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[FourthTwin]

Don't do it. It always ends bad in my personal experience.

Please explain. What's your situation? I mean does she expect me to sit and wait on her to come back, which I'm not. I've even asked her about guys out there that might be interested in her and she says there are none. Which I really fail to believe. I doubt she's waiting to come back to NC just to link up with me. What's the worst that could happen? She tells me no or she gets mad I'm looking for someone to link up with while she's multiple states away with no idea when she'll be back on the east coast and she cuts me off completely?

[FourthTwin]

Fourthtwin I say if you're just getting her 3 or 4 x a year go for it! My SO gives it up more than that (but not nearly enough)! I've done this 3 times I can think of. One was with a young chocolate I was seeing locally, she got pregnant by her bf and was out of commission right before and a few weeks after so I asked her if she had a friend that could help me bridge the gap and she referred me to her half-sister! She was a rookie and I then used her as a regular for several months until she moved away. The next was a regular in the gashouse I used to see. Her sister was visiting and baby sitting while we went to do our business. When we finished I asked nicely if here sister ever did anything. I didn't have much extra cash so she gave part of her money and called her sister up and I did her sis while she played with my sack and DFKed me. My current regular has an attractive sis as well and I'm working on it. So I say go for it and angle for her sister 'just to help you out between her visits and take the edge off. ' All she can say is she doesn't know anyone. Or you can give me your regular's contact info and I can tell her we're buds and I know about your arrangement and does she know anyone else looking for a similar situation and then I can pass the intel back to you.

I guess I'm not trying to shoot myself in the foot here with my regular. When she was here in Charlotte / Concord we hooked up often. This has been going on for a number of years. Again, she's has a boyfriend and has snuck me into her place they shared. He was out somewhere. A quick sneak in the patio door to their bedroom and a locked bedroom door so the kids don't just walk in and I was out maybe 30 minutes later. I'm not trying to just hold out 3 or 4 months until she makes it back to NC but I don't want her to think I'm trying to replace her either. I just want someone I can hit up on the regular and slip them some cash without going through all the rig-a-maroe of tracking her down, scheduling an appointment, finding her new location because she's always on the move, then her flacking on me because a few other clients got there before me. Or worst yet being caught up in some sort of sting operation because she got pinched by the cops and is working out a deal with them. Just someone I can hit up on Mon and ask what her schedule is like the rest of the week and she tells me the kids will be with their dad on Thurs and she'll be alone for a couple of hours, you feel me? I guess I'm looking at it from the standpoint of girls who do this usually know someone else who does it or who might be willing to do it for the right price. Last time I saw my regular was back in Jan and it's now April and she doesn't know when she'll be back this way. She's got to save up the money first. I also don't want to piss her off either. "I'm going to be hooking up with someone else till you can get back here and give them the money I had been saving to give you, but since you're not here can you hook me up with one of your friends?

[Queen City Guy]

Fourthtwin I say if you're just getting her 3 or 4 x a year go for it! My SO gives it up more than that (but not nearly enough)! I've done this 3 times I can think of. One was with a young chocolate I was seeing locally, she got pregnant by her bf and was out of commission right before and a few weeks after so I asked her if she had a friend that could help me bridge the gap and she referred me to her half-sister! She was a rookie and I then used her as a regular for several months until she moved away. The next was a regular in the gashouse I used to see. Her sister was visiting and baby sitting while we went to do our business. When we finished I asked nicely if here sister ever did anything. I didn't have much extra cash so she gave part of her money and called her sister up and I did her sis while she played with my sack and DFKed me. My current regular has an attractive sis as well and I'm working on it. So I say go for it and angle for her sister 'just to help you out between her visits and take the edge off. ' All she can say is she doesn't know anyone. Or you can give me your regular's contact info and I can tell her we're buds and I know about your arrangement and does she know anyone else looking for a similar situation and then I can pass the intel back to you.

[TriadSpecial]

Have any of you ever linked up with a girl and it became a regular thing then for whatever reason they moved on but you still stayed in contact? Have you ever asked them for a referral for another good girl you could hook up with. Here's my situation.

