Sexual Addiction Reports

[Member #5605]

If you DO have a "problem" by whatever definition YIOU determine it to be, see a therapist, and STAY AWAY FROM ANY AND ALL "12 Step Groups" like "SAA" (Sex Addicts Alnonymous), or "Love and Sex Addicts Anonymous). They believe that "sex" is a "character defect" and can be "fixed" with "spirituality". Its the biggest bullshit of a "recovery group" since its close cousins, AA and NA were excreted into existence!

Hate to keep saying that, but it depends. My income is all right, but I'm stretching my budget to average 1 or 2 encounters a month with an above average provider. I usually stay away from the lower cost chicks because they tend to have more risks than the higher end ones, at least in my area (Cincinnati).

To me, this isn't like drinking where you can say more definitely how many drinks are likely to be a problem for the average person. I regard myself as a sex addict because of my overall picture. Things like the amount of time I spend on sites like this, the preoccupation with getting a piece, texting providers to see who's available and where they are, visiting porn sites at least a few times a week, traveling to see providers I've scheduled with, and then actually seeing them. It's a lot of lost time, cash, and income.

It all comes down to whether you consider it to be a problem for you in your particular case, IMO.

[UOnlyLiveOnce]

So how many different girls in a month might be an indicator?

Hate to keep saying that, but it depends. My income is all right, but I'm stretching my budget to average 1 or 2 encounters a month with an above average provider. I usually stay away from the lower cost chicks because they tend to have more risks than the higher end ones, at least in my area (Cincinnati).

To me, this isn't like drinking where you can say more definitely how many drinks are likely to be a problem for the average person. I regard myself as a sex addict because of my overall picture. Things like the amount of time I spend on sites like this, the preoccupation with getting a piece, texting providers to see who's available and where they are, visiting porn sites at least a few times a week, traveling to see providers I've scheduled with, and then actually seeing them. It's a lot of lost time, cash, and income.

It all comes down to whether you consider it to be a problem for you in your particular case, IMO.

[John HandCock]

So how many different girls in a month might be an indicator?

People like to get caught up in the numbers game. Addiction is a word that can be used on everything in one3's life. From cigarettes to you name it its an addiction. For me it means is it threatning my health and welfare.

Now everyone has something to lose in this hobby but its a conscious choice we make to play the game. Its pretty simple to me, if it threatens my health or welfare then its time I seek professional help. Oh and to change one has to develop, new habits and friends.

[Cephlapod Love]

There have been lots of times when I've seen a chick, I swear I won't do it again, and I'm plotting my next action a few days later. 2-3 weeks is about how long it takes to where I'm climbing the walls and am about to lose my mind.

So how many different girls in a month might be an indicator?

[UOnlyLiveOnce]

Er, not mocking or bragging, but thanks for that as if that is where a line can be drawn I am miles beyond that and thus in VERY deep! I mean if 2-3 weeks is torture, then what does that say for 2-3 days? Sigh.

There have been lots of times when I've seen a chick, I swear I won't do it again, and I'm plotting my next action a few days later. 2-3 weeks is about how long it takes to where I'm climbing the walls and am about to lose my mind.

[Cephlapod Love]

I used to be able to go a few months without seeing a chick. Now, going 2-3 weeks is torture. I go through a lot of burner phones because I "quit" only to get back in the game at some point. I only get action 1, maybe 2 times a month, which isn't much compared to a lot of guys on USA. But I come to this or related sites almost every day, I still watch porn 2-4 times a week, and I spend a lot of time planning, researching etc who would be the best or most convenient chick to get with. Oh yeah, and the other thing that happened in the last several years was yoga pants and leggings. Man, those reveal far more than the tightest pair of jeans back in the day. Makes it so much harder to stay away from the game. After seeing a bunch of hot 20-something bodies bouncing around at the gym, I start to think, why am I fantasizing, I can just get my burner phone and get with a hot 20-something right now.

