Rants Raves and Stupid Shit in Seattle.

**ScotchYoke** · 09-02-22 12:31

Originally Posted by MgtowSea [View Original Post]

I disagree. I think this is a good place to find people who can weigh in. Even if people here rarely if ever have used a legit dating site to look for a wife or long term relationship, you have experience with relationships. This woman said she's 40, as says her profile. She told me, on her own accord, that she met a Korean boyfriend who is now 35, back when she was 27 and he was 22, when they were taking some classes at a college together in California. She said she wants to marry him, but he never popped the question. I just don't get it sometimes, how this courtship world works. I'm not talking about the sex industry, where some providers are married in real life. I'm talking about, why an openly attached woman pays money to be on legit dating sites. It isn't cheap. Memberships cost something like 40-50 dollars a month to be on. I don't think it costs less for women, than men, although I heard that because these sites need more women, they are offered more discount packages.

The other courtship matter that gets me, is that I wish that both sexes can be more straight with each other. If a guy is interested in a girl, as soon as he shows any interest in her, he puts himself in position to be ghosted. If a girl shows interest in me, and I like her back, if I show her that I'm also interested, I, and most guys in the same position, gets ghosted. It's like, as guys, we just have to put on this act, as if we couldn't care less about her, and that of all things will keep her interest alive.

I can't be the only guy who has been reached out to by girls on legit dating sites, only to have her drop the I have a boyfriend bomb after a few back and forth messages. I'm not going to be this Thai girl's husband, fine. But, why does she keep asking me questions, like my life goals, and the type of girl I want to marry? I am only holding out hope, that she wants to set me up with one of her girlfriends, but even that's a scary proposition. Guys who want legit dating and courtship, it seems to be so discouraging and demoralizing.

If everything this person has told you is true, she needs an outlet to have a fantasy relationship in her head that her current situation will not allow her to have. She also needs you to pay attention to her, which she is also probably not getting currently. If her relationship is actually bad, it's apparently not bad enough, as people won't end relationships until the pain of ending is less than the pain of staying together.

But we, on this board, are here to discuss extreme short term relationships, for a fee negotiated up front, for activities that may or may not be present in a long term relationship, so take our opinions with a grain of salt. But hopefully you will gain something useful from us.

**Anonymous420** · 09-02-22 11:48

Originally Posted by MgtowSea [View Original Post]

. Courtship is a brutal world.

You didn't ask, but I'm going to help you out a little bit here.

There is no "courtship" when it comes to SBs, hookers, call girls, etc. She doesn't love you, she probably doesn't even like you very much. She's willing to fuck for money and you're paying. Period.

**SpareTire** · 09-01-22 21:30

Originally Posted by MgtowSea [View Original Post]

I thought it was a massive scam she was pulling. Before she....

A couple years ago, it seemed to me all the Asia region girls would eventually fall into 'I can't believe how well I've done with forex trading. Have you tried it? Wow they were patient.

If you want to play along to see what's up, go for it. Don't 'pay her way' from New York to see you. Just stick to "yes, but I couldn't make any promises to anyone I haven't spent time with 'in person' ". If an asian girl actually showed up on your doorstep. I think you would be part of a vanishingly small club. .

Short story longer.

Forex lets you leverage money through a middle broker to try to profit on exchange rate fluctuation. For whatever reason that industry also tends to allow multiplicative 'bets' 2 x to 100 x. Probably because currency exchange differences tend to be 'stable'. And then they started trading crypto.

Anyways. The 'scam' is that unlike regular stock trade companies, forex trade providers have a server that controls exchanging the assets they hold to a middle broker (see metatrader). MT is legit. Many of the brokers are legit. These scam ones. Not so much. They will try to get you to slap a 50 x multiplier on your. 2 bitcoin 'safe easy money trade'.

Some of that terminology may be off. My interest waned once I finally figured out 'how it worked'.

**Mgtow Sea** · 09-01-22 20:14

Originally Posted by Anonymous420 [View Original Post]

Could be she wants to get married, the guy she's with doesn't, and she doesn't want to be alone.

Or you're getting set up for a massive rip-off.

Have fun dude!

