Thread: "Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?
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06-30-18 08:43 #15147
Posts: 454Managing the Sugar Conversation
Originally Posted by Kwagmire [View Original Post]
I set up the M&G around 11 AM or 5 PM so that once we meet and if I am willing to move forward, I can ask her to go to lunch or dinner with me. If she agrees, it is a good sign. If not, that girl is crossed off (I do ask them how does her rest of the day look like when I set up the meet so that I know she actually is available). Remember, we are still under the "no allowance M&G' mode. The dinner gives me more time to study her and get in to deep conversations. If I like what I see, I tell her right away that I am willing to go on a date. I still don't talk about the "intimacy" issue unless she brings it up. If she does, I say I do expect it, but don't tie it to allowance yet (remember she hasn't negotiated the allowance yet). I would say something like "intimacy is a part of whole SB / SD arrangement package, and it makes the experience better, but it is not what this is all about". So when we set up the next date, I still don't volunteer to talk about allowance. But most girls do bring it up. Then I would say, I give allowance when I get the "complete" experience which is the foundation for a long-term arrangement. We already discussed the complete experience at our first meet. She knows what the complete experience is. At this point, all the rinsers who are expecting allowance for nothing are going to drop off. So, only girls who are willing to go on a date with no expectation of an allowance are the true SB's for me, and they are the ones I am after. They may talk about "chemistry" and "getting to know you better" etc. I will play along and not argue with them, they are basically trying to justify themselves what they are going to do. It is possible some of them still may be after a free dinner, but I had spend time with her before, I know if I like her company or not, so in the worst case I spend money on a dinner, not a big deal. From now on I treat her very well, and actually give her a small gift (50-100 range) after the date. If they are willing to go on another date we are into something. This date, I am laying out the ground work for FC by saying "alone time" or "private time' at the end of the date. If they don't agree for FC on this second date, the chances of my success of getting there at anytime is almost nil. So, I cut out my losses there. I haven't still spent lots of funds. If they agree, that is it. In my experience, when it comes through like that it is a much better experience than just going straight to FC. I have had wonderful FC experiences like that, but finding such girls is a rarity. It is lots of work though. I have no SO, and have reasonable flexibility at my work to find time, so it works for me. May be not for everyone. I guess I enjoy the 'process of hunting' not just the outcome. It is fascinating how these girls sometimes think. We have to guide them what is realistic and what is not without offending them. As much as I found good girls though this process, I also have rejected scale 10 gorgeous hotties when they insisted allowance without the promise of intimacy. It is part of the process, and you have to be disciplined. At least I had a dinner with that hottie (whom I had very little chance of convincing to go to a dinner with me if not though SA).
It is all about mind games and playing alone with all conflicts they go though with the idea of going to a FC with a stranger (I know that they know what they a signing up for, but there is a human side to it). The more they trust you, more chances of going to FC. BTW, I do expect LTR with them, so I am not deceiving them anyway either. It you are in to reading, get the following book and read. Most of the behaviors I see with SBs can be explained once you read it, and if you can detect behaviors controlled by chimp brain. Very interesting book. "The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Program to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence, and Happiness ".
Stay Safe,
Dr. S.
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06-29-18 16:11 #15146
Posts: 154Agreed
Originally Posted by Madaboutmax [View Original Post]
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06-29-18 15:23 #15145
Posts: 2702Originally Posted by EvilTmp [View Original Post]
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06-29-18 14:33 #15144
Posts: 293Never, ever believe what they "got" from their previous SD. It's a number that is purely imaginary and it's high to make you feel cheap and make you step up your budget. Any girl getting that kind of money (many, many hundreds) would stick to that guy like a tick on a dog. And yet here she is, hat in hand asking for some support from you.
#2 was definitely playing you. You would have been lucky to see her once or twice before she found some reason that prevented her some seeing you again. This one is a cold, calculating, manipulative con artist.
Maybe you thought you hit it off but basically all three were not really into you and were just trying to milk you before moving on to their next target. Keep working on your game, develop a sense if she actually likes you, and keep getting more experience. She knows within seconds of meeting you if she's attracted to you or not. If she's not closing the deal within 1 or 2 dates, you have your answer... Just move on.