It's been 23 days for me since I saw a chick.

Er, not mocking or bragging, but thanks for that as if that is where a line can be drawn I am miles beyond that and thus in VERY deep! I mean if 2-3 weeks is torture, then what does that say for 2-3 days? Sigh.

[UOnlyLiveOnce]

I began seeing providers when I was in the military three decades ago, stopped for several years when I left the service, saw a couple SWs in the '90's. I stopped picking up SWs because LE in my city began cracking down and because of the overall risks. However, I did a lot of window shopping for many years after that. I guess cruising around and just looking was kind of a substitute for porn. Even without partaking, it was a huge turn on just knowing there were chicks out there who would drop their panties if the price was right.

Then life and high speed internet happened. In the late 2000's, my marriage was rocky, I checked out online porn one day, and it was like a hit of crack. I watched and whacked off nearly every day for a couple years. But eventually that wasn't enough and I wanted to tap the real thing. Resumed seeing providers in the early 2010's. I didn't do FS with them at first due to fear of disease and figuring I wasn't really cheating if I didn't screw them. But of course I soon crossed that line and it's been game on for most of the last 5 years or so.

I used to be able to go a few months without seeing a chick. Now, going 2-3 weeks is torture. I go through a lot of burner phones because I "quit" only to get back in the game at some point. I only get action 1, maybe 2 times a month, which isn't much compared to a lot of guys on USA. But I come to this or related sites almost every day, I still watch porn 2-4 times a week, and I spend a lot of time planning, researching etc who would be the best or most convenient chick to get with. Oh yeah, and the other thing that happened in the last several years was yoga pants and leggings. Man, those reveal far more than the tightest pair of jeans back in the day. Makes it so much harder to stay away from the game. After seeing a bunch of hot 20-something bodies bouncing around at the gym, I start to think, why am I fantasizing, I can just get my burner phone and get with a hot 20-something right now.

It's been 23 days for me since I saw a chick. I occasionally have days where I never visit a site I shouldn't, but it's rare.

[DarkSideOfMe]

Well I'm here again, looking for the answer that we can't seem to find for ourselves, I have made it past a few winter months, my travel for Buss. Is going to start back up next week! What better place to go looking for pussy, but "Motown, week after LV. There is no hope for me now, my heart has been racing for weeks in anticipation. My old fingers can't (Tap fast enough USA, Ter, Back page, Craigslist) you name it, I've been there. Taking notes, reading post, texting, writing down numbers, making calls. I think Ill say it now and get it out of the way: I'm a sex addict, so fuck it, I'm going to fuck as many as I can, and roll the dice, before my time has expired! I just can't stop this "high" I'm on now, no matter what I try! See you on the other side, stay safe my friends! Drk.

[UOnlyLiveOnce]

What is the definition of a Sl*t? An addict?

How many days one had sex in a month qualifies?

How many different partners fits those definitions?

Is binge fucking a symptom? Numerous girls in one day?

Is it possible I am one?

I think it depends more on how preoccupied you are with it than how often you actually get it. Most guys think about sex a fair amount, but only some guys (myself included) think about it to where it starts to affect other things. I probably think about it more than what is good for a guy.

Also depends on what you're risking. I use a cover for everything, but I'm still risking disease. I'm also risking things like getting beaten or robbed by a pimp, getting on a 5 o'clock news or having, say, a car wreck in a part of town where I have no legit reason for being. I see providers about 1-2 times a month. Which isn't much compared to a lot of guys here, but I'm risking a lot to do even that much.

So with my definition, yes, I am a sex addict.

[Miketastic69]

What is the definition of a Sl*t? An addict?

How many days one had sex in a month qualifies?

How many different partners fits those definitions?

Is binge fucking a symptom? Numerous girls in one day?

Is it possible I am one?

In the road of sex life.

[Cephlapod Love]

What is the definition of a Sl*t? An addict?