Many years ago back when Craigslist was still a thing I linked up with this girl, a single mom, and we started hooking for for payment. She turned out to become a really great friend of mine. When we first met she lived in Concord and I was in Charlotte, unemployed at the time but getting unemployment benefits and was able to help her out. I started working and we continued to see each other. She moved here to Charlotte with her sister and things got better because I didn't have to keep driving to Concord to see her. Her sister actually lived just a few miles from me. From that point she started dating a guy and got pregnant but we still managed to hook up still on the regular outside of her bf. This past year after a few more moves on her part, still in Charlotte she decided to move to Houston, TX with some family she had out there. Yep, we still stayed in touch and every time she'd come back to the QC to visit her family here she'd always message me because she knew she could get some spending money while she was here, if you know what I mean. Since moving to TX early last summer I guess she's visited back here 3 or 4 times and each time we've hooked up. I think her sister here even knows of our arrangement. But the last time she was here was back in Jan. She still good with me but I guess I'm getting tired of waiting on her to save enough money to make it back here for a few days. Again, since we've met she's gotten a boyfriend and even had a kid by him so I know she's giving it to someone else. And I would be dumb to think that she doesn't have someone in TX who is hitting it on the regular even though she says there's no one there.

She doesn't know when she'll be back here so would I be wrong to ask her if she could recommend someone to me here who wouldn't mind making a little spending money while she's away? Sher's not a professional escort but we have a business arrangement going on. Would I be shooting myself in the foot by asking her if she knew someone here who might be down until she comes back to town? I hear guys asking escorts for other girls all the time and especially since a lot of these girls rarely stay in one place for the name or number of another provider. Let's not be dumb here. I'm sure she's not waiting months to come back to NC just to have sex and I honestly don't think she feels I'm not doing something while she's gone.

Don't do it. It always ends bad in my personal experience.

[FourthTwin]

Have any of you ever linked up with a girl and it became a regular thing then for whatever reason they moved on but you still stayed in contact? Have you ever asked them for a referral for another good girl you could hook up with. Here's my situation.

Many years ago back when Craigslist was still a thing I linked up with this girl, a single mom, and we started hooking for for payment. She turned out to become a really great friend of mine. When we first met she lived in Concord and I was in Charlotte, unemployed at the time but getting unemployment benefits and was able to help her out. I started working and we continued to see each other. She moved here to Charlotte with her sister and things got better because I didn't have to keep driving to Concord to see her. Her sister actually lived just a few miles from me. From that point she started dating a guy and got pregnant but we still managed to hook up still on the regular outside of her bf. This past year after a few more moves on her part, still in Charlotte she decided to move to Houston, TX with some family she had out there. Yep, we still stayed in touch and every time she'd come back to the QC to visit her family here she'd always message me because she knew she could get some spending money while she was here, if you know what I mean. Since moving to TX early last summer I guess she's visited back here 3 or 4 times and each time we've hooked up. I think her sister here even knows of our arrangement. But the last time she was here was back in Jan. She still good with me but I guess I'm getting tired of waiting on her to save enough money to make it back here for a few days. Again, since we've met she's gotten a boyfriend and even had a kid by him so I know she's giving it to someone else. And I would be dumb to think that she doesn't have someone in TX who is hitting it on the regular even though she says there's no one there.

She doesn't know when she'll be back here so would I be wrong to ask her if she could recommend someone to me here who wouldn't mind making a little spending money while she's away? Sher's not a professional escort but we have a business arrangement going on. Would I be shooting myself in the foot by asking her if she knew someone here who might be down until she comes back to town? I hear guys asking escorts for other girls all the time and especially since a lot of these girls rarely stay in one place for the name or number of another provider. Let's not be dumb here. I'm sure she's not waiting months to come back to NC just to have sex and I honestly don't think she feels I'm not doing something while she's gone.

Should I ask or just keep things the way they are, meaning, I see her when she comes back home? We're texting and chatting all the time and I keep telling her how much I miss her and how horny I am. She'll send naked photos and things to tide me over but that only makes it worse. I'm not saying she's the only one I'm seeing but I would like someone more stable and regular than just a regular escort, possibly someone who is not in the biz but wouldn't mind a little action and some spending money from time to time.

[NC Transplant]

I have a hard time reaching my toenails anymore. That may be a good reason to give them a try.

A friend was talking about places to meet young open-minded women. Strip clubs are no good anymore. Some massage parlors are OK.

Then he mentioned meeting Vietnamese women who work in nail salons. You'd have to go in for manicure or pedicure to find out, then possibly try a massage.

A girl he met in a nail salon says there are many Vietnamese women (employees and customers) who frequent the "Bubble Tea" (Bobble Tea) shops. But she didn't say if those women are open-minded about making money.

Has anyone tried visiting a nail salon or bubble tea shop?

GB40.

[LuccaMac]

A friend was talking about places to meet young open-minded women. Strip clubs are no good anymore. Some massage parlors are OK.

Then he mentioned meeting Vietnamese women who work in nail salons. You'd have to go in for manicure or pedicure to find out, then possibly try a massage.

A girl he met in a nail salon says there are many Vietnamese women (employees and customers) who frequent the "Bubble Tea" (Bobble Tea) shops. But she didn't say if those women are open-minded about making money.

