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02-27-19 15:24 #16212
Posts: 131Which Debit Card?
Originally Posted by ErnestLl [View Original Post]
I do have the SB book the room if I have seen her before, and that has worked just fine. But I like to keep refreshing the rotation list, as I am sure most of us do, and it just seems incredibly awkward to ask a new, never before been to FC with me, SB to do this. A lot of the ones I really want are sort of naive, and may never have checked into a hotel themselves before. I want to get them into the FC as smoothly as possible, and fuck them without throwing up any additional roadblocks.
So I think I need to get a debit card with my name on it to use for the deposit, which I guess means a re-loadable one. Someone mentioned an American Express debit card. Like thoughts on that. I want something widely accepted, and to minimize fees if possible. I have great credit but don't want any statements coming to house (should be easy to avoid with paperless option) and also want to avoid a credit inquiry that my wife might see later. I have no experience with debit cards and would like recommendations.
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02-27-19 11:23 #16211
Posts: 358Originally Posted by Statecho [View Original Post]
So, I just told her things had changed at work and I wouldn't be able to afford to see her anymore. I wasn't trying to renegotiate, I was breaking it off. A day or two later, she came back offering to cut the rate in half, so I agreed, and she wasn't insulted since it was her idea.
I'd seen her a few times before this happened, though, not just one time, and that may make a difference.
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02-27-19 01:07 #16210
Posts: 293It's your money. Just tell her what you have in mind and if she's not happy with it, walk away. You're not doing nuclear fusion here for christ's sake. Man up and stop being afraid of what she'll think or do.
Originally Posted by Statecho [View Original Post]
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02-26-19 21:00 #16209
Posts: 2682Originally Posted by Statecho [View Original Post]
In my specific case, I made a serious mistake in an initial meet w / a totally hot Russian MILF, who turned out to be the ideal SB, but was just too much $ for me. I tried to plead her down w / saying that I had had business setbacks and couldn't afford the sugar I'd been giving her. She never said 'meet less often,' or agree to less per meet. Just ' oh, I really like you, we could just have lunch instead'.
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02-26-19 19:10 #16208
Posts: 116Re-negotiate allowance after FC visit
Hey guys,
This is the question has beening lingering around my head recenrtly. Is that possible to re negotiate the allowance amount after FC visit?
For example, say you agreed with 300 per date for first date, but after the session found her performance less than expected and not want to cont to offer 300 per date, can you re-negotiate a lower allowance with SB? How do you approach this that it doesn't hurt the feelings and chemistry BTW you and the SB.
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02-26-19 18:44 #16207
Posts: 447Can you give a few examples?
Originally Posted by BaldEagle [View Original Post]
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02-26-19 15:41 #16206
Posts: 34Hotel owners like cash.
I use a couple different hotels in the area. With a little salesmanship and conversation with a hotel owner, Not a big chain but a clean locally owned hotel you can create an arrangement where you call with little notice and get a nice clean room for a discount cash price. I call, go by and give the cash and pick up a key no paperwork. I only use the room for a few hours. I leave the key in the room and I move on. Indian or oriental seems to work the best and I am not talking about inner city dumps. Clean non smoking rooms.
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02-24-19 19:53 #16205
Posts: 880No deposit, pay up front
Originally Posted by DogBert77 [View Original Post]
Again, you can usually get any SB who is not a student to book the room in her name, give her the gift card to cover and warn her they might swipe a card for deposit. YOU are taking the risk she flakes, not her so she should not complain too much. I've done this with nearly a dozen gals. No real issues. If they don't have a credit or debit card with a $100 to their name, I'd be worried about bigger risks from desparation. Plus, if she has half a brain, she'll understand nothing is being charged.
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02-24-19 12:28 #16204
Posts: 118Originally Posted by Cruzier1 [View Original Post]
- If contacting them first: hey, saw your profile, seems like we're both looking for something NSA and beneficial. Check out my profile and get back to me.
- What are your main reasons for being on here?
- I'm looking for something fun, intimate, with a connection, and I can help out. Interested?
If yes, then here's my contact info.
The actual paragraphs I use are noticeably longer than that, but that's the basic message.
My profile itself actually a straight-up legit description of my personality and interests. Not overly detailed, but long enough to show I'm an actual person with some depth to me.
Not going to say that either of these is the "right" way to do things, and my success rate isn't anywhere as high as some of the folks who have posted in this thread, but I'm a pretty straightforward kind of guy and that's how I've approached it. FWIW, I _have_ had a number of contacts saying "I really liked your profile".
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02-24-19 04:23 #16203
Posts: 137The importance of game-and keeping fit
I know this comes around every few months, and partially my fault. As background, after having my LTSB of 5 years leave me on a whim last summer, my depression had me losing weight like crazy, and I upped my workout routine accordingly. 20 lbs later and with a definitively better-than-dad-bod physique, I am seeing at least some intangibles.
Data point one: fairly early in my current SB's relationship I asked how old I looked. I'm low-50's but she pegged me for mid-forties. When I asked about my personality, she pegged mid-30's. Which to me it meant wisdom and experience without be dragged down by age.