I thought it was a massive scam she was pulling. Before she revealed having a boyfriend, as I have with other girls profiles, I asked the admin to take a look, and see if they think the profile is legit. It's not foolproof, but they said her profile didn't give any indications of anything wrong. Obviously, she didn't put I Have A Boyfriend but am just looking for friends in her bio. Believe me, I've had a few girls Smile at me, and then the admin removes her profile, because they detected a scammer. Anyway, my policy is to never get into any kind of bar room brawl, over a girl. The only reason why I didn't just block her yet, is thinking she has a girlfriend in America that she wants to set me up with. Fat chance of that happening. For what it's worth, she has not asked me for any money or material goods. At least as of yet. Courtship is a brutal world.

**Mgtow Sea** · 09-01-22 20:09

Originally Posted by SonicDevotee [View Original Post]

Agree with others that we cannot provide dating advice. But the obvious thing you need to do is to stop "talking" with her, and that includes blocking all of her texts, etc.

That's the unfortunate point that I think is being proven correctly here: I came THAT close to blocking her profile, right on the spot, when she said she had a boyfriend. But, when I stopped responding to her, she kept sending me more messages. I didn't even open them, and you can tell whether your specific messages have or have not been read by the recipient.

**Anonymous420** · 09-01-22 19:47

Originally Posted by MgtowSea [View Original Post]

I disagree. I think this is a good place to find people who can weigh in. Even if people here rarely if ever have used a legit dating site to look for a wife or long term relationship, you have experience with relationships. This woman said she's 40, as says her profile. She told me, on her own accord, that she met a Korean boyfriend who is now 35, back when she was 27 and he was 22, when they were taking some classes at a college together in California. She said she wants to marry him, but he never popped the question. I just don't get it sometimes, how this courtship world works. I'm not talking about the sex industry, where some providers are married in real life. I'm talking about, why an openly attached woman pays money to be on legit dating sites. It isn't cheap. Memberships cost something like 40-50 dollars a month to be on. I don't think it costs less for women, than men, although I heard that because these sites need more women, they are offered more discount packages.

The other courtship matter that gets me, is that I wish that both sexes can be more straight with each other. If a guy is interested in a girl, as soon as he shows any interest in her, he puts himself in position to be ghosted. If a girl shows interest in me, and I like her back, if I show her that I'm also interested, I, and most guys in the same position, gets ghosted. It's like, as guys, we just have to put on this act, as if we couldn't care less about her, and that of all things will keep her interest alive.

I can't be the only guy who has been reached out to by girls on legit dating sites, only to have her drop the I have a boyfriend bomb after a few back and forth messages. I'm not going to be this Thai girl's husband, fine. But, why does she keep asking me questions, like my life goals, and the type of girl I want to marry? I am only holding out hope, that she wants to set me up with one of her girlfriends, but even that's a scary proposition. Guys who want legit dating and courtship, it seems to be so discouraging and demoralizing.

Could be she wants to get married, the guy she's with doesn't, and she doesn't want to be alone.

Or you're getting set up for a massive rip-off.

Have fun dude!

**Warrior Dennis** · 09-01-22 16:16

The Giants are my team, but I've long liked the Mariners. Back when we were winning World Series, I thought that the Mariners were similar to us, in that if they could have just gotten into the playoffs, their pitching could have taken them very far.

You're going to see Mariners playoff baseball, two months from now. Not just a play-in game. I'm talking some home playoff games.

If the Mariners can get to the Yankees, I think they can make the ALCS. I think the Astros are the only team that the Mariners can't beat in the AL.

**MartyByrde** · 09-01-22 14:18

Originally Posted by AussieFury [View Original Post]

I'm going to go out on a limb and say we are not the correct audience to help you answer this question.

Agree with others that we cannot provide dating advice. But the obvious thing you need to do is to stop "talking" with her, and that includes blocking all of her texts, etc.

**Mgtow Sea** · 09-01-22 14:17

Originally Posted by ScotchYoke [View Original Post]

Based on your username, I'm going to guess you may be in the wrong place. Let me help you:

https://www.goingyourownway.com/

Best of luck.

My handle is based on my frustration. I know that real life courtship has always been hard. But, it's getting so ridiculous, just to what degree you have to play your cards right, just to find an honest good relationship. If I keep on getting catfished on these supposed reputable dating sites, that's pushing me towards Mgtow.

**Mgtow Sea** · 09-01-22 14:14

Originally Posted by Camhole [View Original Post]

Where there threats in those PMs? I only ask because I didn't read that far into them. Once I realize a message or post is from a Rex alt I just put it on the ignore list or delete it without reading it fully. Dude seriously needs a hobby, and I mean a real hobby. Maybe he could try custom painting hot wheel cars, I've recently heard that there's money in that.