Has anyone tried visiting a nail salon or bubble tea shop?

GB40.

Really interesting. I have been to the nail salons and yes they have some super hot ones that speak broken english. I think I'll try getting numbers with a written note translated and see what they say. The bubble tea places are popping up all over the Charlotte metro.

LM.

[Gigabyte40]

A friend was talking about places to meet young open-minded women. Strip clubs are no good anymore. Some massage parlors are OK.

Then he mentioned meeting Vietnamese women who work in nail salons. You'd have to go in for manicure or pedicure to find out, then possibly try a massage.

A girl he met in a nail salon says there are many Vietnamese women (employees and customers) who frequent the "Bubble Tea" (Bobble Tea) shops. But she didn't say if those women are open-minded about making money.

Has anyone tried visiting a nail salon or bubble tea shop?

GB40.

[FourthTwin]

Hey I'll admit upfront that I'm a Boomer and things change, BUT, the times I've been taken advantage of in the 'hobby' WERE ALL when I paid up front. Period! End of discussion! Whether it was halfhearted service, or constantly be asked "are you done? "hurry up", "Ok that's it I'm finished". Or "pay me and let me run in and pay the sitter". I actually had one years ago in Asheville do that then actually come back, get in the car, and fake a broken tooth to get out of providing the service. Just in recent years I had a 'head game expert' off the Plaza who I had seen a few times and then I paid in advance ONE time and she started then after less than 60 seconds she said "that's it, I'm done, you're just taking entirely too long". Did I get a refund? Nope. Just this year I met a 28 yo up in Winston on an app I use. She started in from the beginning about the money. I told her I was good for the money but no money until I'm happy. She kept on, I showed her the money. She did more than she would have otherwise I promise.

An alternative would be to show the money (which I have done a number of times) and even offer to place it on a dash, nightstand, or dresser with the understanding she cannot take possession until service is rendered.

Oh and FWIW, I NEVER hand the money directly to the provider, even for my longtime utrs, and even after the service. I place it in a neutral area (nightstand, dresser, or dash but I haven't done car in years) and in full view of them...

I guess it's been said that the more you see someone the more comfortable they are with you and thus possibly allow you to pay later. One in particular is Autumn that I have reported on here before I have been messing around with for years. She's one of those who will get missing but then out of the blue post or hyu asking for you to come rescue her. She is always into something dire or drastic. I've gotten a few rooms for her, which didn't bother me because I knew she couldn't extend it on my dime the next day. One time I got her a room and I just so happen to bring my camcorder with me and I have a full video of us talking for about 15 minutes with her sitting on the bed naked and talking then another 15 minutes or so of us actually fucking. This was back before the drugs really took a toll on her and she still had that little baby face and before she got cut really bad on her stomach. Since then we've linked up a few times but this life has gotten to her. Check out my most recent review of her. The room probably cost me $50 and I got to hang out with her for a good 30= minutes with her naked the whole time. The video is like an interview and she just kept talking and talking and talking totally nude. Great piece of. . . Back then but now I've heard she's gotten into scamming people and running out of cars at stop lights or convenience stores.

I just always wonder the reaction to the girls when you tell them you will pay after the deed is done. Would I be willing to just walk out if they say no? Sure I would because I don't want to give you the money then be forced out of the room or give you the money and now all of a sudden you decide you don't want to do what we agreed upon.

I just wish there was a site around that was like Craigslist back in the day where people would just meet up for free and fuck. Maybe they weren't getting any at home or they were just horny and wanted some anonymous sex with a stranger. Those were the days. Now these girls want you to basically give them 3 or 4 times what they are worth simply so you can get off. And some don't even get fully naked. You pay then and they just pull down their pants and lean over the bed all the while playing on their phone or just looking at TV.

I've been in a situation once where me and the girl were already conducting business and someone came pounding on the door and she had to get up and assure the person she was okay. I guess he must have thought I was in there too long but I don't like to just go and hang out. Get in, conduct business, and get out. Luckily he didn't come in and she came back and we finished. I've never been barged in on and made to leave.

[KingEpqng]

The alternate for now, may be rubrankings.

I can't seem to get rubmd to pull up. Anyone else having this issue?

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I have the same issues, maybe it's the website having issues. Will try again later.

It appears it has been like that since yesterday.