Originally Posted by Kwagmire [View Original Post]
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06-29-18 13:34 #15143
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06-29-18 13:12 #15142
Posts: 276Originally Posted by Kwagmire [View Original Post]
Another thing I've found common on SA, is about 60% of the girls on there, are into girls. You can so easily setup threesomes and even mini orgy parties etc. I aim for girls off SA who want an experience, as much or more than an allowance and there are plenty to be found. In fact, I'd say 1/3 of the girls I've seen, did not even require an allowance. But then again, without sounding arrogant, I'm not a bad looking dude. I've had so many younger women want to date off of there, but I will never go down that road again.
Another thing you can be assure of, is you'll likely know within 2-3 minutes if she's going back to the FC with you, if you have any knack for reading women. Unless she is just a real awkward type and closed off. I usually know by their very first expression as they come and sit down, if I'm in or not. So if she frowns, or is hesitant, or looks at you like a disgusting dirty ole man, it's best to cut your losses and just get out of the painful dinner or drinks. Funny thing is, I had about a 30/30 consecutive run of success rate of girls I met with and taking them to the FC and then BAM, three strike outs in a row and I started questioning myself. LOL. Had I lost my game? Well all the sugar dating and consecutive days of drinking partying etc, was giving me a run down worn look, so I took a month off, hit the gym and got myself back on track. And now I've taken the past 5 in a row back. So you need to keep yourself sharp. Even if you're a decent looking, if you look run down and ragged, these girls will shy away from you.
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06-29-18 12:29 #15141
Posts: 154Platonic Dates
Originally Posted by Kwagmire [View Original Post]
I don't have the time or patience to build a relationship or just hang out with a sexy young thing. I'm on SA because I'm on a mission!
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06-29-18 11:13 #15140
Posts: 99Originally Posted by Kwagmire [View Original Post]
It may depend on how good you are at reading people, though. I have had a few who I could tell from their attitude at the M&G would've been ones who would insist it stay platonic.
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06-29-18 10:20 #15139
Posts: 2702Originally Posted by Kwagmire [View Original Post]
Of course, never accept what a girl claims about her past experience. It might be true, but point out it doesn't matter. If she could get that, she should go back to her old SD, b / c you aren't that wealthy. Recommended by my bowl buddy TomDickHarry, I ask them about their needs, never their wants. I had one POT who came back w / a laundry list of things. My reply was that I was trying to have an arrangement w / her, not adopt her. LOL. If any girl gives a hint of words like 'don't waste my time', it indicates she has high expectations, and you'd best move on.
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06-29-18 09:52 #15138
Posts: 353Originally Posted by DrSummer [View Original Post]
I've had a few really, really attractive POTS, university students, who have essentially expected to be compensated their standard gift each time we get together, whether it's dinner etc only, or if we end up in the bedroom. I have a feeling they were hoping to steer the relationship toward more platonic dates than not, and cashing in for the simple job of existing in my presence.
One was a post-grad hippy who I met a couple times (coffee, and then dinner) and REALLY hit it of with. The conversation we had was intelligent and effortless, but the logistics weren't there for sex that night. She brought up sugar, and her expectations were pretty high. She wanted $400/ meet, agreed to $300, and said that a previous SD paid her $700/ meet. She also clarified that she expected sugar whether our date ended in the FC or not. I paid for dinner but didn't end up seeing her again; her terms felt too rich.
Another was a very cute asian freshman who had her act together, but she stated she wanted $12000 (basically her semester's tuition, and preferred I simply pay the bill instead of giving her the $) up front. Obviously this kind of arrangement has red flags all over it, and was probably a scam. I'm sure she would have ended up ghosting after the bill was paid, and of course I would have no recourse. I was unable to negotiate her to a fairly significant per-meet allowance. I'm not even sure I have enough spare time in my life to have $12 K worth of sex over the course of a semester.
A third was a POT I met on a business trip in a location I frequent. She was young and very pretty, and again, effortless intelligent conversation, but wanted $500/meet. I thought, doable for me as a business trip treat, and the way things were going it seemed as if she would be more than willing to spend the entire night when we got together. I saw her three times on an extended trip and based on how well we were hitting it off, offered sugar on the third date, expecting we would end up back at my hotel. She very deftly avoided the opportunity for sex to happen. When I gave her $200 in an effort to be seen as a trustworthy SD even though in hindsight she manipulated the schedule and her availability to avoid the FC, even though she knew my hopes and expectations for the evening, she was pissed and blocked me on SA.