Data point two: recently was invited to my SB's burlesque show where she would have friends, her GF, and even her dad there. Obviously interacting with dear-old-only-two-years-older-than-me dad was not an option. And dear-old-dad has only two years on me but looks ten years older. But I saw the interaction where my SB pointed me out of the crowd to her GF. Later I would find out that the verdict was that "he's cute!
A bit off-topic, but I just got back from a FetLife Kink / Swinger event. Lots of older, unattractive folk there, but at least the equipment works. Also have to have a new kind of game where the play is the networking and building relationships with the leaders of each tribe. Decided to pursue (with some promise) one of the more attractive ones, which sadly isn't saying much. But she wanted to know how old I was, and I told her (she's an even 50) and the response was "Wow! You're older than me! So I asked her to peg my age, and she guessed low 40's.
This is the benefit of hitting the gym, losing the 20 lbs. , paying attention to your clothing and hairstyle. All these things can literally subtract ten years off your looks. And in the bowl, while you have lots of POTS attracted to older guys, no need to push the envelope on that. You want the older gentlemen to be the demeanor in which you treat her, while projecting as youthful and virile vibe as possible.
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02-24-19 00:19 #16202
Posts: 163First time caller.
First time caller, long time listener.
Let me first say I've been reading through this amazing thread for a few months in my spare time. I am around page 730. Obviously I have a ways to go, but I have been taking notes as I've gone. It is interesting to see the ebb and flow of everyone. Grand Daddy Lit2, F Scott, Nando, Revvo, SubCmdr. Pretty entertaining, and above all, informative! I compare those to the giant's whose shoulders we stand upon. Please, don't let me know if they are still around because that will spoil the surprise.
So, I got a bit ahead of myself after doing some basic math and realizing that I wouldn't get caught up until 2020 and signed up for SA.
My first night I had an SB contact me, agree to a M&G that same night with the possibility of a trip to the FC. Maybe a UTR, but exhilarating nonetheless. Unfortunately, I was a few drinks in and no condition to go anywhere so I passed. I also screwed up the negotiation, and while it wasn't out of my price range, it was darn near the top. I understand if you have money this is easy, but what is the fun in that?
Re-reading through my notes and through the "archive" thread I realized that a big gap in my understanding is something terribly basic. What is the purpose of your profile and what should go in there?
I'm partial to HG's explanation in his 4 step email process that what we are trying to do is initiate an off-site line of communication, pre-qualify them based on what you're looking for, and agree to at least a M&G if everything checks out.
The initial contact has them going to your profile and then emailing you if they like what they see. I understand that the general purpose it to convert profile views to emails in the inbox, but not much has been said about the contents, outside of don't be explicit or crude. Should it be short and sweet? Generalizations of what is in your pre-qualifying emails? Some fantasy pie in the sky BS like the SBs?
I'm trying to understand where in the puzzle the profile fits.
Anyway, that's it for now. I look forward to contributing to this great piece of internet history.
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02-22-19 14:50 #16201
Posts: 131Thanks Daddies!
Originally Posted by ErnestLl [View Original Post]
You sure have a way with words. I do have this tendency to be penny wise and pounding foolish. Point well taken. If a POT needs another drink to get in the mood, no sweat. But I am used to getting all sorts of perks and upgrades on travel, so having to pay for debit card grates on me. And being out $150 due to lack of security really chafes my ass. But I take your point. One minor point, just for the record. Any girl half my age is over the hill! I only go for the young ones.
Can you elaborate on the Hotels.com deposit? Are you saying that if you book through Hotels.com any participating hotel will know that they have agreed to accept a deposit in cash? Or are you saying that you can use a $100 Hotels.com gift card at any hotel booked through Hotels.com? I am a skeptical that all the desks clerks will know this. Is this something you can do online in advance? Also, I usually can only play in the day so use Dayuse.com a lot. Any input on deposits that is more generally applicable is appreciated.
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02-22-19 12:14 #16200
Posts: 2682Second that motion
Responding to the thread generally, don't be penny-wise and pound foolish. It is a cost of being in the bowl that you might lose a little $ at times from a deposit charged against a card that wasn't refunded after you pay cash. I made this mistake, keeping a receipt to 'prove' I had paid the cash (while SO out of town) at a FC hotel, then forgetting about it. It turned up later and nearly cost the king his kingdom.
I used to have a AmEx debit card, reloadable, I used for hotel deposits, and never really had to reload it. Many hotels require something like that, w / your realname on it, not a prepaid debit card, for deposits. However, when I had to go totally submarine on the hotels, I closed that account. Now, the SB gets the room or we don't FC.
Just an analogy. So you go to the drugstore for condoms, they don't have 3-packs of your favorite brand, they only have 12-packs. So you spring for the dozen, then you take the extras home afterward for the 'next time' . Right? LOL.
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02-22-19 11:50 #16199
Posts: 880Never give home address
Originally Posted by VeryBigBuck [View Original Post]
When you book through a hotel brand site, you can pay using generic gift cards, and can put in any address you want. When you check in and they check I'd, if they ask about the discrepancy, tell them "I've moved but haven't updated my license" or "that's the office address on my Res".
NEVER try to earn points on a sugar hotel stay -- another reason to have your regular SB do the booking. Mine used Hotels.com and got a free fuck stay for us after 10 sugar sessions.
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02-22-19 11:46 #16198
Posts: 880Originally Posted by DogBert77 [View Original Post]
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