[Queen City Guy]

Hey I'll admit upfront that I'm a Boomer and things change, BUT, the times I've been taken advantage of in the 'hobby' WERE ALL when I paid up front. Period! End of discussion! Whether it was halfhearted service, or constantly be asked "are you done? "hurry up", "Ok that's it I'm finished". Or "pay me and let me run in and pay the sitter". I actually had one years ago in Asheville do that then actually come back, get in the car, and fake a broken tooth to get out of providing the service. Just in recent years I had a 'head game expert' off the Plaza who I had seen a few times and then I paid in advance ONE time and she started then after less than 60 seconds she said "that's it, I'm done, you're just taking entirely too long". Did I get a refund? Nope. Just this year I met a 28 yo up in Winston on an app I use. She started in from the beginning about the money. I told her I was good for the money but no money until I'm happy. She kept on, I showed her the money. She did more than she would have otherwise I promise.

An alternative would be to show the money (which I have done a number of times) and even offer to place it on a dash, nightstand, or dresser with the understanding she cannot take possession until service is rendered.

Oh and FWIW, I NEVER hand the money directly to the provider, even for my longtime utrs, and even after the service. I place it in a neutral area (nightstand, dresser, or dash but I haven't done car in years) and in full view of them. Someone told me years ago it gives you some plausible denial so you can claim it was adult mutual consent you just laid it there while getting dressed and forgot to put it back in your pocket. Oh and FWIW 1B, I put the agreed amount in a pocket so I can pull it out and I usually don't carry my wallet with me (especially 1st time). I may put an extra .10 or .20 in different pockets in case I decide I want MSOG or something extra but honestly, I usually make it clear that I don't get what I need, I'm easy to please so I may go quick so I reserve the right for 2nds. Never been turned down or refused.

FWIW 2 I always make the provider 'guide me in' so in case some kind of claim of are r @pe is trumped up I can counter with consensual including her grabbing me and putting me in her because she wanted it (and yes I did have someone play that car just in recent years).

But hey, you children hobby the way you like and I'll do it by my own proven method.

I've read a few mongers here say that they do not pay till after the services have been rendered. How does that work for you? I'm sure that greatly lessens the chance of being taken or paying up front then getting a lackluster performance but how do you approach that with a provider? You chat over the phone and agree upon a price, time, location, and possibly services. You get there and walk in and tell her you will pay after the deed is done. If she wants the money she either accepts it that way or she denies. Do you walk out at that point? And I'm sure you don't tell her that over the phone because she probably won't give you the address. I've read so many times when you exchange the money the girl finds some reason to excuse herself to another room or the bathroom possibly to contact her handler or muscle. He then rushes into the room or pounds on the door telling you to get out thus you've gotten no services and you've already parted with the money. I guess if she never gets the money then she would have no reason to excuse herself from the room. And, if she really wants the money she'd do the work first. But I guess they don't want to do the work anyway so that's why they pull his scam.

Has this ever worked for anyone? You get to the location and tell the girl she will get her money after the serves have been completed. Did she go with it or not? And if she didn't did you up and leave?

If my memory serves me correctly I've only gotten taken once. I met a girl at her apt and we were upstairs getting undressed. I had already given her the money. This was a few years ago so prices were cheaper then. I think I only gave her like $50. When we were undressed there was a knock on her door so I had to hide out upstairs until the guy left. I guess I was up there 20 or 30 minutes or so until he finally left but when she came upstairs she told me he was her bf and he was going to the store and would be right back so I had to get out. Of course she told me he was only going to be there a short time then he was leaving again so we could continue. Of course that was a lie. I sat in my car down the street and could see her apt. He came back but never left so I was out that money. He probably did leave but out the back door where I couldn't see that he had left. And of course she wasn't about to give it back to me while he ran to the store. Yeah, I've had times where I paid girls and they did perform but their services were lack luster or they refused to do what they agreed upon.

[KingEpqng]

It appears it has been like that since yesterday.

Looks like RUBMD is down?

I have the same issues, maybe it's the website having issues. Will try again later.

[GruntinGunner]

I can't seem to get rubmd to pull up. Anyone else having this issue?

I have the same issues, maybe it's the website having issues. Will try again later.

[KingEpqng]

I can't seem to get rubmd to pull up. Anyone else having this issue?

[FourthTwin]

This right here.

Get the messy stuff over with & get to business.

I was just asking because I've seen some reports here of mongers paying providers after services. Yeah, I have a few that I've linked up in the past few years where I am a repeat customer and they have no problem with me paying afterwards. But those are the ones where we are both comfortable with each other.

I've not heard this before but what are the chances of going to see a provider and you take a weapon with you to prevent being robbed. Rarely have I ever been inside a hotel room or someone's home and I was searched for a weapon. Sure, you do the L. E. Check where she may grab your junk or asks you to grab hers, but even with that a cop can lie. It surprises me the number of girls I've text with or chatted with and one of the first things they ask is are you associated with any type of law enforcement of any kind? What are they expecting to happen? "Yeah, you got me. I'm a cop. I guess I got to see if I can bust the next girl."