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06-28-18 22:00 #15137
Posts: 265Concur
Originally Posted by CoolPix [View Original Post]
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06-28-18 16:31 #15136
Posts: 154Miss Uncomplicated
Originally Posted by NeoDude [View Original Post]
I did a M&G with her (no charge) which led to us going back to her private FC for about an hour of fun. Pretty girl with a wonderful all natural rack. She seemed a bit rushed, wasn't into the session as much as I prefer, and isn't as slim as her profile and picture project.
To each his own, but I much prefer the gals I've found on SA over anyone I've met elsewhere, especially SWs.
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06-27-18 21:52 #15135
Posts: 86Anythng on Her
https://www.seekingarrangement.com/m...3-5caa8b6b17a9
Any information on her? Currently talking to her but her spproach for allowance and lists of "Don'ts" just turned me off!
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06-27-18 21:37 #15134
Posts: 86Any information on this one
https://www.seekingarrangement.com/m...e-91af7c837e75
She and I have been talking but she's proofing a bit elusive for my liking. For some reason the littleman won't allow me give in. Any one yet?
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06-27-18 21:24 #15133
Posts: 115Some more info on this one and my opinion on traditional SB / SD
Originally Posted by JustLonely [View Original Post]
I have a knack for teasing out details before I pull the trigger and I have very set parameters for a M&G IF needed and will never go past the point.
First of all, what is a traditional SD / SB? - for me this is where you see SB routinely, and I mean every week for FC, sleep overs, then travel on occasion, and "dates" to fun places.
This is not something you will get for under $15 K allowance a yr, and if you are expecting some sort of exclusivity you are looking at a something over 20 K.
Does not mean you cannot have a good FC run at reasonable cost. But those are SW (sex workers) - call them any other politically correct name you wish, or entertain their.
Fanciful notions of how the world works revolving around their GPS.
So where are these SB found? I know some and have had several 1 year trysts, so I know they come from 2 places.
1 is from the pool of LVP that expect 4 ben or more a pop. Not something you want to do routinely, and if you do it 1/ month or less frequently with same SW, you are getting played.
If never done it, I would recommend once in a while to see what real skill is. These are mesmerizing creatures. With chemistry, personality, and good negotiations, they come way down.
And can be converted to SB. Probably not happening in a small burg such as RVA.
2 is possible from SA.
Note that real sugar babies that are 10 model material and have professional careers are NEVER on SA. There are websites that are like match services and cost a ton of money to join.
AND your finances and bonafides are verified. This looks like matchmaking and is for guys with real bucks to burn. Out of my league but have first hand info from the ladies on this from pillow talk.
So back to this one. I am by no means knocking her. She has friends on SA and they all compare notes on us and expect $150-$200 for a M&G and no FC.
They are finding you on WYP also (different handles. Same pics) and sending cold offers for $150 or more depending on what is in your profile.
They will promise you and tell you all kinds of stories about how looking for the one guy and their circumstances.
They will lecture you on FOFST and that they are not prostitutes. I am sure they are getting this kind of cash, and if can keep this up why would they ever want to put out?
Think about it.
Huge red flags that immediately disqualify.
A. any mention that they are not prostitutes. Is a sure sign they are only looking for your donation and there is nothing in return for you.
Any decent pot SB will NEVER utter that word to you and sure as hell not write it in a text or DM.
B. if a M&G involves dinner. Asking for more than a token amount of money to truly cover expenses of gas, parking, getting something nice to add to clothes collection, and makeup is a sign.
They do not understand what a long term investment we are potentially offering, and what we expect in return, so they are either not smart enough or not really interested. And neither qualifies.
C. any comparison to what she typically gets, or belittlement of your approach or offer. This is sign that they know you are slipping off the hook and want to jerk you back and haul you in for a quick cash score.
There are many options in the bowl. Currently I see mostly only SW and nothing wrong with that.
Or scammers (I may be harsh but after all, a promise knowingly that will not be kept is sort of a definition of a scam in my book).
Other than that, discipline and patience will pay off when you score what you are looking for.