If it's an alt, how do you know that it's Honestones or somebody else?

**ScotchYoke** · 09-01-22 13:10

Originally Posted by MgtowSea [View Original Post]

I'm on a popular legit dating site. I don't know if this is a cultural thing that I need to be sensitive about. So, this girl from Thailand reaches out me. We chat, do a lot of back and forth, then she later drops the bomb on me, that she has a boyfriend! I know that women sometimes get on the site free, or for a very low cost, since there are so many more men on dating sites, than women. So I followed the expert advice, and ignored her PMs for about 5 weeks. Now, she's constantly trying to ask me questions, and get me to answer questions. Like, she said she's taking a trip to New York. Just the other day, she asked me what qualities my future wife must have. She also asked how my family feels about me marrying a Southeast Asian woman. Why would a woman spend actual money, to just meet Friends, if she wasn't serious about finding a husband on that popular site.

Based on your username, I'm going to guess you may be in the wrong place. Let me help you:

https://www.goingyourownway.com/

Best of luck.

**Mgtow Sea** · 09-01-22 11:47

Originally Posted by AussieFury [View Original Post]

I'm going to go out on a limb and say we are not the correct audience to help you answer this question.

I disagree. I think this is a good place to find people who can weigh in. Even if people here rarely if ever have used a legit dating site to look for a wife or long term relationship, you have experience with relationships. This woman said she's 40, as says her profile. She told me, on her own accord, that she met a Korean boyfriend who is now 35, back when she was 27 and he was 22, when they were taking some classes at a college together in California. She said she wants to marry him, but he never popped the question. I just don't get it sometimes, how this courtship world works. I'm not talking about the sex industry, where some providers are married in real life. I'm talking about, why an openly attached woman pays money to be on legit dating sites. It isn't cheap. Memberships cost something like 40-50 dollars a month to be on. I don't think it costs less for women, than men, although I heard that because these sites need more women, they are offered more discount packages.

The other courtship matter that gets me, is that I wish that both sexes can be more straight with each other. If a guy is interested in a girl, as soon as he shows any interest in her, he puts himself in position to be ghosted. If a girl shows interest in me, and I like her back, if I show her that I'm also interested, I, and most guys in the same position, gets ghosted. It's like, as guys, we just have to put on this act, as if we couldn't care less about her, and that of all things will keep her interest alive.

I can't be the only guy who has been reached out to by girls on legit dating sites, only to have her drop the I have a boyfriend bomb after a few back and forth messages. I'm not going to be this Thai girl's husband, fine. But, why does she keep asking me questions, like my life goals, and the type of girl I want to marry? I am only holding out hope, that she wants to set me up with one of her girlfriends, but even that's a scary proposition. Guys who want legit dating and courtship, it seems to be so discouraging and demoralizing.

**AussieFury** · 09-01-22 10:32

Originally Posted by MgtowSea [View Original Post]

I'm on a popular legit dating site. I don't know if this is a cultural thing that I need to be sensitive about. So, this girl from Thailand reaches out me. We chat, do a lot of back and forth, then she later drops the bomb on me, that she has a boyfriend! I know that women sometimes get on the site free, or for a very low cost, since there are so many more men on dating sites, than women. So I followed the expert advice, and ignored her PMs for about 5 weeks. Now, she's constantly trying to ask me questions, and get me to answer questions. Like, she said she's taking a trip to New York. Just the other day, she asked me what qualities my future wife must have. She also asked how my family feels about me marrying a Southeast Asian woman. Why would a woman spend actual money, to just meet Friends, if she wasn't serious about finding a husband on that popular site.

I'm going to go out on a limb and say we are not the correct audience to help you answer this question.

**Mgtow Sea** · 09-01-22 02:54

I'm on a popular legit dating site. I don't know if this is a cultural thing that I need to be sensitive about. So, this girl from Thailand reaches out me. We chat, do a lot of back and forth, then she later drops the bomb on me, that she has a boyfriend! I know that women sometimes get on the site free, or for a very low cost, since there are so many more men on dating sites, than women. So I followed the expert advice, and ignored her PMs for about 5 weeks. Now, she's constantly trying to ask me questions, and get me to answer questions. Like, she said she's taking a trip to New York. Just the other day, she asked me what qualities my future wife must have. She also asked how my family feels about me marrying a Southeast Asian woman. Why would a woman spend actual money, to just meet Friends, if she wasn't serious about finding a husband on that popular site.