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01-25-18 23:26 #574
Posts: 4923Ok, so now I am busting your chops
Originally Posted by CheezeFist [View Original Post]
In my case it has nothing to do with will nor self control. I'm not guessing at that, this is not something I think, it's something I know. I'm informing you about that. It's not a discussion, it's not open to your interpretation, it's information I'm giving you. It's like if you told me your name. If you told me your name was Joe and I said "no it's Steve" I would look kind of stupid no? So if I tell you that in my case, in my experience, it's not about self will nor self control and that in fact I am totally lacking those characteristics and you tell me that I am incorrect and that having never met me you know more about me than I do, how do you think that makes you look?
Yeah, just that stupid. Please don't argue with me about this. As with the other guy your opinion doesn't hold the weight of fact. Especially when you are putting your opinion against my experience of my very own life.
A2.
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01-25-18 23:14 #573
Posts: 968Originally Posted by Admin2 [View Original Post]
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01-25-18 21:47 #572
Posts: 4923Just got to say
Originally Posted by CheezeFist [View Original Post]
A2.
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01-25-18 12:57 #571
Posts: 4923Recent action
I got rid of his posts because he's wrong. It's not a matter of opinion, the science is in addiction is a disease. His issue is he's an atheist and hates the idea that some people are finding a spiritual solution to their disease and since he couldn't rationally attack their success he tried to invalidate the idea that addiction is a disease.
I'm not advocating for 12 step programs, I have my story and no shame about it but they aren't for everybody. I also have no issue with atheists, some of the people I know who are 12 step inclined are atheists, doesn't seem to hurt them any. he wasn't any of those, he was just a misinformed blowhard who thought his opinion carried the same weight as scientific fact. There seems to be more and more of those these days.
In any event, best of luck to the OP and I appreciate the compassion that you guys show them and even this misinformed blowhard.
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01-25-18 00:08 #570
Posts: 968Originally Posted by TwistedBrother [View Original Post]
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01-24-18 13:06 #569
Posts: 99The struggle is real.
Fellas,
I have problem. I think I'm hook on this hobby. I know it not the safest hobby. But I find myself trying to go see my local MT, even I now I don't have the money. I use my CC and almost maxed it out. If I don't go for 2-3 days, I get these urges, like I'm going thru withdrawals. I want to control it, but sometimes I can't. The days I don't see my MT, I masturbate 2-3 x a day. I'm looking for any advice to slow myself down, so I want get to far into debt. It all started when my wife left me.
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12-07-17 23:17 #568
Posts: 665Originally Posted by TwistedBrother [View Original Post]
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12-04-17 23:13 #567
Posts: 2804There isn't an easy cure. The rush from trying someone new and different and forbidding is intoxicating and overwhelming. Not surprisingly, what works the best for the most people is a 12-step program. I had some success with it when I was interested and willing to work it, and I've seen others have life-changing success.
For better or worse, there isn't one universal program like Alcoholics Anonymous. Multiple folks started 12-step programs over the years with somewhat different (but similar) definitions of "sobriety. " They include Sexaholics Anonymous (SA), Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) and a few others. Some are available in some cities and some aren't, but chances you can get help of some kind nearby.
This is one source of comparison and information. http://www.billherring.com/comparing-different-12-step-meetings-for-sex-addiction
You can Google much more.
Originally Posted by MeMonger [View Original Post]
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12-04-17 17:09 #566
Posts: 46Have you ever wanted to stop
Guys I need some help here. I've met an amazing beautiful sexy lady and she satisfies my every wish problem is I still want to get a BJ when I see a new girl walking. I've had restraint for about a year so far but the desire is sometimes overwhelming. Has anyone been able to beat the addiction? I've been doing this for 30 years now. How do I stop.
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12-03-17 15:24 #565
Posts: 665It's Quicksand
Originally Posted by GioDuck55 [View Original Post]
1.) You binge. Right now you may not be doing it on a daily or weekly basis because when you do it you do enough of it to last for a while. Then you come back. If you continue, the time in between will become shorter and shorter and one day you'll find yourself doing it 3-7 X a week.
2.) You do it even when you can't afford it. Huge sign that's it's become more than entertainment. If we get to this point we've crossed the proverbial 'line in the sand.'
3.) You do it also when you're seeing someone. No need for any splaining here. But a word of advice. Don't think you're fooling her. Females are experts on picking up on the many clues that we leave behind when we're cheating and eventually they figure it out. If you're married be warned she's going to get 60% of everything. Is it worth it?
4.) You're here asking the questions. To use a play off your own mongering name, GloDuck55, and I don't mean any disrespect here. But if it looks like a duck, and walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck. It's probably a duck.
Do you have a problem? Come to your own conclusion but the first step in any successful recovery is admitting you have a problem.
We've all been / are still there. Don't expect any cures here. But we can offer support and free advice.
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11-29-17 13:16 #564
Posts: 2804Ultimately, you have to be the final judge as to whether it's an addiction or not. It's not a matter of when, if or how much. It's a matter of whether you repeatedly do things you later regret, can't stop when you want to, and there's negative, unwanted effects on other areas of your life. When you say "need it now and can't focus" and "had no money but still went mongering in a dangerous area of town at a late hour against all common sense," those sound like behaviors of an addict. Certainly sound like things I've thought and done and led to things I regretted later.
Originally Posted by GioDuck55 [View Original Post]
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11-20-17 22:27 #563
Posts: 445Addiction
Originally Posted by GioDuck55 [View Original Post]
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11-17-17 15:51 #562
Posts: 6At what point does this habit become an addiction? I am relatively new to mongering (in 1 yr seen about 20 girls), I only do it a couple times a year at best but I when I do, I binge for a week or two then stop.
Sometimes when I go a while without doing it, I feel that RUSH where I NEED it now and can't think of anything else. Can't focus. The hunt. The feelings. The rush. It's like a fix I need no matter if I have no savings or seeing someone.
Is that an early warning sign that I should taper off or stop? I don't want this habit to go into sex addiction territory. I had a scare last week where I had no money but still went mongering in a dangerous area of town at a late hour against all common sense.
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10-14-17 13:12 #561
Posts: 33Originally Posted by Xelajo [View Original Post]
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10-06-17 21:18 #560
Posts: 594Originally Posted by HeadFirst [View Original Post]
Also another approach you could take is to stop abruptly. I mean a complete stop. I did that successfully with my cigarette smoking addiction and my monger addiction. Just stop it. Don't do it and mentally tell yourself, you are never going to do it again. It might help. It's easier said than done, but worth trying.