How many days one had sex in a month qualifies?

How many different partners fits those definitions?

Is binge fucking a symptom? Numerous girls in one day?

Is it possible I am one?

[Miketastic69]

I can't stop, slow down, step away from this"game"! When I'm on a Buss. Trip I can run 3,4 AMPs in a row, something about the "rush" that I'm feeling, the high, to see a girl walk into the room, and the touch. (Asian) Hard to figure out. I'm" OLD, (not 70) LOL but have more of a sex appt. ,now, then when I was 16. The more I get, the more I want, money is not a problem for me, so AMPs, BP, strip clubs girls, have no limits for me. I have a great wife at home, not interested in sex anymore, so I feel what I do on my" Buss. Trips" is ok! I'm not hurting anyone, am I? So am I a bad person, Am I a sex addt. ? You tell me! Drk.

In life these are just adjectives. Good and bad are moving targets. Is it bad to see a provider who uses her skills in bed because she may have tried the job market and failed, but still can make money to feed herself and her family?

[Head First]

I know providers in every state, but don't have any friends to speak of anywhere.

A HUGE helping of self realization right there.

Not too far behind you on that, my friend.

[Head First]

I can't stop, slow down, step away from this"game"! When I'm on a Buss. Trip I can run 3,4 AMPs in a row, something about the "rush" that I'm feeling, the high, to see a girl walk into the room, and the touch. (Asian) Hard to figure out. I'm" OLD, (not 70) LOL but have more of a sex appt. ,now, then when I was 16. The more I get, the more I want, money is not a problem for me, so AMPs, BP, strip clubs girls, have no limits for me. I have a great wife at home, not interested in sex anymore, so I feel what I do on my" Buss. Trips" is ok! I'm not hurting anyone, am I? So am I a bad person, Am I a sex addt. ? You tell me! Drk.

I don't know if you're a bad person because I don't know you. But just because you / we may have an issue with sex addiction wouldn't make you (or any of us) a bad person. I'm sure 99% of us in here are good to excellent people. We just have justified this lifestyle we choose to lead (usually on the down low) over choosing to be in a more acceptable (and out in the open) relationship.

Or maybe we're just bored with our partner and want to add some spice to our life / sex life. Who really knows. I'm sure there's many explanations why we do this.

Are you / we sex addicts? Probably. But that has to answered individually and the easiest / quickest / cheapest way to answer that question is to try and leave. That'll tell real you fast.

As for me, the longest I've made it in the past 25+ yrs is 23 days. I was really proud of myself but in the real world that's pathetic. As I type this post I'm at 18 days since my last encounter (not counting self service).

It sounds like you've had some success in other areas of your life. If this is a concern of yours and you're looking for answers to some of your questions, as we all here are, see if you can stay away. That'll be a good starting point.

If not, have fun doing what you're doing. I'm sure it's hell being in a sexless marriage.

[DarkSideOfMe]

I know its kinda old to report on this but what to do when things happen without making any effort. This happens with me a lot. I'm good with my spending. Always two weeks or more when I visit someone. But during that time I keep meditating on how to do the girl. The excitement gets real high and the money stays in the pocket but I would be rather happy to spend it like what happened in your case. LOL.

But thanks for great support of working on this addiction. It will need to slow down / stop one day.

I can't stop, slow down, step away from this"game"! When I'm on a Buss. Trip I can run 3,4 AMPs in a row, something about the "rush" that I'm feeling, the high, to see a girl walk into the room, and the touch. (Asian) Hard to figure out. I'm" OLD, (not 70) LOL but have more of a sex appt. ,now, then when I was 16. The more I get, the more I want, money is not a problem for me, so AMPs, BP, strip clubs girls, have no limits for me. I have a great wife at home, not interested in sex anymore, so I feel what I do on my" Buss. Trips" is ok! I'm not hurting anyone, am I? So am I a bad person, Am I a sex addt. ? You tell me! Drk.