or as best I can tell even logged in. There is no doubt whatever in my mind that she was genuinely having fun when we met, and I did give her a small gift at the end, and made it clear that more would be forthcoming if we (as it seemed we would) became regular friends. But. Now, this silence. WTF?

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[Tidad]

I'm a new poster, but have a lot of experience "in the bowl. " But something now where I'd like advice. I live in a medium city -- maybe 3/4 million metro area. Have a tentative m / g set with an attractive potential for Monday. She's already made allusions to having a private venue for visits. But I was able to glean enough information about her to get her real name, and I check FB I discover 25 mutual friends. Some are remote acquaintances of mine, but a couple I know well. I wouldn't plan on giving this s / b my real name, but it's hard to talk about my life at all without giving some clue that might let her say something to somebody. Even of course just describing what I look like.

She's really appealing and seems very nice. Maybe even long term exclusive material. But of course I have no idea how much tact or discretion she would have. And for me (I'm married) discretion is HIGHLY critical.

So, should I have the m / g or cancel it and move on. Thoughts, opinions, similar experiences welcome. Thanks.

Another thing to keep in mind. Now that you have looked at her account and have seen that you have 25 friends in common, the account you used will appear in her "people you may know" feed. If that account has your pics and name, she probably knows as much about you as you know about her. If you used a "monger" account but use the same device (phone?) to access both accounts then FB assumes those two accounts know each other. If your phone was in your pocket when you met her and she had her phone with her (and uses it for FB) then FB will guess that she may know both of your accounts. Both accounts will eventually appear in her feed although your "real" account will take longer and will appear less often and for a shorter amount of time. It's all data points and FB is crazy good at connecting the dots.

[Paig3]

I'm a new poster, but have a lot of experience "in the bowl. " But something now where I'd like advice. I live in a medium city -- maybe 3/4 million metro area. Have a tentative m / g set with an attractive potential for Monday. She's already made allusions to having a private venue for visits. But I was able to glean enough information about her to get her real name, and I check FB I discover 25 mutual friends. Some are remote acquaintances of mine, but a couple I know well. I wouldn't plan on giving this s / b my real name, but it's hard to talk about my life at all without giving some clue that might let her say something to somebody. Even of course just describing what I look like.

She's really appealing and seems very nice. Maybe even long term exclusive material. But of course I have no idea how much tact or discretion she would have. And for me (I'm married) discretion is HIGHLY critical.

So, should I have the m / g or cancel it and move on. Thoughts, opinions, similar experiences welcome. Thanks.

I once banged a chick 1000 miles away from home. Two weeks later I met her in NYC while shopping with my wife. I know it was just luck of the draw but you get what I mean.

[Grafenberg]

She's really appealing and seems very nice. Maybe even long term exclusive material. But of course I have no idea how much tact or discretion she would have. And for me (I'm married) discretion is HIGHLY critical.

So, should I have the m / g or cancel it and move on. Thoughts, opinions, similar experiences welcome. Thanks.

Just get a divorce and don't worry about discretion so much.

[BamBam]

I suspect you already know this but are having difficulty getting the small head to listen to the big head. Maybe I can help: Don't Do It! Having that many friends in common is a leading indicator that your lives overlap in some significant way. Once she has your face, she will eventually get your real name. I cannot see any way in which this turns out safe for you. There is always another POT of equal quality some distance in time away. Just keep plugging. She cannot be the last appealing SB you will ever find in life.

Bam.

I'm a new poster, but have a lot of experience "in the bowl. " But something now where I'd like advice. I live in a medium city -- maybe 3/4 million metro area. Have a tentative m / g set with an attractive potential for Monday. She's already made allusions to having a private venue for visits. But I was able to glean enough information about her to get her real name, and I check FB I discover 25 mutual friends. Some are remote acquaintances of mine, but a couple I know well. I wouldn't plan on giving this s / b my real name, but it's hard to talk about my life at all without giving some clue that might let her say something to somebody. Even of course just describing what I look like.

She's really appealing and seems very nice. Maybe even long term exclusive material. But of course I have no idea how much tact or discretion she would have. And for me (I'm married) discretion is HIGHLY critical.

So, should I have the m / g or cancel it and move on. Thoughts, opinions, similar experiences welcome. Thanks.

[FarFarAway]

I'm a new poster, but have a lot of experience "in the bowl. " But something now where I'd like advice. I live in a medium city -- maybe 3/4 million metro area. Have a tentative m / g set with an attractive potential for Monday. She's already made allusions to having a private venue for visits. But I was able to glean enough information about her to get her real name, and I check FB I discover 25 mutual friends. Some are remote acquaintances of mine, but a couple I know well. I wouldn't plan on giving this s / b my real name, but it's hard to talk about my life at all without giving some clue that might let her say something to somebody. Even of course just describing what I look like.

She's really appealing and seems very nice. Maybe even long term exclusive material. But of course I have no idea how much tact or discretion she would have. And for me (I'm married) discretion is HIGHLY critical.

So, should I have the m / g or cancel it and move on. Thoughts, opinions, similar experiences welcome. Thanks.

I am guessing you know the answer, otherwise you would not be posting. Think w / the big head. There are lots and lots of SBs in the world, as you know. There's only 1 person who can make you cry. A vindictive ex-wife.